My skin is really oily and i get a lot of zits on my forehead an nose. i can't get it to go away. i use shine free makeup but it's just not cutting it. it still get's oily. i was my face everyday. is there anything i can use so my face isn't as oily and my zits will go away? Please don't say proactive or clearisal ultra or w/e i really don't have to money to buy that stuff.
Drinking lots of water really helped me clear my skin. But then I found out I'd been drinking about a third of the recommended intake anyway. You need about 8 glasses a day apparantly. And substituting beer is not a viable alternative. Truuuuust me.
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I'm 17/f and I've known my best friend, Ryan (well, ex best friend) literally my whole life. Our dad's were best friends in high school and they live next door.
Well, Ryan and I used to be really close. We hung out all the time and were really good friends. We hung out with the same group of people and I thought I knew everything about him. About 2 years ago, I was in his room waiting for him to get out of the shower and I was just looking around when I found LSD tabs and pills that I couldn't identify.
I waited for him to get out and I asked him about it. Turns out that he had some friends that I didn't know about and he had been into drugs and such for a few months. I couldn't believe what he was saying and even more so, I couldn't believe that I didn't suspect anything.
He told me not to say anything to anyone but I refused and said that I at least was going to tell his older brother and see what he thought about it. We argued about it for a while and he told me that he did not do it that much, it wasn't a big deal and that he would stop. So I trusted him and didn't say anything.
Long story short, I shouldn't have trusted him. His parents put him in Rehab a while after and he's supposed to be clean now.
Well, we haven't been talking as much lately and I don't really see him at the usual parties and friends' houses and things but I just thought he didn't want to see me because we had gotten into a big fight a few months ago (reason to why we weren't talking).
I was at the mall yesterday and I saw him there with a guy named Zach. This guy was the one that had gotten him into drugs. Seriously, he's the biggest druggie anyone knows.
Know I don't know what to do because I'm not certain he's doing drugs again for sure. But, I don't want to keep it from his parents again because I don't want it to end up like it did 2 years ago. And, I'm not sure how he'll take me asking him about it considering we don't really talk anymore.
What should I do?
This might not be what you want to hear.
If you want to help and then leave the relationship at that, then mention what you saw and what you think to his parents, tell them not to freak out about it and to just start keeping an eye on him. Tell him not to let him know it was you that said anything if you care about that.
If you want to really see him off drugs, and maybe even salvage the friendship, you probably have to prepare yourself to be treated like crap. The intervention of a close friend, even one from the past, can often be helpful in dealing with drug addictions, so if you made up with him and tried to help him out you could really do some good. But in the process, he'll definately lie to you, might steal from you, constantly disappoint you and you'll need the patience of a friggin' saint.
Regardless, I think you should let his parents know. My feelings on narcotics are complicated, but drug addiction is a disease and it needs to be dealt with.
I hope it works out for him, but don't beat yourself up too much. You care, and that makes a real difference.
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i'm female, 17, and a junior in high school. last april, a guy i wrk with,(who is 21 and doesn't go 2 school) finally broke up w/his girlfriend of 2 years. he told me in january he really liked me and there'd been a mutual attraction since then. the problem is, that, although they broke up, they still live together in a 1 room apartment (he sleeps on the couch) b/c he cannot financially afford to live on his own and he currently drives his ex's car. she has reciently threatened 2 move out which would force him 2 move back to WA (i suspect she wasn't serious). she's agreed to stay but insists that i don't see him 4 a while (which she's said before). i didn't know her previously and there is pretty much no chance of her feeling anything but hostility towards me. i don't want to break up w/him but i dont like the idea of his ex controlling our relationship and i know there's nothing i can say to her that will change her mind. i'm frustrated that he gives in 2 her continuously (possibly b/c he's afraid she'd leave and he couldn't financially support himself) but she's just his roommate now, yet he allows her to control him and what he does as if they're still dating (or she's his mother...). what do i do?
