Wussup? The Name is Lianna, Im 20 y.o, I tend to give good advice, and be real with you. I say what i feel is right, i mean that will be the only way people actually listen. I recently had an account on here, but i deleted it. This is my new one. If you feel you need to ask me a question, please feel free to ask away, I dont discriminate.
Gender: Female
Location: Secaucus, NJ
Age: 20
Member Since: July 7, 2009
Answers: 93
Last Update: March 8, 2012
Visitors: 3928
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I wanna know everyones' opinions on age differences in relationships. Mind you, this is out of total curiosity, as a friend of mine and I were discussing this the other day. So I just want to know what you think, like, how big of a difference is too much, and what not. (link)
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if you over 18 i think age shouldnt matter..under 18 it deff. does
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this will be long, but i will return the favor to anyone who is generous enough to read(:
alright lets get the facts straight:
i just turned 19, the guy i like his name is joe, just turned 18. me and joe have been friends for about 6 years now. joe has been dating his girlfriend for 3 straight years.
the thing is, im IN love with joe. i've been in love with him but he loves his girlfriend. i cant get over him, we use to be best friends. we use to hangout ALL THE TIME, before his girlfriend came along.
i can't keep joe off my mind, seriously he's on my mind 24/7 im not kidding, i even dream about him (weird...) even when i was on vacation i thought about him. when im with my friends i think about him. when i'm at work, i think about him. when i'm with another guy, i think about him more. no matter what i'm doing or where i am, i think about him.
the HORRIBLE thing is, i can't get away from the situation. one of my best friends, is my cousin and guess what? joe is my cousins NEXT DOOR neighbor so everytime i'm at my cousins i get to see joe's girlfriends car over there and it kills every single time.
i'm SO vulnerable when i'm with joe. when we hangout alone, which is like hmm, once every FOUR months he always tries getting with me. i've never done anything with him but god i want to so bad. even though its so wrong because he has a girlfriend ive never been so comfortable with any other guy.
i tell joe alot, he's always there for me. when i cry, he holds me and tells me everythings going to be okay. when i laugh, he smiles. when i look sad he always knows and asks "whats wrong, cheer up" and even when i say "nothing's wrong..." he always knows there is.
i'm not happy unless i'm with joe. i see him probably once a month because hes with his girlfriend 24/7. she sleeps over at his house, he's been to her cabin, she's been on trips with his family and that hurts soooo bad. his brothers and sisters adore me, everytime i see them they scream my name and come give me a hug.
i've never told him i've had feelings for him but i know he knows by how i talk to him, how i flirt with him. but what good is it doing? i'm obviously not good enough for him to break up with his girlfriend. and i dont want things to be awkward between us.
i love how so many girls think hes hot, but no matter how many girls throw themselves at him he will never act different around me. his current girlfriend, has been his only girlfriend. the things he does sexual, hes only done with one girl, and thats his girlfriend.
i rememeber about two years ago this guy i was interested in broke my heart and all i could say is "i need joe, i need to talk to him" because he truly makes me happy.
i honestly don't know what to do. my friends say, move on. you deserve better than him. but its not that easy! i've tried, i cant just let someone whose been in my life for six years just go away like that.
we barely text anymore because of his girlfriend. his girlfriend is the ONLY person who makes me cry because i know that she has him, and hes the only thing i want.
any suggestions? i'm so lost. i seriously realized i love this boy. my heart is broken. it breaks everyday when i wake up and realize he's still with her. i've tried meeting new guys, it doesnt work.
anything will help!
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you need to tell Joe about your feeling..really theres not much he you can do coz he love his gf, he is happy with her. You cant try to make him like you if he doesnt.when u tell him how you feel , if he doesnt like you then its best for you to move on and let him live his life with his gf. if he have a little feeling and willing to be in a relationship with you than good for you. But no matter what do not try to break up their relationship because you really gotta think about his gf's feeling not only urs..it will help if you stop talking to him as well and meet other guys...3 years is a long time with her obviously he really love her..Im saying this coz ive been with my bf for more than 4 yrs and if a girl tries to break us up or love my man i would be furious and tell my man not to talk to that girl. you really gotta put yourself in her position no matter how much you love him. slowy move on if he doesnt feel any way for you.
