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Well hello, hello.
It's been a while.


Well I use to be on advicenators a while back, & then life got way too busy & I no longer had time for it, & after I while I forgot all about advicenators. =/




I'm sorry guys. But I'm back.



Let me start over & introduce myself.
My names maria, but people call me smalls.
I'm 5 feet tall, which would explain why my nick name is smalls. ;]




I'm 17 years old, and a senior in high school.
I always gave great advice before but now that I'm older and wiser, I give
awesome advice.




I'm very open minded, so feel free to ask me anything. I never judge people & I'm
Always here if anyone needs a friend. =]




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OK so to get rid of stretch marks, whats that stuff called? And whats the brand, and where can i get it? Thanks in advance

Hey

I'm afraid that once you have stretch marks, there is no magic way of getting rid of them. The skin has stretched beyond what it was capable of and the marks are the result. The good news is that stretch marks will fade. Sorry, but once you have them, you are stuck with them. To make them fade faster you could try using Cocoa butter. Apply cocoa butter cream on affected stretch mark areas in the morning, after showers, and at night. You'll be gaping at the results within' a few months. You could buy cocoa butter at most local pharmacies or even at bath and body works.

♥ maria ♥

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I'm going to the USA in September of this year. Yes, I know that's quite a while away but this is going to be a busy year for me as I'm starting college. Anyway, I found some good air tickets on Qantas for $1100 and I have a week to nab them. I have the money and all.. I'm just curious. Should I wait until further on in the year? Or get the tickets now? For my own peace of mind I'd like some confirmation of when I'm going and that I'm definitley going, but I'm worried a better deal will come up.

Thanks.

Hey

I personally would get the tickets now only because that's one last thing for you to worry about. I mean you have the money saved up already; you are going 100%, the price is pretty good then what's stopping you?! Please don't tell me it's because of the risk of finding a better deal later on! You cant live your life waiting for a better buy to come along, if you do that then you'll never get anywhere in life. Let's say you don't buy the tickets now and all the prices go up then what?! You'll have to pay a lot more then you could have in the first place. You got nothing to lose. I say go buy the tickets and worry about what you really need to concentrate on.

♥ maria ♥

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how do you heal a nose ring infection?
i tried looking online but i keep hearing different things, so i don't know what to go by.
is it safe to use hydrogen peroxide?
some sites said yes, and some said no.
help?

Hey

It's safe to use hydrogen peroxide anytime. Some people even use hydrogen peroxide as a home remedy to whiten their teeth. If you could put it in your mouth then trust me it's safe to use on your infection. when i got my belly button pierced they told me to use hydrogen peroxide in order for my belly NOT to get infected. I suggest you do use hydrogen peroxide, and you should also betadine.
If you need anymore help just leave a comment in my inbox.

♥ maria ♥

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This is really weird and random, but has anyone seen the movie or opera "The Phantom of the Opera"? You know how Erik has that mask that covers half of his face? How does he get it to stay on? I didn't see and strings around his head to hold it in place

Hey

I actually saw both, the movie and the opera.
I got the chance to meet the actor who was playing Erik in the show and i asked him that exact same question. He said they use special kind of glue that keeps the mask on for hours. I'm pretty sure they do the same in the movie.

♥ maria ♥

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Hey what does Heritage mean ?



Hey

heritage:

Noun
1. Property that is or can be inherited; an inheritance. 2. Something that is passed down from preceding generations; a tradition. 3. The status acquired by a person through birth; a birthright: a heritage of affluence and social position.

If you have any other words you need to define then add smarterchild to your buddy list on aim. He's a robot that defines words and helps you with homeowork.

