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me and my Boyfriend have been going out for a month ((tomorrow)) and i was wondering if i should get him anything. cause like this is the longest realtionsship that i have ever had. and i really like him. ((im 15 by the way)) and i was just thinking about like being relly nice ot him and wearing one of my shirts that are his favoirte. i dont know. i need to know if its okay for me to get him something because i feel like i should. but i dont know. please help =] (link)
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if you want to get him something then go ahead, but be sure not to expect anything in return since it's only 1 month. maybe get him a cute little card if he's that kind of guy, or write him a little note.
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OK, this is my 3rd question about this guy, if you havent read my other questions....ill fill you in:
Okay so this guy really likes me and keeps following me wherever i go. He gets really close to my face when he talks and is obnoxious and annoying. a tad bit rude too. Im ognoring him at the moment, and its NOY WORKING. He just wont give up. Im actually ANGRY. I dotn know what to do other than to tell him straight up thaat i dont want him following me. But he recently got transfered to 2 of my classes and sat next to me in both. One of them was my favorite classes and now hes in it. I know its not his doing, but he atleast can make an effort to try to stay away from me. No, he knows im avoiding him and is still ding every little thing he possibly can to be near me. Its gotten to the point where i cant even hang out with my own friends! Im really upset and angry, and i really need some help, and help that will work and keep away from me and out of my life.
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tell him straight up, but the first time be firm and not angry or anything. if he continues, either toughen up when you tell him or go to a counselor and they'll warn him for you
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Ok so I have my 1st job interview tomorroww at old navy...I'm a really happy person but what type of questions are they going to ask me...I'm nervous..hep asap pleease lol (link)
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*what you would do to contribute to the working environment.
*why you applied there/ why do you like it
*they'll give you an example of a guest interaction and see how you would handle it.
(i.e. if a guest was angry)
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Me and my 2 best friends (girls) like my other best friend (guy) i grew up with him and he was my best friend for the last 3 years. I’ve never had a boyfriend (bf) but I told him I liked him and he said he liked me then everything just stopped for 2 weeks i dono why and we did nothing about it and for a week of that i was in dead hate with him id do anything to piss him off but now were really close again (cursing him out to telling him I love him(in a friend way).
i love him but I treat him like my other best friends. They think that’s wrong. I can say anything to him and there is only 2 people in my life that I can him and my friend that likes him. Im just very comfortable around him ill tell him anything. He knows I cut and all, depressed, and struggling he is there for me through it. He made it so much better and makes me worry a lot less about it. I love being around him. We used to talk about our crushes of other people and us, but now when it comes to talking about crushing or love we smile and end up flirting like little kids in a way I love it lol. i cant show sad emotion very well i just had to put that idk why. O and my gothic clothes and hxc music scares him but he loves it somehow.
I don’t know If Im making a big deal about this or what it’s tearing me up. This is the only thing I can’t talk to him about. I tried once but changed the subject after first word… what should I do? I am totally lost.. 13 but 14 next month female : ) hes in 3 months
but today was the best day of my life :) with my friends. (link)
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sweetie you're young. no boy problems, k?
just keep him as a bff because that's always the best way to go if you're not sure. i'm not saying anything for sure, but some best friend relationships that go into an actual relationship end up to where they hate eachother. just keep him because no matter what happens, he'll be there for you and you both know that you like eachother. if you two really are right for eachother, it'll happen but in the future...like....high school maybe. but don't get all riled up about it.
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There is this girl at my school and she is amazing. She is always happy, extremely nice...and i swear she is friends with everyone! I'm really falling head over heels for this girl. I've noticed she acts a bit different around me now a days...and I was wondering...did i do something wrong? She always looks at the floor and has trouble keeping eye contact with me. Plus, she giggles a lot? Is she laughing at me..something I do? Anyway, it would help if I knew what these meant. A few weeks ago i started a secert admirer thingy. I've sent her flowers and wrote her short little love letter/poem things. Any chance she found out or something. Should I stop with the whole 'secert admirer'...do girls think that's lame? Well, anyways, I'm planning on asking her out, but I'm really nervous and I'm not too sure how to ask. I really like this girl, i want to impress her, put a smile on her face.
