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confuzzled.
hey! this may be a long story. and knowing that I dont particularly like reading short novels as questions as a columnist myself, ill try to keep it short.
ok, so there's this guy who I go to school with. He's funny, in a lame sort of way, but kind of cute. I mean he's no teen heartthrob overflowing with charm but he's kinda sweet =) so everyone in the grade claim they can see how much he's in love with me. I mean I guess you could call it "flirting" but I'm not exactly sure the term for what he does. He picks me out in the crowd and stuff like that, but its not in like a mature-teenagerish way, it's more in a kiddish i'll poke you because I like you kind of way. I'm his friend, and he says he doesn't like me when I ask him. He says I'm just his really good friend. But it doesn't exactly seem like I'm his really good friend to other people and sometimes to me. I'm not sure if that exactly makes sense but that's the best I can explain it. All of my friends and so he tells me, his friends, say that we like eachother, but i don't like him. Last year when I really thought that he liked me I kind of started to like him too.What do I do?
Can you tell me how to
A. get him to really tell me he likes me if he does which it seems like.
or B. figure out the situation so I can get over this big wall surrounding our friendship
From one advice-giver to another, help please! thanks in advance
15/f
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he may like you, he may not. since he acts a little "kiddish" when he "flirts" or whatnot, he may just see you as a really good girl friend that he can say anything to or do anything with and may not be concentrated on a 'relationship'.
fyi, young boys like girls and flirty and a lot of it.
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Ok! I really don't see a way you can get him to tell you if he likes you, you have already asked him and the thing is if he wanted you to know he'd tell you. Then please stop listening to what everyone else is saying or thinks. My friend was in the same situation where everyone told her her good guy friend liked her, but he actually just saw her as a friend and she ended up getting hurt. Just listen to yourself, you seem to know him well, so sooner or later you will pick up on if he does or doesn't like you.
Right now he wants to be your friend so I suggest that you don't dwell on if he likes you or not, and just be his friends. If the times come and he says he likes you and you don't feel the same about him then just explain to him that you see him as a good friend.
Right now just be happy and be his friend he said he doesn't like you, so don't stress there isn't really a wall surrounding your friendship.
I hope everything works out!
good luck! :)
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From what I read about you saying he was funny, cute and sweet are you sure you are not attracted to him? I got a little confussed did you mean that he tells his friends he does or doesn't like you. Maybe he's not ready for a relationship but likes you, maybe he's scared that if he tells you he likes you it will change your friendship. I think you need to get him to trust and be open with you, a good start would for you to be open on how you feel to him. It sounds as though you need to talk to him in order to sort this wall surrounding your friendship.
Good Luck xx
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