I am a wife and a mother of three grown sons. I live in New York and am an equestrian. Most of my free time is spent riding and caring for my horses now that my sons are out of the house.
I give down to earth advice, as I tell it like I see it...and I've seen alot.
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so im still a virgin but i want to have sex. i know that im ready. there is this guy that i want to have sex with and i would be most comfertable doing it with. we have talked soooo many times and almost dated but things got in the way. he is the only one that i wanna do it with if its going to be my first time. buuutttt we barely talk now. how do i give hints that i want to have sex with him? i want to tell him because i want to so bad. next weekend. Please don't tell me "I'm too young to be having sex" because its my business, not yours. I'm asking for help, not for you input on my decisions.
just give me some hints that i could text him. thanks. i rate 5for all!! (: (link)
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If all you want to do is screw the guy and not have that loving relationship thingy get in the way, then just tell him you want to screw him and ask if he's game. Why beat around the bush if you're so determined?
If he's just out for one thing, I'm betting he takes the bait and his friends will be lining up for their turn. If he's deeper than that, he'll reject you.
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What do you think of these dresses for 8th grade graduation?
Which dress do you like best? + any other suggestions?
http://www1.macys.com/catalog/product/index.ognc?ID=437037&CategoryID=37783
http://www1.macys.com/catalog/product/index.ognc?ID=447040&CategoryID=18109&LinkType=PDPZ1
http://www3.jcpenney.com/jcp/X6.aspx?DeptID=50455&CatID=51773&GrpTyp=PRD&ItemID=17d8a60&attrtype=&attrvalue=&CMID=50455%7c51280&Fltr=&Srt=&QL=F&IND=39&cmVirtualCat=&CmCatId=50455|51280|51773
http://www3.jcpenney.com/jcp/X6.aspx?DeptID=50455&CatID=51773&GrpTyp=PRD&ItemID=171f5a6&attrtype=&attrvalue=&CMID=50455%7c51280&Fltr=&Srt=&QL=F&IND=45&cmVirtualCat=&CmCatId=50455|51280|51773
http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=dress&product%5Fid=2066589810&Page=1
http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=dress&product%5Fid=2059045245&Page=3
http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=dress&product%5Fid=2060590923&Page=4#
Keep the price in mind.
Is that the kind of dresses you were to graduation?
I don't know what do you think?
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I like the Speechless Floral from Penneys. I think it's very pretty. Is that what they wear to 8th grade graduation? I don't know. Ask some girls around school what they are planning to wear. Maybe print out the picture and ask if they think it's appropriate or over the top.
I would think it's perfect.
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I have an old coin that I would like to sell since I am having some really bad financial times. How would I go about selling my coin? Are their rare coin dealers or do I have to take it to like a pawn shop?
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You could contact several bullion dealers online who deal with collectible coins. Swiss America deals in Numismatics. You aren't obligated to sell to the first bidder. You just need to get info on what the coin is worth. These transactions can be done on the phone.
Here's some sites for starters...
http://www.swissamerica.com/index.php
http://www.numismatics.org/
http://www2.goldline.com/
Be careful when dealing with gold dealers. Some hole i the wall shops will rip you off. Look at the spot price of gold...http://www.kitco.com/market/
Spot price is what an ounce of gold is selling for at any given moment. A collectible coin is going to be worth more than spot, and that's up to you to research it's value.
This website is the best there is...http://www.theinternationalforecaster.com/Bob_Chapman Mr. Chapman allows people to email him with questions and he answers them all. I would suggest you contact him.
