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I dont know what to do. Music has taken over my life. Its basically taken over any kind of life I have. I really dont want to see my boyfriend or friends anymore because I want to play my guitar. And another thing, everyone makes fun of the music I listen to because its mostly old stuff. I cant help it! Thats just what I like. What do I do?

You don't have to do anything. Music seems like it is your passion. And don't try to stop. Because you never know if you become a famous musician. And all of the kids that are laughing at you now, are going to be wishing they supported you. And even if you dont become famous. You are just being yourself. And never try to change yourself for anything or anybody.

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whats the easiest way to build your own website. that cab be accessed by many people kind of like this one but not exactly.

yunitI.com
tagged.com
bebo.com
myspace.com

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19F - he's 24 - there is this guy that works at a company that my company deals with... i speak to him regularly for work stuff... at the christmas party we went out clubbing and made out... i REALLY like this guy, like seriously, as in get butterflies in my tummy when i hear his voice. when we were out he said i'm too good for him. we have spoken through work many times since then but havn't mentioned that night. i really wanna ask him out or something but i dont know if he likes me and i dont wanna make things awkward at work. what do i do? help!

Take a chance and ask him out.
Don't worry what his response may be or what he's thinking about you.
Live for the moment.
Because for all you know, he could have the same thoughts goin through his mind "Does she like me?", "Am I her type?", etc.
But one of you must step outside your comfort and make a move. Otherwise you'll just be stuck on liking him.
So I say GO FOR IT and see what happens from there.
Good luck. If you need any more advice feel free to send me a message.

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Okay so tomorrow im hangin out with this kid and he obviously wants to have sex because hes really horny all the time and hes like open about it.
he says i love you to me but i highly doubt it. he told me he gets made fun of cause hes a virgin but i think thats the only thing he wants from me. how do i tell if he really does love me? he says he doesnt want to rush anything and hell wait until im ready but i dont know. should i trust him?

Coming from a guy, the only way to truely know what a guy is up to (when it comes to sex) is to see what happens. If he *doesn't pressure you at all* about it, then getting into your pants isn't his main priority. If he *focuses on you & only you* then he probably loves you. But there is only one sure way to know if someone loves you and thats to feel it in your heart. The way you described him it doesn't sound like he should be the one you have sex with. But I could be wrong. If you need anything else feel free to send me a message.

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so i have been dating this guy named santiago for about a month now and he is an exchange student from mexico. This guy named zach and him were supposed to be doing the science project with me and my bff morgan but instead they were looking at half naked girls(in like skimpy bikinis)on the computer and i got mad at him and didnt talk to him for the rest of the day and then when he got off the bus he just walked right past me without even saying goodbye i almost cryed.Then on the last day of school he wasn't there so i never got to see him so the girl that he lives with that is one of my friends asked me if i was mad at him and i said well im not anymore can you tell him i say sorry and she said yes but i havent talked to him or heard anything from him yet so ya. He leaves in the second semester and i dont know if i should stay with him or ask him if we could just be friends?
what should i do?

You can't have a relationship without fights. It is just a part of being in a relationship. If you strongly like and/or love him then I think you should stay in the relationship because in the end it will be worth it. But if you don't "really" like him 100% then maybe you should move on and see what its like to just be friends.

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ok, how do you like a girl you show her affection for you? and no, not sex thankyou. 15/f

-flirt
-kiss
-let him know that your thinking about them.
So definitely treat them better than the rest of the guys.

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a girl in my school named courtney died last night in a tragic car crash. my friends whose mother recently died was friends with this girl so it really hurt her. i was crying, too, but she's been through so much more. i don't know what to do on this one, guys. im grieving but i want to be there for my friend at the same time. i don't know what to do. please help me.

thankyou in advance.
and god bless courtney, she will be loved and missed ... :'[

I have some things that I think are important and I want you to know.

