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OK today was the best day ever ... today he was hugging me and stuff on the bus and when i got off i and then he started texting me. and he asked if i liked him and i said i don't know and i asked why would he want to know, and then he said he was just wondering. after that i told him i was pissed and he asked y and i told him it was because i hate when guys say that. then he said sorry and asked if i liked him again, but then i asked him if he liked me. and he said i asked u first so i told him yes i did and he told me he likes me to but he doesn't want a girl friend right now and so were still best friends and its all good ll i love the way it happened i was jumping around the house waiting for him to text back loll it was so awesome i think when ever he wants a girlfriend hes going to ask me :) ha ha i'm so nervous to see him tomorrow
but i cant wait
:? thanks so much for the great advise (link)
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That's so sweet! Wish things were that simple for me well I could make them simple but I just am picky. I thought he liked you :) Im so glad everything worked out and you're very wlecome. Let me know how things go. And if you inbox meagain but a "X" at the beginning so I know it's you and don't get confused :)
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So, me and my boyfriend go to different schools.
He plays soccer so basically he plays every Saturday.
He says he wants to see me already, and so do i.
My mom knows about him but hasn't met him.
So what would be a good way and productive way that we can spend time? Another thing, im Mexican and i speak both Spanish and English, but since i was 5 i mostly spoke English. But hes more of a Spanish person, should i mist speak Spanish, or ty to speak english around him? (link)
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Go see a movie together, go out to dinner with him, go to a school basketball or football game, gonto one of his soccer games. Anything is nice as long as youare with him. As for the language I say you speek what you both have been speaking to eachother.
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13/F
i cut myself, arms, wrist, legs. & i want to stop but idk how. i've tried the rubber band trick but i doesnt work it makes me want to do it more. :/ & everytime my friends confiscate my scissors, blades, etc. i get really mad and i do it even more. Help? :/ (link)
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You need to talk to a family member or counselor so they can help you quit this. Cutting your self doesn't do anything but slowly kill your self each time, just keep that in mind. So go seek help
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18/f
this has happened my whole life. my father sells coke and smokes crack, he doesn't have a job. my mother makes over 100,000 a year. she's also an alcoholic. my father beats my mother and verbally abuses me and my brother whose 16. every time i hear the things he says to her i start crying. the thing is shes okay with living like this. she enjoys living in her "fantasy drunk world." every time ive had my father arrested she just bails him out, its pointless. my mother has never been around for me since i was in 4th grade. the animal of my father raised me. everytime my father enters the house its just a horrible horrible vibe. my brother and i HATE HIM SO MUCH. weve told my mother how hes abused her and us so many times and nothing changes. ive had thoughts about killing him, prying over his finger nails one by one. my thoughts are beginning to frighten me about how much i hate this man. (link)
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You need to tell someone you can trust whether it's counselor or close friend! Youdonotdeserve this in your life! Get Help! Thisis no way to live and very traumatic!
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hi 20/f him 19/m
ok so me and my ex broke up cause he said he doesnt love me any more. i still really love and care about him. before we broke up we talked and agreed that we would still stay friends. it has been like 6 months since we broke up and we would talk every day. i have really bad depression issues and tend to get really down on myself and tell him what i am thinking and most of the time it will end up with us fighting. and about a week ago we ended up getting into another fight and he said it would be best if we dont talk any more and if we do that we just stay friends and nothing more. but since then he hasnt texted me and if i ask if he hates me he wont answer and no matter how mant times a say im sorry it doesnt seem to change anything so my question is should i text him or give it like another week and see if he messages me and if he doesnt should i message him. i still really love him and care about him and even after we broke up he still cares about me but not like i care about him. he is my best friend and the only person i truly trust and i dont want to lose him. what should i do. sorry its so unorganised im not very good at expressing my feelings (link)
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If you truely love him, let him go, if he comes bck to you then you guys are meant to be. Let him think bout things and wait some time as I thinkhe may be sad or mad about this too. The best thing to do right now is to let him be and move on.
