i am 15 years old a male and i'm christian i love god and i hear a lot of teenagers say they are having sex they talk about sex a lot i do get urges sometimes but i don't want to have sex until i'm married some people think it's weird that i'm still a virgin but i want to live by god's word and wait for marriage and want to be with someone who also believes in no sex before marriage there's nothing wrong with waiting is there?
There is absolutely nothing wrong with waiting. It's in the Bible that we should wait until marriagE. Dont worry about what other people think or say because you serve God, not people.
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It's gross, especially when it's overt and/or persistant. I thought a relationship was meant to be between 2 people? Why do some couples try to get other people's attention? I noticed yesterday at the mall. There was this interracial couple all over each other, as we stood in line at this food place, and i'd focus on other things but they'd sometimes look back with this look on their face line they want their relationship to interest people, incite anger or jealousy, etc. it was awkward for me, directly behind them, and others in line. I have no problem with any couple, interracial, gay, lesbian, transgender, one young and one old, etc. I'm happy others can find love and be in relationships. I'm not jealous either, it's just uncomfortable to essentially be viewing foreplay without consent. There were children in line, too. Some people seem to get a sexual thrill out of people seeing their pda and that just seems sick and self centered. It makes me understand why there are countries that ban it.
That question was a little funny to me. I have no idea of why they did it but they seem to be attention freaks. Don't worry about their stupidity.
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Hi,
I'm usually pretty good at giving advice, but this I can't help myself with. I'm 13 and I just got transferred to a new place. I've been here for two months now. As many people here are teens they love to act all grown up and I'm not comfortable with the kind of things they do and the language they use, so I'm not friends with anyone, I tried to adjust and get used to them but without a friend I just can't manage. I'm kind of shy but I can make friends easily, but no one is like me (a little kiddish and crazy) everyone loves to act all grown up. I'm having a tough time making friends, please give me some advice on how I can adjust or I'll end up a lonely girl who talks to herself
You don't always have to adjust and blend in. I'm just like you. Instead of trying to fit in, stand out and just focus on your school work. Its okay to be alone, just wait and pray about it.
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hi hope you can help me i'm a 15 year old male i'm a devout christian i love god with all my heart and i wanna be a better christian and devote my life to god i want to help people to get closer to god i wantto start to spread god's word i'm a bit nervous not sure where to start but i want to start talkinhg to people about god maybe start with people that i know not sure how do i go about it?
Just start out small, the Bible says to start off in your home. Talk to your parents, your neighbors, friends, and family. Even if you get scared, start off by talking to animals and plants. Trust me, they can hear you. Just be positive and pray to Jesus and ask him to protect you and inspire you as you go on about your way.
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I'm 14 and I've been cutting for a few years. I really want to stop but I keep failing. Does anyone have some good advice?
I think you should take things slowly. I've been through the same things and it get's better but I still want to do it sometimes. I'd like for you to talk to me when you start feeling like that again. My kik is Kori_Rice but if you want to talk to me, you have to remind me of where I know you from so I won't block you.
Just please text me sometime.
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Im dating a man now weve been dating fir two months. He got married when he was 23 and got one daughter. Last 2013 he got another son with different women but they got separted now the custody if the child is with him. his open to me with regards to his family and child . Though our dating still remain secret ..the two of us only know were dating . im still single his older than me about 10 years older shoul i continue to date him?
No, you should not continue to date a married man. That is not the right thing to do and I know that you would feel bad if you were in his wife's position. Don't do things without thinking about how you would feel if that was done to you. You should tell him that you don't want to see him anymore because It's the right thing to do.
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ive been pretty depressed for a while... i got my first bf in feb. 2014 and we broke up last week. also my frinds started fighting and hating eachother. i lost my only 5 frinds that i had made since 1rst grade. i started getting bad grades on my report cards and im getting made fun of for it. im just 10 years old but i cut myself and hav suicidal thoughts... please give me advice.
I'm 13 and suicidal. My friends left me because I told one of them that I'm suicidal and she told the rest of them and they don't want to speak to me anymore. You should try to relax and just talk to me. I'll be your friend. My kik is Kori_Rice and I promise I'll talk to you. I'm here for you and I promise I'll never leave because I know how you feel. You're not alone.
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Personally, I have been very miserable all of my life. I have suffered from OCD as long as I can remember. I moved from New York to Florida when I was five years old. It was very traumatic for me. I have tried to commit suicide, but I just ended up in a mental institution. I do see a psychiatrist, but she does not help me. In fact, I only see her for the medication. I am absolutely miserable right now, especially with my job. I decided that I will no longer give any types of hints about suicide because I don't want to end up in a mental institution again. That did nothing to help me. I am going through preparations (getting my house ready, cleaning, trying to pay off bills).