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ok so i have lived in my house for approx 3 months...with my best friend and my ex...nothing strange happened untill me and my ex broke up but since he has gone a LOT of things have happened unexplained....first off i was in the kitchen cooking and e have a counter island in the room..nothing was on the counter apart from a heavy set of keys...i turned around and these keys ent flying from the middle of the counter to the other side of the room...hit the wall and fell on the flor(it made a mark on the wall) i dont understand how they could of fell at all because its impossible for them to fall....it was like they had ben thron...2nd incident my friend came downstairs at approx 2am walked into the kitchen then into the lounge then back into the kitchen and the tap was on full blast and then their was a lot of banging in the kitchen....3rd incident we were both asleep in bed and we had weird noises like it was a person on the top of the stairs...when we went to check it out the bathroom door and the other bedroom door was wide open and they were definately closed before e ent to bed as i said to my friend lets close these doors because of the draft....anyway my brother has moved in with us no and since he has it has gotten orse..i was lying on the sofa as that was where i as sleeping and something smacked the side of the sofa really hard...then a glass fell off the table..the house is very steady near no roadworks or a main road so that couldnt have made it fall off...i went upstairs and got i bed with my friend and then e heard the weird noises again...it keeps getting worse and worse and we dont know how to stop it....we dont really want to mess with that kind of stuff but does anybody have any advice o what we could do??? we find it hard to sleep now with everything...please dont tell us were paranoid because our friends have seen things aswell...were not imagining it either...and it isnt our minds playing tricks on us....but should we get a priest here from a church down the road to bless the place?? or anything will do please help i want a good nights sleep!! (link)
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I am of the belief that someone who is living or has lived in the house was or is dabbling in the occult. I don't believe in "ghosts" in that they are disembodied spirits, but I do believe they are spirits, nevertheless. Demonic at that.
Do you own the house or are you renting? If you rent, I would move. If you own, find a strong evangelical church and speak to the pastor about it and ask him for help.
This is my opinion and I'm sure there are many others out there who would disagree.
Perhaps if you discuss this situation with the landlord, they will let you off the hook. Tell him you cannot continue to live in the house with so much frightening activity going on and you want to be released from your lease. Tell him if you knew this type of thing was going on in the first place, you would never have signed a rental agreement. Be firm. Tell him you want out and you want your deposit back. If you don't feel confident in confronting him, have a parent do it.
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hi i am a 30 yr old mother of a 7 year old child and have wondered for a while if there is a possibility of her being sexually abused? the things that make me wonder are
1. when she was 5, almost 6, teachers at her school caught her and another little boy touching eachother and even performing oral sex.
2. i found her showing her friend how to draw a penis.
3. i walked in on her rubbing back and forth on a stuffed animal 3 times.
i just dont know where she would get all these ideas from and her dad is not in the picture so the only person i can think of who it could be would be her step grandfather because we live with my parents. any help is appreciated. thanks (link)
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No one can say for sure, but as a mother of 3, I would definitely say something is amiss. None of these behaviors and none of the knowledge in common to a 7 yr. old.
I would confront your daughter, in a very gentle way, not to alarm her, but...you know what kind of questions to ask her and in a way as to pull information out of her, 'Does anyone touch you or ask you to touch them?'. You may not get info because, if indeed she has been abused, she has probably been threatened to keep quiet, but I would try.
I would also consider finding a child counselor who specializes in this field. They would be able to draw info out of her.
If it turns out to be true, someone needs to go to jail.
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Does anyone know what kind of snake this is? It was probably right around 3ft long. I found it on a trail in the panhandle of Florida near Pensacola.
http://photos-a.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash1/hs295.ash1/22279_1238783815986_1420980148_30774644_7891333_n.jpg (link)
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Maybe a corn snake? If you had a better picture of the head it would help. A venomous snake would have a triangular head...Cottonmouths, Rattlesnakes, Copperheads, etc. The photo doesn't seem to show a triangular head, but, the angle of the photo isn't clear.
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So my husband and i have had so many problems last year....infidelities, anger, insecurities, unsolved problems, stress etc...and i can see it taking its toll on his part of the marriage.
I still struggle as well, we both are. But despite all our problems we are still trying very hard for the marriage because our feelings for each other are still going strong. So everyday we are fine with each other, we do talk about our problems sometimes but when we get in a fight, he cant seem to control his anger....
There were several times last year where hed leave me with a ugly bruise or two on my arm or marks on my wrists from being grabbed....i never thought id be in this sort of situation but at the same time i didnt find it too serious. I got more accustomed to it.
Lately its been getting worse & i believe the entire time i knew how worse it would most likely get was just being in denial. Hes choked me once before, and again just last night which was the worse of the two...everything has been leaving me so confused about my feelings towards him & he says hes not proud of himself for it. Hes told me that i should leave the house for a little while because he doesnt want to hurt me in any physical way anymore than he has, but i have problems with staying with other people, my friends & family are nowhere near where we live.
