Gender: Female
Location: Leicestershire, England, UK
Occupation: student
Age: 22
Member Since: July 22, 2007
Answers: 89
Last Update: September 9, 2009
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0kay so ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years but this year hes qoinq away to colleqe .. not like away away but he`ll be an hour & a half away & hes qonna live in the dorms there i quess but im still qonna be here in hiqh school and i know we wont really see eachother that often =/ & its qonna be such a biq chanqe & he'll be really busy & so will I..does anybodyy think it`ll still work or we should break up or whatt? =/ (link)
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if you think your relationship is worth it, you should make all the effort you can to make it work, i guess your boyfriend will be busy with his studies but you could set a specific day when both of you will be free to meet up. but if you decide to break up with him talk to him first see what he thinks, if he wants to make it work, and you want to make it work then you should make it work. i dont think you should break up because he's going away to college.
if you love him then you should definately make it work. hope i've helped, just ask your heart, what does it want? take care though.
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lately, i have been cutting my arm.. because i get really drepressed and, my boyfriend found out. he told me to stop but i cant.. its the only thing that releaves me.
what should i do?
(and im not emo) (link)
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well, i think you should try to stop if you can, because it looks as though you might be getting addicted to it, like how people get hooked up on smoking or binge drinking. But you can try to release your depression through other activities, such as stress balls, or you could try writing or painting anything you can to express what you are feeling. by cutting yourself you're only causing harm to yourself. but if you don't mind can i actually ask you what exactly it is that makes you feel depressed? if it's personal its alright, but i think you should talk to your GP/ doctor. it is only by talking to others about what we feel or any other issues that we can express our feelings, and then hopefully findout how we can resolve the issue by finding alternative ways on how to handle things that upset us, etc. sometimes just by talking and sharing our feelings with other can make us feel better, and much lighter, i hope this would help, but i strongly suggest that you consult with your family doctor. but just try to think positive, take care though.
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this guy i was talking to on AIM he's not a stranger but a friend of a friend and i found out he liked me. kay so when i found it out i rly liked him. well i liked his personality
then i saw his myspace pics omg he was ugly!
i know i am shallow but man if u saw him.
i know he cant help it guys cant wear makeup
and he rly likes me what do i do?
help?
please? (link)
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just tell him "you're really nice but you would like to be just friends"..i normally say that if i'm not into a guy, or sometimes i tell them that i see them like a brother. Guess it will hurt their feelings a little but not as much as if you actually tell them the real reason. sometimes you need to let people off gently.
hope it helps, takecare.
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15/f my boyfriend talks to other girls i got on his myspace and a lot of them were telling him they liked him and stuff.
"and he said i have a girlfriend friendships are a lot better anyways. and they last longer.=]"
what do i do?
it made me sad.. (link)
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dont worry, you know guys they're just guys basically..but i guess you could try to be both his girlfriend and a friend, lend him an ear as all friends do, have joke, laugh, even (you could pretend if you want to) but if you see attractive girls etc. when you're with him, just say nice butt, or she has big boobs, etc. just joke around. and then provide him with all the love and satisfaction that only a girlfriend can provide. The word girlfriend says it itself, you have to be a friend as well as being a girl.
I guess guys like it when they know they can be open with their girlfriends and talk to them about anything, and not worry if you'll get jealous at all. If he loves you then you don't need to worry about it, just make him want you more you know.
..hope this helped, take care though. hope it works, good luck.
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Hi, ummmm this sounds a litlle wierd i knw, but i have read your column and u have some really good advice. I just wanted to know, i am a girl but i don't know how to... how to have sex. I really want to have sex with my boyfriend, but he has experience, and i am not sure what actually happens in sex, my family is quite religous so i have never really been told this stuff. Can you please help me, how do you have sex? (link)
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hi, if you have a religious family, and you decide to take this step, don't you feel you'll be betraying your family's trust?
before i do tell you what sex is, just think to yourself..if your boyfriend dumps you after he's had sex with you how will you feel? sometimes its better to wait for the right momen t and the right person.
..but sex is basically when guy and a girl get intimate with each other. it builds up on passion and eventually the guys penis will enter your vagina. Everyone has their own different experience during sex, so it's not something that can be just described like that. meaning of sex is actually the sexual interaction between two people, based on passionate feelings about one another. There are many different ways of how to do it, reading magazines such as, cosmopolitan may help you and give you some more tips. but it usually starts of with kissing (not just a peck on the lips) but a more serious and intimate kiss, which gradually leads to sex itself.
