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Hey!

I'm Jacky. =]

I used to have a pic of me up but now I don't because that one was really old but I'll be getting a new one soon.

I was born in Augsburg, Germany although I've lived in many other places because my dad was in the army and right now I am currently living in Rochester, Minnesota.

I hate the weather here.

I wish I could move back to Germany because I love it there. All my relatives live there.

I'm sane here because I have my friends and family.

I'm pretty optimistic most of the time unless someone gets on my really bad side and I try to be positive. It's hard sometimes.

I love to give people advice. I'm pretty good at that.

I play soccer and tennis. I'm pretty athletic and I love to dance. I used to be in precision. I also love to sing.

I'm pretty outgoing even around strangers but that's nothing new. Haha.

If you want to get to know me more just IM me on aim or something or if you need advice just ask anytime because I'm on daily.

Thanks lots!
Jacky.

advice

ok soo im a girl and im on my period and im getting sick of it because im allergic to a lot of stuff in medicines so i really cant take anything for bloating or cramps. so as far as cramps go i try to use the heating pad and sometimes that helps but like when im at school i cant. and as far as bloating? i have no idea any ideas?

As for me, I never get cramps and I hardly get bloated..
But my mom does and I'm sure it really sucks.
If that's happening to you in school you should go lay down in the nurse's office.
If it gets worse you should just call your house and go home for the day.
But if your getting bloated maybe you should think about using tums because that lets all of the air out of your stomach.

I hope I helped.
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ok like now..im not sexually active but when it comes to the time .. i hear that fingering is a good way to get loosened up, so when your bf finger's you..like where do u look? wont it be awkward if you look at him while he's doing it? do you lay down..what?!

Haha um..
I've never really thought about that when it happened to me.
I guess you can look at him and lay your head down on the pilow..
Or you can just look at the ceiling or something.
It's not a big deal where you look or lay your head.
But that's usually how it goes.

I hope I helped.
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15/f
im in love with my best guy friend. we've been friends with benefits for a while but never liked each other more than friends. now he's going out with my other best friend. we've stopped being friends with benefits but he'll still hug me or rest his head on me and his girlfriend is ok with that. my problem is that i liked him before he was going out with my other friend but didnt say anything because i thought it might be weird going out with my best friend. i still haven't been able to get rid of my feelings for him. i dont know if i should tell him or just try to somehow not like him anymore. any advice could help
thanks

I've been in the same situation just recently..
You can't just hide that you like him.
You should've talked to him about it and asked him if he felt the same way.
That's what I did.
And it ended up that he had always liked me back to.
So maybe when he's single you should talk to him about that.
I'm pretty sure everything will all work for you.

I hope I helped.
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Do you have to be 18 to buy condoms?

You can be any age to buy condoms.
I always thought you had to be atleast 18 too but you can be any age..
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ok i have heard of sexual turn ons like biting of necks n kissing of necks and others but blowing ears? i mean i heard of it but how does that do anything? any reason? so...and rubbing of bellies..ye haha what does that do, i mean how does that turn someone on? i have heard of it so um...help?

Um haha.
Well I know of licking of the ear..
That actually does feel pretty good and it tickles.
Haha.
But yeah I've heard of blowing of the ear.
For some people that does turn them on.
It's different for everyone.
Same with rubbing of the tummy.
Everyone has different turn ons and some are just really weird..
Haha.

I hope I helped.
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soooo. this is a horrible thing to say but around halloween time i was very upset with my family problems and i didnt know what to do. so one day i can come and cut my wrist about three times. i cried for days just because what i had did to my self and ive been hiding it since today. its nov. 14 and it still hasnt gone away. i think that it is turning into a scar. im very scared ebcause i dont want to hide it the wrest of my life. someone help.

You can really get rid of a scar unless you use some type of skin cream..
You could go to a store and ask if they have anything to get rid of it.
I'm sure they'll have something in stock.

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Okay so, there's this band that's basically one of my favorite bands. I've seen them live twice, and have met two members, but was totally casual and cool about it. I didn't get an autograph, picture, annoy them, etc. We just talked. But, the thing is, when I listen to their songs I get butterflies. This happend even before I met them or saw them in person. If someone asks me who and what the name of the song is, and it's by them, I wont tell them because I don't want them to know about them. I find this extremly weird/insane of me. Am I really weird? Cause in my mind this is NOT normal. How could someone get butterflies from a bands music? And why am I so "protective" of them? I need some SERIOUS answers to this from people who know what they're talking about. PLEASE HELP! It's driving me crazy!

Ha wow I have had a similar situation.
Alright well I am in love with this German band, Tokio Hotel.
I haven't met them or anything but I so want to and they're only big in Europe.
Whenever my friends want to know about them I don't want them to because I don't want them to get big in America..
So I try to keep them secretive.
I feel like they're only 'mine.'
Sounds weird but true.
Haha.
Anyways whenever I hear their music I always get all tingly inside and get butterflies too..
I thought it was weird but now that I think about it it's normal.
It's mainly because you really like their music and you care for them a lot.
I'm also in love with one of them members.
So don't look at yourself and think you're weird because of that..
But now I don't care if my friends know who they are because I know they will always be in my heart.
So you should do the same.
It wouldn't be bad to let anyone know who they are but just think to yourself that they will always be yours.

