Hi, I'm Sophie. Welcome to my advice column!
I know I'm only fourteen and you may think that I know practically nothing, but I've been through a lot for a fourteen-year-old and I've seen a lot of things that other fourteen-year-olds haven't.
I've been depressed before and I've been through stages of my life where I've had nobody to talk to and nobody to turn to. I know how tough it is, so I suppose that's why I signed up for this site.
I want to help others who aren't as fortunate as I am now.
I'll try and help with whatever I can. I'm just starting out on here but soon hopefully my personal page will be slightly nicer to look at and stuff.
All the love in the world,
Sophie xxx
I am realistic, competitive, sentimental, crazy, private, cynical, ambitious, determined, self-centred and I always look on the bright side of life. I try to, anyway.
I hope I can help xxx
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um this sounds kind of dumb... but are big heads a turn-off or like a bad quality that would turn a guy away from a girl... my heads pretty big and i hate it but theres nothing i can do.. its a big deal to me but is it a big deal to other people.. what do you think, any advice? (link)
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I don't really know about anyone else, but I've never met somebody and thought, "Jeez, that guy's got a big head".
Even if your head it big, then unfortunately you're right, there's nothing you can do about it.
Stand tall, and remember that it's possible that you're just paranoid. People don't generally notice things like that (honest) and there's lots of other worse things that could go wrong with your appearence.
Good luck!
Sophie xxx
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Everytime I fight with someone I start shaking, is this normal? (link)
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Yeah, it's normal. Everyone shakes when they're sort of nervous or scared-don't worry about it!
Sophie xxx
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Aright well im 14/f and me and my b/f have been together for almost a year...and he hasn't tried anything, I mean im not waiting for him to do something with me...but is it weird that he hasn't tried anything after almost a year or does it just mean that he really loves me? Like he's always all over me and touching me, but whenever im around me friends they just keep on askin me "have you guys done it yet?" and ill just be like "no" cause we havn't. And sometimes they just end up saying that he's stupid to not try doing it with me (i don't think that) and that they expect us to do it now that we've been together for almost a year! So I need to know does he really love me or is it just weird?
Thanx (link)
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No, it's not weird at all! You friends are totally wrong. Try to remember that you are only fourteen, and just because you've been with him for a year doesn't mean at all that you should have gone all of the way yet.
It sounds like he loves you to me. And that he respects you, which is one of the most important things in a relationship.
Good luck,
Sophie xxx
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okay. i have a blind date this friday. what do i do ? we are going to the movies to see constantine those who have seen it, is it good? look, it's my first blind date ever and i have no idea what it's gonna be like. what do i do if he is gross and like tries to do something in the movie? what do i do if he hates me and i like him? is there anything i can do to make sure i can escape if i need to or something? Please help!
signed,
blinded (link)
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To escape, it's pretty easy in the movies. If he's annyoing you halfway through the film, tell him you're going to the bathroom and then just walk straight out of the cinema. He'll love that!
I saw Constantine and I thought it was pretty good :-)
Good luck!
Sophie xxx
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* 14 SINGLE Female *
- Everytime I talk to one of my friends boyfriends, they always talk about how much they love my friends. I'm single, and I always get pissed when they talk about them. Do you think it's just because I'm jealous? (link)
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To be honest, then it is probably just because you're jealous, but not in a horrible way. I wouldn't worry about it too much because it's natural that you get fed up when that happens-I would!
I'm sure you'll get a boyfriend soon :-)
And remember to rate that evil noter below me with a one ;-p
Good luck,
Sophie xxx
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Okay, I liked this boy named Max for a while and then he was an idiot and I stopped liking him. He keeps coming up in my head and I am so obessesed with him and I don't want to be this way at all. I try not to think about him, but everything I think about some how relates back to him.
Anyways, recently I got an AIM from a guy claiming his name was Joe and he saw my picture from my friend Rem (who doesn't go to our skool) and he thought I was super hott. I asked how he knew Rem and he didn't remember. Joe said he lived in some place far from me and he really thought he had no chance with me. Once he mentioned he heard about my "boyfriend" which was a joke I played on Max a long time ago and I began to think that this "Joe" guy was really "Max" playing a prank on me. I told Joe that I don't think he's telling the truth on who he is and he just needs to admit hes Max. He finally did and then he denied it again! I just know it's Max and he AIM's me still being Joe and flirts with me all the time. Why was he such a jerk to me and now flirting? Is it just a thing between him and his friends to make fun of me? Or does he really like me? I'm so confused and I really need help! I'll rate super duper good! Thank you for bearing with this super long question and I'm sorry!
~ Super Confused! ~ (link)
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Hey, don't apologise! A long question's better than a short one that doesn't explain the problem properly :-)
To me, it definitely sounds like a)Joe is Max and b)Joe likes you.
If Max didn't like you, I think that he would have admitted being him quickly. I think that this was Max's clever way to tell you that he liked you. That's good news!
And though he was a jerk in the past...maybe he deserves a second chance??
Good luck?
