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Boys boys boys...
There is a boy i really like, a lot. We;ve had our ups and downs and him not being able to make up his mind.
he's had tons of reasons why we cant be together, and even kept changing his mind about if he even liked me or not.
So it finally got to where i told him we could be just friends, i told him about how much he had hurt me, and he just asked why i didnt just hate him. i told him i couldnt, it wasnt that simple, and i just couldnt hate him. so he said fine, i will make it easy on you, and signed off (this was on AIM)
we went about 8 days w/o talking, which sucked. I have more than one SN, they are linked, i just dont use the other one much, but he was logged on on one of them, but not my main one. So i just IMed him "hey, its me! igot a new sn, whats up"
we talked for a while, and then he randomly asked why i was talking to him, so i told him if he didnt want me to i wouldnt, then he told me he just couldnt have a realionship right now, and i told him i knew that and we can be just friends even if it never becomes anything more, and he said we cant be friends, and when i asked why he said because its too hard for him, and whenever he is around me something happens and he cant handle it anymore...so i told him i would stop flirting, and everything. then he just went Away...so to his away message i said that i cared a lot about him, and i wanted to be in his life, even if just as friends. and the time we spent not talking (we didnt talk for about 2 and a half months...that ended about a month and a half ago) was more painful then when he had hurt me before...
when he came back we talked, kinda, but it was awkward...
so i guess my question is:
How do i show him that we can be just friends?
He has a lot of problems, i think he may be bi-polar, and he has told me more than once he loves nothing, not even his parents. But then some days, he tells me he only wants to be with me. So i get that we wont be able to be together until he gets his head clear, and even then maybe never. But i need him to be in his life...
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this boy sounds exactly like me not too long ago. I wouldn't suggest getting into a relationship right now with this guy, it would end up messing both of you guys up probably more than you think. you have to trust his judgement on that one. Being friends might help him, but if he really doesn't feel he can right now,whether it's because of his mind set or he feels he needs to wait till his head clears because he really wants to be with you, you have to trust him about that too. Just letting him know you'll always be there for him no matter what will help, when he feels he can reach out to you then he will. Just stand behind him and really let him know you're there and want to be
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Wow.
Well it could be possible that he has bi-polar.
Because he seems to be having a ton of mood swings..
But if he doesn't even want to be friends with you right now..
You should just accept that and move on.
I know you really like him and stuff but their are way more guys in this world that you could like.
But I'm pretty sure everything will be okay between you two sooner or later..
He's not gonna act like this forever.
He just really needs someone to talk to and to care for him.
But when he doesn't even like talking you should seriously just leave him alone.
Just wait until he comes to you for help.
But otherwise for now, just wait and see what happens.
I hope I helped.
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