Any suggestions? Thanks in advance! =) (link)
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that's so adorable!!!
well she may be giggling a lot or may have trouble keeping eye contact because she probably likes you too. some girls do that...well, a lot of girls do that. if she gives signs that she likes the secret admirer things then keep doing it, but don't over do it. as for asking her out, do whatever feels right to you.
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I have a friend, and she has been my best friend for seven years. Recently, we got in a huge fight, and we weren't talking for three weeks. So i thought we were done being friends. I took her completely off of my top friends on myspace, and she called me crying when she found out. So i put her back on. But while i wasn't talking to her, i started a really good friend ship with another girl, and we became better friends then me and the other girl ever were. Now that me and my original bff are okay again, she thinks were bff's again, when really the other girl is the better friend. But the two don't get along, and expect me to be their best friend. Im so confused. (link)
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you can have more than one best friend.
it doesn't necessarily mean you have to choose one over the other, but you have to let your old friend know that things won't be the same between you two. you're probably excited about your new "bff" because you know, who isn't? but make sure you're not completely neglecting the older one because that pretty much signifies you don't care about what you two have been through
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I'm a 17/m... So, i have feelings for one of my best friends, who for now we can call her nicole. i get mixed signals from her, so i don't know if she likes me too. i don't really know how to express my feelings to her without making our friendship awkward....thanks for any advice (link)
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i know how that is...i've had this problem and my best friend is going through this.
all i can say is stay best friends with her and if you're not sure that she can take the fact that you have feelings for her then you probably shouldn't tell her. maybe hint at it a little here and there, or just get a closer relationship. eventually if she does have feelings back, things will happen but it can't be rushed.
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hey everyone!
well my story goes like this,
i use to really like this guy Dylan, but now im not really sure if i do. Some days he is all i can think about, while others, i couldn't imagine him as anything more than a friend. Then this other guy named Paul came into the picture. Paul is sooo much fun, and free-spirited, but he has done some 'things' in the past. I dont mean like sex or anything, but he cheated on a previous girlfriend, stuff like that.
While Paul is a lot of fun he is someone that i know i would love to be with, and i could share things with..
Dylan is i guess what you could call the class clown. He is HILLARIOUS! but i could only see myself joking around with him. He is super sweet though.
Im not sure who to like.. Or should i like both?
Dylan knows i use to like him, but im not sure if he knows that i still like him..
bith guys are so much fun to flirt with and i cant stop!
i don't know if im boy crazy, or whats wrong with me... because... so im on my schools volleyball team, and in practice sometimes my coaches student teacher- a guy in his 30s?- comes out and practices with us. He isnt really my type, not to mention the age difference, but i cant pull away from him. I always have to flirt with him too, but i really dont flirt that much, only with guys i know really well and or like..
Ive never had a boyfriend, guys have asked me out, but i just wanted to stay friends with them..
If anyone can help, and tell me what to do? What im experiencing? and anything else that would be AWESOME!!
And bravo and many thanks to those of you who read this.
I appreciate any thought or effort :) (link)
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haha i think it's like that with every 14 year old girl. you tend to like lots of guys and can't help it because hormones and you're developing and stuff. but really, it shouldn't be a question about who to like. it's not pick or choose, it's just whoever tickles your fancy. i'd say with dylan, keep him as a friend, maybe best friend, because that's what those kind of guys are good for [not really boyfriend material] and Paul seems like he could be good. although just because he's done stuff in the past doesn't ALWAYS mean he will still do it...the past is done with. as long as he doesn't do that now, it's fine and if you wanna be with him then do it. but your best bet is to just be friends with both so you can still flirt and whatnot, ya know?
