I have a bf who I thought I liked but now I relize that I really didn't. Also I really like enother guy but my bf really likes me what do I do? Should I break up wit him
16 female
Hi, Firstly you got to break it to him gently, face to face is best or a note. Be sensitive to his feelings you really don't want to remind him of his loss of you but to hold dear the memories he gained from you and to cherish that & wish him a well & happy future outlined in 6) in the list. If you wearn't intimate this is easier to do. I have copied and pasted a few inspirational quotes for you to gather strength from.
1) Courage, sacrifice, determination, commitment, toughness,heart, talent, guts. That's what little girls are made of; the heck with sugar and spice.
2)Falling in love is awfully simple, but falling out of love is simply awful.
3)when breaking up with my boyfriend, he told me "you'll never find anyone like me ever!" i thought to myself " i should hope not. you're the kind i want to get rid of."
4)love is a flint that sparks a flame that will either flicker and burn out or continue with a warming glow
5)Don't take life too seriouly because you'll never get out alive.
6) Never be sad for what is over, just be glad that it was once yours.
copy & paste this address and read as much as you can in preparation you will be stronger if you understand how to do this gently
http://www.motivational-depot.com/quotes/relationships/break-up-quotes.htm
Good luck with the break off. I hope the new boyfriend is worth it. Hope this helps.
Good luck sweetie
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Alright so there's this kid in two of my classes who's wicked cute, and I wanted to get to know him better. From what i've heard though:he'll flirt with any girl. But i have a feeling he's just one of those "wanna be" players, like he's the kind of guy that trys to act all cool at first when in reality he has no idea what he's doing :P. So i know when guys are flirts, they usually like girls that play hard to get or tease them. I've been doing that, but i want him to fall for me, not just think i'm a game. He gave me his number and told me to text him, so i did. He told me he thought i was gorgeous,which made me obviously in a good mood XD. But i'm afraid that to this guy, i'm just another cute girl, as the many others he talks to.I was talking to him and he was like " i could beat you up!" (jokingly) and i was like "Psh, i'd dominate your a$$" and then he said "In bed" ,causing me to say "Well thats a given" -- But i was joking, obviously,haha! i don't just want a hookup with him :( So! Question is! How in the WORLD do i get this guy to focus on me and only me!? He seems like he's actually kind of a sensitive guy underneath it all :P How can i tell if he just wants a hookup? How can i make him NOT just want a hookup with me? Should i even bother with him? Please help ! haha :P!
I can see you won't compromise your integrity I commend you for that. That shows good character Now you need to look for a guy who shows these qualities too. If he comes wrapped in a gorgious face & body that's just a bonus. what your really looking for in a beau is a deep and profound mutral respect, trust & friendship. Outside that he's not the one for you.
If you want to win him over you got to give a little attention. By being caring attentive feminine trusting reliable truthfull. Although woman don't apparently guys like Vanilla fragrances it reminds them of baking. You just got to have a few tricks up your sleeve honey. I get my inspiration & integrity from quotes I google
Like this one for instance from
Young love is a flame; very pretty, often very hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. The love of the older and disciplined heart is as coals, deep burning, unquenchable.
-- Henry Ward Beecher.
A friend is one who knows who you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you become, and still gently invites you to grow.
-- Unknown.
"Stay" is a charming word in a friend's vocabulary.
-- Louisa May Alcott.
The way to a man's heart is through his somach.
--Unknown
Love fails, only when we fail to love.
-- J. Franklin.
Compassion is the basis of morality.
-- Arnold Shopenhauer.
It's better to regret something you did, rather than to regret something you didn't do.
-- Unknown.
Forgive all who have offended you, not for them, but for yourself.
-- Harriet Nelson.
You are the answer to every prayer I've said. I couldn't have made you more perfect if I tried. You have become a thief and stolen my heart. Please don't be a vandal and break it.
-- Angelina Kristine.
