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ok here is the thing i met this guy from my BFF...i backed off bc i knew she liked him and i didnt want to let her know i liked him...yet he is 2 months older yet a grade younger so he isnt in the high school with me yet..
im tryin to think of a way to let them both know that i like him with out obvious signals
he seems to flirt or whatever with me...like he will sometimes hug me or hell run from me n make me catch him..idk
i will most likely see him 2morro @ the mall again but im not sure...any ideas on how i can pull this off?
(should i keep my love to myself or no? lol)
1- should i tell her (well i did...but i didnt actually do it yet i think i mite have hinted...i asked her if she still liked him and she said no not really just as friends)
2- how should i give signals without making it obvious
3- how do i tell them both without actually saying it in words...
4- how should i flirt with him..i mean this is gonna b the 3rd time seeing him and all...what should i do..we hug every so often...heh
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WEll If you dont want to tell you friend just talk about him all the time so she will get the pictureflirt with him too it sounds like he likes you.. if you see him at the mall hang with him and flirt with him all the time! hope it works out:D
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To me it sounds like he is interested in you. Since this is a delicate situation I would tell your friend first in a round about way such as "I think he is a really nice guy, very cute and funny" or "Isn't he a sweetheart?". Giving small hints like that, about your feelings on his character, will raise a flag with her. Once she figures this out she will let you know how she feels about it. Respect her feelings but also follow your heart. If she has a problem with the two of you dating try talking to her about it, explaining how you feel and that you are interested in seeing how it turns out. I'm sure that she will be fine with it then. If she still has a problem with you dating him you will have to make a decision. Is he worth upsetting your friend over? Follow your own advice on that question. If you think he is, take the chance. If you aren't really sure that means that you really arent as interested in him as you should be to upset your friend by your relationship. So, in a nutshell, drop hints like I said above to her and when she brings it up to you (which she should) talk about it with her.
As far as how to let him know that you like him, there are several things that you can do. Always look him in the eyes when he is talking to you or you are talking to him. That will make him feel as if he is the only person in the world that you are paying attention to at that moment, making him feel like a king. Flirt with him a little, not overtly but in a playing sort of way (which will give you an out if he doesnt feel the same way back)such as "Your last girlfriend wasnt very smart, letting you get away". Then chuckle. Touching his hands, face, back, arms and walking close to him is another way of showing interest. Body language is a major player in romance. If you sit on a bench with him, sit with your knees turned to him. If you are sitting at a table across from him, lean with your elbows on the table in his direction. Do things with him like go to the movies, go to a park and play frisbee, invite him over to your house for a movie or game night. If you can cook, offer to cook him dinner before you watch a movie or play a game. Listen to his problems and offer to help him, wherever reasonable. Be a good friend to him. That is a huge part of romance too. No one wants to date someone that they could not be friends with.
When guys do things like hit you then laugh, play keep away, make you chase them, try really hard to beat you at a game, etc they are showing you that they are interested in the only way that they know how because with guys who do that, in instances like that, they dont know how else to do it. He might be shy because he likes you or shy because he isnt good with women. To me, I think that is adorable and it makes the guy more attractive.
I hope that I have given you a few ideas on what you should do. Please contact me again if I can be of more help or if you want a deeper explanation on a point that I brought up. I hope that you two get together, without problem from your friend and that you two are happy together. Take care of yourself and have fun!! Best Wishes!!!
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Well if you really feel strongly about him then you shouldn't hold it in!
You need to do what you think is right, if you really like the guy, i would tell your friend first, and if she gets mad then just talk to her calmly and ask why because you thouht she didn't like him.
1. If you really like him and you want things to move forward then yes you should tell her. But i think you should tell her before you tell him.
2. Why use signals? If you are talking about telling your friend then its better for your friendship if you dont beat around the bush with anything and just tell her. If this is about telling him then i think you should just be really flirty and kind of touchy-feely and try to flirt a lot to show it.
3. With your friend, you just need to tell her and try not to let her get mad, (i dont know why she would get mad if she doesnt like him....)
and with him, like i said just flirt around and sometimes like touch him on the arm, or grab his hand a little, and if he says something funny laugh! lol
4. Everyone flirts differently. Do whatever you want. Tips: would be do what i have been saying above, that should work, but if he starts acting weird when you start flirting with him, back down a little because you don't want to scare him off...but if he likes it, then go for it girl!!!
hope this helps and good luck!
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1. it depends who your friend is. if you think she will completely freak out, dont tell her straight out. if she will accept it then yes, tell her.
2. signals? just keep acting like you've been acting. they'll catch on.
3. i have no idea. i like words. i use words for everything.
4. just focus on him, make eye contact, smile, goof off, ect. the basics. :D
good luck sweetie!
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Well, I'm not sure you should be giving out signals to let them know, I think you should tell your best friend straight forward, she may not like what you have to say, but she'll respect that you told her, and she will know that she can trust you because you tell her. And, in my experiance, I had liked this guy, since about the 5th grade, and he liked me, but we never ever hooked up because we didn't ask each other out until 8th grade, and I had already had a boyfriend, so I had to turn him down and it felt don right horrible, it felt like I had led him on and pushed him away. So, I'm thinking that if your friend still only likes him as a friend, she could help you guys hook up maybe, but I think that if you just try giving signals, nothing will happen, you don't wanna risk that. But I mean, you do what you feel is right, and if you want to do signals, then just keep messing around with him, and bugging him, maybe he'll approach you first. I hope I helped.
-TheTeenGirl
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Firstly, ask your friend again if she does like him. If she says no, go right ahead! If she says yes, then leave it for a while if possible.
Yeah, you should tell her. Whatever happens, she'd find out eventually.
To give signals without making it too obvious-well that's kind of difficult. Try catching his eye and smiling at him a lot and I think he'd get the idea and he wouldn't be too freaked out. And yeah, hugging is very good!
Without actually saying it in words...I'm kind of confused with what you mean. But you could try an email or a text if you find that easier.
Good luck!
Sophiw xxx
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