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13/f, bf/16
The other day I gave my boyfriend a blow-job cuz he normally asks me for one, but this time after I was done he asked me if I wanted to have sex and I said no cuz I know i'm not ready. Now he won't stop asking me and he'll try to like touch me in my private place,kiss my kneck and put his hand up my shirt. How do I tell him I don't want to have sex with him in a way he will stop asking and touching me. (link)
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Be completely honest and tell him that you are not ready for sex yet. Nobody should be touching you there so tell him to stop! Tell him how you feel about this!
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I love my boyfriend to death and i know i want to be with him forever.Everything is perfect except he is super controlling.
-He hates my friends so i need to get rid of them
-His rule is i only get to hang out with friends once every 2 weeks.(Even though hes always hanging out with friends)
-I need to be texting him the whole time i am with friends
-I need to call him everynight
-I cant keep my nose piercing (i think i should have the right to decide what piercings or tatoos i get)
-He doesn't let me ever talk to any guys even just saying hi
-He thinks everything i wear is so slutty so i can hardly wear anything
I don't know what to do please help! I want to keep him he is so sweet and i know he loves me he is this way because of his past but he can't act like this i don't cheat or do anything wrong! (link)
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You don't need to do anything at all and he can't make you because it's you life. Realize this...a friend will be your freind forever but he may not be your boyfriend forever. Your friends, trust me on this, care about you more than he does! Once every 2 weeks? For god sake, he's controlling your life. For all I care you should be able to see you friends once every 1 second! You also have the right to talk to other guys besides him don't let him stop you, that's not fair! You should also be able to wear anything you want who the hell cares. He shouldn't care what youwearif he loves you. Henshouldlet you do what younwant to do, if he really loves you. He's taking over your life...you don't deserve this at all and you kind find someone better who loves you and lets you do whatyou want! DUMP HIM! You deserve soooooooo much better!
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I used to have srtaight A's but now I am in 7th grade and have one E, two C'2, 2 B's, and 2 A's. The A's arent even in core classes. I have tried so many things to get my grades back up and figure out why ther dropped. Nothing has worked. I can't remember the last time I got an A let alone 100 on a test. Even if I study hard and the way it used to work for me. I am very stressed over this because if my grades don't impove by the end of this month, my dream will be taken away from me. I won't be able to ride horses any more. Please! If someone could help me please do so. I want to see a therapist because I have more problems then this but we can't afford one right now. Please help, and Thank you. (link)
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You need to stay focused. You need to stay motivated. This is why people drop out of school, because they have no motivation. If it takes smiley face erasers (lol) then do it. Stay in the mood. You need to study hard try and makeit fun with colorful note cards or something. Also hand work right on time when it's supposed to be handed in. Pay attention in class and pay no attention to other distractions. Also do not speakoit when someone else it talking. Try and learn while having fun though :) Just try your hardest and eventually your harf work will pay off.