I understand where you're coming from. Maybe you're just really stressed. I'm here for you and I'll help you with whatever you need. Just message me and I promise that I'll find something to help. If you give me the time, I promise I'll help you. For now, just think about what makes you happy. Go to a calming place and just take a break from the world. Take a nap sometime (when you have time) and just rest. Do what makes you happy and I'm sure you'll forget about the other stuff soon. I promise
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Hi my parents finally found out that I want to be tested for being bipolar. It runs in my family and my emotions have been like a roller coaster since I was little. I'm kind of happy that I can get help, but Im scared. Like scared to the point were I would say I'm not going and wouldn't cooperate. And the thing is I don't know why! I've wanted help for so long but now that I can get it I'm terrified. I guess I'm afraid the medicine is going to change who I am and I've done some reasearch and the side effects are kinda bothersome to me. I dont know. Has any one ever been screened before for it and is now on the medication?
It's simple. You're scared to find out if there's something really wrong with you. I've been going through the same thing but that's because i'm depressed and I've been this way for a while. Calm down and relax. If you really want the help, go for it and see what can be done about it.
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Hi! I'm a 14-year-old girl and I've been feeling really weird lately. Everything that I'm about to list has been going on for about a month now: I cry over EVERYTHING. For example: My dad said to stop playing guitar because I was too loud and he was trying to work so I went to my room and cried. I've been really irritable as well. I do have a generally short fuse but now it's even worse; I've even been going off on my parents occasionally (which I feel terrible about afterward). My little sister even decided not to share a bedroom with me because I was constantly yelling. I've been eating and sleeping way more as well. I had a relatively healthy diet in the past, but now I get home from school and eat a bag of popcorn, a pop tart, crackers, chocolate, and anything else I can get my hands on. I get super drowsy and just kind of lay down wherever I am whether that be the floor, a chair, a bed. I'm wide awake throughout the day but I get home and it's like school drained me of my life. I use to really like school. I don't like a lot of things that I use to like. I'm openly rude to all of my friends and I don't want to be around them. I sit in the bathroom and read during lunch periods sometimes. Speaking of reading, I only feel okay when I'm reading or on my blog. What's wrong with me??
I think you're going through depression. Depression can be caused by anything, I know because I'm going through the same thing and my symptoms are exactly the same as yours. I'm here for you and I'd love to talk about it with you. Boys threw me into this depression and it's getting worse. If you want to talk to me, just message me and ask me anything because i'm here for you and we can figure this out together.
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Hi, my name is jhon and im 21 years old, I live in CT and i've been planning to end my life, its a long story, i wish it didnt have to be this way. I came to the u.s in 2007 i was 16, i got in high school unfortunately i met some "friends" that used to smoke weed and skip school all day, decision i regret now, I didnt care about anything I did'nt even know how life really was. I dropped out school and started looking for jobs, then i met a girl that soon would become my girlfriend, long story short, i was irresponsible and immature and i ended up quitting or losing a few jobs that was back in 2010/2011 but ive been struggilng since i got here, now 2013 i had a really good job traveling it seemed promising i was happy because since this job seemed stable my now ex girlfriend and I planned on moving in together soon and i was giving my 100%, I used to install light pannels, led's etc. at that time my girlfriend and I was dating for almost 3 years, we broke up less than a month ago, when i lost my job.. since there wasnt high demand they could not have me in the company when there was no projects, i have debts too and no savings, anyway i told my girlfriend this and she broke up with me saying she was tired of my unstability, and that it was never going to change, ive been living with my mother and her boyfriend althought me and her boyfriend never liked each other and now it got to a point where he hates me and blames me for the problems he had with my mother, and she migh hate me too.
Now he kicked me off the house, even though i dont have a job, and i been looking for jobs but have had no luck yet, long story short everything came down hill for me all at the same time and my mother has no money to help me, i dont think my dad does either, and i dont have friends, at least here in the u.s. so basically I will end up living in the streets when this month is over, i will have no chances of finding a job then. I tried to enlist in the army too but i didnt have that much time to wait until the whole process was done, i only had a month worth of rent, right now i dont see to get out of this, i'd probably die from starvation or heavy winter who knows,but i dont wanna wait until that, ill just accelerate the process, i dont want to be a homeless either with no job living out what people decides to give you. I know all this is my fault. I just didnt want to end it like this, i wanted to do so much for my mother since i havent been a good son to her and i wanted to show my ex girlfriend hat i really wanted to succeed. My question is what should I do? I dont have any resource left and i think this is really the end for me.