I hope I helped.
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There is a boy i really like, a lot. We;ve had our ups and downs and him not being able to make up his mind.
he's had tons of reasons why we cant be together, and even kept changing his mind about if he even liked me or not.
So it finally got to where i told him we could be just friends, i told him about how much he had hurt me, and he just asked why i didnt just hate him. i told him i couldnt, it wasnt that simple, and i just couldnt hate him. so he said fine, i will make it easy on you, and signed off (this was on AIM)
we went about 8 days w/o talking, which sucked. I have more than one SN, they are linked, i just dont use the other one much, but he was logged on on one of them, but not my main one. So i just IMed him "hey, its me! igot a new sn, whats up"
we talked for a while, and then he randomly asked why i was talking to him, so i told him if he didnt want me to i wouldnt, then he told me he just couldnt have a realionship right now, and i told him i knew that and we can be just friends even if it never becomes anything more, and he said we cant be friends, and when i asked why he said because its too hard for him, and whenever he is around me something happens and he cant handle it anymore...so i told him i would stop flirting, and everything. then he just went Away...so to his away message i said that i cared a lot about him, and i wanted to be in his life, even if just as friends. and the time we spent not talking (we didnt talk for about 2 and a half months...that ended about a month and a half ago) was more painful then when he had hurt me before...
when he came back we talked, kinda, but it was awkward...
so i guess my question is:
How do i show him that we can be just friends?

He has a lot of problems, i think he may be bi-polar, and he has told me more than once he loves nothing, not even his parents. But then some days, he tells me he only wants to be with me. So i get that we wont be able to be together until he gets his head clear, and even then maybe never. But i need him to be in his life...

Wow.
Well it could be possible that he has bi-polar.
Because he seems to be having a ton of mood swings..
But if he doesn't even want to be friends with you right now..
You should just accept that and move on.
I know you really like him and stuff but their are way more guys in this world that you could like.
But I'm pretty sure everything will be okay between you two sooner or later..
He's not gonna act like this forever.
He just really needs someone to talk to and to care for him.
But when he doesn't even like talking you should seriously just leave him alone.
Just wait until he comes to you for help.
But otherwise for now, just wait and see what happens.

I hope I helped.
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i think im asking for too much for christmas. im not sure if all the gifts im getting are neccesery. hes my list of gifts that my parents are buying and tell me if im asking for way too much.

1. new digital camera $200-$250
2. ipod nano $150-$200
3.psp $200
4. psp games about $40 each
5. abercrombie clothes $105
6. stuff from bath and body works $15
7. movies $40

and more that i forgot. honestly, is that too much for my parents to buy? i dont wanna seem like a spoiled brat. my parents are wealthy - they wont have trouble affording it but i dont know.

Hm well I think that is a little too much too ask for?
You should think about what you're gonna get them.
I mean you expect them to get you all that stuff..
What have you done for them?
I think you should cut down your items on what you want for Christmas.
Just think about what your family wants before what you want.

I hope I helped.
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They are librarians at my school who are discriminating to me they think that I am some kind of spy that just comes to make trouble. I am black yes I'm black I only come to library when there is i,portant work to be done. They will harass me accuse me of stealing my own ID card, and the fact that they think just because I come during study hall I am ditching a class. Should I report to the NAACP or what. What did I do wrong. Its hard just to take that especially when they are just old librarians. Its so heartbreaking. What should I do

If you really think that they are racist or something then you should report them..
If you feel that way I mean.
But the more important thing you should do is talk to them about it first and wander why they're giving you these accusations.
I'm sure everything will be fine.

I hope I helped and good luck.
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okay i need help finding out if a guy likes me he tells one of my friends that i am hot and that he was thinking about asking me out but then he starts ignoring me i like him so someone please help

Haha this is definetly typical for a guy.
Pretty sure he likes you if he tells your 'friend or 'friends' that you're hot and he's thinking about asking you out.
But if he's ignoring you..
He's just shy around you!
Approach him and try to talk to him.
Don't be straight forward though and don't ask him out because you don't wanna make yourself look desperate..
Just drop hints on him but you should talk to him, because he is probably scared to make a move on you.


I hope I helped and good luck.
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i think about what my husband did to me all of the time, i can't stop. i know i need therepy for it but in the meantime...
i found out about an affair he had through finding love letters written to a co-worker that he claims is just a friend. what makes me even angrier is she came to our baby shower and baptism. what a lot of nerve! i would love to have it out with her too. she is married with two kids as well. i know it wouldn't give me the satisfaction that i want because if she is that low to come to our family functions, well..
how will i ever trust my husband again, he is so secretive i hate that more than anything. i have talked about everything with him but i just can't trust that the answers he gives me aren't just a waste of my time. what am i going to do? i want to fix our marriage esp. for our child.