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What exactly is taking a break from a relationship? Like what goes on during it? (link)
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talkin a break simply means taking sometime or days away from each other. meantime they both can think if they wanna be together, and realize alot of things..They can realize if they miss each other or lost interest in them and can move on with someone else. Its actually healthy and good when a relationship is begining to fall. ya may end up back together or maybe not.but at the end it was becoz ya realize if ya r meant to be or not.
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I have been dating a girl for around a year and a half now and both of us want to get married and live together. I have known her for over 5 years and we have spent just about every day, all day, together in the past two years including work the past 8 months. Throughout this time we have gotten along great and only had minor problems that we easily talked through and never fought over. We know each others life styles and how we live since we spend all our time at each others houses so I don't believe there will be any surprises after marriage. The question I have is is it a good idea to propose since we are only 19 years old? If I did we would be engaged for about a year and a half to 2 years. (link)
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go for it...if you feel that it is the right time for you to propose to her, do it..Love is strong and i know that you know what love is..19 aint even that bad because im 19 and ive been with my bf for 4 years and if he propose to me now, i will defintiley say yes. Live a happy with her!
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hey im 18/f and on thursday i have my first pap smear and pelvic exam. Im kinda nervous because i've never had one done and i've heard that it hurts a little bit. I am sexually active and on birth control so they need to see if everything is good like a yearly check up. The only thing i've had done before was like an ultra sound of my ovaries they like stuck a probe up my vagina and looked at them. Somebody who has had these done please tell me how the experience was for you. Thanks a bunch!
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it wasnt bad at all, just a ,little uncomfortable because someone you dont know it checking you out..But all that crap about people saying that it hurts bad, it doesnt..everyone is different though but it will be over in seconds.
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My friend is taking lots of drugs.
I asked her what she's taken and she listed a lot of things including Crack and LSD...
Shrooms, E, pot... Much, much more.
)': It hurts me a lot to know this...
What can I do?
I want to help her...
But when she's not on drugs, she gets really depressed. and Cuts her self...
She use to cut herself, then got on drugs... now doesn't cut herself...
What can I do or say? (link)
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you can be very supportive..talk to her about getting help wheather going to rehab, or seeing a counselor. She needs help right away before things get worst. You can also tell someone older than you about her situation so you wont be alone in this. Such as your mom, dad, sis, bro, aunt, uncle, and so..
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hi, 17/m. Ive been going out with this girl for about 2 months now. We really liked each other in the begining. She's on holiday, and is coming back next week (she will have been away for a month). I'm not sure if its because i havn't seen her or anything, but im starting to have second thoughts. I know she really likes me, but i dont know if i like her as much as i used to.
Im not sure what the reason for this change in thought is. One of my female friends told me that if i dont like her, i should end the relationship, because its not nice to lead her on, and the longer i stay in the relationship, the harder its going to be to end it. But she also said, that if i was unsure, i should stick with it, because i may regret it if i ended it.
Any help people? im rather confused. Cheers (link)
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you need to wait till she comes back from vacation and then decide from there. Im surprise you dont miss her, maybe this time apart seriously think about ya.
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i have a forever 21 gift card, and it said that i can use it online.
i'd like to do that, but i'm not sure where i can enter a cerial number or whatever so that i can use it.
can anyone help mee? (link)
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give it to the cashier and they will do everything for you.
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Okay so me and my boyfriends one year anniversary is coming up and i have NO idea what to do. We've never really given eachother anything for month anniversarys because well neither of us really have any money, and dont work. (were 17) but i really wanna do something special for him. I can get some money from my parents. hes my best friend, we've known eachother for years and i have never been happier with anybody else. His style is like fitted hats, baggy jeans and skater shoes, i dont know how to classify him. He drinks and smokes(not such a great thing i know) and he LOVES cars. any idea what i could do or get him? any help is greatly appreciated! (link)
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maybe cook for him....take him out to a movie & dinner...a watch, clothes, or start him up with collecting cars.