♥ maria ♥

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hi i was just wondering.. is anyone out there lebanese? because i speak arabic. and i am from lebanon i like know no one from my school that is lebanese. i hate tha no one really knows what i mean when i say that i miss my grandmother and aunts and uncles back in lebanon.. i try to accept the fake that i don't live there but its still really hard i love it so much and miss it so much.. i go there every summer and can't wait to go again thaxxxxxxxxxxxx so muchhhh :)

Hey

Umm why don't you try going into a chat room or site just for lebanese people. Here i googled it for you.


only search advicenators.com



I also searched on xanga blogrings and found some blogs you can join if you have xanga or you could just look around different people's pages that might have their screen names up, if they do just im them saying you liked their page and that your lebanese too! I'm sure they'll be more then happy to talk to you.

http://search.xanga.com/searchgroups.aspx?q=lebanese



♥ maria ♥

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Ok so i have limewire and i downloaded atreyu - bleeding mascara (it was a music video) but it turns out it was a porno! so i deleted it but im really scared becuase what if it didnt really getdeleted and my parents find it.. is there anyway to make sure it was deleted? and to never be found on the computer?
please help asap! i rate 5's.
kthanxbye

Hey

Eshh porno you say?! I actually have limewire and my guy friends always download porn on my computer. If you deleted it then don't worry about it. Just make sure you also deleted it from your recyle bin.
If anything just explain the situation to your parents. Trust me they'll understand.

♥ maria ♥

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How do you get music on myspace? When I tryed to get music on my myspace it said to go to a band page and press add. But i don't know what that means.

Any help will be very much appreciated :)

Hey

Its actually pretty simple.
When you first sign in, on top of the page you'll see :

Home | Browse | Search | Invite | Rank | Mail | Blog | Favorites | Forum | Groups | Events | Games | Music | Classifieds

Press on music

You'll see a search bar and you'll just type in whatever band, singer, rapper you want in your profile. You press on their profile and you'll see a music player with in most cases a lot of different songs by that person. Once you find the song you want there should be a little link that says "add" on it. Press it and the song should be in your profile.

If your still confused just leave a comment in my profile.

♥ maria ♥




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My friend is a crybaby. I'm sorry if I'm being harsh, or freakishly blunt, but come on. The girl is thirteen years old, and she burst into tears when these two kids in my class wanted to see her yearbook. ALSO, she takes everything WAY too seriously. Every time anyone tries to offer helpful criticism, she gets all mad and starts talking shit about you to other people.

My question to you is...What do I do about this? Should I be friends with someone who is so...out of control? And what can I possibly say to her?

Hey

First of all no ones perfect and everybody has their own faults, weakness, and problems. Most of the time people tend to close their eyes on the faults in people and open up their eyes on the good qualities. If you wanted to be her friend, you would have never even questioned your friendship. Obviously you do not conceder this girl your "real friend"! Why continue this relationship if you are unhappy!? You don't have to come up to her face and tell her how horrible she is, especially since she's as sensitive as you say. Just slowly stop communicating with her. She'll get the picture.


♥ maria ♥

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Whats the code for the google thing on here?

Hey

The code is [ search ] wordshere [ /search ]

but there are NO SPACES IN BETWEEN.

♥ maria ♥

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i am really pale. i'm 15 and i can't drive yet, so i can't drive myself over to the tanning places, and my mom never wants me to tan. i've tried the mystic tan stuff before but it looks too orange on me. is there any kind of products that will make me look like i have a natural tan and that actually work?

Hey

Honestly all the products I have used pretty much sucked, and I bought some of the best self tanners out there. You could try Jergens Natural Glow, it was pretty good at first but then the color started to fade every time I used it. But it's worth a try. I personally only go tanning because it's the only thing that works for me. If your mom won't drive you, can't you take a bus?! Maybe ask one of your friends to take you, or convince one of your friends to go tanning with you, that way you'll have company and a ride.

♥ maria ♥

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There's this talent show coming up and I want to sing in it. I've been singing for a long time in a choir and I've been very well-trained, but one thing is that I'm worried about. I don't know whether I have a good voice. When I listen to myself singing I think I sound good, but I recorded myself on a tape recorder (mind you, not the professional kind). It sounded too horrific to describe in words. And I know it's not because I'm not trained/have no vocal technique/straining/no breath control and/or not breathing correctly/no support/whatever, because I am none of those things. It's just the sound of my voice. I heard that tape recorders don't record accurately and everyone things they sound bad on a recorder, but I'm still worried that I have a bad voice. At the talent show, it would be very embarassing if everyone thought I had a terrible voice and no one has the gut to tell me, so I need to know before this happens. Is there any other way I can find out what I really sound like without expensive professional tools? I don't want to go to my friend and say "Let me sing for you and tell me if I'm good or not" because I can never know whether my friend is being honest or just doesn't want to hurt my feelings. Any ideas? Sorry this was long, but I need help.

