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I cant handle it anymore...
So there's this boy...
well, to be truthful, he's so much more than that to me now. We've been dating for a little under eleven months now, and I love the hell out of this boy. He's been everything to me, and we've helped each other out of a lot of potentially bad situations. Of course we've had problems, all relationships do, but overall everythings been perfect.
So this time it came upon me like a ton of bricks. He just seems like he doesnt care anymore. We havent even been fighting lately but he told me today that "I cant stay with you if we're gonna fight every day." Which stumps me because we havent fought at all for the past week or so. And then he got mad at me for talking to an old friend who I've known since I was four. this old friend happens to be very feminine, although he is, indeed, a boy. Well, we fussed about it for a bit and he just walks away like he could care less. Then the next class period he walks up to me with another girls name on his hand. Now, in high school, thats kind of like labeling this boy yours, so naturally I was PISSED. and there is no way this girl couldnt have known we were dating, our high school has less than 60 kids altogether 9-12th grades. And eleven months is a long time. So I asked him "do you care about me" yes. "Do you love me?" yes. "do you wanna stay together?" idunno.
WOAH back the truck up, I'm confused!!! He's NEVER said that before, its always "I love you baby, I'd die if I lost you...yada yada yada" I dont know what to do, whats your opinion? Sorry if this is too long, but I really neeeeed HELP!!!!!
Oh, btw, I'm 16 hes 17
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been through it, it sucks.
maybe you guys just need a little time apart.
when people spend too much time together they tend to fight a lot and then it's all tension.
hang out with your friends for a while, let him hang with his. if after a while, you still feel like you love him and want to stay with him, talk to him about it. really, communication is the best thing in a relationship and make sure he knows you're serious. maybe he feels like it's a little too clingy and is rushed to answer. after a while, just ask him.
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Guys that age usually don't know what they want. He is probably confused himself. I do see your point..you've been together for almost a year- long enough to have something official going on. But when it comes down to it, some people at that age are confused about what they want out of a relationship. All along he has been telling you that he does care about you, and wants to be in a relationship with you. The fact that (at this point) he doesn't know if he wants that anymore, probably shows that he does care about you, but maybe someone else caught his attention, which kind of threw him on a rollercoaster, so to speak. These things happen..
He's young, and a guy (which isn't always an excuse), so as for the girl, maybe his "raging hormones" are getting the best of him. You might want to calmly discuss this issue with him (not the hormones, but the girl, lol).
As for him getting mad at you for talking to your friend, well...that's not fair to you, or your friend. You should be able to talk to whoever you want. Period. No guy should get in the middle of that. You might also consider bringing this up, since it seems to bother you. When you're alone with him, and you're calm.
I'm not a mind-reader, and neither is anyone else. The only way to know what he's thinking is to ask. And be nice, but firm- almost like you're calmly having a cup of coffee at the local cafe. Try not to yell, but don't be a pushover either. Sometime when you are both together, let him know how you feel. And also give him a chance to explain himself. Worst case, he may no longer want to be in a relationship, or maybe he needs time to think. But again, he's the only one who can explain how he feels.
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hey i been here before it seems to me that he loves but by what your sayin he might be thinkg that its time for you guys to go seperate ways if he starting argument ands doin things that he know wil piss you off(the girl name on him) he just dont know how to tell you because e dont wanna hurt you....i know what your feelin...pebb
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