I'm a 21 yr old female college student, currently studying astronomy-physics. I also enjoy writing, and I love dogs. I don't know what I'm doing with my life, but I have experienced a lot of life.
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I have a very good friend of mine who I haven't known very long but we have bonded like no other. We both have problembs in our lives but his our way too serious for me to give any real advice. I know he wants my help whenever I look in his eyes. He's basicly telling me to help him every time we talk, but he's scared. He was recintly in a mental Hospital for attempting. I need to help him on my own though because He will never forgive me if I tell his parents or anyone else, but I would rather lose this friendship and save his life then sit here and watch him die, knowing that I could have helped. His newest thing to do is ?coridicin? aka CCC's, a coughing med. He's been taking about 29-32 every weekend and he has been in intensive care from overdoseing once. If that won't teach him that he can't controll rather he dies or lives idk what will. He makes me an empty promise every time he trips, he always tells me he promises he wont die.Why doesn't he see he isn't playing a game anymore? I want to tell him that I care for him and I know he likes me more then a friend, but I can't love somone more then this when they risk braking my heart and ending their life every weekend. I just want to save him. Please help me.
if you have msn messenger plz add me mirandaskye89@msn.com
female, 16. (link)
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Tell his parents. Or better yet, convince him to tell them himself. He may be mad at you for it, but like you already said, it's better than having him die. He can't promise not to die. It doesn't work that way. He will probably thank you for it later, once he's better. I don't see how his parents can't already know though. I assume they pay for his hospital bills? Just talk to his parents. His life is more important than his friendship. His death will hurt more than his anger will. The only thing that can help him is a doctor and a rehab center. You can't help him get better. He needs to want to get himself better. I think he already wants to get better but doesn't know how. If he won't tell his parents, he can always go to the doctor alone (or with you) and talk about this problem. The doctor can offer advice. Unburden the load on yourself, you can't handle this alone. You could also talk to your own parents/guardians about this. Don't let him become completely dependent on you and don't date him. It will be an unhealthy relationship. Just remain friends until he is healed. Good luck.
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hi me and my boyfriend have been dating for 6 and a half months im 19 and so is he when we first starting dating it was great he called me every night he texted me all the time and we always had fun together now he rarely calls or texts if he does call its around midnight and if i call him he is always with his friends and either says i cant talk right now or he talks to them the whole time while i am on the phone listeneing and sometimes he calls me when he is with the friends and i just have to listen to him talk to them and now we are always fighting he never invites me to do anything with him and his friends anymore either he awways teels me wat hes doing as hes doing it doesnt even invite me and his friends are over every night and he says he didnt invite them that they have a key and he doesnt even wanna b there with them we never really go out anymore we just sit at home and watch tv he says he is always romantic but i cant even remember the last time he was, we only see each other like 1 a week, we both really love each other but then sometimes he can be really sweet, i just dont know wat to do wat should i do to save our relationship
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Look, I think your relationship just went out of the cutesy puppy love stage and into a more serious stage-the stage where both of you stop showing your best selves and instead show your true selves. The pursuit/romancing stage is over and now the real relationship ends. Sort of like the ending of a honeymoon. You shouldn't require him to text you all the time. You also need to let him have his own life. If he wants to hang out with his friends without you, let him. It's unhealthy to spend all your time with your boyfriend. You should spend time with your friends away from him as well. By giving him space, it will make him happier, and he will want to spend more time with you alone. If you want to go out alone with him, make plans then invite him to join you. Say, I'm going to a movie, do you want to go? If he says no, go alone. There's nothing wrong with that. Why should you wait for him to go out and do things? Don't nag him or be dependent on him. Have your own life too.
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what does extacy smell like & is there a possibilty that it won't take affect when swallowed ? (link)
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I've heard that it doesn't have a smell, which is why it's so easy to slip into some ones drink with out the person noticing. It always has an effect when taken, and even if it didn't affect a person, would you really want to risk finding out? It also kills people. Some people die the first time they take it, especially if they haven't done any other drugs before. Don't take it, if you are considering doing so. And never take an open container of liquid from another person at a party.
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i am a 13 year old girl and i feel left out and i feel out of place like i am a rebel and i feel like im diffrent from everyone else and it is hard for me to be myself around anyone ecpecially my family and friends so can u tell me how to feel free to be myself and live up to my family legacy of rebeling? (link)
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You sound like a normal 13 yr old to me. It's normal to feel like you need to rebel. Just try and get to know yourself better and work on your self esteem. It's okay to act differently around your friends and family than you do when alone. It doesn't mean you aren't acting like yourself. It just means that your friends and family serve different emotional needs you have and so you act accordingly. Don't worry about your behavior. If you don't want to rebel, you have the will power to stop it.