Hey

If you enjoy singing why care what others think. You say you were at choir, then why not ask your teacher for her honest opinion. She won't lie to you that's for sure. Don't worry, sing for all your friends, Not all of them will lie to you just to be nice, thats if you don't sing well. Ask as many people as you can, and if you see that most of the people like your voice then your good to go. Here's another idea. Instead of singing alone make it into a group thing. That way even if you are scared that your not good enough it wont matter, you'll have back up. No matter what you do if your hearts into it, you'll be great. Just keep your head up high and smile your way through it!

♥ maria ♥

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is it true tampons make your cherry pop? and does it mean you're not a not a virgin anymore?


Hey

Yeah it does MOST of the time pop your cherry, but not to worry. Unless a males Penis goes inside you, you are still a virgin.

♥ maria ♥

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ok i am doing P.E this term and in 3 weeks i have to go swimmin. even when i am on my period. thing is i know that if i wear a tampon it wouldnt matter right? but see my problem is that my mom wont let me. she told me because it will make my cherry pop and it isnt supposed to pop until i am merried.(or so she says) but if i dont dress out and put an effort into swimmin then my grade will go done everyday by a letter grade. so basically (since we got 3 wekks of p.e) it can be possible that get an F and fail P.E completely.. and another thign at my school is that the guys swim wit the girls. there isnt a speration thing.. someone help me.. i dont about sneakin them bc i dont know hoa to use them..

p.s.
15/f

Hey

Well there's no real reason for you to be worried so relax! You could either have your mother write your teacher a note, have your mother call the teacher, or have your mother see your teacher in person. If you rather not do this then buy some tampons and use them without letting your mother find out. What she doesn't know won't hurt her, and after all it is YOUR BODY, not hers. It's completely up to you and ONLY you. You are 15 years old, and that's old enough to use tampons.
Since you don't know how to use them, why don't you ask somebody at school. I'm sure some of your friends use them. If anything you can comment my inbox if you do decide to use them and i'll be more then happy to help you. If you don't feel like lying to your mother, maybe you should have a long talk with her about why you think you should be able to wear tampons. Although I'm pretty sure your mother made up her mind and there's no way to change that. If you need anymore help just comment my inbox.

♥ maria ♥

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hey im 13 female and i have a pimple or zit under my bottom lip so it looks like i have a lip ring but i dont want it to iss there any tips about getting ride of it and preventing more? i was my face atleast twice a day.

**sleepiesheep**

Hey

I could honestly say I feel your pain. Pimples are such a pain in the booty.
I have some tips and products that might help you but I don't really know how bad your pimples really are! Some things you need to know are pimples are not cure able, but you can help prevent them.
Here are some sites with plenty of tips:

http://www.acne-advice.com/articles/top_ten_tips.shtml
http://www.free-beauty-tips.com/getridofpimples.html
http://www.naturescure.com/tips.asp
http://www.acne.org/acne-links.html

Now for the products I would suggest you either buy murad which I use now, or you could buy proactive. Which I used before but it didn't really help me. Now just because it didn't help me as much doesn't mean it won't help you. I have a lot of other friends who use it and it works wonders on them. Worth a try?!
If you need anymore advice don't be shy to ask. Just leave a comment in my inbox.

♥ maria ♥

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ok my boyfriend wants to record me sayin somethin on his cellphone so when i call him it says what i say. so can someone tell me something sweet so say? thanks.. i will rate..

Hey

I have a really cute idea.

say:

Hi gorgeous

I've missed you so much

I had very naughty dreams about you

Are you ready to have some fun with me?


It's from one of my favorite techno songs.
It would be a VERY cute idea.

Or you could just say: Hey baby, i LOVE YOU!
that would be really sweet, and cute!