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So I'm to the point in my friendship with a girl that I'm ready to ask her out, and I think she likes me too although of course I'm nervous anyway. SO I have thought of about 3 ways to do it and I want to know which one I should use.
1) Just straight up tell her my feelings for her. Probably the most risky one in my opinion. Also then "ask" her if she feels the same way.
2) Be funny about it, and make it not a question but more of a command, like "so when are you going to let me take you out on a date?" Like with a smirk, and real direct. To me this seems less risky and less awkward. But of course she could laugh it off and I wouldn't get an answer.
3) Play 20 questions with her, and like for all my questions it would be "do you like a guy," and then ask questions describing myself "is he tall," "does he like sports," etc. and then for the last question I would ask if she wanted to be my girlfriend. This sounds the funnest, but I think it would be really hard to steer the conversation that way.
4) I'll also take any other suggestions, thanks!!! (link)
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tell her straight up, dont be immature about telling her..let her know how you feel, you got nothing to loose.
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14/F
Okay. Like, really, I am about ready to just give up on guys. Ugh. So this guy I like right now (well not really anymore) is a complete ahole, I don't even know why I like him. But he really only just wants to feel me up. Everytime I text him or call him, he says he's busy and that he'll text/call me when he's done... he NEVER does. But of course, whenever he calls/texts I should just be ready to talk to him. I don't know... He's sweet, but, what the hell?
Then there was the last guy I liked. I really, really, really, liked him for like two years, but he said he wasn't ready for a relationship. Which I can get because, yeah, I'm young and stuff so I thought we'd just wait till like highschool or something. Yeah well, he moved away. F my life.
And it kind of sucks because my three bestfriends are all insanely pretty, and I mean, I know I'm pretty too, but they're gorgeous. It sucks so bad that whenever we go out, the boys all flirt with them and then they turn to me like a sloppy second. Plus all of the guys at school like me, but they made this like "Top Five Hot Girls" and I wasn't on it. I know its stupid and dumb and immature and I should waste my time worrying about it, but it hurts you know? I love my friends, and they're the best but it's so hard hanging out with them, because all I can do is compare myself and it's all because I have sucky self esteem.
Then there's this other guy that I kind of like right now. But because I'm an idiot, I like threw myself at him. Like I tried to talk to him 24/7 so I looked like a creepy obsessed girl... and well I think I blew it with him which really stinks cuz I think it could have worked. And that whole ordeal really hasn't helped my confidence much at all.
So at the moment, I'm kind of just ready to give up. I think about all of that stuff I just wrote and, God, I feel so pathetic. I feel ugly and gross and unwanted and stupid. What the hell is wrong with me? Why can't I just be happy with myself? Why do these dumb boys' opinions matter to me so much? (link)
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listen your still young and i believe that almost every girl who was your age passed through this..Iguys your age dont know what they want, so they just play games anyways..be happy with yourself and feel confident, guys like that in a girl..But dont rush your life, there are plenty of other guys who thinks you are pretty and you dont even know about it. & so what if your friends are gorgeous, you are too & you need to show these guys that you are beautiful..You are only 14 hun, you are nowhere near the end of dating, it is just gunah start, have fun with it.
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Okayy so I have this friend, I'll call him A. So, me and A have known eachother since like 3rd or 4th grade. We've always been good friends! I don't know if he's ever liked me or not..but, we get along very good. I think he's pretty cool and everything and I wouldn't mind dating him. He broke up with his girlfriend and told me that he was looking for a new one. He told me some girl asked him out..but he doesn't like her and told her he isn't looking for one..but then he told me he actually is he just didn't want to tell her that. I told him I never had a boyfriend before..and he said "you can get a boyfriend". So, we talked about that for a little while..and then we stopped and changed the subject. Basically, everytime we talk..we never run out of things to talk about, we alwayas laugh at eachothers jokes, and we're 100% comfortable with eachother. My question is..do you think I have a chance or something? I know that's stupid to ask but I just want some advice! Please and thankyou. :) (link)
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sometimes best friends or friends become lifetime lovers. which is a good thing, whats better than to be with someone who you feel totally comfortable with..I think A has something going on for you...I say talk to him more and try to get him to talk about relationship more..Maybe then you can try to talk about u & him.
