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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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--Jack

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When a guy cums when you give him a handjob does the sperm die when it hits the air? Thats what my friend said. That the sperm dies almost instantly. I was with my boyfriend and I was giving him a hj and I got his cum on my hands, but we didn't stop doing stuff and I didn't wash my hands and I touched myself in front of him starting like 2 or 3 minutes later. That was a couple weeks ago and now my period is late and I'm wondering??

Sperm doesn't die when it hits the air. Your friend is telling you wrong.

If you didn't wash your hands and started touching yourself, you could have gotten some sperm in you.

Like the other person said, take a test. And be more careful next time, please.

--Jack
(19/m)

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I'm 15 & gay & a guy. I never done anything w/a girl but like 2 kisses. I been dating this guy for 2 months now & we kiss some times. He asked me last night if I thought about having sex with him. He told me before he's not a virgin. I am in all ways. So if we have sex (anal) then will that make me not a virgin? Cos obviously IM not gonna have sex w/a girl any time.

Yes, you would lose your virginity.

--Jack
(19/m)

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what are signs that your a bad kisser. My friend with benefits he like doesnt pull away or anything like that and like he bite my lips alot so how do i know.

If they aren't stopping you and blatantly telling you that you're bad, you're probably good.

But if you're really lucky and you are bad like I am, the other person will teach you. And they did. Which was fun and awesome. :)

--Jack
(19/m)

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i'm 18 and still a virgin. i'm definetly not ashamed of it, actually i'm kinda proud. its not like i'm ugly, actually alot of people are surprised or don't believe me that i'm still a virgin i just refuse to give my virginity to someone who doesn't deserve it and i haven't met anyone worth giving it to yet (i know i'm old fashioned but whatever). i've had a few boyfriends and definetly many opportunities but i just didn't want to. but i feel like everyone my age and even a little younger has had sex. when i hang out with certain friends thats all they talk about. i mean somethings i can contribute because i've done everything else except actual intercourse. but i just feel like i'm alone. is there anyone out there my age virgins?

I'm 19. Still a virgin. Probably lame, whatever.

--Jack
(19/m)

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In english my teacher assigned me a project.
I have to come up with 10 haiku poems.
the first line has to be 5 syllables.
the second line has to be 7 syllables.
and then the third line has to be 5 syllables.
can anybody help me with this? it has to be about nature.

I'm not sure how much help this will be to you, but check out this link with a bunch of haikus.

http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutmetopic.php?t=1037&userboard_id=10255

--Jack
(19/m)

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i havent started my period and i havent ever had sex why havent i started?

All girls take different amounts of time to start their period. It's not a set thing, like, when you turn 13, you'll start. You'll start when your body starts. As for now, enjoy that you don't have to deal with it.

--Jack
(18/m)

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how do i make my penis grow naturally?

Unfortunately there is nothing you can do. This is something that really can't be changed. It's not something to be upset about or to be discouraged about.

--Jack
(18/m)

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My boyfriend asked me tonight if I was a virgin because he is and has never done anything at all. We've been dating on a couple weeks and I didn't know how to answer it though. This is why:

I've gave a few guys head
I've been fingered A LOT
I had anal twice
I masturbate like once a day

I never had like...sex sex, you know? Like the making babies kind LOL. You know what I mean. Does that mean I'm a virgin?

It's all about your personal definition in a lot of cases.

I think universally, vaginal sex is what people consider "sex sex".

Personally, anal sex is sex. So is oral sex. But if you don't see them as "sex sex" then you can call yourself a virgin, but it might lead your boyfriend astray.

I would just tell him what you've done so that way you aren't lying to him or giving him the wrong impression.

--Jack
(18/m)

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Okay, so the facebook chat has changed :( I love the pictures beside our messages but the clear button is gone ... NOW what? How do you clear the chat now?

I don't think you can, unless you log out of Facebook, and shut down your internet browser and delete cookies and such.

--Jack
(18/m)

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What does diversity mean to you and how does it apply in the work place?

Are you looking for suggestions on how to answer this question?