God always answers in the deeps, never in the shallows of our soul
To understand the heart and mind of a person, look not at what he has already achieved, but at what he aspires to.
-- Khalil Gibran.
Looking for love is like looking for a diamond in a large pile of broken glass and you are on top searching for it with your bare hands.
-- Unknown.
Hope is passion for what is possible.
-- Soren Kierkegaard.
I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.
-- Thomas Alva Edison.
You've got to give to receive.
--Unknown
I could go on all day, I encourage you to look up some quotes there are thousands of them that are truley inspiring and character building You will have much knowledge on the things you are learning now about life love loss courage hope everything you want to know can be said in a sentace and it makes sence. Happy reading you should be quite satisfied with your efforts regarding all your choices you can pick from through out your whole life. This is where I got these quotes from www.farid-hajji.net
He is from Germany. You will know how to win your beaus affection.
I just found this one from a list of cute love
Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep... wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you' re just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky he is to have YOU... The one who turns to his friends and says, thats her...
UNKNOWN
Good luck sweetie
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hey im cutting my friends hair tomorrow after cutting her sisters the other day, her sisters went well luckily but ive had no other experience and i need to know how to cut a side fring/sweep and layers please help! x thanks x
Hi, Well I am a back yard hairdresser too but I did see a proffessional show how to cut a soft fringe. all he did was take the amount of hair you desire to fringe bring it down towards your nose cutting about the length of your nose and twist it tight then snip of the excess & using the tip if sissors snip into the end to soften the ends with a small layer. If the fringe is still too thick after this lift this same hair straight up and snip out tiny small amounts of long strands this should thin it out. Hope this helps.
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im 16 male
im writing a novel thats like 300 pages.
i just finished.
what do i do next? this is big to me...so i need to know.
It's great to see a young person making the most of his time forging a career good on you. You need to contact a pubisher Now I just picked up one of my young son's novel (he's only 8.5yrs) in my sons room & opened it up & on the first page it shows the publishers name & address.
so it not a secret who publishes books & where to find the publishers offices. I believe it does cost a fair bit of money to have them published so you may need to get a loan. The trick here is to advertise wisely & promote yourself to the public. Do a book signing day or week. Your age is benificial every one loves the talent of a young proffessional. Getting on the morning show is a ripper. I don't know what kind of novel you've written fiction or non fiction but if you sit in a court room you can get some real hummers written with interesting characters & story plots. I wish you well.
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I am starting to give myself face scrubs. I wanted to know how often I can do them...I am using green tea, tomato and rice water with sugar...I'd like to do them a few times a week if I can. What's the best for my face. I do not have pimples, wide pores or anything so it's really just for fun. Thanks.
It sounds natural with acidic ingrediance suger is abrasive scrub. I would only do a facial scrub once a week or so to exfoliate otherwise you remove too much natural oils. Then follow with soothing lotion Hope this helps
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I was thinking of starting an early Christmas gift round this week but I don't want to seem stupid in the lines when I buy lots of Christmas presents for my friends and family. I want to beat the holiday rush and I don't see WHY it would be wrong to buy now but I don't know if I'm missing something. Is it too soon to start my holiday Christmas shopping or should I wait a little longer before I start buying gifts? What do you think and why?
Well, My Mother-in-law shops for pressies all yr round by xmas she's got something for everyone.
So it can work well by catching the monthly sales etc. One less thing to do at Xmas time got has got to be a bonus, I guess you could say it's being super organised. Hope this helps.
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There is this girl, Sally, who is really sarcastic. She hangs out with me and my other two friends. Super annoying, but... I deal with her.
There is a foreign girl (Kelly) that goes to our school that Sally has been translating for. Kelly doesn't speak English really well but she seems very sweet so whenever I see her in the halls I try to be friendly with her and say "hello." She sat with us once or twice at lunch. Otherwise I don't talk to her at all. Of course, because she doesn't speak English.