Man, this is a bum situation for you, especially considering that it really has nothing to do with anything you've done. Firstly it seems to me that your boyfriend's ex clearly still has feelings for him, even if they are only feelings of resentment. If she was having a really hard time over them breaking up she would have moved out regardless, and if she really had no feelings for him (and was now simply a roommate) then she'd have no reason for this atmosphere of hostility. As far as I can see, the situation is going to continue as long as he stays in close contact with her- I doubt she is suddenly going to change her mind an embrace you. This means that you have two basic options. Confronting her isn't going to do any good, it'll just fuel her (irrational) dislike and cause her to get on at your boyfriend about you. Therefore option one is to wait and give it some time. Maybe after a while she will sort out her feelings for her ex and might be able to see him with someone else without getting irritated.
Secondly, you could confront your boyfriend about it. He is really going to be the only one to change the situation. Either he is going to have to speak to his ex, confont her about her feelings and ask her to stop hassling you (as well as getting some independence back), or he is going to have to strike out on his own. I know how hard it is to just jump ship without a long term plan, so maybe a compromise would be to start working on a plan to get him in to new accomodation with the minimum of fuss.
If he refuses to do either of these then you have to convince him that he's putting your relationship in a pretty unworkable situation. If he doesn't make a few sacrifices or face up to his ex, he has to know he might lose you.
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I had an average rating of 4.97 yesterday. Someone had posted a question where they asked for people's opinions on a situation that had arisen with a family member. A 'do you think this is right?' type question. I posted my answer, along the lines of "depending on age/etc, perhaps you could speak to their parents about this."
I understand people can rate you however they wish but I got a 2 for it! I admit I object to this anyway but the question has since been deleted and I'm just wondering why ratings stand on deleted questions. Because of this person's unfair rating, I've dropped in one moment from 4.97 to 4.93.
In general, I am wondering if it would make sense to null and void ratings you receive for questions that have been deleted?
Seriously, I don't answer that many questions as I don't often have regular access to the internet (I travel a lot) so my rating is a fairly transient thing. I understand how ratings are important but I just thought I'd let you know that to me, a rating of over 4/4.5 shows that you are definately helping people and is something to be proud of. A round number of five can also ring warning bells to me- I reckon I could get a perfect rating if I kissed ass and only answered simple questions, but what would be the point?
Basically, a rating of over 4.5 is something to be hella proud of anyway, so I wouldn't worry too much about a minor drop.
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18/f
What is the best way to achieve multiple orgasms?
gracias!
I'm told that it requires fairly frenetic physical stimulation, total trust and confidence both in yourself and your partner, relaxation and an intimate knowledge of exactly what kind of situation and stimulation turns you on. From experience you also need to be prepared to let whatever happens, happen- not be nervous or self conscious in anyway.
That said, if you hit on a sure fire method, could you tell me first?
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what is a simulator?
what are the features of simulator?
what are the characteristics of the simulator?
Any device or concept- usually mechanical- that determines to mimic (or 'simulate'- see what I did there) a set of of parameters or circumstances. This is normally defined as attempting to copy 'real life' or as close to an actual experience of something as is possible. normally simulators are limited to a single scenario (flying a plane, driving a car, charting the movements of animals).
Simulators are normally used to practice the skills needed for an event which is dangerous or expensive (learning to land a plane BEFORE you really have to land a plane) or trying to figure out how data might change in the future (like what a particular area might look like if rainfall carried on in the same manner etc).
I put a lot of effort into the wording of that answer. If this question turns out to be spam- shame on you!!
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So, my partner's parents/family have 'seen the bruises' and now think I'm some vest-wearing wifebeater and have 'warned me'.
How on earth do I tactfully explain what's really going on before I get the rozzers called on me?
I don't think they'll appreciate the honest truth about what their 'little princess' likes in bed somehow...
>.<
Awful and delicate situation, help!
