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Okay, so, my friend really likes this boy. He's really sweet to her and she just felt really happy because she got over her ex and found this new guy. Well, she finds out that he has a girlfriend..
"He has a girlfriend, but he tells me I changed his feelings. If I did that then why is he still with here?! I like him a lot, but I think I should stop talking to him because it doesn't seem like he's gonna break up with her anytime soon, so it seems like the best thing, but idk HELP!"
Any takers?
--Gabs. (link)
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She really can't do anything. He has a girlfriend, and unless he decides to break up with her (or vice versa), your friend is helpless. She probably needs to be single for a while so she has time for herself. And besides, I believe that when you least expect it, that's when someone perfect comes along. So maybe she should enjoy her life, friends and family, instead of boy hunting...because that's when she'll find someone who really likes her and she can return those feelings.
Would you break up with your boyfriend for some other guy? If so, that's not right IMO. Think of it that way.
Hope I helped.
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can i be pregnant from pregnant...what are the chances?... me and my bf did the pull out method..and iam afraid to do the preg test cause iam scared what results i will get (link)
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Yes, you can get pregnant from pre-cum. The "pull-out" method is not legit. You could most certainly be pregnant, and my best suggestion would be to go get a pregnancy test.
Remember to not make a mistake like this again and pass the word on to your friends that they shouldn't use the "pull-out" method either.
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14/f
hey, so my boyfriend and i just started making out. It's a first for the both of us and surprisingly, I ended up giving him a SUPER bad hickey when, honestly i wasn't even trying. Our first time was two days ago and i accidentally gave him four that look absolutely HORRIBLE. he didn't seem to upset and laughed it off saying it was ok cause it was, after all, my first time. So today we met up again for a second round in order to, you know, learn together since we're both noobs. BUT this time he told me to try avoiding giving him any hickies, so i did. :( unfortunately, i ended up giving him two more. I swear i didn't do it on purpose, i didn't even suck very hard, just mostly licking and pecking. But even so, SOMEHOW i still ended up giving him even more! I need some advice on how to kiss. I know i must be doing something terribly wrong because everytime i end up giving him a hickey. PLEASE i would greatly appreciate some advice. i just find it strange that he's tried to give me one a bunch of times and it never seems to work. We're both noobs. so yea. like i said, some advice here would be greatly appreciated. (link)
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This has never happened to me, but I would suggest maybe not sucking on his skin. Like one of the Advicenators below said, he probably has sensitive skin and bruises easily. However, I know that a little sucking his skin is sometimes just unavoidable, so try being very gentle.
Kissing anywhere else other than the lips is pretty much just like kissing the lips. But considering he's sensitive, try giving even more tender kisses. You may think you're being gentle, but his skin is saying otherwise. You know what I mean? Or you could try asking your boyfriend...just be like "is this gentle enough [for you]?" A lot of the time being serene and gentle is very nice. I prefer tenderness over wild make-out sessions and he may too.
I hope I helped :]
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ok so....
15/f
So...um...my boyfriend and I have been hanging out a lot at his house and we're usually alone cuz his parents work and stuff. Lately he's been getting very....touchy. I mean, we've always kissed, but lately he's been going for my breasts and running his hands up my shirt and over my stomach and trying to get his hand down my pants. I really don't think I'm ready for that. I mean, I love him, a lot. But I don't think I'm ready for that. For him to finger me. Or give him a hj or bj, like he wants. How do you know you're ready for sex? But, actually, I guess mainly I'm concerned about, how do I get out of doing what I'm not ready to do, without him getting angry and/or dumping me? I mean, he has a bit of a temper, and he is very VERY inpatient, and he's gotten close to hitting me before. He'll raise a hand and then walk away, slam a few doors, kick some furniture and then come back like nothing happened. So, really, basically, how do I tell him no without getting hurt? I don't want to loose him, because I really really love him. But I'm just not ready for sex.
Sorry it's so long. Thanks for reading. Any help appreciated.
Chail (link)
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Let me first say this, if he has gotten to the point where he has been close to hitting you, you are making the horrible mistake of staying with this kid. I don't care how angry or impatient he is, he is not to raise his hand at you, EVER. Whether or not he's a great guy, no one should ever ever ever physically and purposely hurt you. If I were you, I'd dump him right now considering just the little bit of information you gave of him. There are so many women who are being abused and can't get out of their relationship because they'd risk being abused more; you need to leave him while you can. Before he starts to actually hurt you.