...but please just think about what i said, do you really think to have sex is actually worth going against your families belief??. i know this might sound like a boring lecture to you, but it is a very important issue/ topic.
..so think carefully and i hope you make the right decision. sorry if i couldn't be much of a help to you.
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My dad is 37 he's got like a 6 pack he's not ugly and I need to find him a date. He tells me that if he doesnt find someone soon he's going to go back to his exgf [yuck] So how can I find him a date? Where can i tell him to go to meet chicks? I dont want to say a bar because nasty bar sluts aren't his thing. (link)
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you could checck if there are any local speed dating taking place for local singles.........who knows he might find someone nice their. its just a thought, but it would give him a chance to meet other women around his age type.
....or does he have any female friends that you might like, who are also single..its hard i guess, but good luck with it, but if you think he will be more happier with his ex girlfriend then let him be with her, just as long as he's happy right? is their anything more important than your dad's happiness?
but anyway just try to talk to him, ask him what he wants in a woman, etc. and then just see what happens after that.
hope you find him that perfect woman....good luck!
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ok so i measured myself with this website
http://www.amplebosom.com/acatalog/Measuring_Guide.html
is this correct how to measure?
cause i wear a 32A bra size, and i think it fits fine and i wanted to make sure, so i checked out sevrel websites and they all say this way to measure.
below my bust was 27
my bust was 29
it says im a 32C ??????????
i know im not that big and i know im measureing right. i measured 5 times all same answers and its stright all the way arround too its all even, i measured right i even asked my mom if i was doing it right.
my moms eather a 30C or a 36B depending on brands.
i tryed them both on DEFENTLY doesnt fit.
im also measureing losely and comfertfbly but tight abough to stay in place.
whats the deal?? whats my real bra size? (link)
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you know i guess it is tricky to find out for yourself, but most big stores have workers (females) there who can measure you, you will be keeping your original bra on while they measure you, and will hopefully ask you what type of bra do you prefer, sport, underwired etc. and they will bring couple of bra's of the sizes they think you closely match to, and one of the sizes is most likely to fit you, so you can try that.
and DONT WORRY ITS NOT EMBARRASSING I HAD THE SAME PROBLEM TO. takecare
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okay, so this saturday, i lost my virginity.. and this morning when i went to the bathroom, i bled a little. im not suppose to be gettin my period til around the 6th. someone tell me why im bleeding? =[
THANK YOU (link)
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well nothing to worry, when we have sex for the very first time there's this thin skin which breaks when the penis goes into the vagina. which only happens the first time round.
so you don't need to worry about it, it might just last a day i guess, take care. I bet your smiling now.
bye..
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i have a cold.
ive had it for aboutt i dunno two days now. and i feel like crap! anii ideas on how to feel betr??other than eatin chicken noodle soup? thank you! (link)
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well chicken and garlic soup is good for people with flu....... you can try honey, or try this, squeeze orange, and lemon juice in to cup/ glass, add boiled kettle water not too much, and spoon of honey.
or drink lots and lots of orange juice...the good old vitamin C.
and once you recover, try taking one capsule of cod liver oil tablets daily, it will make your system more stronger.
hope this works..takecare.
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i want really flat sexy abs.
i tried doing situps but they are not really working. anyone have any advice on what i can do. i mean im not overweight. im 16, female, 5'6", 122lbs.
i just have love-handles and that pouch that all girls have.
i would really like to be more fit and i have a hard stomach its just not built or cut.
thank you so much! (link)
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Crunches start by laying down on our back on the floor with knees bent and slowly raises our torso. The range of motion is very short. Visualize that you are trying to touch your ribcage to you hips. You can cross your hand over the chest or put them behind your head to add difficulty. Sit ups beyond about 45 degrees are not recommended because the hip flexors take over then. Crunches on a medicine ball provide a longer range of motion. Holding weights while you do crunches is for advanced workouts that want to build muscular six pack abs. Working on our abs every day will be boring unless you add rock music for fun or spice them up with in lingerie for motivation.
i hope it helps, just make sure you don't over do it..takecare...but do keep this in mind "the things about our bodies that we dont like, doesn't mean that other people will dislike them, but after all it is your body, so i guess there's no harm in toning up right?, bye!x
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me and my friend will be babysitting a kid every day afterschool he's a five year old but i dont know whe HE likes but what should we do to entertain him and what should we charge (link)
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i guess, you could start with a 5 and then increase it slighty after a year or sumthing.
but as for what this little boy would like, you can ask him, what he would want to do, befriend him, make him feel like your not intruding. but i'm sure if you ask this 5year old kid what he likes, he will tell you, ask him what kind of food he likes to eat, and try bringing some packet of crisps/chips or a bar of chocolate for him whenever you go to baby sit. find out few of his favourite games and play, act like a 5yr old your self, you were that age once.
i hope it helps..have fun and good luck babysitting.