Thank you all for your time and excuse the long paragraph and bad grammar.
P.S i suffer from depresion and this is not the first time ive had suicidal thoughts, ive had this more than 4 years ago. And now i might be decided, it whats is left to do anyway.
I think that you should just find another way to release. Don't do it because there are people out there who DO care for you. I'm here and I'm sorry that I couldn't get to this sooner.
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i was eating a peace of leatace for dinner and it attacked me!! i mean it actualy attacked me instead of me eating it it was eating me!!! my friends call me syco sally but there not really my friends there scared of me! is something wrong with me or was i daydreaming?
syco sally
I believe that you were daydreaming or maybe you were in a trance. It's a high possibility that you were under some stress and you unconsciously created an escape and your mind projected an image or action that you thought was going on but really didn't happen. I don't think you're crazy. If they're really not your friends then I think that they were just picking on you. Don't share anything else with them because it could end up hurting you. If you need anything else, talk to me. I'm 13 but I've been studying psychology ever since I was 7. Have a great day.
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I have one coping skill and that is being on the computer. It is not healthy in other peoples opinion but I don't care. It is the only thing that helps me. I have tried everything else anyone has recommended but people are still telling me that being on the computer is not healthy. What do I do?
People are different so they have different coping skills and they think differently. If that's your happy place then go with it. Just do it in a healthy way, monitor your time and try and take time out of that one activity and think of something else to do. Maybe you should try going to sleep or daydreaming to help you. Do whatever helps you because everyone doesn't know your situation and even if they did know, they probably wouldn't understand. Pay attention to yourself and if you need anything, just ask me because I understand.
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First off, I am 14 & he is 16. We both met eachother on 1/15/14. We are going to make one year on February 19, 2015. But this year has been a real struggle for the both of us. In the beginning we loved each other like crazy. He knew i wasnt allowed to date though. My parents found out about us and forbid us to see eachother. I have really strict parents so i cant even hang out with friends. This struggle has caused us both to lose feelings. We still love/care each other so we havent broken up, but currently we are on a break. What do you think I should do ?
I think you should just wait it out because love is eternal and never goes away. If the feeling of love go away, then it never was love in the first place. Just don't worry about it and focus on your school work. Everything will fall into place but you have to be patient because everything will happen in it's own time.
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The passing of three relatives in the pass couple of years has made me wonder what happens when you die. I used to deal with depression and I did not want to live but now that I am happy I don't want to die.I am a young adult and would love to believe I will live to grow old. But,I am afraid to go to sleep because I might die in my sleep. I do believe in God and I pray but it still bothers me that I will die one day. I understand everyone will die but once you realize it will happen to you it is hard not to have anxiety about it because its permanent. It weird to grasp that I might not exist. It seems like No one really "knows" everyone just "believe" something will happen. Should I change my perspective?
You clearly have Thanatophobia (the fear of dying) and it's perfectly fine. I'm a Christian and I know that there is only a heaven and a hell. Just make sure you're right with Jesus and everything will be alright. He will comfort you and it should actually make you at ease to know that you'll be in heaven if you live right in Christ and follow his teachings and accept him. Don't worry about it, the only reason you'd worry is if you don't know Jesus. Then you should get to know him.
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I want sex with my boyfriend but I'm lucky if I get a kiss of him. Im a girl and I only got my first bra today and I'm not finished with puberty I've snogged and my ex showed me how to have sex but he left my school my other ex dumped me for two girls in my class. My boyfriend isn't that serious and I want more but the ex that is still in school won't go back out with me.
Just take a breath and realize what you're saying. You're nine years old which is way too young to even be thinking about sex. Everyone has urges and that's perfectly normal but you shouldn't let anyone use you. Sex will link you to someone spiritually and emotionally for sure and that's too much to handle. To protect yourself from alot of heart break and deadly diseases, it's best that you wait until you're married to have sex. Take it from me, I only want the best for everyone and I don't want to see people get hurt. Just wait until you're married and you'll be fine. To get rid of those urges, just do something that you like to do. Take your mind off of it and then you won't have to worry about it. Another way to get rid of those urges is to think about yourself dying from an STD (sexually transmitted disease). That always helps me.