I hate to say this, but I had exactly the same problem. (I hate to say this because I have a friend on this site who will probably be laughing her arse off right now). Firstly I can definately say that your partners parents/family will believe NOTHING you tell them. Lying will make it worse, as will telling the truth probably. The only was out is really to let your partner do the talking as any defence/excuse from you will be seen either as an outright lie or as an exaggeration to cover you arse.
Probably your partner won't be too pleased with your solution as confronting parents about your sexual tastes is unlikely to be a barrel of laughs. The only solace is that she doesn't really need to go into any detail whatsoever- merely hinting that the marks in question are remnants of her sexual activities will probably stop all questions and remarks. To be honest, its only the parents you have to convince, as any other family member will probably go to them before making an 'intervention.'
I suggest you start with the mother. It will be MUCH easier for your partner to steer the conversation and her mum will be less likely to pursue the questioning in my opinion. And also her dad might decide to beat the snot out of you regardless- he will never stop seeing his daughter as a 'little princess' so its best to stay away from that whole are entirely.
Stuff like this is a bummer. Hope it works out and remember, it's embarassing but it's your life, so stuff what the fogeys think.
Stay safe.
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THIS IS NOT A QUESTION OF FAITH
I have considered myself asnostic for a few years now. I have faith more in the people I know and everyone, then some silly religion with it's own agenda. I also believe in a greater god, but mostly for comfort, to hate, and to thank. Anywho, this coming fall I am going to have to make a decision of getting confirmed by the Catholic Church. I am not so sure that I should do it. I know that it would make my mom happy, but I feel like I am just flat out disrespecting Catholicism to follow their ways even though I don't believe it. I don't really care if I am found out, I am not like an in-your-face religion hater, but still, it would kill my mom. So, my question is, should go through with it for my mom, or not?
THIS IS NOT A QUESTION OF FAITH, I DON'T BELIEVE IN CHRISTIANITY, PLEASE TO NOT TELL ME OF THE GLORIES OF HEAVAN, JESUS, AND WHAT NOT
This is just a sort of run-with-it theory, but say you did get confirmed, and that made your mum pretty happy. What would you have to do afterward? My best friend is, to all intents and purposes, Catholic, but as far as I can see he does nothing for his religion other than to worry about the guilt he has from doing nothing for his religion. Could you just get confirmed, put a smile on your mothers face, and then sort of not really mention it from them on? If you get confirmed and then kind of leave it at that, it's not like the Pope is gonna come after you, and maybe it'd only take this one thing to make your mum a)happy and b)shut up about it.
Like I said this was just really thinking out loud and I don't know much about the Catholic faith (could the Pope really come after you?) so it was just a thought. I hope you figure it out, man- it seems like a knotty problem.
Peace out.
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does any one know a song that goes:
"you drive a great car yeah i'm glad you like mine too...cause i like you..."
it's pretty old and i tried to google but it gave me nothing.
Dandy Warhols- 'Bohemian Like You'
"Cause I feel, wuh-oh, woo!"
Peace out.
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Ok, so I need to decide where I want to study abroad ASAP. Here's my choices:
Australia
New Zealand
Italy
All 3 awesome places...
Anyone been to any of these places?
Any opinions or suggestions?
OMG I cant wait! :)
I'm actually IN Australia now, and I recently spebt wuite a long time travelling around New Zealand. I doubt Either of these places will be too much of a culture shock- both have a nice mix of European and American culture, they both have English as the main language and both are full of VERY friendly people. New Zealand is a relatively small place- about the size of the UK- so its easy to get around by car or even by public transport in a pinch. There is also a LOT of stuff to do there, it totally deserves its reputation as the adrenalin capital of the Southern Hemisphere. The people are also friendly and tolerant of foreigners and you'd probably meet a lot of people from your home country if you went to study. That said, if you want a city mentality you'll have to look hard. The biggest city in NZ is Auckland and it is tiny by world standards. On top of this, a lot of Kiwis have a very countrified mentality which leads to an 'us against them' attitude towards the city dwellers. Auckland isn't that great a city anyway, but it's where you'd probably end up studying.