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ok here what it is, my ex-girlfriend wants to get back together with me, and i want to get back together with her, i still love her so much and she said the same thing, but after she went to VA she had some guys hitting on her, she said that me and her were back together and now shes not sure, i don't know what to do, i love her so much and i don't want to lose her. (link)
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ok.....'any time spent thinking, is time spent wasting'...if she means alot to you, then i think you should show her how much she means to you. but try not to seem to needy or you know (i'm lost for words), but, just show her all the good things she'll be missing out on if she doesn't pick you, give her abit of taste of how things would be if she's with you.
but you know how they say 'what ever's meant to happen will happen no matter how hard you try'..and if she doesn't pick you, its her loss right? and you seem like a good guy, you'll hopefully find someone better, so there's nothing to worry about. there is another saying: 'if you love someone let them go, if they return to you it's meant to be, if not then that love was never yours'
but think positive and hopefully she'll make the right choice by being with you.....good luck!x
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how can i put on my weight (link)
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eat healthy...eat fruits, veg, meat, poltry, protein, carbohydrates...8 glasses of water atleast, and glass of milk everyday, and fresh juice......dont eat too much fast food (not good for your body) and no sugary fats, you can have snacks in between your meals...and don't drink too much fizzy...good luck putting on weight, sometimes it can be hard depening on your body type, some people can just eat and eat, and they hardly gain anything, where others gain weight just like that, so i dont know what your body type may be, but you can find out, just ask your mother and aunts how quickly can they gain weight, sometimes things like these can depend on genetics.
but good luck anyway. hope it works, and hope i've helped, even if it's a little bit. takecare.
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How do you tell if a guy is gonna makeout with you. and how do you makeout with a guy? HELP? please i will send good feedbackk (link)
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Well here are some ways you can find out if a guy is going to make out with you: 1) he'll lean in, 2) he'll probably stroke your hair, might move it away from your face 3) might stroke your cheek, 5) He will give you the look (move his eyes down your face, it won't be like a creepy stare, it would be more genuine and sweet and passionate hopefully...(these are only some signs, there are probably more)
Well hopefully if he kisses you first, then you'll automatically know what to do next (these kind of things are based on instincts, it just happens), use abit of a tongue, not too much, i've been told this tip by a friend that guys like it when the girls bottom lip is under the guys bottom lip, and its bit curved so the inner bit of the lip is touching his outer lip, i dont know why they enjoy it, but they do. trust me though you'll figure it out, but guys probably don't care how you kiss, just as long as they get the kiss. hope it helps, and good luck!x
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My boyfriend keeps having dreams of me cheating on him and I haven't and I told him I never will and I won't
but I heard dreams can be the opposite of what they are
I just want to know why hes having these cause its confusing
He gets them like a whole lot
one time he had it 5 times in a row. (link)
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i'll try not to go all psychological on you, but according to Freud's theory, dreams represent or reveal a person's most hidden desires. I agree with the the one who gave you advice that it maybe because he's afraid to loose you, but i guess the reason he may feel this way could be that there's something (i don't exactly know what) but something he might be afraid if you found out you might leave. ok just don't jump to any conclusions, it's only a theory, but talk to him, to see if there is anything more to this dream, and what is causing his fear.
It might be just a dream but, if it's continious there is something, but only you can find out. i know this might not have helped you, probably made you more anxious, but if you talk he might open up to you. but seriously dont worry about anything, i'm sure it's probably just one of those weird dreams. but takecare.
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15/F
Soon I am getting a haircut, but I don't know exactly what I want to do. My hair has always been long and I want to keep it long, but I'm willing to take off maybe 2 inches (I need to get rid of dead ends anyway).
Can someone please tell me what my face shape is? All these sites ask for your face shape to tell you what hairstyle would be good for you, but I can't tell what it is.
And also, I don't know if they would look good on me but I've kind of been interested in side bangs. Not really extensive side bangs, and I would want them to be long enough to tuck beind my ear if I got them (would that look stupid? If it would I just won't get them). But also all my natural blond highlights are underneath my hair (not sure how that happened though?) so if I cut side bangs they wouldn't be visible :(
Any suggestions? And could anyone tell me my face shape while they are at it?