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My name is Anna. Because of personal reasons I can not afford healthy food which means that I dont get to eat my Vitamins and also certain types of fruits and vegetables. If i continue on eating like this, will this allow me to get Scurvy or any other types of diseases? (link)
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In the US, there's a reason why most of the obese and overweight people are poor- unhealthy food is much cheaper than good food. Having said that, most people don't get scurvy. Don't panic about it. There is a lot of nutrients in milk (or soy milk if lactose intolerant) and many foods like pop tarts add vitamins so you're unlikely to get a disease or suffer malnourishment. So don't panic about it. You should spend money on vitamins though. Get rid of snack food and buy the vitamins instead.
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my boyfriend and i were not sure about goin out however we got into a relationship that i thought he was happy with he dumped me last night and im trying not to be upset but im gonna see him at school all the time this will make it harder for me what shall i do (link)
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It's okay to be upset. Let yourself grieve for this loss. Feeling sad isn't a bad thing. It will help you heal and recover. Just let your friends know what happened and how upset you are, and they will help you get through it. If you have to go to the bathroom and cry between class, then do it. It's okay to cry.
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Okay i feel weird asking this but none of my friends can help so heres the sitch....
I am almost 16 * 2 months and six days* My real dad left when i was 3 and i havent had contact with him or his family since, now affter 13 years his mom * my grandma i guess* finds me on myspace and wants to be my friend and wants me to call her and stuff. I kinda want to but i dont know if i should since they didnt want to be part of my life for so long. SO yeah what would you do if you were me??? (link)
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I haven't seen my father since I was 8 yrs old. When I was younger, I used to hate him, and at that time of my life, I probably wouldn't want to talk to him or anyone else from his family because of the cruel way they treated my mom. Since then, I have released my anger and resentment, and instead feel curious about why he acted the way he did. Was he just too young and immature? The only one to decide to talk to your paternal grandmother is you. Keep in mind that just because your father may be a jerk (not saying he is, but it's possibly...) doesn't mean the rest of his family is. Basically, if you think talking to your grandmother will give you closure for the years of hurt they caused by not being part of your life, and want a reason for the lack of contact, then go ahead and contact her. It can't hurt. But if you feel too uncomfortable and too much resentment, then you don't have to talk to her. You have a rare opportunity to get answers for their past behavior. Don't squander it. Choose wisely.
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My 2 1/2 yr. old female kitty, Tiggy began to pee in the bathtub last year when she went into her first heat. The only time she's done this is when she was in heat, then i subsided. Over the weekend, my husband turned on the stove burner to make tea and he smelled the odor from hell. It seems she peed in the drip pan and on the burner to our electric stove. He never liked pea soup, but trust me, this was the worst pee soup I never could have imagined Unreal to finally clear the odor. She plays with the stream of water in the bathtub faucet sometimes, could she have thought the water in the teapot was connected somehow? I'm grasping here! Holy Cow!!! (link)
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Sometimes cats pee outside the litter box when they have a urinary track infection. You could get her checked out for this. If she doesn't have a UTI, then there is a psychological reason for her to do this. Is she spayed? Even if she is, you have already mentioned she has gone into heat, which means that she may still want to masturbate and act out actions (ie peeing in the tub) she has when in heat even when she doesn't go into it any more. (This is why pets should be spayed/neutered before going into heat happens.) It could also just be that after going into heat and peeing in the tub, she decided that she likes peeing in water filled containers. Some cats can be trained to use a toilet instead of a litter box. You could look this up for your kitty. Some cats also pee outside the litter box as a way to say they are unhappy about something. Have you moved recently? Did you rearrange the furniture? Get a new litter box? Get a new cat? Cats dislike change and they express their dislike via peeing on things. Maybe she doesn't like the style of litter box and wants a different one. Maybe she just wants more attention. Basically, it could be many things, and it will take a while to figure out what caused this.
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My Girlfriends ex-boyfriend and i got into a fight and i was talking to him trying to say i was sorry, and he had asked her a few days before they broke up if she would have se with him, she said no then broke up with him, but when we were talking he told that she's not a virgin, she's 13 i'm 14, and i asked her about it and she told me that she has had sex before, what should i say, i don't want to break up with her but i didn't expect this (link)
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Why should you break up with her just because she's not a virgin? It's a stupid reason to break up with someone. If I had to take a guess, I would guess that she had sex once and it was a bad experience. As a consequence, she probably doesn't want to have sex again, because she's afraid of another bad experience. Maybe she was raped, or maybe she was pressured into it, and didn't enjoy it at all. She also probably thinks that if people knew she isn't a virgin, they will think they can just have sex with her, and that obviously isn't the case. You need to try and be understanding of her feelings. If she doesn't want to have sex, respect her feelings and don't have sex with her or ask her to have sex with you. You can ask her about it, but if she doesn't want to talk about it, just respect her feelings.
