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Question Posted Wednesday September 7 2005, 6:42 pm

I like this guy whos 7 years older than me. He likes me too but said the age bothers him. But when we are at parties we end up having sex or doing something sexual. I really really like him shold I just be friends with benefits for now then when im older think about going out with him or what?

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chicky_please answered Thursday September 8 2005, 9:04 pm:
ok....wow....7 years older then you is way to old for you!!! i know i'm going to sound harsh right now and i'm sorry but most guys that much older just want to have you as a benefit and isnt thinkin about a relashionship.....if you jut want to have sex and fool around go for it but if you want more.....ditch him and look for someone around your age

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WhipszlxlChainsz answered Thursday September 8 2005, 4:08 am:
Hey look!, I know exactly where you are coming from on this question because I am 19 and my boyfriend is 26 but we used to talk online and stuff went out did things (just hung out) so when my ex boyfriend ended it with me I asked him out we started dating and my mom didnt approve over the age thing she always told me that i was gonna break up with him and not date him anymore it hurt me so bad he called me and asked me what was wrong and was gonna say nothing but the bursted out crying to him telling and he said no one would break us apart but we just kept talking and dating eventually it all went passed and he stays with me whenver he isnt working and I sometimes stay with him we been together now for 1 year 1 month and so forth but enough on me and my advice to you is if you like him talk to him about it and tell him the way you feel for him and that maybe you should try going out to see if it would work out even with the age thing and all and if you both agree that its not working out be friends with him but if you want to be friends with benifits go ahead but you got to realize that if for any reason something happen and he gets mad he can turn you in for many things just be safe and careful hope this helped..and yes people will be like omg your with a 7 year older person than you and think its crazy onces it done and said they will all get used to it like with me.

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icey0990 answered Thursday September 8 2005, 2:28 am:
i would definately say no to this idea of being with him because hes a lot older than you and only looking for sexual activities. he should be interested in women his own age, not women so much younger like that. this is just my opinion..think about it ..and i think you will come to realize you desserve someone who will like YOU not the sexual things you guys do. dont feel like your the only one going through it..i went through the same thing (not as hardcore as this story though) but you know what i mean..its not only you who goess through it.

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girlygirl answered Wednesday September 7 2005, 8:35 pm:
Think about a couple things here carefully. The age difference first... if you are 18 and he's 25 that's one thing. But... if you are under 18 and he's +7 years that is statutory rape - no matter how consensual it is. Next, know that "friends w/ benefits" is complete BS. You are being used by him without him having to date you, or call you, or ever treat you like a gf. Honey... please heed this advice. Save yourself and your love for someone special that will treat you the same way!

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dhrutts answered Wednesday September 7 2005, 8:19 pm:
Hi there,

Some people might think that 7 years is quite a long time just in terms of how different your experience of life might be. But if you enjoy each other's company and no one else is being hurt as a result of your relationship, then there doesn't seem any reason why you shouldn't share your happiness with your loved ones.

To be honest, you should do what you want to do! No one can make this decision for you, you have to make it yourself. If you like him, and he seems like a genuinely nice guy go for it, just dont like you said let him pressure you. plenty of relationships have age differences Just know your principles and be sure of how far you are willing to go, and if you start to feel in comfortable then back out. Do what feels right to you, trust your instinct, it is the only thing that can really give you guidance now.

Do not rush in to anything if your not comfortable i suggest you get to know him better before you be his girlfriend because at the moment you onli meet on special occassions so maybe just randomly going out with ya mates/his mates just as friends to start off and then you will know if its right to be his girlfriend or not. please try not to let age get in the way altho at your age you know your very limited and need to ensure he does not jsut want you for sex etc my biggest advice is not to rush in to it get to know him more!! hope this helps

Goodluck

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dhrutts answered Wednesday September 7 2005, 8:19 pm:
Hi there,

Some people might think that 7 years is quite a long time just in terms of how different your experience of life might be. But if you enjoy each other's company and no one else is being hurt as a result of your relationship, then there doesn't seem any reason why you shouldn't share your happiness with your loved ones.

To be honest, you should do what you want to do! No one can make this decision for you, you have to make it yourself. If you like him, and he seems like a genuinely nice guy go for it, just dont like you said let him pressure you. plenty of relationships have age differences Just know your principles and be sure of how far you are willing to go, and if you start to feel in comfortable then back out. Do what feels right to you, trust your instinct, it is the only thing that can really give you guidance now.

Do not rush in to anything if your not comfortable i suggest you get to know him better before you be his girlfriend because at the moment you onli meet on special occassions so maybe just randomly going out with ya mates/his mates just as friends to start off and then you will know if its right to be his girlfriend or not. please try not to let age get in the way altho at your age you know your very limited and need to ensure he does not jsut want you for sex etc my biggest advice is not to rush in to it get to know him more!! hope this helps

Goodluck

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dhrutts answered Wednesday September 7 2005, 8:19 pm:
Hi there,

Some people might think that 7 years is quite a long time just in terms of how different your experience of life might be. But if you enjoy each other's company and no one else is being hurt as a result of your relationship, then there doesn't seem any reason why you shouldn't share your happiness with your loved ones.

To be honest, you should do what you want to do! No one can make this decision for you, you have to make it yourself. If you like him, and he seems like a genuinely nice guy go for it, just dont like you said let him pressure you. plenty of relationships have age differences Just know your principles and be sure of how far you are willing to go, and if you start to feel in comfortable then back out. Do what feels right to you, trust your instinct, it is the only thing that can really give you guidance now.

Do not rush in to anything if your not comfortable i suggest you get to know him better before you be his girlfriend because at the moment you onli meet on special occassions so maybe just randomly going out with ya mates/his mates just as friends to start off and then you will know if its right to be his girlfriend or not. please try not to let age get in the way altho at your age you know your very limited and need to ensure he does not jsut want you for sex etc my biggest advice is not to rush in to it get to know him more!! hope this helps

Goodluck

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denajah5 answered Wednesday September 7 2005, 7:58 pm:
i think yall should just be friends with benifits because the age differnce is to differnt.obviously he just want to fuck because he doesnt want ot go with you.so at least that means you look good but are too young.by the way how old are yall???

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sillygoose92b answered Wednesday September 7 2005, 7:47 pm:
Try going out with him one on one just to talk things over. REALLY get to know eachother so well that it doesnt even make a difference that you're 7 years apart. If it still doesnt work out wait a little while and maybe someone else will come into the picture, or by then, he'll feel that it is right. Hope I helped

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honeyJ17 answered Wednesday September 7 2005, 7:16 pm:
Honey i dont get it He likes you but doesnt want to go out with you because the age bothers him, but you always have sex at parties. You guys are going to fast for just friends, I dont know, you guys are like going out but not literally. Talk to him about that. For now just be friends with benefits then you're older think about going out with him.Take care

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