I found the people in Australia a lot more friendly in general terms, but they can also be a little brash- when I first arrived I felt occasionally insulted before I realised they meant nothing by it. Australian population is clustered mostly around the cities so they can be great places to spend your time and I know that Sydney is a great place to study and also is interested in foreign students. However if you plan to stay after you finish studying, I'd check and see how they feel about it before you go. Getting residence in Oz can be a real hassle.
Basically my advice is, if you want to stay in one place most of them time, especially if its a city, go for Australia. If you want to do a bit of travelling around and especially if you are into extreme sports (bungee jumping, sky diving, white water rafting, stuff like that)the go for NZ. I think I'd recommend Australia as a better place to stay in the long term.
Hope that helped a bit
Stay safe.
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Hey Im making a CD to go with my friends birthday presents with a song by each of her fave bands, I listen to most of them but not Nirvana, can someone tell me the best Nirvana song in thier opinion....thanks xx
Well it's all relative, so maybe the best idea might be to subtly quiz your friend on HER favourite Nirvana song. For the record, I think I lke 'Heart Shaped Box' best. It's a hackneyed choice though i guess.
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what exactly is trance music? what are some well-known trance artists?
Trance is a style of electronic dance music that developed mostly in the late 80's and 1990's, largely in Europe. According to Wikipedia it normally has a speed of about 130 or 160 bpm but its not a defining factor. Normally it uses a sample or synthesiser chords to build up throughout the track till it reaches a peak. Often, especially in later trance examples, a vocal sample is also used. Unlike other forms of electronic music the sample is normally kept in one piece rather than fragmented.
Trance is quite accessible due to its melodic nature. Look up Paul Van Dyke- some of his stuff is legendary and still played in clubs years later. Try 'For an Angel' for a genre and era defining track.
Also look for Paul Oakenfold, DJ Tiesto and DJ Jean for mainstream trance pioneers. Over time trance had become a little more pop based (or 'anthem' based depending on which music nerd you listen to) which isnt necessarily a bad thing, but is derided by purists. If this is the stuff your looking for try the Minestry of Sound compilations- the early ones before they got really shit.
Hope that helped a bit.
Peace out.
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I just got an e-mail from a fishing resort in northern Ontario saying that I have a phone interview next Tuesday. I really want this job, but I'm a little worried.
I've never done a phone interview before, so does anyone have any tips on how to ace them? I know the basics, sound friendly etc, but anything that you think would really help me nab the job would be great.
Another question; are there any questions that would be unique to a hospitality job? If anybody has experience being interviewed for hospitality positions (ie. hotel, resort) and could share some interview experiences so that I know what to expect, I would really appreciate it.
Thank you for your help!
First of all, make a list of what questions relating to you and the job they might conceivably ask, and then think a little about your answers. These might include what you think your key skills are, and how they might relate to the job in question, what experience you might bring from your previous employment etc. They might also ask you your opinions on they key points of the job so make sure you've researched/ though about that too. Basically you want to have already thought about all your skills, qualifications and good characteristics before they call you. Obviously you dont want to sound rehearsed but if you've already given it some thought then it'll roll of the tongue a little quicker, without having to start with 'Um...' every time.
Secondly a couple of my jobs have been in hospitality and there are a few questions that cropped up more than once in interviews (however I'd be careful about having practiced answers- what if they don't ask the right questions?). Most of them involved things like customer service and relationships with the customer- why they are important, how they can be developed and what experience or examples you can think of. They might also ask you about being part of a team as a resort has a large number of staff doing different stuff. Hope this helped, and I hope you get the job.
Good luck mate.
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In a nutshell, I hate my stepdad. Well, HATE is a strong word, so let's just say I highly dislike him.
My mother met him about 5 years ago, and they got married a year later. He was nice to me and my sister during their courtship, but since he married my mom he's turned into an ass. Well he's really mean to me and my sister. Neither of us has a bf so he says to our faces that were lesbians. When I had my 25th birthday he told me in front of my mother that I must be a dyke because all of his daughters were married by my age. He always compares us to his daughters who are all married.
