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I'm going to dye my hair a brownish color, I was wondering if anyone could tell me any cheap but really good brands of dyeing stuff. Thanks (link)
Revlon is only like 2.94 I think and it's great! I use it on my hair too (dark brown. lol.)


everytime i get out of the shower my knees are all red and parts of my legs. why is this and is this bad? (link)
No it just means the heat from the shower has affected that part of your body more...it just means your more sensative in that area.


I'm 14 years old, and I want my hair dyed. Like I want a drastic change SORTA. My hair right now is Dark Blonde. I don't want like blue pink colors though. I'm white, and my face is sorta red usually. I'm not really tan, I am sometimes. But not always. Whats a good hair color for me =) (link)
Okay...well I tried something and it really came out cool. What you do is buy dark brown hair dye and then clip up half your hear (thats on the top) and pin it up on top of your head and then dye only the underneath part dark brown. When you wash it out wash out the bottom part first so u dont dye all your hair. It comes out looking hot....it looks kinda punk! Hope I helped!


i have this "friend" who acted all nice when my other friends were spreading rumors about me. He was just about my new best friend. but right before christmas break, he yelled at me for getting picked up early for a dentist appointment and the next day had told my friends this random ly that anyone that really knows me, knows it's not true. Now His mom ,(who works with my dad) is spreading rumors about my dad tring to make us miserable! what do i do, just messing w/ me is 1 thing but he had to pull my father into it also... what do i do? (male, 17) (link)
Wow thats tough. I went through the same thing w/ a girl at my school, our mothers worked together too. The best thing you can do is just ignore and try to get on his good side. Let him know your sorry for whatever you've done...and your 17....you don' t want to be involoved w/ a bunch of kindergarden he-said she-said stuff. I hope that helped.


Alright .. so im 13 .. and i had sex for the first time with my boyfriend last night .. meaning i was a virgin until last night .. well i heard your supposed to bleed your first time .. and i didnt .. it hurt like SUPER SUPER bad .. but i didnt bleed .. and i was just wondering if thats normal or not . Thanks :) (link)
Yes sweetie! Your normal. Some people bleed and some people don't. It's all just up to your body. Now, this has nothing to do w/ ur question but I'm telling you anyway. =) Your 13 and having sex...so I would think you need to get on some type of birth control. You should talk to your parents about taking you to the doctor, if you can't do that then you should proably check w/ a friends mom, go to the health department, or PLAN (some states have them some dont) If you go to either one of these places they can't tell your parents w/o your concent. If you get on birth control it would still be a good idea to use condoms to protect againt diseases. If if you promise your not going to do it again (everyone says that) chances are you will and you need to be safe. Think about it! =) -Sonnie


My cousin is expecting a little girl in March and she's decided to name the baby either Cecilia or Cecilie. (Pronounced Siseelia or Sisilee). She has asked me to search for middle names that will flow easy with her first name and last name. The last name is Walsh if that helps any. I hope you can help! Thanks in advance. (link)
Michelle, Jordan, Kaylin, Jayden, Jade, Skye, Skylar or Skylar, Jolene, Danyelle, and so many more!! If you want more ideas lemme some in my inbox (I love picking out names)


do u people think its weird if ur a girl and tell a gurl u luv dem like when they are about 2 get offline? cuz my friend online who is lez said dat 2 me and i said it bak cuz i have known her 4 a while and she is like 1 of my best friends. is there sumthin wrong with that?cuz now that i think about it it kinda seems weird i juss said it witout thinkin.
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No not at all. I'm a female and me and all of my friends say I love you before we get off line, leave from each others house, etc. Its common, don't worry! =P


Hi. im a female at 13 years of age. And i need some advice. Ok so, I have a little bit of a flabby tummy. Its not a lot.. but i still feel uncomfortable with it. Most of the time in school I wear sweaters cause i dont want to show off my tummy. Christmas is sorta coming and I want some cute clothes that will look cute on me without people making fun of me for the little bit of tummy i have.
please help! i rate all 5's. thanks! (link)
What I'm wondering is what question are you asking? Are you wanting to loose weight or just looking for the type of clothing to buy? Lemme know and I'll help ya out! =) I have great ideas for both! =)