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how can i preventing vaginal farting aka queefing during sex? (link)
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Why do you feel you need to prevent it? It's perfectly normal. Don't be so self conscious.
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see this boy needs me to give hym a head job and i dnt knw how to do it plz give me advice (link)
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You don't need to do anything. He's perfectly capable of taking care of himself. Only do it if you want to and feel comfortable dong it. Don't do it because a stupid boy pressures you into it. If you want to do it and feel ready to do it, only agree to giving him a head job if he agrees to give you something in return, like giving you an orgasm. Also, he should give you an orgasm first because after he comes he will be too tired to do if for you. If he refuses to give you pleasure for pleasure, then refuse to do anything for him.
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so we had met through one of my friends from church, and he went to a different school, and so the first time we met, and so, id never been kissed, let alone made out with somebody! and he claims he has gotten to third base, uh huh. but we had just srated to kiss, when he thinks he will get up my shirt, and i kept saying, no, no, not here, and shit like that, and then after the movie his friends showed up to meet me, and all the girls started yelling 'slut' and shit, well, myplan was to make out with him infront of them, and then dump him, but im not very good at being mean, so he doesnt even touch me in front of them, i dont get a kisss goodby, and i havnt heard from him since! are guys seriously all like this?? cause they seem to be that way to me!
girl-14-failiar at life. (link)
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If he doesn't respect you enough to listen to you when you say no, and doesn't respect you enough to stand up for you when someone calls you a slut, then he isn't good enough for you. Most guys your age are like him, but not all of them. Don't have sex or make out as an act of revenge. Only do it as an act of love and because you like it and feel comfortable doing it. Revenge isn't worth it. Stay away from this guy. He's a jerk.
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i have a problem with my gf, she doesnt like being on top or the bottom when we make out so what the hell am i suppose to do (link)
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Just talk to her about it. Maybe she's afraid it will lead to sex and she doesn't want to have sex. Ask her what her intentions are and what she feels comfortable with. Maybe you're being too aggressive with her, and she wants you to slow down. Or maybe she doesn't like your technique of making out. Maybe she just needs to feel more in control of the situation. You could always try sitting up or standing or having her sit on a counter. Basically, you just need to talk to her. It may be that she isn't talking to you because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings and is afraid if she says anything negative you will break up with her. Reassure her that this is not the case. Help her trust you enough to tell you what she wants.
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What does it mean to have your cherry popped? Does it hurt? What happens after and what's so important about it? (link)
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This is a great web site that will answer this question in detail.
http://www.the-clitoris.com/n_html/hymen.htm
It doesn't always hurt to have your hymen break, and it only bleeds 50% of the time. Most people consider their hymen breaking as losing your virginity but that isn't always true. Read this site. It's very informative.
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my dad always yells and never listens because he thinks he's always right. He also get drunk alot and starts yelling and fighting. so most of my life is one big fight. when we are not fighting, im by myself. when we ask him why he drinks so much he say's because he was mad. my mom never cares about us unless it's convenient for her. she never listens, she never cares, and she even said these exact words," the world will stop for me when i want it to." but our parents think that we're little devils when it's really them and we're wrong because we are kids and they are adults. and my sister thinks she's gonna be famous! she tells me that she's prettier than me all the time. she tells me that i need to lose weight when she's actually underweight! she also tells me that i can't sing and i'll never be famous like her. i'm tired of this. i'm 13 and i wanna kill myself but i don't think i'll ever actually do it. it's gonna be really hard celebrating mothers day tomorrow when there's nothing to celebrate. i feel like im not good enough for my sister, my mom, my dad, or anybody. (link)
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You can choose your friends but you can't choose your family. This saying is especially true for you. Not everyone is lucky enough to have a loving and supportive family. Some families just do the best that they can despite having emotional problems of their own. I think your sister is probably hurting as much as you are and is beating up on you and talking about being famous in order to make herself feel better. I also think that maybe your parents don't like the way their life is, and instead of taking responsibility for their actions, they are blaming their children. Your father's behavior probably hurts your mother emotionally, which makes her less capable of taking care of you and your sister in a way you would like. The end result is that all of you are suffering. Why do you think you're not good enough for anyone? The fact that you don't brag, and aren't an alcoholic, and are smart enough to realize how hurtful your family's behavior is shows you're better than the rest of your family. You don't need to please your family. You only need to please yourself. You did not cause your parents problems. They caused their own problems and refuse to take responsibility for them. They choose to raise you. It's possible your family doesn't know how destructive they are being. I suspect they hurt you unintentionally, and I think your parents do love you, but alcoholism and lack of personal responsibility prevent them from showing it. Keep in mind that when you turn 18 you can leave, then you can have your own life and choose to be around people who appreciate you more. You have had a hard childhood, and will continue to have one, but don't let it determine your future. Think about what you want to do with your life after you turn 18. Do you want to go to college? Get a job? Focus on that and it will help you get through your childhood with some self esteem intact.