My sister has a weight problem and he calls her fat and a slug. He convinced my mother to kick her out of the house while she was still in college. My sister is a good person, she's quiet and studies to get good grades but he tells my mom that she deserves to be kicked out on the street. I think he wants my mom all to himself. He even told me once that he was "sick of me always coming around". I live in another town and maybe visit my mom once every two weeks, so I don't know what he's talking about. On Xmas day when I went to visit them I even heard him yelling at my mom! He was calling her a "stubborn woman" because she asked him to help cut up the turkey. Every one else can see this guys a jerk except for my mother.What can I do? I've already told my mom that she shouldnt have married him but she's in love with him and doesnt want to listen.
I'll rate 5s!
Man, you're probably gonna hate my answer. There doesn't sound like there is a lot you can do.
If your mother has strong feelings for him there is little you can do to change that, and attempting to do so might drive a wedge between the two of you, especially if she know's you dislike your step-father.
Having said that, me and my step-dad aren't exactly the best of pals, and him being offensive to you has to stop. If he's rude to your face, give as good as you get. You're a grown woman and nobody has the right to push you around, and the same goes for your sister. There's no point in trying to convince your mother of his short-comings, but don't let your love for her stop you defending yourself. Step-father or not, you DO NOT have to take any of his crap. The guy sounds like a dickweed.
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Is it true that if you crack your knuckles they get bigger? This seems totally fake to me...how can your bones grow because you move them around?
They won't make the bones grow any bigger, but doing it repeatedly can lead to inflamation of the joints and swelling- my mother always used to shout at me for doing it, because apparently it gives you arthritis later on. Same goes for clicking your toes etc.
P.S. Turns out my answer was a bunch of crap. Although doing it repeatedly may lead to swelling (a doctor told me this, although he also said doing anything repeatedly can lead to swelling) there is no evidence of it really doing any permenant damage or leading to increased susceptability to arthritis. Sorry for the bad advice bud, although it's been a pretty long time since you asked so I'm sure you're over it by now.
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Whenever I have to speak infront my class, by myself, I get really nervous. I feel like I am going to throw up or faint. I know, it's really embarassing. So, do you have any tips on what I should do to not get nervous? Or anything I should say to myself so I won't be nervous? Thank you in advance.
Everyone has given brilliant advice to this question but here's something that might help- everyone is in the same boat. Remember that no matter how scared you are, 90% of the audience COULD NOT stand up and do what you are doing. In a poll of what adult Americans feared most in the whole world, death was second- speaking in public was the clear winner. You've outdone most people by even standing up and you should be proud of that at least.
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I'm babysitting my next-foor neighbor's 3 kids. They are 10, 6, and 2. This is my first time babysitting on my own and I`m a little nervous. What should I do to keep them busy? What do I do if they begin to fight with each other, or one starts to cry? Any tips?
First off- SHOW NO WEAKNESS! You don't have to go boot camp on them but if the six and ten year olds think they can push you around, they will. Be friendly and reassuring, but firm. If they start fighting, threaten to send them to bed or separate them. If one of them starts crying, ask yourself why. Are they just doing it to get what they want? If so, again, don't get pushed around.
As to keeping them occupied, whatever you suggest, take part as well. If you are taking part in the activity with them, they are less likely to get distracted. On top of that if you are still an adolescent they might try to impress you rather then acting up. Little kids tend to look up to any older youth who takes an genuine interest.
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does any one know how to contact MTV?
Not exactly, but MTV is a division of Viacom Entertainment, so try looking on their website.
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what does it mean when you can through your voice?
If you mean 'throw your voice' it's an old stage trick where you make your voice sound as if it is coming from something a short distance away- often used in making an inanimate object 'talk' while the actual speaker remains hidden.
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Private questions don't affect ratings! ya-boo-sucks to yooou! :P
Rats. Next time I WILL give you a 1. It might not make a difference but it'll make me feel better.
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