18/f here-does anyone know a really good deoderant to use? Not for smell, but to greatly reduce sweating? I have to change my shirts all day because they keep getting wet, it's gross and embarassing. And if no one has found one off the shelf, is a prescription one expensive, do you have to see a doctor (no insurance) or just ask a pharmacist? Deoderants I've tried are secret platinum soft solid, and adidas smart technology. And botox would be too expensive (it's supposed to stop excessive sweating). thanks guys. (link)
I have the same problem and I know it sucks! But you can always use guys deoderant w/ a light smell and baby powder! If you find any treatments that work really good lemme know! =P


im a 14f and ok there is this guy that i met over the summer, he was friends with my guy friends and i met him and i thought he was cute, i dont go for guys because of looks, i go by personalit, and lets say his name is joe.. well joe tells people he thinks im hot and then we talk a little bit and flirt and then like 2 days later my friend Marie calls me and is like hey joe wanted to know if he can call u ... and she mentioned he might ask me out, but i wasnt sure if i was ready to go out with him and i was like ill talk to him tomorrow at the park because everyone hangs out at the park so i decided yeah ill answer him tomorrow. the thing is that he only was gonna stay for like a month so pretty soon he'll be leaving so yeah next day he totally ignores me at the park and later on this girl Jessica is having a party which i didnt get invited to and i hear that everyone gets drunk and jessica gives joe a blow job ... then i talk to joe and hes like idk we were drunk and stuff and then me and him were back on the track until then another girl pops up and he ditches me again, then he tells all his friends, which are my friends too that he was talkin to me on the phone and he said how we were gonna hook up and he makes a bunch of bs up too them, so yeah then he leaves back to Michigan (where he is from) without even saying anything. i talk to some of my guy friends about him and they tell me how much of a player he is and stuff how he brags he likes to be a pimp and all this bullshit but yeah then i talk to him over the internet a lot and hes like so sweet and tells me all these nice things how he misses me and wishes we would of hooked up and how he shouldnt of been with jessica and stuff and he tells me hes gonna be coming in a month but he doesnt come and then next time im online he is like im coming in 10 days so then i get REALLLLY happy but he ends up not coming and now my friend was talking to one of her friends Mark, and finds out that MARk & joe are cousins. and mark is like i heard u hooked up wit my cousin, he says that to my cousin, and shes like ur cousin? hes like yeah joe, he told me u and some other girl and him went partying a lot ... and she finds out more stuff that he is going to come and visit soon and now i dont know what to do.. i've fallin for him and i dont wanna hear forget about him, i need actual advice, i mean i think about him 24/7 and its just getting me mad ... what do i do? thanks a lot i'll rate u 5's! sorry that its long! (link)
Sweetie I've been in the same situation. I was with this guy for sooooo long and I liked him a lot but he cheated on my several times and always lied about it. I even caught him and he denied it. He told me he "loved me" and he really did "care" but I always knew it was bull. Somehow I knew it wouldn't work out so I convinced myself I didn't like him but then he would smile at me and all the logic in convincing myself I was through with him just evaportated. After that I found myself in a tough situation and I really needed someone to talk to. Needless to say he was far to busy with my problems and he would never answer my calls! He was only there through the good stuff, never when I really needed him to be there. I finally moved away because situations got so bad and for a while he would call and tell me how much he wanted to see me and how much he missed me! He even told me he was going to visit and just like you....he didn't show! Big shocker huh? I eventually decided to give up on him. I called him and told him exactly how I felt about him.....and he knew I was right. He was actually speechless. I know its hard but believe it or not it makes you a better person. You are always stronger than you think you are and you can always keep going long after you say you can't. Its gonna hurt for a while and your gonna think your never get over it but you will. Your gonna be better off without him and your gonna be a stronger person because of it. Trust me and if you have any more questions drop me some in my inbox. Good luck and lemme know how things go! =)


i need help, there's this guy i met online and he keeps stalking me and im getting scared. it all started out when he asked me to invite him to my webcam and im like sorry no bye, then hes like im gonna hack into ur computer, and hes sending me messages saying i know where u live, ill send ppl to ur house and thell rape u, well get it on tape and im starting to get scared. is that possible? could he have hacked into my computer from yahoo messenger? can someone help please (link)
I've been in a similar situation except the guy knew me and he really could have acted on it. The best thing you can do is get a new screen name and e-mail and BLOCK him. I doubt he knows where you live but it's best to be safe! Good Luck sweetie! =)


my best freind Tina and i have been best freinds sicne we were 4 and we're so close! well she and i became freinds w/ this girl kaylinn and at first her and tina were really close but a couple months later they got into a huge fight and hate eachother...now im caught in the middle...i would pick my bestfrind over kaylinn cuz i've known tina for ever but im not gunna just drop kaylinn. i dont want enemies! anyway i really dont kno what to do so if theres any tips feel free to say them (link)
I've been in this situation many of times! Sometimes friends just don't get along but it's best to keep away from the arguing. Let each one of them know that you don't want to be in the middle, you like both of them, but your not picking sides! Also don't talk about the other one when their not around, trust me it will get around. So just keep outta the middle! -SoNnIe


can you put water on your contact if you're in school and don't have your solution? (link)
I wouldn't suggest it. It won't hurt your contact and if you HAD to that would be okay but its best to carry around a small bottle of sollution. You can get it in eye drop size! -SoNnIe


