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very very very confused..........
This is my story.. I was dating this women when things made a turn for the worse. I was between jobs and acted poorly towards her. She had always said that if we broke up she would never talk to me again, yet when she did break things off, she called me within a day or two and we continued to talk for weeks. She told me that If I met someone else to go for it, but she didnt want another boyfriend and that there was little chance of us getting back together. I told her that I only wanted to be with her, and when we stopped talking is when I would move on. So we continued to talk. Well one week I decided not to call her, after that week she calls me late night, and we had a really good talk, that morning she called me just to say hi. Well a day had passed and I had talked to a friend of mine about a women that was drunk in the bar named jes, and how she was hitting on me. The next night I call my ex, and she hangs up on me, about 30min. later I get a voice mail from a guy named jes telling me to stop calling my ex. What are the chances of meeting a girl named jes one night and the next night hearing from a guy named jes. I know my friend said something to someone and it got back to her. after recieving that message a day later my ex's number comes up on my phone I dont answer it. Well come to find out that my so called friend was taking what I would say to her and twisting it around. Well last week her was in town and stopped by my ex's work in order to buy some batteries, another co worker of her' approached her and told her that we were never dating and that I was harrassing her. this was a complete lie. Why would she say that? She had to know that my friend would tell me, so she calls me and asked why I was talking crap about her. I was not of course, she then said to me that I was only making things worse. Making what worse? The following week a get another call from her telling me to stop talking crap or else.. Well I had told her again that I was not and of course she hangs up on me again, The whole time she has been blocking her number when she calls me. Last weekend I told my friend that I was threw with the back and forth and this was all over something that never happened. i know he went back and said something. That night I got a block call from her, and I didnt pick it up, then the next day the same block call, then last night she called three times. The fact that I didnt do anything that she thought I did and she reacted before actually talking to me makes me mad. But what I dont understand is why would she continue to call me if she hates me at this point, regardless whether I said anything about her or not, why call me. I dont know what to do, and cant understand her logic. The worst part is that i was trying to get back together with her, ever since we broke up, until my friend open his mouth and said things that I didnt say. I need some advice on how to handle this situation, I dont know whether to answer the phone or not, I would atleast like her to know that I didnt say those things and I was not talking to another women on the phone while i was still talking to her, but she just wont listen, and advice would help alot???????
breal,29yrs,male
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oh wow. What a mess!
First. You need to have a talk with her. You need to tell her to stop sending mixed signals. She either cares enough about you to get back together or she doesn't. If she doesn't she needs to stop harassing you with calls and let you move on. That isn't going to happen if you continue to have contact with her. This will just go on and on and on.
I can't understand why she would continue calling if she didn't still have feelings for you. Unless she is playing games. If she is you need to put a stop to it. Get an unlisted number or whatever it takes.
If your friend can't keep his/her mouth shut then don't tell him/her a thing.
Hard as it may be for you, the only way to move on is to stop all contact with her until you have
no feelings for her but friendship. :)
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wow! that's so weird about the guy/girl jes thing! i'd be very weirded out. your relationship with her is sort've confusing & she doesn't seem too straight with her feelings. it's difficult to get over people, but like..i think you should try not talking to her anymore. she doesn't hate you though, because if she did she really would stop talking to you. she wouldn't call you. she probably wants you to feel bad about the situation & believes your friend too much. your friend probably told her about jes, the girl at the bar, & maybe she juss got jealous she was hitting on you? you never know. obviously she is going to be stubborn to listen, so the best thing you can do is try new people. yeah, you guys can stay friends, but nothing more. i think you did your part, & if she cares about you she'll do hers. let the ball in her court(if that makes sense) & juss go out and look for new things. =)
good luck!♥
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you have to make her listen.you cant just let people get away with things.your so called friends needs to get a punh in the face.but if you want to let her know all these rumors were lies you need to tell her.simple as that.you need to answer the phone a tell her to shut up for a sec and listen.tell her the whole story about your shitty friend and things should become clear
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It sounds like she is the one harassing you, you should tell the police.
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