Sophie xxx
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hey yall
14/f
hey! so i've like this one guy for a long while now and like ican't stop thinking about him or anything ... if there was such thing as love this young age, then it'd be pretty damn close! well he knows i like him and all and sometimes talk.. you know. well he said my best friend is hott and all these other girls. like he was asked and that's what he said. but i know he's deep and all but my friends say im pretty and ofcourse my family but i dunno. i think i am but pretty, but not hot. i wish that he wouldnt just choose girls that he thinks are "hott" or w/e. i know i can get this guy (social status rank i mean) but i know he doedsnt like me. we'd be good friends im sure, if he gave it a chance, but i feel as if im not "pretty enough" for him. (link)
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If he doesn't think you're pretty enough and that's his reason, then I definitely say move on because he's not worth it.
It IS possible to be in love at fourteen, though.
It hurts so badly when the boy you like only likes your best friend, but try to get over it hun if that's possible.
Don't just stop talking to him completely, though, as that would be too much of a sudden change.
Good luck!
Sophie xxx
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ok here is the thing i met this guy from my BFF...i backed off bc i knew she liked him and i didnt want to let her know i liked him...yet he is 2 months older yet a grade younger so he isnt in the high school with me yet..
im tryin to think of a way to let them both know that i like him with out obvious signals
he seems to flirt or whatever with me...like he will sometimes hug me or hell run from me n make me catch him..idk
i will most likely see him 2morro @ the mall again but im not sure...any ideas on how i can pull this off?
(should i keep my love to myself or no? lol)
1- should i tell her (well i did...but i didnt actually do it yet i think i mite have hinted...i asked her if she still liked him and she said no not really just as friends)
2- how should i give signals without making it obvious
3- how do i tell them both without actually saying it in words...
4- how should i flirt with him..i mean this is gonna b the 3rd time seeing him and all...what should i do..we hug every so often...heh
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Firstly, ask your friend again if she does like him. If she says no, go right ahead! If she says yes, then leave it for a while if possible.
Yeah, you should tell her. Whatever happens, she'd find out eventually.
To give signals without making it too obvious-well that's kind of difficult. Try catching his eye and smiling at him a lot and I think he'd get the idea and he wouldn't be too freaked out. And yeah, hugging is very good!
Without actually saying it in words...I'm kind of confused with what you mean. But you could try an email or a text if you find that easier.
Good luck!
Sophiw xxx
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I came to a new school this year and i hav a couple new friends and i eally miss my old friends and hardly ever hear from some of them. I kind of feel like my new friends are replacing my old ones but i know they're not and they are great friends. Every time we go to the CVS in my old neighborhood i think it would be the coolest thing if i saw them. Someone please help me. (link)
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If these new friends are great friends, please try to appreciate them. I know it's tough, but I'm sure that one day you will let go of your old friends and accept your life.
Give your old friends a ring or send them an email. No one's telling you to forget them; just try to accept this new part of your life :-)
Good luck!
Sophie xxx
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I complain a LOT. And half the time I do it without meaning to...and it's starting to annoy me, let alone the people around me. Any tips on how I can stop complaining, or at least reduce the amount of complaining I do?
I whinge about all sorts of things, from the weather to homework to the fact that I'm tired/hungry/bored...whatever. It sucks, I feel like I don't have a good word to say about anything any more...I want to be positive again, but how? (link)
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Watch some feel-good films; read some feel-good books; buy a joke book; do anything that'll cheer you up.
Alternatively, have an elastic band (or maybe several) on your wrist and whenever you complain (about something trivial, anyway) snap it. Eventually you will get used to not complaining as much. Good luck!
Sophie xxx
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Since I am in 8th grade, I have recently been thinking about high school and where I will be going, what courses I will be taking, etc. Right now I have a transfer to a school other than the one I am supposed to attend because I am a 'gifted' student and the school I was required to attend before I received my transfer did not have courses that would challenge me academically. While attending this school, I have made many friends of different levels of intellegence. One of my best friends is someone I never would've met if I hadn't attended this new school. She is a major part of my life and I don't want to lose her. She has helped me through some of the roughest times in my life thus far. Lately, we've been arguing and not getting along very well, but we still manage to stay friends. I really don't want to lose her. Right now, I get to see her quite frequently because we are at the same school, but next year, I'm afraid I won't be able to have this oppurtunity. She will be going to SHS and I will most likely have to go to LHS. I can most likely get another transfer, but this would majorly upset my dad because almost our entire family for the past four generations has gone to LHS. I was tlaking to my mom about it and she said my dad was really upset. Now I don't want my dad to be upset if I go to SHS but I don't want to lose my friend if I go to LHS. The only time I would be able to see her would be on weekends and at church events. She's been here for me for the past 2 years and I'm really sick of having to lose my best friend every couple of years. The people I would be attending school with at LHS are people I was friends with K-3rd grade, but I haven't seen them in almost 6 years and that is a really long time. I don't even know if they'd recognize me. I'm really lost and I just don't know what to do. I would really appreciate each and every one of your opinions and I will rate high even if you attempt to help me. Thank-you in advance! ~Brit (link)
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I think that you should go and be with your friend. I can understand your Dad's point of view, definitely, but I think that this is your future and you've got to do what's best for you. If you don't, then you might find it hard to settle down in LHS and that might affect your studies.