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I have been dating a guy for over a year, and i love him. The thing is I think I'm falling for this other guy too. I dont want to admit but im starting too...
i know its wrong.
and the guy im dating now- i ask him a lot of questions- and one day i asked him what would he do if i told him i was in love with two people and he was one of those people. he told me he would want me to choose who i wanted. i asked him,"what if it wasnt you". he told me as long as i was happy he would want it for me.
that makes me feel bad and love him even more.
is there a way to stop falling for this other guy?
should i choose, and how do i choose?
i dont know what to do and im normally really good at this stuff... its scaring me because i dont want to hurt the guy im dating if its not him i want. and i really dont want to fall for this other guy. when i catch myself near this guy i always find myself smiling and flirting... but i do this with my boyfriend too, and i feel guilty but i havent done anything but flirt...
what do you sugguest i do?
**Thank you in advance! (link)
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a simple way is to pick out everything that's wrong about the other guy. or limit your talk to him to keep your mind off him a little. just don't make a decision too soon about who you want to go for, it might take a little time.
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hey! this may be a long story. and knowing that I dont particularly like reading short novels as questions as a columnist myself, ill try to keep it short.
ok, so there's this guy who I go to school with. He's funny, in a lame sort of way, but kind of cute. I mean he's no teen heartthrob overflowing with charm but he's kinda sweet =) so everyone in the grade claim they can see how much he's in love with me. I mean I guess you could call it "flirting" but I'm not exactly sure the term for what he does. He picks me out in the crowd and stuff like that, but its not in like a mature-teenagerish way, it's more in a kiddish i'll poke you because I like you kind of way. I'm his friend, and he says he doesn't like me when I ask him. He says I'm just his really good friend. But it doesn't exactly seem like I'm his really good friend to other people and sometimes to me. I'm not sure if that exactly makes sense but that's the best I can explain it. All of my friends and so he tells me, his friends, say that we like eachother, but i don't like him. Last year when I really thought that he liked me I kind of started to like him too.What do I do?
Can you tell me how to
A. get him to really tell me he likes me if he does which it seems like.
or B. figure out the situation so I can get over this big wall surrounding our friendship
From one advice-giver to another, help please! thanks in advance
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he may like you, he may not. since he acts a little "kiddish" when he "flirts" or whatnot, he may just see you as a really good girl friend that he can say anything to or do anything with and may not be concentrated on a 'relationship'.
fyi, young boys like girls and flirty and a lot of it.
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okay so i'm dating a guy who is great. he's the first guy i've dated after my last ex who hurt me pretty bad at the time. we've been dating for almost a month. we hold hands and hug but like how can i be more not shy? i'm shy about things like that sometimes, but i'm outgoing with everything else. i think i just have my guard up but i don't know..any advice?
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you probably do have your guard up still because you don't want to be hurt again. it's understandable and common. you just have to figure out whether this new guy is a good guy and he's not going to hurt you. once you know that for sure, you'll start easing up a little. it might just happen when you don't even notice it, but the thing you need to know is that he won't hurt you.
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HELP! i have a pretty good voice but i have a cold and i cant hit high notes very good!! and im singing in a talent show and need to practice and the talent show is in 7 days! plz help or any advice to temporarily get rid of my sinuses.
thanks so much! (link)
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hot green tea with honey and lemon. it's something to drink whenever your voice is worked too hard. honey coats and soothes the throat.
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So i like this guy name Brandon..hes in my first period class. I usually dont like alot of guys ebcause im so busy and i just dont havet time..but this guy is different..he has a really unique personality and hes sending me mixed signals..how do you tell when a guy likes you? (link)
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if he likes talking to you more than other girls or any of his friends. if he looks at you a lot, but not just a glance. if you guys pass by eachother, he might smile or say hi and seem kinda shy. if you guys talk, he might compliment you.
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So there's this boy...
well, to be truthful, he's so much more than that to me now. We've been dating for a little under eleven months now, and I love the hell out of this boy. He's been everything to me, and we've helped each other out of a lot of potentially bad situations. Of course we've had problems, all relationships do, but overall everythings been perfect.