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16/f
i'm actually not sure if my boyfriend is forcing me to stay with him or anything, it's just that me and him has been together for about seven months. sometimes, when me and him get into a fight, i would try to break up with him.. but then he would just cry and beg me to stay. but sometimes, i feel like i want to leave and be single but hearing him cry always gets to me. i always start crying because he cries, my heart feels heavy. i wasn't sure if that him crying would hold me back from what i wanted to do... or i just notice that i really do like him? i'm not sure... help me please? (link)
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instead of breakin up with him, take a break from him...this will help you to realize if you really want to be with him or not..Maybe you would start missing him and want him even more..take a break its healthy & good to think about what you really want..you have to tell him that he needs to understand what a break mean and give you your space.it doesnt mean a complete break up, it simply means a couple of days without being with each other and talking, to clear your head.take life easy, dont stress.
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I was on the on the phone again with my guy friend and he was suppose to sing song to me..He sung this song called I love you...AFter he sing it,,he say: "Now I can't get this i love you sonf out of my head..I dont know why"
Is he hinting sumehing?
..how is this important? (link)
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this is cute, spend more time with him and watch for some singals and flirting..he might have alreay fallin for you..
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15/f
so one a two days ago me and my mom and dad were downstairs looking at her new truck (there divorced) and we live in apartments and we were in the open garage and this hot guy my age walked past us and was looking at me the whole timeee he walked past us and my dad like gave him a death stare because he was "checking me out" and i had never seen him before and then yesterday me and my friend went swimming at the pool and he showed up by him self but he was looking at me like the whole fricken time! like all day. and then his hot friend came. and they were like trying to impress me, you could tell. but he continued to look at me!
but he never talked to me.
sooo should i introduce myself or what?!
ughhh and why do you think he was staring at me the whole time?!?!
im so clueless!
helppppppppp/
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aww i remember these days....He definitly likes you, might be a little crush going on there...next time smile..trust me when a guy like someone they cant wait to long to approach the girl, he will soon do it..I say give it more times you see him, for you to talk to him if he dont make the first move. He might be shy if he doesnt say something first, so thats why we have to do the talking first. =)
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ok, i am a gurl, duh, and for age we'll just say im not of legal age to have sex, but i really love my boyfriend, that or i am just crazy, and we had sex, but that was roughly a month ago and i still havent got my period, but im not regular or any thing but im still worried, so my question is, is ther a age u have to be to get a pregnacy test? and if there is what is it? and secondly is it too late to figure out if im pregnant this way?? do i have to wait?? because i dontknow if it has to be done right away after words or not, thanks so much in anvance and i i really apresheate this, byes (link)
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wow you must be really young in asking these questions and by the way you write, but im not here to judge i just hope that next time you would think twice about sex. Anyways, theres no age limit in buying a pregnancy test, so i suggest you buy one to be on the safe side. You shouldnt be worried unless he told you that he accidently cum in you...besides that i wouldnt worry to much...Buy the pregnancy test once you miss your period. I'll advise you to talk to an older person in taking the test correctly, because if you do it wrong it can show up with negatives results.Next time use a condom, or stay away from sex untill you know the consequences of it. Pregnancy is no joke.
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alot of girls are asking me out and i like some of them but i dont wanna go out with them...dunno why..ive never had a gf but 13 ppl have asked me out this year, why dont i want a gf??am i afraid?