Kelly added me on Facebook, and, trying to be nice, I wrote on her wall and said, "Hi! :-)" She posted back on my wall and said hello as well. Was I weird doing this? I was just trying to be nice, because she added me. Of course Sally had to make a sarcastic comment on what I said to Kelly and say "FUCK OFF KELLY LOL."
Kelly added me on Facebook, and, trying to be nice, I wrote on her wall and said, "Hi! :-)" She posted back on my wall and said hello as well. Was I weird doing this? I was just trying to be nice, because she added me. Of course Sally had to make a sarcastic comment on what I said to Kelly and say "FUCK OFF KELLY LOL."
Having a cynical disposition like Sally has, is a character flaw.
Ask yourself How do you feel about contacting Kelly on Facebook? were you sincere? Would you be sincere?
Might be difficult at first maintaining a conversation with Kelly for now but she has to learn the language eventually. If she is genuinely friendly and shows good character why not develope a frienship? You don't have to over do it to be a friend. A good friend gives you his or her quality time with pleasure.
Many a time from a bad beginning great friendships have sprung up.
-- Terence.
Hope this helps
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14/f
thhooouuuugh I don't think this is a romantic thing or anything, so it is a slightly different approach...
anyway today we had free time in class and our teacher is awesome so we can sleep till the bell if that happens, and so I was napping a bit and I wake up because someone burped real loud beside me, and I find this boy I've been talking to a little bit for a while watching me with this really sincere grin and so I smile a bit and say, "Hey.. I'm kinda sleepy, haha."
His eyes crinkle up with more smileyness and he says "Yeah, I know. I was..." and then he gets dragged into a conversation with someone else.
Now, some romantic girls may say "Ooohh, how sweet he likes you and thought you were cute sleeping~" but no, I don't think so. He does look at me sometimes, and if I'm talking to another guy he tends to take notice and gets in the middle of it (discretely, though I know he does this on purpose because any time I'm talking with a girl he never pays any attention) and he'll tease me, but the thing is he's a flirt as it is. He's always picking fights with girls to see their reactions and stuff.
so yeah, the main question here is--
......seriously, is a sleeping girl that freakin' funny?
I know I'm not ugly, even though I'm not a beauty queen, I don't snore (according to every family member who has shared a room/bed with me), I don't talk in my sleep, according once again to the family...
so what the heck was so funny or cute or whatever it was that made him smile?
You asked......seriously, is a sleeping girl that freakin' funny?
I presume he is 14yrs he may still be 13yrs, He is just a cheeky teen with a lot of growing up to do. I think his burp amused himself. He will grow out of it hey he may even be date-able in a few yrs. Sit tight see what else transpires from him.
My story There was a guy in my English
class of 76 Larry Fuller is his name, he had the deepest blue eyes I have seen on anyone they were like the ocean. Anyway, he would sit right opposite me but facing me. He would Ask WHAT WOOM WE IN WOUISE.
He was pretty obnoxious yearh! I just ignored him he caught me on bad day, I stood up & told him to "leave me alone". he did after that. Sit tight for now.Good luck
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if you really hate cleaning your room like i do whats the fastest and more fun way to do it?
I cleaned hotel rooms for 15 yrs I could do a staying guest's room in less than 7 minutes & full clean in 20 minutes. But enough about me.
So you can do this o.k. I hated cleaning my bedroom too when I lived at home with my folks. But when you know what your doing it's easy.
You must have a methodical routine. An order of doing things Make a written list of tasks start at the door work around the room and follow the list to the letter.
WHAT YOU NEED
You come into your bedroom armed with
bucket with a small amount hot water(not boiling)
cleaning products spray & wipe For furniture windex for windows & mirrors
bin liners(old ripped up towels) perfect cleanning cloths for wet & dry use (Machine wash seperately after use)
IN A CLOTHS BASKET BRING INTO THE BEDROOM
Clean sheets Pillow cover
Clean bedcovers if you wish to change it
Vacuume cleaner
NOW HERE IS THE METHOD.time yourself you just get faster with a methodical routine.