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So my friend who I've known since I was (she is like my sister) started to think about suicide and yeah she got mental help for that but I have had these really realistic nightmares where I lose somebody I love because they killed themselves. I have had 2 so far. In one my friend Tieran messages me on facebook saying "ik you are at school and thats why I'm messaging you this. I am gonna kill myself today its not your fault though. I thought you needed to know though" So i message her back saying "I'm not at school don't do it" but she is offline at the time. So i start yelling at my mom to drive me to her house and I call her dad saying what happened. When I get to her house I jump over the fence in her yard cause I think they might have the back door open to let the dogs out. They do to so I run in the door to their kitchen and find her with a knife in her chest bleeding out. I put her head in my lap and call 911. The only problem is I don't know the address so I have to waste sometime getting the address. The whole time I'm yelling at her to stay with me and don't leave me. The ambulance comes and Tieran has been bleeding out the whole time and I can hear the doctors saying "its to late" so some of the people and scrubs are holding me back while I'm screaming and crying. Then I woke up it was so realistic I had to check facebook when i got up just to make sure it was just a dream. Then in the other one I'm at a new place to eat food and i'm with my friends we finish eating and my mom and I start walking back to our house talking about why my sister didn't come eat with us. Then my dad runs up to meet us and whispers something in my mom's ear and you can tell its bad by his face. My mom looks at me and says "Stephie passed out and never woke up. We think she is dead." So we get to the house and find my sister dead on the sofa and a doctor tells us she died because she was starving herself to death. Then i woke up and never went to bed. What do I do? I don't want to be afraid of sleeping any more. Should I get some help? (link)
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Let me tell you, dreams are things we don't think about during the day. People say, dreams are the message that try and tell you stuff or dreams are not mportant...we all have are opinions. My friends brother had cancer and my friend said that one night she had a dream where her brother just walked away like left and the next day her brother died. Heart braking, I know. But I believe dreams are the things that warn us. I suggest you talk with a family member about your feelings and tell them your thoughts. Sharing your thoughts with someone will make you feel better. Sometimes we just have bad dreams, you neer know what this could mean so don't let this change you farther than a warning. Be happy and carry on :)
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Everytime I see a fight or leftovers of a gang fight, it makes me super mad. I can watch a hockey fight fine but why does this make me so mad? I was watching TV once and someone got shot when people were trying to steal cattle from another farm and I got so mad that I had to leave and hide on my bunkbed for 10 minutes. I closed myself in by stacking my pillows up arounds me and I cried there. This was the worst time, it was the only time that I got so mad I cried. This is the only thing that makes me so mad. Why do you thing this is? I have always liked to play fight and sword fight. (link)
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You may feel this way because as growing up something may have happened to you, traumatic and now everytime you see stff like thisnit brings back those angry fears of yours. We do not know for sure. I say you see a therapist if you want this cured.
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I cooked a frozen pizza and I like it doughy but never have been able to make it like that because my family won't let me. They like it fully cooked. I cooked one today and cooked it about 4 minutes under. I did preheat the oven and it was in the middle on the top shelf. It was a cheese pizza. I have only eaten one piece. Will it hurt me? Thanks. (link)
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You could get really sick from it and throw up and five you stomach aches. There are reasons we fully cook it so I suggest to eat pizza fully cooken so you don't have these problems.
Hope I helped
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Iam 14 and my boyfriend 20 i dont know if i can trust him because he wants to have sex with me and i told him no iam to jong now im scard he will do it with other girls (link)
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This is a big age difference, which I worry about it.
First of all, the most important part of a realationship is trust. You need to be able to trust him otherwise it's never going to work out between the two of you. If you feel he's using you for sex, dump him. If you feels he's cheating on you, dump him. If you feel you can't trust him AT ALL, dump him. There's no reason ypu should feel this way and if he's doing this, it's not love. So I suggest talking to him.
Good luck, hope I helped
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i need help guyz!i am a girl and 12 year old and i am from india. i had a bf a year ago...after some months a girl came named amanda and became by bf's best friend. then one day she called me and said that my bf told that he dont want to continue our relationship. i asked him and he just ignored me! plz give me advice so i can get him back... (link)
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I am abput the same age as you. Me personally hasn't been through this but I know people who have! So what I understand is that your boyfriend doesn't want to be with you anymore and that Amanda affected your realationship. Ok well let me say this
1.) Don't try and get back at him or you will look desperate and imature
2.) You're 12 years old and will have plenty boyfriends.
He doesn't want to be with you if he's ignoring you...so fine let it be that way it's his lost. Also this girl is just being a down right bitch so ignore her.
What I suggest doing is going to find someone who likes you and won't ditch you. Someone that also makes you happy. Or you could just enjoy your last year of your childhood.
Hope I helped and remember if anyones loosing something it's him.
Good Luck :)
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Yes i am (link)
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Cool :) So am I! You probably would have never thought that though. Im in 7th grade.
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good idea ill tell you whats happens tomorrow at school :) (link)
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Haha okay you do that :) I have to go to school tomorrow too :/
You in middle school?