also, what do u do when your REALLY bored at home? (link)
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i dont know why you dont have a gf, only you know if your scared or not. your still young so you shouldnt worry about having a gf. Unless you want one, you gotta step it up and get with a girl. You might be fearing to have one becoz you never had a gf? im guessing. Its no big deal, you learn something new in every relationship. =)
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okay so this is my situation, ALOT of people say i need to brake up with my boyfriend. He does this where he will talk dirty to girls and ask them to give him head and stuff on the computer.. mostly aim and myspace but he never actually goes threw with it he only talks about it and if i bring it up he freaks out and deneys it, i looked at his myspace messages one day i know that as wrong but .. i had a huntch and i was right and i brought it up and he turned it around on me the thing is.. im compleatly in love with this guy so much that i dont even care if he cheats on me.. well i mean i care and all but i wont do anything about it because i love him so much, weve been dating a little over a year and ive gotten pregnant by him but we lost the baby at 10 weeks and i love his family and friends and.. i just love him .. but then i see all these guys who want to date me and its like.. sometimes i wish i could date someone else because i know what my boyfriend does is wrong but i cant help it, im attracked to my last ex who treated me better than any guy before me never argue or anything, my dated for 8 months and i broke up with him because my ex who is my current boyfriend wanted me back.. we dated for 4 months before.. and we argue all the time at least a few times a week.. i dont know what to do if i brake up with him im going to be so deppressed it feels like i could never live without him.. what do i do? or does anyone have any advice for me at all? his sister told me i was over reacting and that he would never actually do it so its not cheating.. am i over reacting?
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this is not a healthy relationship..just coz you love someone doesnt mean that you have to stay with them forever. He is hurting you constantly, lying, and sneking around. This is no good. he is obviously playing games and does not care about your feeling at all. he doesnt care to hurt you or see you hurting. he should not be talking dirty to others girls if he is in a relationship with you. denying what he did was selfish of him. If you see that he doesnt change let him go, this would only get worst!
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I'm 18 and I really like my guy friend we've been friends since 10th grade and he asked me out one day then by a note and I never replied because I didnt' really know what to do and I still like him but when i send him e-mails over myspace he hardly ever responds and when he does it's really short. i feel like he's the only guy i could be with because he's so great but i dont know what to do because i don't know if he's mad at me or something he's just the greatest guy that i have ever met. please help me on what to do. thanks (link)
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you should of reply to the note..you got to take advantage of a good opportunity like this. he can probably be a lil mad becoz you never gave him an answer. He is now assuming that u dont like him. You need to now have a talk with him and tell him how you feel about him, and work things out from there. tell him before its too late.
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Okay so I like this guy a lot..I've known him for 3 years and we were alway's good friends. He said he loved me. Once, while we were dating and when he was drunk, he flirted with some of my friends..he apologized though, and never did it again. We dated for around 3 months..but I broke up with him because he can sometimes be clingy and mean. I also liked another guy, which probably led me to breaking up with him also. It's been 2 years since we dated. Basically, we started texting/talking again. We stopped talking after I dated the guy I liked, and he dated another girl who I knew, but never really liked. I broke up with my boyfriend 3 months ago..and his girlfriend broke up with him almost 4 months ago. He was heartbroken. He alway's had bad luck with women. I didn't have feelings for him..until we started talking again. The major problem is..he still isn't over her 100%. I try to help him out by giving him advice.I like him though, I've told him I do. He hasn't really said that to me though. He want's to be single for a little while. But, he told me, I can still have the benefits. I feel like he's using me? But I don't know. He said he likes talking to me, and he's even said he loves me. But I want a relationships..not the benefits. And, another thing..he ignores my texts often. One time I asked why and he was a little moody that day and said "I don't have to talk to you everyday so don't get mad when I ignore your texts" =/. I found that rude. But I still talked to him. He randomly texted me last week saying he's sorry he hasn't texted me but he will talk to me the next day. I got nothing from him. When I asked he said he was tired so he went to sleep. But a few days later he mentioned how he was talking to his ex gf that day. So, I guess he was lying to me about being THAT tired. And today..I texted him saying "Hey, how are you?" and he ignored it =/. I don't know..sometimes he acts as if he has feelings, but then sometimes he ignores me. I need advice on this pleasee. Thankyou! (link)
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seems like he was really into his ex.. he is obviously still heart broken over the breakup. I dont think rite now at this point that he would wanna be more than friends with you because if he did he would try to communicate with you on the regular. He just needs time to clear his head & he cleary stated that he does not want a relationship. I think you should just be friends and text him probably twice a week to see how he is doing. in a nice way he is tryin to tell you that he just not into a relationship with u now.
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