Well, if we just tell you what to say, it's not your idea, and then your employer might be hiring you based on ideas that aren't yours.

Just be honest and tactful.

Think about the importance of diversity. What's the definition? How might it help the work place? Could it hurt the work place? Is it bad to have a work place that's not diverse? What types of ideas or thoughts might arise from diversity?

If you answer those questions, it might help you better formulate your answer to the original question. =]

--Jack
(18/m)

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HI,
this is amanda, You seen my websites? Anyway I want thanks for your comments and I been kinda been looking for somone or a advice about things that I been thinking about. but thing is I have hard time explaing things. it be kinda long. but you sound like a nice guy that probly Help me. and another thing I do have bad spelling sorry about that. there is part that on my website that i couln't mention or want to put. how ever like I say about certain things I have that I don't have is maybe Guy in my life. well I did I had guy freind all of my life. till now. He is gay now well bisexual I think they called it. well thing is we were kids we use to like be fun bf and gf and till high school year we just good friends. and when i went high school I had oppessed crush ( wasn't good) and i did had nice new guy freind who was nice me. and couple others. but thing is they don't seem be like my freinds becouse i gussed they thought maybe i had crush on them and they didn't want hurt my feeling. and ithink maybe i do tease and maybe i well don't relize i am flarting maybe not know it. or i know i sound very nice and freindly. well thing is that I think I am little afraide becouse i know that most of them knew i am different and they know what yo uknow so far on my webpage. well thing is i am asking is how not to strew up when i meet next nice guy? like well i have a freind and she is intucded me this guy soon. and hard is he nice and he goes collage and such. thing is i know that i can't drive and maybe well cooked some. but and not is well smart enough go collage. sorry this is long. i am 24 year old and I really want to know more maybe i don't know. i am sorry it my bad i don't know how to explain. i been asking alot people for advice on here but alot of them don't like my spelling or way i say becouse i know it hard from some understand. maybe i think i am saying is maybe i know nothing about guys becouse well guy friend i had growing up well maybe i was blind he was kinda gay becouse he more like well grilies. or we grow up together. i do get along with guys sometimes it hard to see what there thinking. ok sorry i am stop now and see if you get any of this. if not that okay. but if so you say see what you got so far and i let you know if what i am looking or asking for. anyway thanks
amanda

Hey Amanda,

Maybe my answers to these questions will help you:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=505520

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=506340

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=546185


Hope those help. If not, let me know.

--Jack
(18/m)

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honest truth about me is i'm a super friendly person and really nice but i won't take peoples shit. like someone spread a rumor about me so i got angry and confronted him, i don't want people stepping all over me because i'm nice. and now that guy hates me. then theres me and my ex that broke up in june. we were friends up until now and then he just told me to lose his number so i said "why are you mad i didn't even do anything to you" and he was just like "are you serious? keep telling yourself that...lose my number" i mean i did break up with him but that was all the way in june and i did it nicely. then you have this other guy who we've been seeing each other recently and then i found out he was sleeping with a friend of mine so i got a little upset and now he hates me. i want to get away. i have the money but my mom is overprotective and won't let me go anywhere. i go to college but i live at home and i'm so sick of it. i'm sick of people pushing me around and being so cruel, and uncecessary fights when all i'm trying to do is make peace with them. i need a way out. help?

I would just find new friends. Moving away isn't the most practical solution since you're going to school.

You're in college, maybe you could live on campus? Maybe form study groups with people from your classes and make new friends, and forget all the drama of your other "friends".

--Jack
(18/m)

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My mom always said to brush you teeth twice a day with toothpaste and then brush once with just water. I don't really know why she said that but then I saw on TV it said brush three times a day. Technically I do brush three times every day. But do they mean 3 times with toothpaste or what? we do use floss and mouthwash too when we brush if that matters.

I don't really know that brushing with water does anything. But, technically you're supposed to brush after every meal, but brushing in the morning and at night is fine. Yes, definitely floss and use mouthwash.

I generally brush/floss/use mouthwash twice a day, and my dentist said I have very good oral hygiene. So.... XD

--Jack
(18/m)

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i really wanna find out what celebrity i look like. is there a website or something where i can upload my picture and find out??

