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Self harm
I'm 14 and I've been cutting for a few years. I really want to stop but I keep failing. Does anyone have some good advice?
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I think you should take things slowly. I've been through the same things and it get's better but I still want to do it sometimes. I'd like for you to talk to me when you start feeling like that again. My kik is Kori_Rice but if you want to talk to me, you have to remind me of where I know you from so I won't block you.
Just please text me sometime.
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At thirteen was when I started self-harming. It's not a healthy way to cope. At all. I know it numbs the emotional pain. That it seems physical pain is easier to deal with than emotional. And I am so proud of you for trying to stop. That's the first step. What I used to do to try to stop self-harming were these few things:
-Hold an ice cube against my wrist; that would give me the pain sensations that I loved from self-harming.
-write down the things I live for on my wrist (where I want to cut) with different color Sharpies.
-doodle on my wrist (where I want to cut) of different sorts of things with those Sharpies.
I also would advise you to confide in a therapist or counselor. Or you can e-mail me at poeticpagan@mail.com, I'm a great listener. c:
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well if you wanna stop cutting yourself then don't pick up the knife say to yourself i will not do it or think of happy things , cause if you do cut yourself again you might do it too deep and you can die so you don't need to cut yourself. do something productive like writing in a journal, poems, coloring, read a book . it will help you on not cutting yourself i hope i helped you
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I'm obligated to tell you to seek medical help. There's a lot of reasons people cut, and you'd be quite surprised at the variety of those reasons, so isolating the reason you cut and getting help with that emotion or scenario is really important.
In the interim, as an ex cutter myself, I have some things you can try.
If you're doing it because you connect to the pain of it, try rubber bands, or even better are those hair ties that have the little metal piece on them. You snap them and it stings like hell. It's not the same, of course, but you get used to it. Also, you can hold ice until your fingers burn... that's a good one...
If you're a picker, meaning you pick at scabs, put Elmer's glue on your skin in layers... let it dry, then another layer... putting it over red marker helps with the look of a scab. Then you can pick it off at your leisure as an anxiety reliever.
If you're doing it to see blood, draw on yourself. Draw all over yourself with red marker. It's not the same, but none of these things are, really. You have to be willing to compromise a little to make it work.
The big thing is that you're going to have to identify and DEAL WITH your triggers... which isn't easy, but it's necessary.
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I have a long time friend that used to cut and doesnt anymore. In conjunction with help she would also find rubber bands and put them around her wrists or arms and whenever the urge came on she would snap them against the skin to make her mind focus on that instead, at least until the urge would pass. Im saying do this instead of getting help but it COULD help if the urge is severe and your not currently seeing anyone for this or feel the urge still once you are getting help and theres no one else around to help.
good luck.
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I would consult your doctor about it as the desire to harm yourself in this manner is mental which doesn't mean you are crazy but means you need help in silencing the desire and what drives the cutting. You need to find the underlying problem depression for example and deal with the broader picture and what leads to it.
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