At the same time i dont even think this is too serious right now, i actually think that its probably my fault because of how angery he is & all the things he was made to put up with. He says he cant control it, am i just being blind?
How can i deal with this while not leaving for a while? Or deal with it at all....?? Please help i dont know what to make of this...
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If he can't control it, then who can?
He's a ticking time bomb and either he'd better get his butt out of the house or you'd better get yours out. You don't think it's too serious right now? When does it become serious? When your in the hospital with brain damage? Get real and stop playing head games.
The man has psychological issues that you can't solve and neither can he. He needs professional help before he kills someone, like you.
Love has nothing to do with this. This type of "love" is perverse and dangerous. Self preservation is the main goal here.
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Let me first start by giving you a little back ground information. My ex wife became pregnant when she was 20 and I was 19. Even though it was earlier than we both expected to become parents, we were thrilled and so excited to start our family together. We got married shortly after she gave birth to our son Matt. Soon after that, we had another son, and then a daughter. From my perspective, everything was great. That's why I was so blindsided when my wife came to me 9 months after our daughter was born claiming she wasn't ready to settle down and be a mother with divorce papers in her hand. Almost overnight, I became a 23 year old single father with a 4 year old, 2 year old, and a 9 month old. After the divorce was final, I rarely heard from my ex wife. She had begun living a life that I didn't necessarily approve of filled with drugs and alcohol and, while I wanted to keep my children as far away from that as possible, she was their mother and I didn’t feel like I could entirely keep them away from her. The last straw, however, came when I let my daughter, Alyssa, (who was 6 at the time) stay with her when I took my sons on a hunting trip. I was supposed to pick her up at noon the Sunday we got back. I spent the entire afternoon calling my ex wife’s apartment with no answer. At 5 that afternoon, I finally just went over to her house where I found her front door wide open and her passed out on the couch from mixing a few too many drugs with alcohol. Her neighbor came over to the apartment and told me that my ex wife had taken Alyssa out one night and come home completely plastered. Thank god her neighbor had woken up and decided to take Alyssa back to her apartment. And this is just one example of many. After that, I told my ex wide that I didn’t want her to see our kids anymore which devastated her so much she entered rehab. She got clean and for the past ten years has seen the kids a few times despite my hesitance. My kids and I have been living a great life together away from my ex wife. A few years ago I began dating another woman whom I am now engaged too. She gets along great with my kids and is an amazing person who I know will be a good influence on my kids’ lives. My oldest son Matt is now in college, but Colton (my middle son) and Alyssa still live with me. Since I have become engaged, my ex wife has become crazy about spending time with the two of them. She wants them at her house every weekend and doesn’t want my fiancé to parent them at all. She is trying to tell my daughter all kinds of lies about why she left, and how I am a horrible person for trying to keep them from seeing her. She tells her that the entire thing was my fault and all kinds of horrible rumors about my fiancé, who went to high school with my ex wife. She has asked both of my kids to move in with her. Colton told her absolutely not, but Alyssa is confused about the whole situation and doesn’t know what she should do. I have full custody of them so essentially it is my choice about whether or not she can see them. I don’t want to take them away from my ex wife, but I don’t want to lose them myself. I am still worried that she will resort back to her old ways and put my kids in danger like she has their whole lives. Am I right to not let my daughter move in with her mom? (link)
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If she is, indeed, clean, I might let her visit with them in my home. I would never let them live with her. She has shunned and rejected her children in favor of drugs, practically their whole life. Obviously, the woman has some deep seated psycological problems and I wouldn't trust her.
The reason she is acting the way she is, now, is because she is getting older and realizes that she's blown it, big time, and is starting to have regrets. Now, she's jealous of the new woman in her children's lives because she knows full well this other woman is doing the job she should have done long ago, but, it's too late for her. She may have very deep regrets, but she's earned them.
Your children will here all kinds of rumors from your ex and they may even believe some of them....for a time. The older they get, the more they will see the light, after all, who is the one who has been there night and day for them since they were born. Eventually, they will get the picture no matter what lies she feeds them. I wouldn't even defend myself, if I were you. I would simply say, "I've raised you kids, I've been here for you your whole life and I love you. Consider the source."