Talk to your Dad and explain your situation. Be totally civil and polite and don't lose your rag.
If all else fails and you end up going to LHS, try not to be too down. You'll still see your friend sometimes and make new friends. I'm sure that there will be other people there who will be in your position.
Good luck!
Sophie xxx
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Me and my mom are just not close. I can't talk about anything to her and she has never told me that she loves me. How can we get closer? If I try and talk to her about anything, like boys or make up, she just gets this look on her face, this kinda stupid grin. And then she tells me to shut up. What do I do? (link)
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If you have the guts, you could try and write her a letter telling you how you feel.
If not, try and organise some kind of outing-just the two of you. Something that you both enjoy. Then be and extra nice daughter and be very nice to her. Hopefully that'll bring you a little closer together.
Good luck!
Sophie xxx
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ok im gettin mixed signalz from a guy @ school like he has a girl friend but he flirtz with me constantly but when she'z around im invisible! what should i do? (link)
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Argh this guy sounds like a bit of a player.
However, it does sound like he likes you a bit. If I were you, I'd wait until they split up (how long can that take?) and then get down to some serious flirting ;-)
Sophie xxx
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Okay, 5 seconds ago I just dropped the camera that I got this Christmas! I know it cost like..130 dollars, and it was the gift from my parents, unlike the other ones from 'santa' hha. Anyway, i dropped it, and now its all scratchy inside, and I got it to turn on..and it wont now. It sounds like pieces in the inside are juggling around. I unscrewed the top to see if anything was in there, but the bottom doesn't unscrew, so you can't take it off, so I don't know. Wtf do I do? I LOVE that DIGITAL camera, and my parents are gonna be soo pissed. Should I blame my cat? Be like, "I think the cat hit this off the table' or something. Omg, please help, my mom's gonna be home soon. PLUS, I'm supposed to bring it to school tomorrow. Oh man :( (link)
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If you still have the helpline number, call customer support. Your Mum will probably not notice if it's gone for a couple of hours, and usually then there's someone that can help you on the line.
Good luck!
Sophie xxx
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OK. I'm allergic to fake earings and it really sucks. I can't get those earings with fake silver that only cost a dollar anymore. Is there any way I can were fake earrings(not clip-ons) with getting a rash on my ear?
thanx (link)
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I'm from the UK but I've visited America and I think that you have Claire's accessories there.
Well in there then there's a lotion that protects your ears and cleans them from possible infections and stuff.
Usually it costs around seven dollars I think.
Hope that helped!
Sophie xxx
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i bought this libgloss thing... and well it's labeled TEN as the brand... does that mean it stays on for 10 hours???
plz help! i rate high! (link)
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I have lipgloss with that on! I'm not too sure what it's supposed to mean, unfortunately, but if it helps, mine definitely does not last for ten hours!
Ten minutes, maybe. Lol.
Sophie xxx
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Ok everyone, I am a 16/f. I just found out Saturday that a friend of mine that I have known since middle school died. Then Sunday I found out my boyfriend is cheating on me and he is now denying it. Let alone Wednesday being the anniversary of my grampas death.
And I don't know what to do. Its so hard to hold on. I need some advice on what to do.
And on top ok everything my cousin who says shes my bestfriend is trashing my life. What do I do??
Please someone help me! (link)
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Argh that sounds really tough hun. Try to listen to some uplifting Music and remember that what doesn't kill us makes us stronger.
Try to stay tough and know that things really will always get better. I promise!
Sorry, that advice wasn't great!
Best of luck,
Sophie xxx
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Recently I started this kinda...relationship with one of my best friends (he's male, I'm female) and then I split up with him because it just wasn't working. I was happy after I broke up with him - I feel free, coz being with him I felt trapped. However, I keep wanting to read his live journal...I think this might be because I was friends with him so long so I can't just block him out (however much I try) and still kinda want to know what's going on with him...but what do you guys think? (link)
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If he used to be one of your best friends, then why not? I know it may be kinda...wrong, bu t it'll help you continue to understand what's going on in his head and continue your friendship. Don't block him out coz friendship is very important!
Good Luck,
Sophie xxx
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Ok, well, my one friend, Chrisy is going out with this one kid named Josh. See the thing is, is that one day i was over at my other friend's house, leah, and she asked Josh if he like her and he sadi yes, and that he was going to break up with Chrisy a weeek after valentines day. I promised Leah i owuldn't tell anyone. See the thing is is thT IDK if i should tell Chrisy what happened or not. I love Chrisy and LEah the same, but idk wut to do....please help! (link)
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I think that you should tell chrisy. She deserves to know what her "boyfriend" is doing behind her back. Once you've told her, treat her to an ince-cream or something special.
Good Luck!
Sophie xxx
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my friend doesn't really like this guy who i like but she's leading him on. she said to my face she's doing this on purpose. he likes me and we are like best friends but my friend askes him to dances a month early so i can't ask. What should i do?
female 16 (link)
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That sounds really nasty of your friend. I think that you need to tell her how you feel and also, if it gets desperate, tell the guy.
Good luck!
Sophie xxx
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