I hope you take me up on this advice and understand what I'm trying to convey.
In the meantime, if you feel like you're not ready for ANYTHING, you need to say something. Don't let things just happen if it makes you feel uncomfortable.
Let me tell you, a while back, I asked my boyfriend if he respected me, and as I'd hoped, he said yes. Right after I told him that I take things very slow and that I didn't intend on changing the way I am. He respects that and to this very day, when things start getting "touchy" he'll tell me, "if you're uncomfortable with anything, just tell me". He respects me and he respects my body. Your boyfriend needs to do the same thing. And if he doesn't know that:
A.) He's probably not worth your time (which I don't think he is anyway, but you obviously have a different view)
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B.) You need to make it PERFECTLY clear of your standards and morals.
If you're afraid he's going to blow up and get angry, there is no doubt in my mind this guy is complete garbage. If he's not gonna be patient and respectful towards you, he doesn't deserve anyone.
I can't tell you what/what not to do. But I can advise you and say what I think is right/best for you. Please make the best decision and break up with him. You may say you love him, but if he really loved you, he wouldn't raise his hand at you.
I hope I helped.
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I'm 13 and I just started my period 2 days ago. The first day there was brown period, and then there wasnt any period at night. The next day there was brown period and nothing at night too. Then the next day, there was nothing all day. Is this normal? (link)
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Eh, when I first got mine, it was brown the whooole week--no red at all. And even now after 4 or so years of having it, I usually don't bleed at night. It's probably normal, but if you feel uncomfortable, talk to your mom, dad or older sister if you have one.
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13/m
so as i said in the title what are some creative and fun things to do on dates with my girlfriend, and sometimes a few other people that come with us?
btw i only get about 15 dollars a week(aus)
also what are the like... dos and donts of dating? like what i should and shouldn't do
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I like the movies, bowling (even if you're terrible, it's always fun to laugh at yourself a little), ice skating, my house, his house, a group get-together at a friend's house, mini-golfing...the list can go on and on! Even a walk around the neighborhood or local park is nice. Really, you can do anything. If you're trying to keep things cheap, ask her to come over your house, watch a movie, maybe have her over for dinner and relax.
Based on what I like, this is what I know is comforting:
1. When you see her, just give her a compliment like "Well you look nice" with a warm smile. Don't over-compliment; that's kind of overwhelming
2. Don't ignore her if you're with your friends. Pay equal attention to your friends and your date.
3. Don't feel nervous. That will only make her feel nervous.
4. Just be yourself!
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Ok,so, I have this boyfriend I've bin seeing for a while and he goes to my school. I'm 17 and
female. Ok so anyway he teases me about him going
out with a prettier girl constently.
And he says oh I love her not you anymore consistently and then says I'm going out with her now. And then says I'm kidding. I CAN"T TAKE
IT ANYMORE!!!!!!
and I can never tell if he is serious about letting me go for another girl or not.
But I can't push myself to breakup with him.
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You need to confront him of your feelings. If you're feeling upset about the things he says, it's as simple as telling him. Don't be aggressive, say that it truly offends you and you don't appreciate being teased. Honestly, I would be extremely offended if my boyfriend ever did that. If your boyfriend is saying mean things like that on a regualr basis and doesn't even think that it's hurtful, then he really doesn't understand girls, does he?
And if he says something like "oh, you're overreacting" (because that's generally the response I get), just say "no, I am not overreacting. Our relationship is about honesty and respect, and I am telling you how I feel." If he's still a jerk after that, then I think you need to break it off, as much as it may hurt.
A lot of guys aren't aware of the things that make girls upset. So, that's when you need to open your mouth like girls were meant to do lol. He needs to respect you and if he doesn't, it wasn't meant to be.
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Ok so.. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 8 months. We're in love and stuff, so far everything is going good.. sometimes we fight because i get jealous or mad. because of girls.. (im kinda insecure) and have little trust, even though he tells me that he only wants me etc.
But yeaaa i love him to death, i would do anything for him. I literally wanna be with him forver :]
I need to know how to trust him & not be jealous.. And how to make this last forver!
Please && Thank you (link)
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I know exactly how you feel. My boyfriend of almost 8 months is a really great kid. He's in all honors classes, while I'm not in all honors. Now, in his classes, the majority are girls and it makes me nervous just to know that he's surrounded by girls. And last week, he was talking and playing like tic-tac-toe and hangman with one of his very good girl-friends. I know they're only friends, but I just so jealous. But then up until recently, I noticed that I have a very close guy-friend as well (a few actually) and we're very close and playful. So I just thought to myself, he has his girl-friends and I have my guy-friends. I know I'll never be together with my guy-friend and the same goes with him.
