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Q: what does having your cake and eating it too mean?

like getting two things that you want kind of

Q: So I'm starting to learn guitar, does anyone know what contemporary songs I should start learning first? And I say contemporary, because I'd love to get myself pumped with learning guitar with songs I like. Like any songs from good bands I should try learning?

learn sweet home alabama..i know its not contemporary but its a good one

Q: im 14m and my doctor told me i need to increase my physical activitys because im at risk of having high blood pressure. swimming was working out but because it's aguast that's only gonna last me 2 or 3 more weeks. and i hate exercising because it's boring and i always get tired and feel bad about my self and when im in the pool i have fun and don't get tired or sweat and it isn't boring and i hear that in high school you get alot of homework so i don't know how im gonna find the time to please my teacher and my doctor at the same time
help!

ok just run to exercise.
and balancing hw and exercizing isn't that hard. i run xc for about 2 hours after school and still have time to be in almost all AP classes. it all depends on how responsibly you manage your time.

Q: My friend told me he started smoking weed so I want to know how bad it is. Is smoking weed considered a drug? And is it worse then ciggarettes? And is it addictive? Any more info about it would be appreciated!

ok wow a lot of people really fall for the government propoganda.
-weed is not as addictive as cigarettes, not even close. i have never heard of anyone having a physical dependence on weed'
-cigarettes are FAR worse for you. cigarettes cause hundreds of thousands of deaths each year (or more), while i have never heard of anyone dying from smoking weed
-it is considered a drug by the federal government, although it is less harmful than alcohol and ciggarettes
-i would visit the NORML website for some more info

Q: There's this guy who says he likes me (on this site) and I have no idea how to talk to him. Because I don't know who he is...he sent me a personal question about a girl named milly, me thinking it was a quincedent answered and when he gave me feed-back he said i like YOU (my name is milly)...so what do?
I don't get in a relationship with someone I don't know and I don't meet with someone somewhere who I talked to over the Internet...I want to ask him why and a bunch of questions...
please help if you know what I'm talking about and trying to say...
help!

uh quincedent?

**coincidence**

Q: Well, I have to shorten this a bit, as I could go on and on, but basically the story goes like this: One day, as I was sitting in my apartment, I began to hear some teenage girls talking about me throug the walls of the building. I found this strange, but stranger as I came to find they were discussing my thoughts. As time went on, I started hearing them in the shower, then at work and while doing other things. They told me they were psychics at first, and that I was psychic as well. I started hearing family and friends drop by every once in a while in my mind as well. It took me a while, but I finally realized the whole thing was a sham, and that I was being spoken to not by man, but by spirits. At that point, I addressed them as demonic, but having little faith in the idea (Christianity being abandoned due to a hypocritical upbringing), was NOT able to banish them in the name of the Lord. Their words are mostly torment, or "taunting" as they once put it, but at times they are nice, and joke around or have even encouraged me. The thing is, they are liars, and always have been, and they will NOT leave. I don't see any good here, I'm sure these spirits are unclean. Any advice? Looking for something unconventional, if possible. Thanks.

i would go to a psychologist

Q: next year im going to high school. the seniors initiate all of the freshmen. has anyone been initiated before? what did they do to you? please help. im scared to go to high school.

i'm gonna be a senior this year...pretty much we ignore freshmen because we get annoyed with their immaturity. i dont think any seniors will bother girls too much if thats what you are. high school isn't scary no seniors even talked to me really except the ones on my team when i was a freshman.
just don't be a typical freshman-loud, annoying, immature, think they're so cool since they're in hs-upperclassmen HATE that...just be cool

Q: heyy
i want some new songs but i cant think of any but i really like songs like over my head, collide, and such. i love everything else too but currnetly ive been listening to that type of music so any songs like that would be great!!

how to save a life-the fray
all at once-the fray
you and me-lifehouse
better days-googoo dolls
crash into me-dave matthews
wonderful tonight-eric clapton
you're beautiful-james blunt
high-james blunt
tears and rain-james blunt
100 years-5 for fighting
i'll be-edwin mccain
farmhouse-phish
scar tissue-red hot chili peppers
otherside-red hot chili peppers
when the stars go blue-tim mcgraw and faith hill

i really like music like that too those are some of my favorites

Q: My school has a strict dresscode
-only collared shirts or sweaters
-only SOLLID color pants or skirts (No jean at all)

Does anyone have some good suggestions on what i can wear?

i would wear solid colored pants or skirts and collared shirts or sweaters

Q: I'm kind of "addicted" to Gatorade. Everytime we go to the store, I buy it. And, instead of buying cokes to keep around the house like I use to, I now buy Gatorade.. and drink atleast 1 a day. Ok, my question is.. Is Gatorade bad for you? And is drinking this much harmful? Should I cut down on any/all/how much?

no its not harmful...a lot better for you than coke. it does have a lot of sugar though. you could buy the powder instead of buying actual gatorades its prob cheaper

Q: i run almost everyday, between 1-2 miles plus i walk 1-2 miles.