Firstly, it's "doppelganger". XD

http://www.pichacks.com/blog/?p=92

That should help you.

--Jack
(18/m)

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Okay so I'm in Community College, I'm majoring in History...because, well, I want to be a history teacher. In community college, you can't minor. So when I transfer to a University, that's when I add the Education part right?
I'm asking because there's also a degree program called Social Science Education. Aren't they both the same? I know you really don't get down to the education part until your junior year anyway, right? So does it matter if I take History or Social Science education?
please clear this up for me, i'm so confused!
Thanks.

I would talk to your adviser. Seriously, they are there to help you for questions like this, and often times, people try to figure out their college plans by themselves, and it just ends up really bad. Go talk to your adviser and they might be able to give you a better idea of which major might be right for you.

I see Social Sciences more as like.. Economics, Anthropology, and the like. History probably falls under the Social Sciences category, but is a more specific major.

Like I said, though. Talk to your adviser.

--Jack
(18/m)

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I'm getting involved with my community college's school newspaper. Each student has to maintain their own "column" (just a little section of the paper) but I have no idea what I should make my column about. Some examples are: movie reviews, local events, employment opportunities at the college, etc. I kind of thought about starting an advice column where the students would be able to submit questions and I would answer them, but I thought that might generate too much spam. Does anyone have any good ideas? I have to commit to it for the rest of the semester. Thanks!

I actually really like the advice column idea. Like, for real. You could give advice to freshmen on how to adjust to community college, relationship advice, whatever. Sure, you might get spam, but there would probably be a lot of people sending in advice. And you could come up with a pen name and say that questions should be submitted anonymously, that way it keeps everyone's identity a secret and they feel more comfortable asking. If there's spam, just ignore it. I doubt anyone actually has the time to send a million fake questions. But even if they do, you could still answer them!

--Jack
(18/m)

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Hey, I'm just wondering but do you have any idea how I can meet Justin Bieber? I tried meeting him at the concert a couple of days ago, but the security was incredible. All the tickets and meet and greets are sold out everywhere now, and I would love to meet him. My family makes GOOD money, so we have enough money to afford meeting him. I've entered multiple contests, and i didn't win anything. I follow him on twitter. You will get five's from me all the time if you answer this right! PLEASE, help me..... i love him very much (: I've got a serious case of bieber fever....

I like Justin Bieber just as much as the next guy (I actually do like him, I'm not being facetious), but honestly, Justin Bieber is too famous for you to be able to meet without a meet and greet type of thing. Maybe join his fan club or something and get like VIP tickets for his next tour?

--Jack
(18/m)

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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.

I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?

Sorry if this is too long!

Sit him down and talk to him. Tell him how this situation is making you feel. It's wrong of him to post details about your relationship that are personal. Tell him that. If he's not going to take down the facebook group, then I'd seriously consider rethinking your relationship with him. That's just freaking weird...

--Jack
(18/m)

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is it bad that i like hearing guys moan during sex. i feel like im the only one buts its so sexy!

If it's what you like, it's what you like.

We all have our preferences. That's yours.

--Jack
(18/m)

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14/f going into high school

my older brother is a senior and he has this friend (named adam). adam has always been really nice. for example, i was trying on my dress for a dance and i asked "how do i look?" and he said "very pretty" when my brother was just standing there with his other friend. that was a few months ago. i saw him tonight again with me brother they were in the garage smoking weed (don't judge; i've done it a few times before) so adam offers me a bowl and i take it and smoke it with my friend away from them. i can tell he's into me and my friend agreed but i can't do that because he is my brother's friend. but honestly, if he wasn't my brother's friend i'd probably like him a lot..


hmmm, i'm not sure what my question is.. just advice please.

You want advice? A guy doesn't like you just because he said you looked "very pretty" in your dress. A guy doesn't like you because he smoked weed with you.

Find someone your own age or don't date at all. I know "age is just a number" but not when you're 14 and he's probably an adult or close to it.

--Jack
(18/m)

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