So this time it came upon me like a ton of bricks. He just seems like he doesnt care anymore. We havent even been fighting lately but he told me today that "I cant stay with you if we're gonna fight every day." Which stumps me because we havent fought at all for the past week or so. And then he got mad at me for talking to an old friend who I've known since I was four. this old friend happens to be very feminine, although he is, indeed, a boy. Well, we fussed about it for a bit and he just walks away like he could care less. Then the next class period he walks up to me with another girls name on his hand. Now, in high school, thats kind of like labeling this boy yours, so naturally I was PISSED. and there is no way this girl couldnt have known we were dating, our high school has less than 60 kids altogether 9-12th grades. And eleven months is a long time. So I asked him "do you care about me" yes. "Do you love me?" yes. "do you wanna stay together?" idunno.
WOAH back the truck up, I'm confused!!! He's NEVER said that before, its always "I love you baby, I'd die if I lost you...yada yada yada" I dont know what to do, whats your opinion? Sorry if this is too long, but I really neeeeed HELP!!!!!
Oh, btw, I'm 16 hes 17 (link)
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been through it, it sucks.
maybe you guys just need a little time apart.
when people spend too much time together they tend to fight a lot and then it's all tension.
hang out with your friends for a while, let him hang with his. if after a while, you still feel like you love him and want to stay with him, talk to him about it. really, communication is the best thing in a relationship and make sure he knows you're serious. maybe he feels like it's a little too clingy and is rushed to answer. after a while, just ask him.
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two questions on the same topiccc
13/f
•are first time boyfriends supposed to be special in a girls life? like is a big deal to the mom or something?
•are a girls first kiss supposed to be really special? like are you supposed to search for the right dude in order to have you first kiss? or can it be just some dude u like but aren't dating?
thanks so much!!!
as many answers as possible please!
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a first boyfriend is ALWAYS special, but not always in a love way. it's special because it's a first, and it the first time you get to deal with all the wonderful crap they throw at you.
and a girl's first kiss is whenever she feels like it. if you want to make it special, then do it. if you don't then go ahead and kiss any guy, just as long as you want to.
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There's this one guy I like, he's in 2 grades ahead of me but we have show choir together and I see him quite a bit for rehearsals. Well in choir we're doing this swing dancing/grease song and he's my partner. He's always really sweet...telling me I'm beatuful, hugging me, helping me up when we screw up on any of the moves (swing dancing is really hard. I'm a dancer but I've never done this before.) We had to car pool to Pope Joy hall for a concert and there weren't enough seats in the car so he let me sit on his lap and then he put his arm around my waste.
But what I don't get is one minute he acts like I'm the only girl in the world and when I'm not around or off somewhere else in the room he just flirts with other girls like crazy...I mean he doesn't act the same way around them as he does me...but still. I don't know if he likes me or not...and I don't want to assume that he does and make an idiot out of myself.
Do you think maybe he's just playing me? That I'm just a conquest? It's to the point where I honestly can't tell and I'm really good at reading people. I mean he always hugs me when he sees me and he always plays with my hair...
Today I walked into rehearsal and he was laying on the couch with this one girl just messing around with her, and then he caught my eye and I just walked out and he followed me but I was already out of his sight. I'm seriously tired of this...what do I do?
I really like him, but if he's going to keep going pi-polar on me then I need to move on... (link)
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you might be wrong when you say "he's not like that to other girls".
but he's probably the type of guy that likes girls for who they are, but doesn't want just one. he wants a lot of them and no serious relationship so he can't say he's cheating.
if you really like him that much and think he could change in the future, then keep liking him, but don't put too much emotion into it. you shouldn't put too much emotion into a guy like that anyways because that just messes YOU up.
flirt with him when it feels right, take the compliments, but don't act like his girlfriend. appreciate what you have because some girls can't even get that far.
