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Age gaps
I wanna know everyones' opinions on age differences in relationships. Mind you, this is out of total curiosity, as a friend of mine and I were discussing this the other day. So I just want to know what you think, like, how big of a difference is too much, and what not.
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if you over 18 i think age shouldnt matter..under 18 it deff. does
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When you're a teenager, age difference is very important.
I'd say the most you should be apart is 3 years.
But, if you're older, ten years, or even fifteen, doesn't matter.
If you're 13, the oldest you should be dating is 16.
If you're 33, I wouldn't really care if you were dating a 46 year old, or maybe even older. It's perfectly legal, and I guess whatever floats your boat.
It kind of goes case-by-case, and I've never really had a rule for ALL ages.
--Jack
(17/m)
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i agree the older you get the less it matters, cause of course it would totally look wrong for a 20 year old to date mm idk a 15 or 14 year old .. but but what about a 26 year old and a 20 year old its not bad after all...it depends on maturity level though, but i doo think that it matters when the guy is older above 18 and gilrs are underage and really young..cause it makes em grow faster . but thats just my opinion :)
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The older you get, the less the gap matters.
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ive witnessed a bad experience with huge age gaps.
after my mother divorced my step-dad, she started dating a 27 yr old! hes young enough to be MY BOYFRIEND. its gross
i agree that age usually doesnt matter but the larger the age gap, the bigger difference in maturity.
he was so immature, he ended up hurting my mom really badly.
hope this helps! =]
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Age is just a number to me. But, I would say, for instance..if you're 14 years old dating a 19 year old..that's not only illegal but it's definitely a huge age difference. The 14 year old would still be in his/her early years of high school, meanwhile the 19 year old is most likely in college and has a job. In those kinds of situations, especially since the person is 14 and the other is 19, I would say age does matter. However, the case is different when both people are over 18. I mean, my parents are 4 1/2 years apart. And, my grandparents are 5 years apart. I guess, my answer is close to everyone elses..as long as it's legal, it's fine.. and it doesn't matter how old each of you are.
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well i am one of those people who likes to think age is just a number. but the law likes to disagree with me. in a relationship i feel the age difference should stop around 5 or so years(when you are still in your teen and early adult hood ages.) but as friends who cares?
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I dont think there is an age gap. As long as the two people are being honestly in love with each other, then love is love.
Hope I hleped out with your curiosity :-)
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As long as there are two consenting adults, and I agree that many people would probably say around age 30+ is when the age gap does not matter as much, around 5-10 years difference, maybe even more, because the two will probably have their life in order (career, priorities) and know what they want, and are ready to settle down. Otherwise, for all other age groups, I'd say one or two years, unless it's the 17/18 yrs old mark you gotta be careful about being legal and all that.
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In practice, for teenagers, one year or two at most would be sensible. People do tend to develop a lot in their teenage years, and the nature of relationships can be different. Say, even the differences between a 16-year-old who is still in high school and a 17-year-old who has started university can be significant. Another example is, if one partner has a job and the other isn't old enough to get a job, it tends to create power imbalances. The expectations for sexual activity can also be an issue.
For adults, especially if you're working and responsible for supporting yourself, age matters less. People who are close in age are still more likely to have things in common and be at the same stages of life, but adults do tend to have more life experience and be more able to deal with things. Being responsible for oneself is a significant factor because one tends to be more aware of consequences of actions.
(This is not to say that adults don't have power imbalances in their relationship. People can have relationship issues regardless of age.)
Who hasn't heard of couples who are far apart in age but are happy together? It can work. It's just inappropriate if the relationship started when the younger partner is still a kid.
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It really depends on the situation, the ages, and who you ask.
Everyone can agree that 12 and 19 are big differences (not to mention illegal) but that 60 and 67 are different.
My boyfriend is 25 and I'm 18. I don't think our difference is too big, but other people might disagree with me. And that's fine.
I think as long as the relationship isn't illegal, I don't care how old the people are. :)
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Um, well, the half your age plus 7 rule always works a charm.
Other than that I think it entirely depends on your age i.e If you're 14 and the other person is 20, that is probably an age difference which is too big, but if you were 34 and he was 40, it's a completly different situation.
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