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Im 16 years old, almost 17. I've never had a boyfriend, i've never kissed a guy, i've never been drunk, i've never done drugs, and I don't go to parties. At my age that's all my friends want to do. They get drunk/high, they go to parties, and they hook up with guys. I feel like such a loser because I have no intentions of doing any of that stuff anytime soon. I feel like I don't have anything to talk about with my friends because that's all they talk about. Like everytime i've gone to little get togethers with them everyones smoking weed or drinking, and I just stand there awkwardly. There's been times where I want to try it, but theres just something in my head that tells me not too. What would you think of someone like me? should I continue to be the way I am? are there any other teens out there like me? should I just let go and open up to new things? What does being high/drunk feel like?
do people at parties who do get messed up all the time think badly about the ones who don't? HELP! (link)
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I am very proud that you don't do this stuff! If you continue not to do this stuff then you will get farther in life and have a brighter future. Yes, our econemy is like this now but I think we should but an end to underaged drinking, sex, and other things that are not helpful. Do not try any of this stuff because it screws you up and people may take advantage of te fact that you are drunk. I am a little bit younger than you but I am with you. I dont plan to drink or any of that stuff. You asked "what do you think of someone like me" well right now I think you're pretty mature and a leader. I see you getting farther than your friends in life when you're older. But do try and have fun going to a party can be fun.
Hope I helped and be your self, you dont have to do wht your friends may pressure you into doing or what they do.
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maybe next time me and his friends hang out ill ask him if he wants to come to. the only problem is that we go Rollerblading and i don't know if he can and his friends always flirt flirt with me when were there. and all i want to do is hang out with him. i think he gets a little nervous around me when we sit to together sometimes to, but so do i ..loll... I get butterfly's just talking about him. is that normal :) (link)
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Oh Yes it's very normal to get butterflys talking about or being with your crush if you like them a lot ;) That's a good idea to invite him too and if you want to be alone with him be like "want me to show you hot to rollerblade fast" or "wanna see my do a cool trick" then teach him. Try to reach out to him!
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okay ill try to ask him out. sometimes i hang out with his friends,and every time i ask them if they want to hang out i look right at the guy i like when i say it. do u think he doesn't want to go or hes just not getting it. and also the other day i noticed that when i text him he stops right in the middle of our conversion. do u think that every time he stops its because he tempted to text "will you go out" with me. (link)
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It's not that he may be tempted to ask you out although it is possible he wants to, he just may be actually doing something else at the time, or the conversation was getting dull and he left. But, when guys ask me out over text I usually say NO. Why? well
A.) How do you know it's real?
B.) If they're to shy to ask you out in person and do it in text then they need to man-up
and other reasons too...I would take this all to the real deal (not over text) all though you can still text him:)
As for your top question, asking them to hangout and directing it to him could make him feel uncomfortable or he could just not be getting it
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It all started when I was 8. I was in gymnastics and I was about to learn a new move. But I didn't trust my body enough to do it. I had to have my coach spot me every time but eventually I got to the point where I couldn't do it even if I had a spotter. After that I have had SOOOOO many fears of EVERYTHING! Around my friends I am slightly stonger but showers freak me out so much, the darkness, unlocked doors at night, raw meats, throwing up(phobia), dark windows, quietness at nights, the list could go on. How do I fix this!? It is interupting my life and changing who I am! Please and thank you. :) (link)
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My best suggestion is to see a therapit who will help you get rid of your fears just like my therapist did. What helped was to get used to this stuff for example get used to the dark like be in the dark a lot by your self till tis fear goes away. Get used to all these but also seek help from a therapist. Good luck
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im 14 and he is 13 im afraid that if i ask him out then he'll say no or worse we will stop being friends cuz hes like my best guy friend. (link)
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Well in that case since he's younger he will most likely say yes. Honey, you can't be scared of rejection if he does say no then continue being friends because a friendship lasts forever. Sure, it may be awkward for a few weeks but things will go back to normal and think of the bright side, what if he says yes?
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