1)Death is one of the hardest things in life to deal with. And I am speaking from experience. You have to deal with your emotions. A while ago when my grandmother died I had so many phases. First I broke down, then I tried to numb the pain by not thinking about it, but instead of numbing it;it all just built up inside of me and I eventually couldnt take it anymore so I finally let my emotinos out. So please LET YOUR EMOTIONS ALL OUT.

2)Let your friend know that you are there for her. Both of yall are experiencing pain from this tragic death. So yall should be there for one another. And GET THROUGH IT TOGETHER.

3)Im not a preacher or anything but I am a Christian and I do believe God has a plan. Your friend Courtney is in a place where pain is non-existant and she is looking down on you guys with a smile. There was a reason God let her come home to him. And I know one of those reasons was to make you a stronger person and to give you an oppurtunity to get closer to him. Give him all of your troubles and worries.

4)I am here for you. Whenever you need any type of advice feel free to send me a message. If you ever need to just talk send me a message on my Frappr acount, my display name is "Kevin(careless-fun)"

Trust me with time things will get better.

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I am 13, and i hvae C36 Boobs...
Al teh kids at school make "jokes" bout them and it really makes me mad..
what should i do? Can i shrink them in any way?

Trust me once you get a little older they will be a Major turn on to most guys. But at 13 the guys are still kind of childish.

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guys wat do you like in a girl? like wat attracts you to a girl?


thx

I want a girl who...

-Beauty inside and out
-Keeps her self up
-Easy to talk to
-Fun to hang out with
-Doesn't act clingy
-Can be patient
-Has book smarts & common sense
-Won't get made if sometimes I would rather play video games than talk to her on the phone
-Doesn't put a lot of pressure on me

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Since you were the guy that answered my question before, about whether i should move on from my boyfriend or not i thought i'd ask you just another one. Well i went on my ex boyfriends myspace and he is already telling this girl he thinks shes amazeing and that he didnt talk to me no more wich he did. so then i totally called him up crying my eyes out and he lied about it and hung up on me. Even after all of this i still want to be with him. i dont know why. I feel like killing myself. What should i do?

You have the proof to show that he is interested in other girls so now you have to believe. If he is denying the fact that he talks to you he isnt worth your time. Yall can still be friends but I dont recommend having something more.
And most guys definitely dont like it when girls cry over them. Its makes you look very clingy and thats a big turn off. If you really want him; show him that you dont "need" him but, let him know you "want" him. DONT play hard to get because that also can be a turn off but just let him know whats up. If he is really worth it he'll come back but if not thats your hint to move on.

Please dont get in the mind set of "if i dont have him then my life isnt worth" NEVER threaten your life over ANYTHING(including guys). NOTHING is worth giving your life up for. You have a lot to live for.

edit: You have NO reason to apologize to me. I'm here to GIVE ADVICE to anyone in need. And that day you were the person who needed some advice. I'm glad that you choose to write to me. Feel free to write me back any time.

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well, i was with my boyfriend for 9 months. He is my first love. But we recently broke up. were still talking and stuff. We broke up because i lied before, and he has this thing with flirting with every girl and thinking hes always right. Well the reason i lied was because i was afraid to loose him, but then i did loose him so i said i wouldnt lie to him again. But he just doesnt seem to care. Like one minute he'll tell me he loves me and wants to be with me still. Then the next hes all i dont know if i want to be with you again. And he like is out partying with all these girls. And my sister keeps telling me hes playing me. But i could never see him doing that. And people are always telling me he messed around with alot of girls. I love him so much, But it hurts me to feel like he doesnt care, and hes out with all these girls. What should i do? Should i move on, Or keep trying.

I am a guy and I have seen this happen so many times. When I guy tells you he doesn't know if he wants to be with you that means he doesn't want to be with you. It doesn't matter if he sometimes tell you that he loves you. All it takes is for him to tell you that he doesn't want to be with you once and his actions will follow. If he is out partying with other girls then he doesn't care that much about your feelings. The best thing to do is move on. You seem like a nice girl and I think you deserve much better.