♥ maria ♥

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For school, we had to read the book "To Kill a Mockingbird" by Harper Lee and I really didn't like it. Not to sound shallow or immature or anything, but the whole racism theme was rather dull (not saying that racism is dull, but I mean that it's dull to read about when you could be reading other things. If you want to read about racism, go take a History class and learn about it from a text book), and the background setting of a dusty little town in Alabama and the boring, nosy, gossipy people without lives was not appealing. It's not exciting to read about. And Scout wasn't a realistic person. I mean, what 7-year-old uses words like "morphodite"? Take Les Miserables, it's about redemption and is very dramatic and exciting---a renounced thief on the run.I am the only person in the whole grade who didn't like TKAM. Whenever I talk to anyone about it they always go "OMFG I LOVED IT HOW CAN YOU NOT LIKE TKAM?!" Now, we have to write an essay about whether we liked it, and saying that it was not appealing and Scout is not realistic is not tangeable. She'll say it's off-topic and has nothing to do with the meaning of the book. I understand the meaning of the book, but I still don't like it. I talked to my dad and he just said that I'm not mature enough for such advanced literature, which is not true. What am I supposed to do?!

Hey

I read that book too, last year and let me tell you something, I HATED IT! I found it to be boring, and even though it did have a great meaning to it, it was formed in such a dull way! I couldn't stand it. Also just because you didn't like the book, doesn't mean you are not mature enough for such advanced literature. I have no idea why your father said that. About the essay well your teacher wants you to write YOUR opinion, and an opinion can NEVER be wrong. Don't worry about it. Write in that essay exactly how you felt about the book. If anyone says anything to you, be like ummm excuse me it's my opinion and if you don't like it too BAD! Phantom of the Opera is ONE OF THE BEST shows/books i ever read, and saw. It also ha a good moral like you said, but the only difference is, It'S INTERSTING. The way the author set it up to be. Why don't you mention this in your essay. ALWAYS REMEMBER YOUR OPINION IS NEVER WRONG! no matter what anyone says!

If you need anything else be sure to leave a comment in my inbox!

♥ maria ♥

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Can anyone give me a few songs about death, suicide, cutting, anything sad and i mean SAD

It doesnt matter the 'type' of music

Please and thank you

Hey

When my Best friend started cutting herself, and my ex boyfriend cheated on me, what song really helped me through it was:

missing - Evanescence

Might i add, my favorite part of the song is this line (" And if I bleed, I'll bleed,Knowing you don't care. And if I sleep just to dream of you
And wake without you there,")

Heres some other songs that you might like:

hello - Evenescence
Avril Lavinge - Slipped Away
Requiem for a dream - Summer hope overture ( this is just music but it's pretty deep if you get into it)
immortal technique - you never know
immortal technique - dance with the devil


Also heres a whole list of songs about suicide:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_songs_about_suicide

I'll try to think of more and add them on later


♥ maria ♥


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I like finger myself every other Night. And I feel nasty and guilty Afterwards. How Can I Stop? Please Someone.. Its Really Bothering Me!!

Hey

I don't understand why you are feeling guilty about this. It's perfectly normal. Actually I would say it wouldn't be normal if you didn't. Everybody on this planet no matter what age, or sex thinks about sex, and a lot of people please themselves as you are doing. There is no harm in doing it. If you feel embarrassed then, there's no need to, because it's a personal/ private thing. Nobody else needs to know about it. But if it's really bothering you that much then try your best to control yourself. For example every time you feel like fingering yourself go get some gum or and food and chew on it instead. Honestly sweetie don't worry about it. What you're doing is fine.

♥ maria ♥

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hey everyone i have a literature project and i was hoping you could give me some ideas!
this is the project -
design a short play. Make several characters trapped in one room, setting, car, anything. describe what happens. form a good plot, strong characters, and enjoyable story. this project is extra credit.
does anyone have good ideas on what i can do my play on? it can be funny, serious, dramatic, horror, mystery... anything! people just need to be trapped together somewhere!
an example is the butcher, the baker, and the candlestick maker all trapped in a tub.

thanks guys soooooo much everyone gets a 5! =]

Hey

Umm i have an idea i'm not sure if you'll like it but here it goes:

what if several people that live in the same building for many years but never said one word to each other, got stuck in the elevator. All of them, have different life styles, religions, and cultures, (I'll leave that part up to you, its best if you pick them yourself.) They have no choice but to start talking to one another, and learn so much from each other.

I hope this helped you out a little bit.

If you need more ideas just leave a comment in my inbox.

♥ maria ♥

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