Hey. Well let me just start by saying your really pretty and I saw some very cute pictures of your hair. How did you cut it and what are some cute styles you do? Thanks! (link)
1st of all thanks so much! =) Your really sweet. Okay...well a few months ago (december) I decided to grow my hair out. It used to be up to my chin and was in choppy layers and I just let it grow out to about shoulder length and got the ends trimmed. So now there's only a few layers (just for some style) and there are a few strands that are shorter than the rest of my hair that frame my face! When I feel like fixing my hair I just wash and condition it....then I blowdry it. When it gets completly dry and put some hair spray on my rolly brush and flip it under using my brush and my blow dryer! Then when I get it semi-thick and straight look down I spray it and I'm done.

Now for other styles....I usually do a sloppy bun which means I throw my head over...brush my hair into a pony tail and instead of pulling it all out I just pull it half way out and pull the bun tight and of corce....spray it! I also try sloppy pony tails. I put rollers in my hair to make it very thick and wavy then I pull it on thop of my head in a pony tail!

Good luck and send me plenty of pics! =)


whats that song by nelly and tim mcgraw??? (link)
Over and Over Again


Okay..I'm not sure if anyone can awnser this question for me, but just incase someone can i'm gona ask. I recently did dxm..its also known as skittles. And i know thats really stupid. Now i'm regretting it. I'ts about a day after and I'm feeling really dizy still. Like i did when I was on it. I'm thinking i should probaly go see a docter but mabye everyone feels like this? I did it with my bf too and he doesnt feel it any more..so i'm starting to worry. I'm also on anti depresseants so i think that might have something to do with it. Plz dont delete this question. I need some opinons before i tell my friends or family. Plz help me! ..

-Scared (link)
Yes! Please see a doctor. Taking any type of drug is dangerous but especially if your on anti-depressants. Please keep me informed. Take care of yourself!


does toothpaste really work on pimples? what is the best thing to do to ur pimples, or what is the best product to use? please hellp! (link)
Toothpaste works in the long run. The best thing you can do is wash your hair a couple times a day and if you wear make-up make sure to wash it all off at night before bed! You may want to apply rubbing alchol to the effeced area and in the T zone (your forehead and down your nose and chin) also appyle to anywhere your hair touches your face. Although these may not help right away it will keep you from having acne scaring in the future! Good Luck!


Ok so I had a big argument with one of my best friends and I cried a lot. Now my eyes are really sore, are there any ways to soothe them apart from cucumbers? (link)
This may sound dumb but put spoons in the freezer overnight! When you wake up in the morning put them on your eyes for a while and it will help the swelling down. You can also use ice cubes! Good luck with not only that but your friend too! Take Care.


I was wondering if it was ok to go shopping with your mom every now and then. Cause i go up to Pennsylvania every summer and Christmas to see my mom and i am 14. We always go shopping together because i dont have friends up in Penn. cause im only staying there for just a few weeks, so i was wondering if its strange or immature or something just cause you go shoppin with your mom for clothes and coffee, please, i really want peoples opinions! thanks so much! (link)
Sweetie! It's totally okay! Your 14 and I know it seems dorky (I felt the same way) but the older you get the younger you act! lol. For example I went through a phase where I would be like "ewwww family....no I don't hang out w/ them" but the older I got the more I realized hanging out with your family is cool. Me and my mom set aside one day a month where we have like a day of beauty. We go get our nails done, shop, grab some food, go to a hair salon, whatever we feel. Its great to spend time w/ her b/c everything I'm going through she's been through before and she can help me through it! Now that I'm older we dont have time to sit and talk anymore and we argue alot but I really look forward to hanging out w/ her! One of these days you'll understand! But no, your not dorky! Just remember your mom brought u into this world.....she can take you out. lol. Take care! -Sonnie


I am a 13 female and recently I just found out I am pregnant. I have no one for the baby except for my boyfriend who is the father. He is 16. My parents and me never keep in touch anymore so I live with my sister who is 18. She is never home and won't get mad if she found out I was pregnant. My boyfriend knows and is really happy. He is glad I am pregnant. But I'm not. I mean I am going to have the baby and keep it and i will love it but I am too young. But I do not know what I should do with my boyfriend. Can anyone give me advice? Please help.

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Be happy! Not many fathers to teen mothers stick around! Be glad u have a man to take care of your baby, and not just a sperm doner. I think u guys need to figure out what your gonna do as far as money, living arrangments, school, ect! These are all really important issues that never get discussed. Talk to your sister to! She's 8 and she knows more than you think! Lemme know how things go darlin!!! =) Love ya, Sonnie

















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