Here is a picture of me:
http://img179.imageshack.us/img179/7624/orangego7.png (link)
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your face shape looks like oblong, same as me, i have really long hair too. but too get a good idea of what your face shape maybe, is take a photo of yourself with your hair tied back in a high pony, and then get a paper and trace the outline of you face and that would make it easier for you to see your face shape. I think with long hair layers would look good, you could also get your hair feathered from the front, so if you do a side parting some days then it may look like side bangs, but when you go down to the hair dresser you can ask them what would look good, they are more expert at this kind of stuff.
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i went to school with this girl in elementary
we met up, dated-and broke up
i just noticed now...that i wasn't being myself with her and don't know what to do
how can i get her to like me?
or "attract her"
what do girls like?
or find attracting=\? (link)
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I would say talk to her, be yourself, ask her 'you alright?' if you see her on her own, or maybe struggling, try to help her out. most girls like a guy not just for their looks, but also for their kind-hearted personality, and maybe a little bit of brain too.
but you dont need to be shy infront of her, she's only human. start with eye-contact, so before you do go up and talk to her, you know the signal is green and safe for you to go ahead.
Simply just be nice to her, and friendly, and after a while if you think things are good now, try asking her out again, and i hope it works out this time, so try not to make the mistakes you may have made before. good luck.
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15/f
mmk well i'm gonna be starting highschool, so i want a whole new haircut. my hair is a little past my shoulders, and i really dont wanna cut it any shorter. however, i would like to get long layers, and i have bangs, but there like real bangs. i want to change that to side bangs.
anyone know any cute haircuts? (link)
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I think layers, and side bangs (is that fringes) would look good, i've got real long hair myself and thinking of new hair do for myself before i start my second year at uni.
well what i want is like lots and lots of layers and maybe feathered on the front, which depending on what type of parting i decide to do may look like side bangs. I dont know if you watch neighbours, but one of the girls from it pepper she has a nice do, but what looks good on others may not suit our face shape.
-you can find out what sort of haircuts might suit your face shape by searching on googles.
try these link it might help: http://www.azcentral.com/style/articles/071306haircut.html
http://www.thehairstyler.com/hairstyles_12.asp
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i normally never ask for advice. but i can't get around this one. my girlfriend broke up with about a week ago.(yes im a dude). reason why she did was because she was goin out with me behind her parents back, and they don't really care for me. so she breaks up with me because she felt bad about all that. i understand why she broke up with me. but damn does it hurt. i mean i really loved this girl. and i still do. so my question is, how do i get over her? hell, shes all i think about. i dont know what to do. oh im 16/male (link)
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You're only 16, and if she's broken up with you it's not the end of the world. You may find someone better, in the future.
I'm not a guy but i think you should go out with your male friends, have a good time, and forget everything.
It might help if you get rid of any thing she may given to you or something that will remind you of her. you don't have to do it straight away but slowly slowly, i broke up with my fiance couple of years back, i was so upset but i thing it was anger mostly and i ripped up all the pictures of us together i cut mines out thou i looked good. and then i threw anything he gave me away. felt so much better after that and happy.
but just think to your self she's not worth it!! you deserve someone much better, and you will find the person when its the right time. and you will fall in love with someone who will love you just as much.
hope it helps, good luck.
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He's going to be moving out of his house before fall, into an apartment-- and his mother just needs to let go which is making my boyfriend so angry.
They ended up fighting over the phone.
They hung up, and my boyfriend was furious. In the past, he's wanted me there when hes angry at his mother, just to hold me and make him feel a little better.
tonight though, he didnt show any response to me after the phone call. i was going to follow him out, but he said he'd be right back to grab some things. i waited a few minutes, and finally went downstairs and he was just driving off.
is this a sign of just his stress alone for tonight, or is it a sign of a conflict in our relationship?
I dont know what to do. I'm really upset. (link)
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sometimes people do want to be alone and sort things out, it doesn't mean he don't love you anymore.
You could try talking to her mother, and tell her the same thing, A child's love for his mother will never end, he will always be his son no matter where he is, try to explain to her if he wants to be independant and live on his own let him try and see if it works out..if it doesnt he will hopefully come back, the more she try's to stop him the more he'll want to go, tell her to use abit of reverse psychology. but tell her to remember he'll always be your son, no one or no place can change that fact.
i hope this works, it will do if she want her son to be happy right?
if you are concerned about your relationship then just try talking to your boyfriend, try not to ask too much questions, but try to find out what is actually wrong, if it's the arguement with his mother, or something more. At this time try to be his friend first and then the girlfriend. Try to comfort him and see if you can cheer him up, and maybe get him to patch things up with his mum too.
but good luck, hope i've helped.
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