QUICK VERSION The magnificant 7 rules
1)empty trash bins put in new bin liner.
2)strip bed of linen & put into wash basket,
3)make your bed up with fresh linen.
4)Shoes, cloths away/wash pick up lage objects on floor. Vacuum cleaner won't become clogged.
5)clean mirrors windows
6)dust down dressing table area then tidy.
7)Vacuum floor. your Done congratulations Exellent
Remeber less is more so putting things away in a cupboard or in boxes under your bed really tidies well.
The long version is the same as above but more thouroughly done by pulling out funiture moving bed to clean under it dust everything and clean windows air conditioning duucts fans. You'll be suprised how quick you can do a beautiful cleane I bet you enjoy it. Copy and past this introduction to cleaning fast & efficiently.
I hope this helps Good luck
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I'm trying my hand at theater/acting. I'm getting an agent. Would getting my belly button pierced hurt my chances of making it in the acting business?
Only if it got caught on something like the bosses zipper. LOL
No not at all.
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17/f, i recently discovered that i enjoy playing the drums. problem is, the friend who taught me some stuff, is not allowed to hang out with me anymore. (long story) but, he had a drum set, which was pretty cool & i don't know where to get my own, i need cheap and GOOD drums. and...i have to convince my dad to let me get them. we live in a trailer so it's going to be tough to get him to let me get them. i just really want to drum. my uncle has two drum sets, but he uses one and his son uses one. I could practice on those, but i have nothing to practice! I don't know where to go from here, please help guide me in the right direction!
thanks in advance, sorry it was long.
My son is teaching himself the guitar Now he does go to music lesson at night run by the local guitar shop. He also prints the music off the internet it not written in the way I remeber music notes it's more numbers quite different to the normal music but he understands it and is getting quite good.
My Brother played drums it is a very noisy instrument he had to set his Drums up in the shed way down the yard. anyway I notice lately I have been hearing a drummer practice in my area he must be allowed to use a shed on week ends that belongs to one of the painters up the way a bit. I do live near an indusrial bussiness area mostly sheds closed week ends. just a thought. Good luck
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So I did something to make my husband not trust me (FYI, I have been married for 10 years and am having a significant b-day soon; perhaps I am in mid-life crisis mode). Actually more than one thing, two things. (1) I had two flirtations on FACEBOOK; strictly 2-dimensional, but definitely behaviour inappropriate for a married woman. Got caught, with one, fessed up to the other in an effor to be truthful. Deactivated my FACEBOOK; that was 3 1/2 months ago. (2) I sent an e-mail to an ex of mine admitting some unresolved feelings and wondering if we ever could have made it together; my husband found this e-mail {yes, by poking thru my personal stuff}. I maintain that ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS, and that these were thoughts conveyed in the e-mail with no interest in acting on these thoughts. He maintains that I had an 'emotional affair', (yes from one e-mail) and says he wants to forgive me but needs to takl about it 5x a week. What should I do?
He is not over the hurt & betrayal. I don't blame him you need to keep reasurring him alls well in the real world you got carried away in cyber world it won't happen again. Your not the only person to do this. your going to have to earn his trust back. help him build his bridge & get over it together. You crossed the line you know you did now your got to work on going forward from this.
needs to takl about it 5x a week. What should I do?
Theres nothing more to say I told you everything. give him a cuddle and reasure him you really love him you both got a bit distant but your fine now.
turn your adversity into positives.
Good luck.
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So I have known this boy for 2 years and ever since the moment I met him there has been a connection with him. We flirt literally every time we are together even if one of us is currently seeing someone else. We have so many things and common and always manage to have a good time. We never dated before but we have both talked about how we have always liked each other it has just never worked out. Also he is a huge flirt and goes out with a lot of girls but somehow I feel its different with me because he always seems generally concerned with how I am and never wants to push me to do anything I don't want but I don't know if I really am different or just another girl. I have recently started college and I know I'm young and I'm still going to meet so many people and I have met/am meeting so many new people but I still think about him all the time. I can really see myself being with him possibly forever but have no way of knowing. I don't feel this strongly about any of the other boys I have dated and I am really scared that we will never end up together. The only problem with me realizing all of this now is that he is at school in South Carolina while I am in Boston so it is very inconvenient and I don't know what to do.