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well their this guy that i really really like and well i like him so much that i think i might be in love with him. But i dont know for sure,how can you tell you really in love with someone. I think about him all the time,i always write poems and stuff about him,there aint one day where i just cant stop thinking about him. And when he dont be at school i get all upset and everything. And when i see him i get all happy and stuff.So what is this that im feeling and why am im feeling this way. by the way im 15 in 9th grade and he is in 10th. (link)
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it depends on whether you know the guy or not. if you're friends with him and stuff and you know a lot of personal things, then there's a possiblity you love him. if it's just a "i saw him across the hall and i watch him every day" kinda thing, sorry, it's not love. it's a freshman thing, where they see an upperclassman that attracts them and they think they like them, but really it's not. it's usually just physical attracts them.
but if it's the first case, then you know you love him when all you want to do is help them when they're down, talk to them because the things they say make you feel good or happy.
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everytime i tell my friends who i'm into, they always make it akward for me. they let on hints to the person so hard, and pretty much confess my love to them. its happened before, and will probably happen again. they dont know who im into right now, but they're getting pretty close to figuring it out. they keep bothering me about it. and to make it even better, its the kid my friend kinda likes (but could never have a chance with.) but i'm pretty sure i have a better chance than her. should i just keep this to myself? or do you think they could somehow help? (link)
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if they keep doing that, tell them you don't like it or just don't tell them who you're into anymore.
i know it can be embarassing sometimes when your friends tell a person that you like them.
if you think you have a better chance than her, don't tell her. if you like the kid, go for it. if you don't, try to keep your friend from liking the too much.
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i REALLYY REALLYYY like this guy, and we are good friends.. i mean we talk alot and stuff
he likes this other girl though. i dont know if he still does but yeah
and like i wanna try to flirt with him, i have been on all the websites and stuff but they dont tell me sepcificly what to say! and thats what i need
also whenever we talk to eachother on AIM the conversations are SOOOOO awkward. its always like.. hey, hey, whats up? nm u? nm. cool yeah. and then idk what to sayy!!!!!!!! i need some ideas also i cant rele make jokes cause it seems like online he takes things seriouslyy
but in person he is really CRRRAAZZYYY. And its still kinda awkward in person he always comes up to me and we say hi and stuff but then we are just starring at eachother like NOW WHAT!??!?! ugh i need to know what to sayyy!!
also i really wanna give him a hug, but i feel like ( even though we are friends ) it would be feel awkward for himm =[
i dont know what to doooo (link)
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i think you're shy and you need to get over that. don't do everything based on what he would think or like or whatever, just go along with it. be yourself, don't try to impress him because it always works best.
and as for flirting, DON'T TRY TOO HARD. there's not really anything specific to say, it just comes along.
i can give you examples...
if you guys are together or whatever, when he walks away, hide something of his and pretend like you didn't take it and when he sees you have it, make him chase you for it, or something.
don't worry too much about whether you need to flirt, just act like yourself.
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well i like this girl she does know i like her from me telling her from a love letter and then from alot of people and now i think she hates me i never asked her should i ask her if she likes me or not and go for it no matter what any one else thinks cause i dont want her to miserable and all her friends hating her for me talking to her or her liking me but when i wait to talk to her she looks pissed off at me and like she doesnt want to talk to me but i mean we look at ecother alot im a runescape person and shes a book person i guess u could say i love her alot but her friend and lots of other girls are trying to talk to me but i hate them all cause b4 they new i liked her they all hated me after school should i go to her locker and talk to her and walk out with her to the buses or wait by a door to talk to her and she works as a lunch worker so she cleans dishes for school during lunch should i talk to her then to god i bet she or her friends think bad about me please help me find out what to do (link)
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well, first, try using punctuation when you write. it's easier on the eyes and brain.
if you didn't know she liked you before and you just jumped into a love letter, then she's probably a little weirded out. if you want to talk to her, write her a note that says 'we need to talk', and maybe ask when a good time is. when you talk to her, apologize if you feel the need to and ask her if she likes you, etc. just don't be too clingy or pushy because that ruins it all. be serious.
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