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Drugs...again?
I'm 17/f and I've known my best friend, Ryan (well, ex best friend) literally my whole life. Our dad's were best friends in high school and they live next door.
Well, Ryan and I used to be really close. We hung out all the time and were really good friends. We hung out with the same group of people and I thought I knew everything about him. About 2 years ago, I was in his room waiting for him to get out of the shower and I was just looking around when I found LSD tabs and pills that I couldn't identify.
I waited for him to get out and I asked him about it. Turns out that he had some friends that I didn't know about and he had been into drugs and such for a few months. I couldn't believe what he was saying and even more so, I couldn't believe that I didn't suspect anything.
He told me not to say anything to anyone but I refused and said that I at least was going to tell his older brother and see what he thought about it. We argued about it for a while and he told me that he did not do it that much, it wasn't a big deal and that he would stop. So I trusted him and didn't say anything.
Long story short, I shouldn't have trusted him. His parents put him in Rehab a while after and he's supposed to be clean now.
Well, we haven't been talking as much lately and I don't really see him at the usual parties and friends' houses and things but I just thought he didn't want to see me because we had gotten into a big fight a few months ago (reason to why we weren't talking).
I was at the mall yesterday and I saw him there with a guy named Zach. This guy was the one that had gotten him into drugs. Seriously, he's the biggest druggie anyone knows.
Know I don't know what to do because I'm not certain he's doing drugs again for sure. But, I don't want to keep it from his parents again because I don't want it to end up like it did 2 years ago. And, I'm not sure how he'll take me asking him about it considering we don't really talk anymore.
What should I do?
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i am not sure you will like my idea or any thing so just hear me out or whatever:
i dont tell many people my sister is on pot ok i dont tell anyone because she threten me but what i normally do when she isn't high stoned or whatever, i tell her how i feel and that i really would apreatiate if she had stopped and i promised under an othe i wouldn't tell anyone who would fink on her so i am trusting you if you find out who my family don't tell about her because it is it's working slowly but surely. also i am a 13/m i hope this helps if not i have a few other ways here they are:
1) tell him how you fell about him when he isn't on drugs like his overall qualities or personalites or if you like him as like love him.
2) tell him you really would hope he stops and you won't tell anyone he is on drugs but tell him if it does get alot worse you wikk result in at least telling his parents.
3) if he isn't on drugs after you either considering the possible things like oh maybe he is just hanging out with him because he isn't a girl and wants guy friends to or he could be just there to talk about some things i mean it depends how long has he been hanging with zach for if its a while then he proably is back on drugs. if not he isn't he is probably telling stuff like i can't get incvolved with this shit anymore.
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I know that by telling his parents that he is quite possibly taking drugs again is a big risk but it's a bigger risk not to. Supposing he is so hooked on them that he suffers an accidental overdose? I know that it isn't definite he is back on them but in some situations like this, it is best to look at the worst case-scenario, even if it is difficult.
You might not have any proof but if he is hanging out with a drug dealer, there is no reason to believe he isn't buying them from him as well. Let's face it, if you were completely off drugs, would you hang around with your dealer without being tempted?
Let his parents know, either anonymously by a note through their door, or wait until he is out and try to explain the situation to them. Stress you don't know for sure if he is back on them but you have every reason to believe he might be. I know it's tough, but as his parents, they have a right to know.
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first i suggest you tell his parents that hes hanging out with a perpon that is involved w/that type of shit (just so they know)but make sure to tell them that your not certain if hes gone back to his old ways
- and you arent as close as you were before and i dont think people that are clean should be around people like that. try to talk to him if he doesnt seem interested leave him to his ways cause the consequences are GoinG to catch up to him no matter what.
Luvlots
if this doesnt work out i seriously dont know what will!!!plz tell me if anything happens ZEN*PSHYCO
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This might not be what you want to hear.
If you want to help and then leave the relationship at that, then mention what you saw and what you think to his parents, tell them not to freak out about it and to just start keeping an eye on him. Tell him not to let him know it was you that said anything if you care about that.
If you want to really see him off drugs, and maybe even salvage the friendship, you probably have to prepare yourself to be treated like crap. The intervention of a close friend, even one from the past, can often be helpful in dealing with drug addictions, so if you made up with him and tried to help him out you could really do some good. But in the process, he'll definately lie to you, might steal from you, constantly disappoint you and you'll need the patience of a friggin' saint.
Regardless, I think you should let his parents know. My feelings on narcotics are complicated, but drug addiction is a disease and it needs to be dealt with.
I hope it works out for him, but don't beat yourself up too much. You care, and that makes a real difference.
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If someone that used to do drugs starts hanging around the person that got them started then chances are that they have started up again. I however, would not go straight to him because of the fact that you two aren't good friends any more.
If you don't want to worry his parents and want to be sure that he is doing drugs again before you tell them, then I would go to his brother. You said that he's that one that you wanted to go to before so he might help you find out. And Ryan might take it better from him than you right now.
His parents do have a right to know, though. And I know that sometimes parents overreact but when it comes to drugs, especially when he's already been to rehab, they need to know.
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The truth of the matter is that you and this guy aren't really close of friends anymore and that's the way it should be. People who do drugs end up getting addicted and start to make it become their whole lives. They spend their time figuring out how they are going to get more the next day and the people around them no longer matter.
So my advice to you is to let him be with his problems. If he's decided to start doing drugs again, then that's his decision and he will have to pay the consequences later on. Don't stick around to try figuring out what he's on and how you plan on being his friend at the same time. I know you and this guy were really close, but when drugs get thrown into the mix, it just doesn't seem to come together anymore. He's hanging out with the same guy who influenced him into drugs, so I really wouldn't take my chances with him even if you heard or he said he wasn't using drugs anymore. He is the one deciding to let this friendship fall apart, remember that.
-TheTeenGirl
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ANYTHING involving the use of drugs is always really tricky and theres alot of choices that you have to make about what you want to do about it. this boy seems to have an addiction and i really dont think confronting him would help. honestly i think itz best to confront his parents and let them know whats going on so history doesnt repeat itself. plus once you tell them a giant weight will be lifted off your shoulders.
well i hope this helps
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