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what do i do?
my dad always yells and never listens because he thinks he's always right. He also get drunk alot and starts yelling and fighting. so most of my life is one big fight. when we are not fighting, im by myself. when we ask him why he drinks so much he say's because he was mad. my mom never cares about us unless it's convenient for her. she never listens, she never cares, and she even said these exact words," the world will stop for me when i want it to." but our parents think that we're little devils when it's really them and we're wrong because we are kids and they are adults. and my sister thinks she's gonna be famous! she tells me that she's prettier than me all the time. she tells me that i need to lose weight when she's actually underweight! she also tells me that i can't sing and i'll never be famous like her. i'm tired of this. i'm 13 and i wanna kill myself but i don't think i'll ever actually do it. it's gonna be really hard celebrating mothers day tomorrow when there's nothing to celebrate. i feel like im not good enough for my sister, my mom, my dad, or anybody.
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You can choose your friends but you can't choose your family. This saying is especially true for you. Not everyone is lucky enough to have a loving and supportive family. Some families just do the best that they can despite having emotional problems of their own. I think your sister is probably hurting as much as you are and is beating up on you and talking about being famous in order to make herself feel better. I also think that maybe your parents don't like the way their life is, and instead of taking responsibility for their actions, they are blaming their children. Your father's behavior probably hurts your mother emotionally, which makes her less capable of taking care of you and your sister in a way you would like. The end result is that all of you are suffering. Why do you think you're not good enough for anyone? The fact that you don't brag, and aren't an alcoholic, and are smart enough to realize how hurtful your family's behavior is shows you're better than the rest of your family. You don't need to please your family. You only need to please yourself. You did not cause your parents problems. They caused their own problems and refuse to take responsibility for them. They choose to raise you. It's possible your family doesn't know how destructive they are being. I suspect they hurt you unintentionally, and I think your parents do love you, but alcoholism and lack of personal responsibility prevent them from showing it. Keep in mind that when you turn 18 you can leave, then you can have your own life and choose to be around people who appreciate you more. You have had a hard childhood, and will continue to have one, but don't let it determine your future. Think about what you want to do with your life after you turn 18. Do you want to go to college? Get a job? Focus on that and it will help you get through your childhood with some self esteem intact.
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You don't deserve to be in a situation like this. Sounds to me like they have the issues. Never take Suicide into consideration.
Maybe you could check into living with another family member, such as, aunt & uncle, grandparents, or someone you feel comfortable around. Possibly try talking to a school counselor.
As for your sister, ignore her. There's a great chance she probably won't get anywhere, as for "Famous".
Goodluck =D!
-Austin
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