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ok well my friend max is an athiest. he doesnt belive in any kind of god. hes like a science nerd so that probably has something to do with it. well i really want him to belive in God but i dont know how i can talk to him about it. we arent close enough to talk about that stuff. what should i do?

Since you arent close enough to talk about that type a stuff then invite him to your church or since Christmas is coming up soon by him a Bible or something dealing with God.

If I didn't help write me back. I'll be sure to try my best.

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What is snood?
Some sort of game or something?
Does anyone know?

Smood means a bad mood.
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=smood

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Why do people get tired after sex? I know, it's a stupid question but...

Sex is like an exercise. You have to do a lot of physical work to get the pleasure.

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k well when i was dating the other guy.. that was last year.. i didnt cheat on him but i did wanna dump him for "joe" but "Joe" wouldnt let me.. and so this is just out of curiosity.. but if a girl liked you and one oif her friends (guy or girl) asked you if you liked her.. would you answer honestly or lie about it?



thank you!!

It depends on how much I liked her. If I like her a lot of would probably say yes but if I just liked her a little bit I would probably say no.

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hi. I know this isn't your favourite category but you're a guy and I need major guy help.

15/f

Alright. So I like this boy.. and he liked me last year and I liked him. Thing is he never told me he liked me and so I started dating someone else but then he(lets call him Joe) told me that he was gonna ask me out that night but to stick with the person I was dating. Well now.. I like "Joe" still and i dont know what to do. because we flirt like crazy and we're good friends. just like I dunno if im getting mixed signals or false feelings or if he actually does like me. Yesterday.. a friend(lets call him Carl) of mine being an idiot asked Joe if he liked me.. and he said as a friend and then Carl told Joe that i liked him a lot. and so now things'll be weird yet again. but i dont know if Joe only said that because he wants to tell me himself or not.. because last year when he liked me, when people asked him if he did he said no. hmm.

help? please.

thanks in advance.

I'm speaking from personal experience, never cheat. I made that horrible mistake before and the ending was a disaster.
If you go with someone else don't be unfaithful. Either dump him for "Joe" or stay with him and just be friends with Joe.
If you decide to pursue Joe then the best thing you should do is be straight up about it. Let him know that you like and ask him if he likes you (in private). Some guys aren't really truthful about liking someone when they are infront of others.

Let me know how it goes. And write me back if you need anything else.

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GUYS ONLY PLEASE!!!

15/f i'm going to list a bunch of personality traits that i have and i'd like you to tell me which ones are turn-offs and which ones are turn-ons...thanks!

shy
always smiling
smart
very organized
controlling
not very athletic
talkative around friends
caring


thanks so much for taking the time to do this =]

Turn ons
-always smiling
-smart
-talkative around friends
-caring

Turn offs
-controlling

Being shy can sometimes be a turn off because the guy may think you don't like him. Most guys don't really care if you are athletic or not. Me personally, its definitely a turn on if you can play sports but its not that bad if you can't play sports.

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I was at my cousins house yesterday and she cussed me out and I was wondering what I should do about it becouse if I tell my mom she won't let me go to her house anymore and my cousin and I are like sisters so I don't want that to happen what should I do?

If you'll are like sisters then talk to her about it and let her know how you feel. I'm sure you'll can work it out.

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for all the boys reading this..i was wondering if you thought it was sexy if a girl was a boxer? because i want to take lessons, but i don't know if guys would like that..or be like offended because i could possible kick their asses..ahah please help.. thx

Honestly, I don't find that to be sexy. Most guys like to know that if something was to happen to the girl they would be the oneto protect her. But you should be yourself. And if you want to be a boxer then you should do that regardless of what most guys think.

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Hi, I am beginning to get chubby. I eat sooooo much and try sooo hard not to, but i just cant stop.
Its making me depressed and i dont know how to stop. what do i do?

Stop buying the food. If the food isn't there to eat then you can't eat it. Instead of eating unhealthy food, eat something healthy like fruit.

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