I think your just missing him madley because you are close friends. It's important to remember that a good relationship is built on the foundation stones of friendship. It you enter a relationship that's already established friendship & trust the relationship has a better than average chance of survival,follow your heart.
If it's ment to be you'll find a way to make it happen. Good luck.
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22/F
Over the last few years, I've been in a huge battle with depression. I failed out of university, lost contact with my family, and almost lost my boyfriend. Things were awful.
It's only been a year and a half since I was hospitalized, but since then I've been healing at an incredible rate. I'm finally happy again; I'm in school, talking to friends and family again, and enjoying life. I've beat the beast, and I want to commemorate all that I've done somehow.
I feel like I've been through so much, and it just doesn't show on the outside. I want something, even if I'm the only one who knows what it means, that externalizes the strength I feel and the pain I've gone through to get to where I am.
I think a great way to do this would be to get a tattoo. Now, I'm not an ink and piercings kind of gal. I wouldn't get a tattoo unless I was 100% sure that it was important to me. You are marring your body permanently, after all.
I'm thinking small. The main idea I have is to have "Veni, Vidi, Vici" (I came, I saw, I conquered) done in a nice script, somewhere hidden.
Now for my questions:
1) My boyfriend HATES the idea. He understands why I want to do it, but he just hates tattoos. He's even told me that he's okay with scarring (which I am far too squeamish for), but not tattooing. I don't want to put that on hold because of an aesthetic preference.
2) Any suggestions for design or placement? I don't want anything big or colourful. I want to keep it invisible, so no shoulderblades, ankles, wrists or tramp stamp areas.
3) If I don't get tattooed, does anyone have any other suggestions? I really want to do something for myself. Something permanent; not like a new outfit or a spa day.
Congratulations, that is a feat to celebrate.
I hate tatoos too but it's your body so I'm o.k. with your reasons. I think the words you chose is pinnacle of this personal battle you won.
My neighbour who is pettite & classy is not the tatoo type like ourselves but she did get the names of her 3 children tatooed just under her hip bone towards the front of her tummy. the writing was delicate scroll writting of Joshua Jaden Jemima in 3 rows as to show who was 1st 2nd 3rd.
Anyway it's not that noticable at first it's inconspicuous acually. Very pretty in scrolly handwritting. I like the idea of a grub cacoon butterfly as before during & after. Im sure your boyfriend will get over it. Go for it. You make me feel like getting one.LOL
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ok i get pissed throughout the day who doesnt ,but now when i get mad i dont think of killing who made me mad i feel like jumping on a spike or bashing my head against a wall.am i crazy ?will i be driven to hurt myself ?im not suicidal. i dont do it.its weirding me out with the fact i wanted to die didnt ,care if i lived, not even a month ago man.IS there a way to stop this before something serious happens.
I totally agree with reallifecommonsence but would also like to add
You said you drink a lot who dosen't?
well a lot of people don't drink at all some on occassions I personally am allegic to alcohol it makes me go right off the wall if I am pushed by sarcastic people. so I suspect the alcohol is a huge factor in your personal crisis. Alcohol is a depessant so too much alchol caused you to have a downer you cannot control please think about that too.
I haven't had a scotch for 22 yrs now I don't miss it at all. If I want to drink I drink light beer only or soft drink I am a better person for it & you will be too honestly.
Thanks for standing up and admitting your not in denial that's the first step in recovery.