I know how hard it is not to be jealous. It's extremely aggravating and agitating. Almost like an itch that won't go away. But it's one of the things you have to deal with.
I can't tell you how to make your relationship last forever, but I can tell you, if you try hard, and he tries hard as well, you guys can last awhile or forever. Jealousy is only one of the many emotions in a relationship, so when you feel jealous, maybe you should try walking in his shoes and see how it feels when you talk with your close guy-friends.
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So, i got a new cat and he has a habit of jumping up on the counters when no one's looking. he know's he's not supposed to be up there because as soon as someone walks into the kitchen he jumps down and runs away. how can i discourage, or even put a stop to this behavior? and advice helps!
thanks advicenators.
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Well, you can try a scat mat. It's like a regular mat that is either battery operated or you just plug in, and when the cat goes to jump on the counter, the scat mat gives of a small shock. It sounds cruel, but it's a small shock and it doesn't give them any pain.
You can also try like the other advicenators said a spray bottle. An empty, clean hairspray bottle will do fine and all you have to do is put some water in it, so whenever your cat goes onto the counter, give him/her a little spritz.
Another method you can use is acid. Cats hate the smell of acid. For instance, if you take a lemon or orange and squeeze the juice out of it and dab the juice on your counters, your cat will surely hate the smell and refrain from jumping on the counters.
Typical pet stores generally sell sprays for cats and dogs to prevent instances such as yours, so you can try any of the methods above. I haven't used the acid method, I read that in a cat calendar lol, but you can always try. I have used the scat mat and water bottle before though. I'll just tell you that the water bottle works like a charm.
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HI!
Well. I really want to know what types of colors would look good on me.. like in eyeshadow , blush.. and etc. I am really just started wearing makeup...I am 13 and I don't really no all that much about makeup. Well... I have blond hair (golden or like ash blonde..) and blue eyes. Any tips and stuff would help. Thanks! (link)
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I find that natural colors look the best. If you use actual colors (blue, green...) for eyeshadows, you'll just look weird lol, like clownish (I knew a girl who wore make-up that was like blue-purple shimmer and it just looked so awful!). Im 16 and I generally wear a nice skin tone shadow, with a little shimmer in it.
However, I start my make-up by washing my face first to rid the oils and such. After, I take a little cover up on a make-up sponge, and dab and rub it in on my eyes to conceal the purpley vains. Then I just put on my eyeshadow with a make-up brush, not those swabs they give you with eyeshadow. Once I'm done with that, I put on a little black mascara on my top and bottom lashes. Then I just put on concealer and coverup with a little bit of powder.
A lot of girls choose to wear eyeliner, and a lot of girls also put waaaaay too much on. So, what I do, sometimes, is use brown eyeliner, of no particular brand, lift my eyelid a little and darken my upper lids, just like you would do if you were to darken your bottom lids. I usually wear brown, never black, because it looks too harsh and it generally looks bad on me. But everyone's different
You'll find what you like if you exeriment a little. That's what I did. And as your face matures, you'll be able to wear make-up that's a little more dramatic. Just experiment and you'll find something you like. But my advice to you would be start by using natural colors.
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im 16, and never had my first kiss yet. even though im pretty sad that i still never had one, i love to hear stories about other peoples' first kisses! it makes me excited for mine :) so whoever reading this, hopefully youll share your story! thank youuu:) (link)
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I waited a desperately long time for mine, mainly because I was waiting for someone who deserved it.
We were both upstairs in my room (with the door open and parents home, ofcourse!) and his mom was outside to pick him up. We were both watching TV on my bed and I leaned over him to get up, and before I knew it, he'd kissed me. I'd taken it by surprise, but no less, I was extremely happy because I knew I waited for the right moment and most importantly, the right person.
You're time will come, there's no rush. You can't hurry important instances like the first kiss :]
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I dont have the best back, im 17 and i get lower back pains alot my doctor once told me i have an extra curvature in my lower back. I can only sleep certain ways without it hurting, and lately while im sitting upright on my left mid section of my back will randomly start feeling numb and prickly. Does anyone have any suggestions for me? (link)
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I actually have scoliosis which causes me minor back pain. Sometimes I do wake up from it and can't sit, stand or walk for long periods of time. It can get pretty intense. My back doctor told me that doing daily excersize can help. I tried and it helped drastically. Try running or jogging for 10 minutes or so, do some simple sitting and stand excersizes like crunches. Touch your toes without bending (or try), try a sit and reach. Try to crack your back, or have someone massage it. Sometimes, I even have my sister walk on it for a few minutes. Hope I helped!