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For the past year, I have been having really bad mood swings. I am a girl, but I don't think that they have anything to do with my mentrual cycle. Once or twice a month, for between 3 and 7 days, I feel horrible. I feel guilty about nothing, really sad, hopeless, helpless, and like it won't go away. I just generally hate myself. Sometimes I feel like cutting. A few times I have thought of death. One time, I thought of death and then three days later I was absolutely back to normal. I have a mood chart now to track my emotions, so I am hoping this will help. I have been on other sites, and they said that I am probably bipolar, but I don't agree. Bipolar involves manic states, and I don't have that. When I don't feel really bad, I just feel normal. I don't feel over-the-top happiness. I know that most of you aren't professionals and that you can't technically diagnose me with anything, but if you could give me your opinion that would be greatly appreciated. Thank you! (link)
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My mom has bipolar II disorder, and based on what you have written, I agree that you don't have bipolar. There could be many reasons for you to be this way. How old are you? If you are still in middle/high school, it could just be hormones. You could also just be mildly depressed, or you could have a thyroid problem. Also, keep in mind that not all forms of bipolar involve manic states. Bipolar II often does not. Again though, I don't think you're bipolar. Keeping a mood chart is a really good idea. After you do this for a while, you could see a doctor and talk about possible causes. Get your thyroid checked. It's often a cause. If you talk to a doctor and they decide you have mild depression, you can choose whether or not to treat this with medication. Mediation has side effects and doesn't always work for mild depression. Most people get out of it on their own. Having said that, the fact that you have periods of feeling normal, I am willing to bet it's your thyroid. If you get your thyroid checked, keep in mind that the test doesn't always work the first time. You may need to check your thyroid many times before a problem is found. Good luck!
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hallow there! my name z sef fom East africa. i have a girl, that i love from my heart, i mean i want her to marry me! bt, when i am talking to her, she says she doenst feel anything for me, she dislike me, she talks to me as normal as she talking to other men. since got her phone number, no day gone withoud heard her voice, bt if i get emergency, or i am sick' even one day. she never call me, or even text me' so, i wonder how bad will it be! and i didnt approach any other girl, since i first met her, my age is 18, hope you will take your time to answer me, if you reaaly need to help,ask me: Sef_1za@hotmail> hope to hear from you soon!! thanks (link)
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Unrequited love is hard to deal with. If she doesn't love you back, you can't do anything about it. You need to accept that no matter how much you may lover her, she doesn't love you and therefore you will need to move on. Just be friends with her, and find someone else to love and date. Who knows, maybe by just being friends for a few years, her feelings for you may change.
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I'm a 19 year old female. I have a boyfriend and we have sex regularly. I frequently masturbate in order to reach orgasm. (He can't get me off by fingering me or going down on me - but we do continue to try). Recently when I've masturbated I've felt like I peed slightly. Is this possible and if so how can I prevent it. I don't want to do this with my boyfriend - it would be very embarrassing! Thanks! (link)
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I don't think this is pee...I think it's female ejaculation fluid. It's perfectly normal.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_ejaculation
http://www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/ejacula.htm
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are stainless steel, surgical steel and silver the same thing? i think they are different, but a lot of people have told me they are the same thing. want to know for ring i am buying... (link)
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Steel and silver definitely are not the same thing. Silver (Ag) is a fundamental element while steel is an iron (Fe) and carbon (Ca) alloy.
Ag, Fe, and Ca are the short names for these elements in the period table. You can look up more info online:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Steel
PS Get a silver ring. I don't think they make steel rings. That would be weird...
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A few years back (more than two, thats all I can remember) I was watching this drama TV show late at night. This is what I remember from it:
There was this young girls named Sam. (she has brown hair) She ran into an apartment room to meet her crying baby. While she was doing this a woman was yelling at her, telling her stuff along the lines of 'what kind of mother leaves her baby alone', you know, scolding and insulting her. She slams the door holding her baby, crying.
One more part I remember- Sam was going to jump off a bridge. These men found out and did everything they could to get to the bridge. They made it just as she was about to climb on the bridge. They try to talk her out of it. She argues them for a minute as they try to help her. In the end, she climbs down.
Does anyone know what movie or TV show this is? Please help me I really want to know! (link)
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More details might help. Like, what channel was it on? Life time? Oxygen? NBC? That will tell you if it was more likely to be a movie or show. You could also try looking up lists of movies/shows during the years in question on wikipedia. They are pretty good about compiling lists like "Famous people born in 1937" or "Popular movies of 1998." I don't know this movie/show though. Sorry.
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