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I am a female age 24, my Fiancé and I have been together about two years and some times it feels like we couldn't be farther apart. He has been married two time and divorced, been to prison, and went all over the US. I have never been married, have no children, no debt besides my college loand, I am a parttime student, and have only had one serious relationship that lasted for four years outside of my current relationship .I have known him for six years and never known him to be abusive. The only incident I have ever been told about was him pushing his ex against the bed and locking her in to keep her from hitting him. He is a decent man but like all men he has his flaws. One of which happens to be an anger problem. He is on bipolar medication for the anger and fluctuating mood swings. He did this for us and himself because I told him I would have to leave if not. However sometimes we can not afford his medication and when this happens he reverts back to an ass. When he is off and twice when he started his medication he would get really angry and he ends up throwing things, breaking chairs, punching wholes in the wall, or trying to keep me from leaving or he thinks I am going to lock him out of the house. I have never given him any reason to believe this but one of his ex's had done this to him previously. This man has hurt me in the process twice now and I don't know what to do. He is worth saving and I want this to work. He is good to me but has never been in a normal relationship because of the type of women he has been with. We argue because he makes some of the dumbest decisions I have ever seen a person make and because he lacks responsibility. He has changed so much in two years its unbelievable even to me he has held down a steady job and we were able to get his license back, he has gotten a divorce and is currently trying to get custody of his daughter to get her out of a neglectful home with her mother. I have helped him with all of this but it seems we never get a break now is first wife is going after him and he has not seen or been around this child but for maybe a month since she was born. Her mother's choice not his. I know he is a good man and worth saving because I have seen how much he has tried to change and stay changed for the better. The problem is he has been in prison most of his life for stupid child hood decisions to sell drugs to have money because of the life he was raised in. The bigger problem is that we couldn't afford his medication this last month and we are stuggling to keep even the basic bills paid. Tonight he hurt me which he has only done one other time. He threw me against the wall. I am not afraid of this man because I know I can defend myself if needed but this caught me off gaurd. The other times it was just objects but the last time he bruised my wrist because he didn't want me to leave and I put him in his place. His first instinct is anger and I don't know how to break him of this habit. He had a brian aneurysm burst in his head when he was younger, his family all have anger issues, and he had to be tough to survive at a young age in prison. I want to help this man because I love him but I don't know if he will ever get this under control. Does anyone know of any free help in middle TN for this there is no way with all of the child support and me out of work that we can pay for an expensive counselor. Is this a normal amount of anger for a man in this position and can I save him? He means the world to me and his daughter calls me mommy and has since the first day we started getting her she is like my own. My family has accepted him and his little girl. They all love her and have done anything they could to help us out. She needs her father because he is the only person out there that can help her. I have to help him so that he can help her. I don't want to leave him because I love him and this little girl more than I can explain. This is my family but I will not stay with a man that abuses or hits me I can't my mother went through it and his father and mother where the same. I have always been taught to stick up for myself and never let a man put his hands on me in an ill fashion but this is uncharted water for me. I feel like our relationship has been very onesided in areas but great in others. After all of the problems we are hardly ever together sexually any more, he has trouble simply loving on me, and he is a bit of a beginner in the bedroom even though he has been married. We got engaged in December. I love him and I know he can be a great man I have seen it, how much he has changed, and how willing he is to get help. I just don't know what else to try. Please help if you can.
You should just sit him down and talk with him. If he loves you, he'll truly listen and understand. Tell him what you want out of the relationship and what you don't want out of the relationship and if he cant accept that, maybe you should cut him loose. Everyone has problems and everyone can be helped but if you think that you are in any kind of danger, you should just back off and distance yourself form him because your situation could also cause other people harm. Take some time to think about you final decisions before you make them because some decisions can lead to bad results. I wish you the best and just do what you think is right.
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Hey so um, I've been trying to do something special for my girlfriend, and I think I found something good to do. She told me what school she goes to, ( we go to different schools ) so I looked it up and I found the schools number. I know it sounds COMPLETELY stupid, but I think it might be romantic if I made like a little announcement on the speaker phone sayin something sweet or something. I know it's a dumb idea, but you see I really love her, and she knows that, I'm just a dumb guy tryin to do something special for his girlfriend. Honestly, I think it's great but I'm wondering if it's the best thing to do, should I?
Yes! You should totally do it. Even though she knows that you love her, the whole school needs to know it too. They need to know that she's your girl and that they shouldn't try to approach her because she's yours. It's super romantic and cute. Girls love to know how guys feel about them, just make her day and I promise you that you wont regret it.
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