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dear Advicenators,
do you know how depressing it's going to be pretending like i ENJOY having a long distance relationship over valentine's day? i am so done with it.
some tips for meeting guys please?
thanks
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Well, I agree with the Advicenator below me. You don't have to look for a guy at all times. And when you're not looking for one, that's when he'll come along. I'm gonna have to say that's how I found my boyfriend. Many girls are constantly looking for the "perfect guy", but when they look for him, he never comes. Just be yourself, enjoy life, and have fun with some of your girlfriends. A guy doesn't make your life complete...he just makes it all the more completed...well, to me anyway. Your life is 100% now, don't worry about a guy. Because when your not worrying and hoping for a boyfriend, that's when he'll come around :]
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Hello, I like this guy that's truly amazing . I asked him to add me on my space...but he hasn't added me yet, and I want to know why. The friend request was real nice. I told him I liked him and I wanted him to add me so he and I can get to know each other. I was so nice ...but he went on my space 20 minutes after I sent the request...and he didn't add me. It, makes me so sad...because I like him SO much and I just want to be his friend...so he can see that were meant to be together.... my friend is his friend on my space...and she said we have a lot in common. So , please someone tell me why he won't add me. Or, what I said wrong or whatever ...thanks for whoever try's to help!!
- Mattlover (link)
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I can tell you like him a lot, but you don't want to seem obsessed with him and stalkerish. If he doesn't accept you as a friend right away, it's not a big deal. Maybe he was in a rush and didn't add you then, just relax. Don't seem obsessed with him because that will push him away, believe me. "So he can see that were meant to be together"...that could be seen as obsessive and kind of awkward for him. If you tell him you were meant to be together, he's going to look at you like you're a crazy person. Be nice and don't rush into things and make him see you as a stalker. You want to make him think you're nice and most importantly relaxed. Believe me, I've had my fair share of crushes, and being obsessed with the guy doesn't get you anywhere, trust me on this one lol. It's one step at a time, honestly. If it takes time for him to like you, then it's time worth waiting, right? Patience is a virtue.
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well i dont know what to say there this boy that i like so much its driving me insane. And like i beleive in true love and sometimes i wonder if i really truley love him like in love with him. And I'm only 16 and i know i might be young but still it really feels like love. I think about him 24/7, i talk about him all the time, i daydream about him alot and i dont even focus on school that much like i use to. And this going to sound crazy but i sometimes cry over him and i dont know why. I've been liking him for 4 years already and i havent really told him how i feel.And when i dont see him for like 2 days i just start missing him its just crazy. There wasnt one day where i dont think about him. He knows i like him but thats about it.
so is it really love for me or just a big crush. (link)
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Well, we really can't tell you if you love him, only you know that for sure. Sometimes when you like somebody so much, you just think about him/her a lot, it happens to everyone.
I've had a fair share of tears over guys just because I like them, but I would never say I'm in love with them because I cried over them, then I'd be lying to myself. I'm not IN love with my boyfriend but I could cry everyday for him because I care about him. Sometimes crying is just a way to express yourself in showing that you really care, but you don't have to be in love with him.
Four years is a long time to like someone, I'm sure you have great feelings for him, but I can't tell you whether you're in love or not, that's all up to you. If you feel like you're in love, you very well could be, but if you feel like it's just a big crush, that's a possibility as well.
I hope I helped some :]
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So it was recently Christmas, and I had no idea what to get my boyfriend. I knew anything I got him would not be special enough, and I looked and looked and time just kind of slipped by and I didn't end up getting him anything. He got me something really nice. He was really hurt that I didn't get him anything. I regret it now, but I can't change that, so please don't bug me about it.