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I didn't make a garden at home this year but next year I plan to do that because I want some nice, tasty home-grown vegetables for salads and stuff. Anyway, what are easy vegetables to grow at home? I want to go on and make a list so I don't have to worry about it next year. I have enough space to plant whatever vegetables but I don't want to try anything that is complicated or needs a lot of maintenance since I'm just getting into this.
I watched Gardening Australia He made a circlular garden for potatoes 1/2 metre wide by 1 metre high. The sicks were like a raten curtain that tied together with wire or rope at the seam. He placed soil compost straw soil compost straw 3/4 filled the circle put in 8 potatoes and cover again with another layer soil compost straw. When the potatoes are ready the plant will die back completly cut the ties the garden will fall down you can easily collect your spuds. I like the idea of growing tomatoes upside down in a PVC pipe you suspend the pipe in a sunny location but the tomatoes don't touch the grownd and rot.
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My husband and I are FINALLY expecting our first baby and we are so excited! I'm about three and a half months pregnant now and we think it's time to tell our parents about the great news. We thought it might be super cute to take a home pregnancy test and then mail it to them! :D Do you think this is a good idea? If so, how exactly do I do that? Just shove it in an envelope and send it off to them? haha
Congratulations on the little one. You can wait for your first ultrasound at 16-18 weeks
I would take a photo of you 2 holding the test results wearing great big smiles just because you have to pee on the swatch and it may seem a little unhygenic to post and recieve. You keep your test... they will just through it away in the bin. I still have mine 18 yrs later. Good luck
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My mother was diagnosed with breast cancer when she was only 33 years old. I've heard such things as getting your first mammogram at 10 years younger than when your mother was diagnosed and then every few years. I also heard that I should start getting mammograms when I hit 21 since my mother had cancer. I am 22 now though and I haven't had a breast cancer screening yet. Should I get my first one at 22 or 23 or when?
Her cancer was so high up in her breast that it was not detected on a mammogram actually, and she found it herself during self-examination. She went through chemotherapy, radiation, and a partial mastectomy before the cancer was completely gone. It was REALLY hard on her!
I guess I should ask my gynecologist the next time I see him but that won't be for awhile and I'd like an idea of what I should be doing to protect myself from cancer. My mother became scared when I had 2 cysts a couple of years ago.
Thank you for your help/answers!
You can perform your own breast test but if it runs in the family sooner better than later is the point here. if you think it's important enough go as so as possible. If you don't think it's important you may be sorry you waited. Good luck
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19female. never had a boyfriend before. fell in love with my best friend. he had a girlfriend for 3 years. shes one of the prettiest girls i know. recently broke up but are still very close and i know they still have feelings for each other. my cousin was on facebook and saw that she had gotten one and clicked on her page and it was private but we could see her picture and it was of her and my best friend. i was SOOOO down after like, like really depressed. i dont even know why. his facebook has no pictures of them two on there. it just bothers me that they're so close and i know shes still in love with him, shes a bit obsessed he has said. but she still has the thing i want and thats him. and i get down on myself because i look at how pretty she is and how everyone loves her and i look at myself and compare myself to her which i know i shouldnt be doing but i cant help not to. i feel like she has a better life than me. more friends, she has the looks, she is absolutely amazing at sports, shes smart... what could be wrong with her? how can i get over this:(
She sounds like a player. Are players ever truley happy?
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Recently, my friend has been talking about how "hot" he thinks his teacher his. He keeps saying he fantasizes about her and he worships her. He said he likes walking past her room having excuses just to walk by her, he said he wants to buy the yearbook and school newsaper just to oogle and "jerk off" at any pictures of her in them. Worst of all, he said he wishes she was a pedophile and if she wanted to molest him he'd be all for it. This sounds extremely creepy and unhealthy to me? I always thought a teacher is someone you respect, not look at in that way. Is this normal? Should I do something about it.
It is far from normal it is very creepy indeed. Yes you should tell the principle if your friend is a budding deviate this poor teacher is in trouble and she won't even know about it unless he is expose for the devo he's acting like and she can be aware of it and be prepared anyway.
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