There's not much you can do when a liar feeds false information to someone. That is the hallmark of a drug addict. Even if she is clean, she has learned to escape the immense guilt, by lying. It's ingrained. You live your life clean and honest and your children will figure this out in no time. Believe me, kids are not stupid and they do talk amongst themselves. The older will educate the younger as to the reality of the situation.
In a nutshell...No, you should not allow them to move in with her and you should confront her about the offer. Tell her she must not interfere with the piece and stability of their lives or she may not see them. She must stop the gossip and rumors or she may not visit the children as you don't want them traumatized by her sudden concern about their well being. If she violates the rules, goodbye.
In my opinion, the only reason to allow your ex visiting rights is so the children won't feel like you have denied them access to their mother. I reiterate, they will figure the situation out. They can put two and two together, but your ex has no right to step into the picture now and try to play mommy. She forfeited that right long ago.
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hey everyone i need some advice. I got engaged to my fiance about 4months ago. We were asked to go down to Mexico for a missions trip which meant me uprooting and moving in with him because we had no idea how long we would be gone and i wouldn't be able to afford my apartment. well we came back and I have been moved in. It has been very hectic because it is not just the 2 of us in the house. it is him and i, my fiance's younger brother, his girlfriend (which also just moved in), and another roommate. Now my fiance Allan and I have been together for almost 2 years but we are waiting til marriage before we have sex, It is our own choice, but we have been sleeping in the same bed for a long time. Different story w/ his younger brother though, but to each is their own.Suddenly last week his brother declared that he is going to sleep out on the couch bed in the living room so he and his girlfriend are not tempted to have sex and so they can be closer to God. Little late for that with them I think it is ridiculous because he basically booted himself out of his own room in his own house. So he is sleeping out in the living room while everyone else in the house now has to be quiet coming and going through the house.
Well on the 23rd which was my 25th BIRTHDAY Allan tells me he admires what his brother did and wants TO DO THE SAME THING!!!! Now we had discussed BEFORE I moved in if he was going to be comfortable with me moving in with sleeping arrangements. But NOW after seeing what his brother did he tells me I am too tempting and he needs to do the same. Now we have never had sex, but he tells me now he also wants to sleep out on the couch. so now him and his brother SHARE the couch bed while we are in the beds. I think that is really ridiculous because I did not move in to have this happen. It is not right. What should I do? What should I say? Should I move out?I really need ALOT of input because I have never been in this kind of situation. Thank you very much (link)
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Obviously, he and his brother feel this is a good way to avoid temptation and have the strength to follow through with their convictions.
He doesn't trust himself in bed with you. Why should he? He's only human.
I say respect his choice and be proud of him for not wanting to put you in a compromising position. He is showing respect for you.
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Hi.
My husband's legs hurt him a lot. They feel like they are on fire most of the time. When I massage them the muscles feel like sand almost. We've been trying to figure out what it is without having to go to the doctor.
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It could be nothing more than extremely overworked legs. Does he workout? Or...it could be due to one of a multitude of problems that affect the legs. If his condition doesn't improve soon, I wouldn't hesitate to see a doctor to rule out anything serious.
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what can an abnormal pap smear mean? my doctor called and said that i need to go back and talk with her, but i cant make an appointment for a few weeks...i am freaking out because i dont know what that could mean? (link)
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http://familydoctor.org/online/famdocen/home/women/reproductive/gynecologic/223.html
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How do you know you are save? what about judgment day, only god knows who goes to heavan, we only have a hope of eternal salvation (link)
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In Christianity, you know you are saved when you sincerely surrender your life to Jesus and ask Him to cleanse you of your sins. As far as judgment day, all those who reject Jesus are under God's judgment because they reject God's son whom he sent to save the people of the world. This is the Christian view.
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I am a 20yr old female.
I fell in love with a married man who is 44. I am not a fan of cheating but he and his wife merely coexist in the same household. Well, we have continued our relationship regardless of the fact that we both think it is wrong. I can't help my feelings and neither can he.
#1- can it work?