in my right outer thigh, it hurts like HELL. like where the muschle is. what can i do to make this feel better so i can run or what could it be?

and i stretch everytime i run.

ok so you shouldn't stretch before you run...run for a few minutes to get your muscles warmed up then stop and stretch. and then stretch after you finish. you probobly over-stretched it, which means it will take a few days to a week to go away. either that or its an IT band injury, and you should stop running for a while til it recovers (your IT band runs down the sides of your legs).
also, icy hot is not going to heal anything, its just meant as a pain reliever. if you want to actually heal something, you need to ice it for about 15 minutes a few times a day. and if you stretch it, do so gently so you don't strain it anymore.
trust me, i know these things in run cross country and track

Q: what are ways to get a flat stomach?
i don't really have a BIG stomach.
maybe just a half-inch of stomach out.
i do 15 sit-ups about almost every night.
but what else can i do to make it faster, i guess?

uhh do way more than 15 situps

Q: hey i think i wanna try the peanut butter thing before bed, but i have few questions about it first:
*How long before i sleep do i eat the peanut butter?
*does it matter if the peanut butter is creamy or crunchy?
* i want this question answered by someone who's really tried this: Does the peanut butter thing work??
Thanks...and i will rate your advice.

i seriously doubt it works, even if it does speed up your metabolism it will be countered by the fattiness of peanut butter in the first place.
plus stuff you eat before you go to bed just sits there and turns to fat. hence the expressions "after eight, gain weight"

Q: My mom just got drunk at her friends house. She came back asking me the same questions over and over. Im normally a smart a**. Im an attitude problem too. And I was doing my normal thing to her, like telling her to stop talking and stuff. I don'tlive with my mom, parents are divorsed. So Im used to only seeing her normal and fine and stuff. And she just blew up. I cant even tell you what she started saying

if she was drunk she will prob apologize in the morning

Q: Last year I took Algebra 1, and I sucked at it, but it wasn't me, it was the teacher. At the end of the year she ended up passing everyone in my class by one or two points, probably to make herself look good, because we were all failing miserable. Point is, I'm still moving onto Geometry next year..but I know absolutely nothing about Algebra 1, I didn't get anything out of that class. My mom will be getting me a tutor outside of school & I have notes on Algebra 1 now. But my question is, is Geometry harder than Algebra 1? Or is it similar? Does it deal with Algebra 1 alot/at all? Thank you.

i barely made a B in Algebra 1, but i made an A in geometry. it really depends on your learning style, geometry is much more visual. i would say there is very little if any algebra 1 in there, and if so its very basic.
basically geometry is everything you learned in elementary school (triangles, rectangles, squares, blah blah blah)...
the only math class i ever made an A in
watch out for algebra 2 it sucked

Q: im not fat, i just want to work out. i dont wanna get skinnier, maybe 1 or 2 pounds would be good but i just want to be healthy and excercise. im about 75 lbs. and i dont know what kind of exercises i should do, any suggestions?

if you're 75 pounds you need to be either gaining weight or some serious muscle.
i would try running to get some leg muscle, and do crunches and pushups to just build some muscle and hopefully itll give more weight

Q: I want to take a picture of my self that looks like this. Example: http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=viewImage&friendID=86878213&imageID=905681844&MyToken=63b058b1-a94c-4bcc-8858-dbf8b677cf4e

How should I position the camera when I take the picture? How close to my body and how far up?

i have never understood the point of those pictures...they make you look retarded and like you have absolutly no life but to sit around, take pictures of yourself and put them on myspace.

Edit: well if you don't want opinions maybe you shouldn't have posted this on an advice site...

Q: hey people i start cross country next week and i have no clue what kind of shoes to get.so any one know a place to get good running shoes.and i will also need cross country shoes ...please help me!!

thanks.

meghan

hey i run xc and i would go to fleet feet...they watch you run and tell you the shoes that would be best for your feet. don't try to pick them out yourself unless you want to get injured.
i wear saucony, but adidas, nike, or new balance are good shoes too. i wouldn't suggest reebok.

Q: Has anyone read

United States History: Preparing for the Advanced Placement Examination

by John J. Newman

(AMSCO company)?

If so, please tell me your thoughts on it.

i took ap us last year and read it/studied it. it is AMAZING. it reviews things but doesn't leave out any information. it helped me make an A in the class and a 5 on the AP exam. study this and you will make a 5.
the questions are ok they don't giveyou the answers though, so you have to look them up (which i guess helps w/studying).
i wish they had an amsco for every class...

Q: Sorry about the Category.. I'm not sure which one it should be under.
Anyway, I play soccer a lot and I sweat A LOT on my back. It's really really disgusting and embarassing, because it leaves a huge sweat mark on my shirts. I've tried wearing another shirt underneath, like a cami, but it gets even hotter and more sweat comes. Same thing with black shirts; it just makes me sweat more. I'm starting soccer again in the middle of the month, and it's going to get really hot. So my question is, is there anything I can do to reduce the amount of sweat? Is there anything I can do that won't show the sweat as much?
Thanks in advance. =]