Question: What can I surprise him with that would make him really happy? (If any of you suggest sex I will rate you badly) (link)
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For my boyfriends birthday, I got him the Ironman DVD and a nice, soft Aeropostale hooded sweatshirt, which last night he actually told me he wears a lot because it's so soft and comfortable. And then for Christmas, I bought him 2 reeeaaaallllly soft t-shirts from American Eagle and a pair of boxers that said "naughty" all over them (lol), and he told me he loved soft clothing, if that helps. I'd suggest something not too over-the-top, something nice. Clothes seems to be what's easiest as of now for me. My sister got her (now ex) boyfriend Light Blue by Dolce and Gabbana, and it smells sooo good! So if you want to do a nice cologne and a shirt or something that's a good idea. Maybe a DVD or CD with cologne or CD with a hoodie...just mix and match, I'm sure he'll like it. Make sure to get a gift reciept so worst case scenario, he doesn't and he returns it and then he can spend the money on whatever he wants :]
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i've never touched myself and im grossed out by the vagina and i don't really know how to masturbate so i don't wanna mess anything up down there by trying....i kinda want my boyfriend to finger me but i don't know if it will hurt or anything...ive tried clitoris stimulation when i was dry humping my boyfriend i guess it stimulated it? is that normal? and my other question is, is being grossed out by my own vagina normal?
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I'm kinda in the same boat as you. I have never maturbated in my life, and I'm in the middle of figuring out how I would really feel if my boyfriend fingered me, nevermind my own self. I can't tell you exactly what it feels like because I haven't experienced it, but I have used a tampon, which doesn't hurt, it's just a little uncomfortable when you're putting it in, if you've ever used one. If you think about a tampon, it's about the size of a male finger, so think about how the feeling would be about putting 1 tampon in or 2 tampons and so on. To some people, I'm sure it's a little painful, but to others, it's just like putting in a tampon which is really no big deal.
Being grossed out by your vagina is normal. I can't say I know many girls who are very "vagina friendly" and talk openly about it... I know "down there" makes for an awkward conversation and just thinking about it kinda weirds me out a bit, to be honest. But girls shouldn't feel grossed out by it. The vagina is very clean and, yeah, it may smell every once and a while, but so do your armpits lol. I hope my answer helped you, good luck, girl!
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i curl my hair with a curling iron but after about an hour it goes back straight, im already using hairspray. And Im using a revlon curling iron. my hair is naturally curling so i straighten it and then after a couple hours i curl it. How do i keep in the curls all day? (link)
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My hair has natural curls, but I always straighten my hair and occasionally curl it.
Before I curl it, I part my whole head in half and clip one half or tie it back. For the other half of my head, I take a medium-sized piece of hair (maybe the size of 2 fingers or so) and straighen it halfway, so one half of the piece is straight and the other half is curly (or whatever your hair may naturally be).
I do that until the whole top of my head it straight and the whole bottom half is curly.
After that, I curl my hair right up until the curling iron meets the straightened hair and then let it go.
I do that until my whole head is in curls. It sounds strange, but it really works. After you're done curling it, spray it a bit with hairspray and you're good to go.
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1 what do you girls put on your face before putting on all your make-up? (i mean .. like some kind of moisturizer)
2 what do you put on your hair to keep it healthy? (like.. how you maintain healthy haiiirrr :)
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1.) Before I put on my make-up, I wash my face with some kind of face wash, but I never ever use bar soap because that strips the skin and leaves residue. Use a face wash that suits your skin type (i.e. dry, oily, if you have blemishes...) and I pat it dry with a towel. After I wash my face, I sometimes use an oil-free moisturizer because sometimes after I wash my face, it gets really dry and flakey. To cover any blemishes, I put on concealer and after the concealer I use Clinique superbalanced makeup which is also known as cover up and works VERY well.
2.) When washing my hair, I first use Mane 'n Tail shampoo which helps my hair stay healthy and help it grow and wash it out. After I use that, I use Aussie Opposites Attract Protect + Soften shampoo which keeps my hair soft and protects my hair because I straighten it pretty much everyday. For me, it works wonders. I use 2 shampoos just to ensure that my hair is clean and I also use the Aussie after because it smells really really good!
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she is 16 and her friends tell me tht she wants me to but i want to know if girls like those types of things. (link)
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I think your best bet is to wait. Honestly, if it's only been a month and a half, that's a little strange that she wants to be eaten out. I wouldn't like it, and I'm sure a good majority of other girls wouldn't either. I wouldn't do it. You want to respect her, and whether she wants to do whatever it is that she wants, she could easily break it off with you and say to other girls/people that all you wanted was to get in her pants. Now, I'm not saying that any of that is/will going to happen. But it's always a possibility. Theme of the lesson: I would refrain from doing so. Go in for a good makeout. It always hits the spot.
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