#2- ways to make it work?
#3- I think I'm pregnant. What the heck do we do?!
We are financially stable and willing to raise this baby together but he has a son my age and a wife who is clueless about us. I'm so lost. Experiences? Advice? Thanks guys! (link)
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In the eyes of a 44 yr old man, you are a baby. I've been around long enough (57 yrs.) to have seen just about everything and, I will tell you up front, the odds that this guy is using you are great. The odds that he'll dump you are greater. The odds that you'll live happily ever after are slim to none.
#1. Can it work? (Not likely.)
#2. Ways to make it work. (Ask him if he intends to leave his wife considering their marriage is dead and you are pregnant with his child. Watch for every excuse in the world, ie, "My wife threatened to kill herself", "The time is not right", "My son would be devastated now, maybe after he finishes college", etc.)
#3. I think I'm pregnant. What the heck do we do? (Assuming their is a WE, you insist that he help you raise this child financially even if it means taking him to court OR you raise the child yourself.)
(WE ARE FINANCIALLY STABLE.) You must have a fabulous job to be financially stable at 20 yrs. old and thank God, because it's going to cost you a fortune to raise this child. Of course, when you say WE are financially stable, I assume you are including your own income in the WE. Because if it were just HE who was financially stable, then you would be in for some very rough times ahead, especially as this economy keeps going into the tank.
(WILLING TO RAISE THIS BABY TOGETHER.) We'll see.
In my opinion, he is having a midlife crisis and will come out of it. He may even leave his wife for a season, but he will return to her and he will leave you. I don't mean to be harsh, but I've seen this scenario play out many times before and always with the same outcome.
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Hi,
my bf and I have been together for 2 years, and have been living together for about 6 months.. 3 months at his dad's house and the rest at my mom's... long story short, he has anger problems and everything my mom does bothers him.. we got into a fight and he ended up saying he will move out and for me to stay with my family.. in a mad way.. should we try and work this out and move out, or should we just let it be? please help... thanks
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Take your bf up on his suggestion and let him move out. Why is your mother allowing him to live with you anyway, and in her home no less, likewise, his father? If you two want to live together and enjoy all the benefits of this arrangement, then why not get your own place and take on all the responsibilities of living that lifestyle?
His anger problems will cause you grief in the future. It's not right to put this garbage on your mother. Tell him to take a hike or shack up on your own.
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I was wondering if anyone knew of a device i could buy/make that played music when you pressed a button or pulled something kind of like the cards you can buy at the store that play music when you open them, except i want to be able to put my own music in it.
So if anyone knows of a way id be very grateful
Thanks in advance
~InsaneChildz
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They do have musical cards that you can record yourself. You wouldn't be able to put an entire song on them, but you could put a portion of a song or just press the "record" button and speak into the mic and record a message. I know Hallmark makes them.
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In the movie BROTHER HOOD Of THE WOLF, the story behind it was about the murders of the beast of Gevaudan. in the movie FROM HELL, the story was base upon the facts and fiction they had about the killer, jack the ripper. and in the movie GLADIATOR starring Russell Crow, the story was based on Marcus Aurelius. so My question is, does anyone know any more "folk lore" or true unsolved crimes in any cultures, kind of like these? i have searched the Internet and library for some, but have simply ended up with no luck. any help you can give will be great. thank you in advance. (link)
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I don't know if this is up your alley, but The Phantom of the Opera was purported, by the author, to be a true story. He swore to it.
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listen to? music-wise, of course. we have, here in America, everything new in America and England. But do kids/teenagers listen to that too in other countries not associated with us? (link)
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I'm sure they do. I haven't traveled to those countries, but I have traveled overseas and have found that the kids listen to their own versions of our style music. They have their rock and rap, etc. in their own languages. They have their own famous bands. Of course, American music is always in demand in any country, but may not be available to the extent that it is here. In China, they love American music, but 10 years ago, when I was there, it was very hard to come by and the media was and still is censored, so they hadn't heard many of our artists. In countries that don't censor their media, they do have some access to our music.
