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im invloved with my friends boyfriend
hey now before you read this and hate me u should hear the story..... we grew up together! are mothers were bestfriends and a kids i was always his girlfriend! we grew up telling eachother that we were going to get married! he was "my boo". when we got older our relationship got seriouse and we had grown apart but still had feelings for eachother that we kept alive. we would kiss and hug and call eachother on the phone! when i truned 16 i met this guy and he took me to my prom! and of course he got jelouse and went and slept with my friend. i was so hurt sghe knew how i felt about him and did it anyway! they ended up going out for 2yrs and there still dateing! i thought our realationship and everything we had was over! i was so sad and depressed! but then like 4 months ago he came and told me that he was still in love with me and he cant stand seeing me and not being able to hold me so we did a few things together!! but nothing sexual! i swear!!! but he is still going out with my friend! i feel so guilty and i wanna tell her but at the same i dont wanna hurt her but i still have deep feeings for him! wat should i do? should i give him up? should i keep sneaking around? or should i tell her the truth and leave them both alone! i know im horrible and you guys are gonna hate me but i feel guilty and im looking for help for the right thing to do!
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i think you should talk to him not her. tell him that your as much in love with him as he i s with you. tell him that you want to get back together.now listen up heres the important part: if he's like ok lets get back together, make sure he ends it with the girl. then maybe you and the girl can have a talk where you explain everything. but if he's like no then just leave it alone. dont go to the girl and tell her everything cause that would ruin his relationship. and that would just be wrong.
talk to him
Delilah
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Ok there is no real answer to this question but i will try and help you. The first thing you must do is leave them and let them be. I know it is hard but if you continue the way you are going you will get more hurt and also be feeling guilty and hurting your friend. So what you could try is tell him if he loves you he needs to explain that to your friend because if you told her she would never be your friend again because she would think you are jealous and want them broken up. The thing with love is you can't control it so basically if he really loves you hes going to come back 2 you in his own time but you need to be strong and walk away now even tell him you have someone and you can't creep round to see him anymore. Its the best thing 2 walk away because you might end up losing them both, plus he will have more respect for you if you do. i mean he knows u know he is going out with your friend. so leave him plus think about it this way if he never comes back 2 u. he was not worth it. Do not tell her the truth she will hate you i promise you it happened kinda 2 me. so hope i helped lv sweetcorn need anymore advice inbox mex
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You mus'nt alow him to see you secretely if he realised that he still have feelings for You he must make his decision,The fact that he has been dating your friend for 2yrs means that they have somthing common Love,The reason for him to come back to u might be No1. he knows that you always love him You would'nt say No as you say you did something together,No2 may be you have all the chatectors he needs from the woman he appreciates you from the childhood but the fact that he managed to love your friend in your presence for such along time means the love feeling is not strong enough or it temporaly disapeard he prefers you,What you can do tell him to make a decision or move on with your life he is got a relationship you dont have one insted you are suffering from being a secret lover while he is enjoying to be two women man if you are meant to be togethe it will happen when ever but u need to be happy too.remeber the importand part in a relationship is happines then lifetime comes it looks like you consider lifetime more than everthing but you are obviously not happy your friend is dating someone you loved since, get new life gal you will find someone.
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You can do one of two things.
You can leave it alone if you think they have a chance at a future relationship. Since he is cheating on her...they probably don't have much of a future.
That leaves number two. You don't see him (as in making out) until he breaks up with the girlfriend.
If he truly has feelings for you, this will not be a problem. If it is, well then guess he is just using you. Good way to find out his true feelings. Good luck. :)
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