Hm well I've never been in this situation because,
1) I'm not married.
2) I don't have kids.
3) I'm probably not even close to your age.
But..
If I were in your situation I would talk about it with him and if you have enough trust in each other..
I'd ask him, 'Hey, are you hiding anything from me?'
Just see what he says..
Also if you can't get through to him, maybe you should talk to a psychologist.
I'm sure that would help to.
I hope everything goes well for you.

I hope I helped.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 months, and i am 16 and he's 19. But it's alot different because we've known eachother for like all of our lives we have grown up in church together and he's a really good clean christian guy. And i am a really good clean christian girl and he's everything ive been looking for. And i know he's the one for me and i know without a doubt that i love him with all of my heart. But he used to smoke ciggarettes and he quit like 2 years before we started dating but he still does it like once every two weeks and i didnt know that...so he's basically been lying to me for like 4 months??? And i had to find out he was doing this from his brother...he had no intention in telling me! But i know or at least i feel 100% sure he hasnt lied to me about anything else but i just cant believe he would do that. And we got into a HUGE argument yesterday but we kinda made up, but things arent the way that they used to be you know? I just dont know what to do? I never thought he would keep something from me?? What do i do?

Well then you really need to talk about your trust.
If you can't trust him and you think you can't then that's not good.
Try and compromise something.
I'm sure if he's your bf and he's christian he's telling you the truth.
But you have to confront him about it and say, 'Hey, I wanna know the truth, is their anything you haven't told me?'
But be calm about it.
I'm sure everything will be fine.

I hope I helped and good luck.
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i really like this guy but he is 19 and im 15 he really likes me too and i know that im young but i really have never felt like this in my life and i feel soo comfortable with him he makes me laugh and gives me hope in life like no other could i reall would like to call this love but im just not sure anyways to the part about the whole sex thing i have had sex with him 2 times sine we have been together im on birth control and we use condoms am i a slut or a whore for having sex at so young of an age and i dont regret doing it either because it feels soo right with him please answer my questions i just need to know :/

Alright if you love him and you know that he loves you back.
It's perfectly fine.
But you can't keep it a secret.
You should tell your parents so they know what's going on.
And the sex thing, if you know you both don't have diseases and you both use protection then you're alright.
Don't let anything get in the way if you know that you love each other.
You're not a slut for having sex at that age, I know some people who have had sex at 12 or 13 and they weren't even in love.
But don't make this relationship a secret otherwise it's just gonna get screwed up, so be sure to tell your family and is.

I hope I helped.
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ok i did it anal with my bf and iw ould like to know is that health?..is it ok to do that and once we did it and like shit came out and i though that was nasty he is like its ok this and that but for me i feel weird he said its ok and its normal because he went up my anus but me i think its nasty and unhealthy and hope you help thanks..

It is normal.
I'm sure it hurt the first time to..
But after you do it like a few times it feels really good..
But yeah that's normal.
Use the bathroom before you and him have anal again.

I hope I helped.
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My dog was just killed by three other dogs. When i go outside i have a strange feeling that she is still here. an unrested soul. Do you think that she is still trying to protect me?

It could be that your dog's angel really cares about you and is protecting you.
I bet that could be it.
But if not maybe you're just having weird feelings about something..
But most likely it's probably that your dog's angel is still there protecting you.

I hope I helped.
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Yesterday I asked a question about my boyfriend being too friendly with a female. I got mad at him and he went into a depression and said I am doing it to him. Later he got offended and depressed again when I let him know about the responses I got from this site that were beneficial to me,is he feeling guilty about his behavior, are my suspicions of his impending cheating true?Usually he is very upbeat. I think He is way too sensitive about the subject.

Well if he gets sensitive about it maybe there was a time when he had cheated and doesn't like to be reminded of it.
He just wants to let that go..
But possibly he could be cheating on you if he's sensitive talking about it with you.
If that's the case then you should really talk to him about it.

Hope I helped.
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When i ask him out should i be like" hey i was wondering if you would like to go see a movie with me?" or what should i say. Please help

13/f

It depends where you wanna go out with that person..
But if I were you I'd just be like 'Hey I was wondering, do you wanna come to my house after school'?
Just be yourself and ask casually like how you'd ask any of your friends to hang out.
I'm sure you'll do fine.

Hope I helped.
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i need advice.. Brissa (girlfriend) we've gone out for about 5 days now and she is kid of shy. but i need advice on like what to talk about in Lunch or in the hallway. something other than school or homework something that is about home or cool. HELP!!!!!! thanks in advance.


p.s. do you think i should put my hand around her?

Hmm my best friend had the exact situation because both her and her bf were really shy..
Now they talk A LOT.
But all you need to do is find out her interests and see what she likes..
Maybe you could like the same things?
That's one thing you should talk about.
You should ask her how everything is going at her home and if she's in any sports..
Ask her about her family and stuff.
It's easy for me to bring up subjects because I'm pretty outgoing.
I'm sure you'll do fine though, it's not that hard to talk about something.

I hope I helped.
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Hi i am 5"2" and weigh 102. Im not fat and pretty fit but there this little stumach fat that bugs me how should i get it off? im not good with self discipline.

The best way to keep that off is by doing push ups and losts of them everyday.
That will definetely help that and you'll create muscle.
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Hope I helped.

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