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So I know its a stupid thing to get upset about, but my computer mouse is dodgy and its really hard to press down on the left button - which is the one used the most, the right button doesnt even work. I have this thing with my wrist where the bone bit sticks out and it hurts so much 24/7, so obviously using this computer mouse would just make it so much more worse. I've had to put up with this for months now.
I'm forever asking my mum to buy me a new one but she'd always say "oh next week when I get paid". And it's the same excuse all the time.
So, last night my brother got annoyed at his computer mouse because it's been freezing these past couple of days. So he went into the garden and smashed it up with a baseball bat. He's 18, has a job and earns money.
I got home from school today and my mum tells me she needs to go out to buy my brother a new mouse. How bloody unfair is that! I'm 15, it's not like I get any kind of income (not even pocket money) to afford to buy myself one! And my brother earns enough money to buy himself one (just to let you know I haven't misunderstood my mum - she IS paying for it).
I'm just sooo fed up of her treating him like he's royalty. She jumps around for him the SECOND he needs something. But me, no when I need something it gets put off for a month or so. She's also just constantly annoyed at me. It's like everything I do is just completely wrong. I mean, I do have to admit my brother is a lot easier to live with now. But, when we were younger he was a COMPLETE IDIOT! He ALWAYS got his way with my mum (just like now!), which just annoyed me even more then I got into even more trouble. I'm just so sick of him getting everything he wants and everything he needs off my mum (my problem isn't with my brother - I get on really well with him). Obviously I do ask for money from my mum when I want to buy maybe a new top or jeans or something (I mostly get that money from my dad though!), she would moan about it as usual - I mean I am not going out in clothes that are over a year old, she just doesn't understand I DO NOT earn my own money. She's always telling me to get a Saturday job. I have asked literally everywhere in town. Nowhere. Plus, I'm in my last year of compulsory school, I do need time for revising and such (plus I have mock exams for the next 2 weeks!). I mean, surely girls at the age of 15 do not have to earn and pay for themselves for EVERYTHING!?
Sorry this may be a bit long, I guess it's more of a rant then a question. But, any ideas on what to do or how to deal with this? (link)
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Don't let it get to you. This sort of thing happens in every family. One kid just seems to get more than the others. It happened to me when I was your age. My older sister got more than me and didn't have to ask twice. I was lucky to get what I asked for after the hundreth time, but didn't always get what I wanted or felt I needed.
My older sister got horseback riding lessons when we were kids. I asked for lessons and my mother said she didn't have the money to send both of us. Then a few months later, my younger sister asked for riding lessons and before you know it, she was flying over those jumps like nobody's business! I never did get lessons. Go figure. If there's any consolation in this, take heart...I now have my own horse farm and ride whenever I please, whichever horse I please! My sisters can't say the same as they don't have the money to pursue equestrian sports, no less own a farm and horses, now that they are adults.
Things have a way of working out in the end, don't you think?
Ask dad for the mouse.
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What are some interestng sights to see in New York City other than museums? Include anything, from architectural marvels to parks. (link)
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Statue of Liberty, Empire State Building, Central Park, Metropolitan Opera, NY Public Library, anything in Chinatown, South Street Seaport, anything in Greenwich Village.
But don't miss the MUSEUMS!
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15/F.
I'm going to be redoing my room soon, and I don't want just one flat color for the whole room. I have a room that's just about 10 by 10, so I wanted to get a black and white wall paper and put it on two of the walls and paint the other walls a solid white.
I'm not sure where to get a unique black and white wallpaper though, I want something that's more vintagey though (I'm not sure if that's a word..) I really like this one http://www.porterhousedesigns.com/colorsizzle/wp-content/uploads/2009/02/bedroom_livingetc.jpg however, I really want to see more like that too, so I can get the best one I'll like for a while.
So if you could give me a few options of places to look, that would be good. Or if you could send me actual wallpapers that would be good too.
Thank you in advance. (link)
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http://www.americanblinds.com/products/wallpaper/index.asp?Nrpp=60&P=WP&results=1&N=4294967258+4294915383+4294430284&Ne=4294915350&cm_re=B-_-Top+Nav-_-Wallpaper&Ns=R_%25OFAREAFORCOLOR_Black|1&sval=Neutrals|Black|More...|SHAPES&sterm=|W_Color|W_Design|W_Design
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