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Ciao sono Jenn. This is my advice column. I'm always here to talk, and listen. Feel free to give a shout, and I'll try my best to help you. Always here to lend an ear. Always here to share a thought.
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I'm 13 and have pretty big boobs. I'm tall and thin and I wear a 36D. I like hanging out with guys and only have a few female friends just because I don't really prefer their company. The only problem is the guys (and basiclly the rest of the school) are constantly staring and commenting on them. I try to hide it with loose clothes but people still seem to notice. My boyfriend is ticked about this and so am I. (I'm happy that he agrees with me and never makes rude comments on them or constantly stares or touches them.) But anyway I need to know what I should do about all these guys saying things. They're alays giving me rude nicknames or just flat out telling other people how they want to touch them. Me and my boyfriend have tried telling them to stop politely and forcefully but they continue anyway. What do you think I should do?
Well, there's a girl at my school in your EXACT same situation, so I know what you're dealing with.
I have TWO SUGGESTIONS!
A) You could use humor with it, such as a witty comeback. My friend *Kelsey who deals with this, generally says something like "Oh, well its funny to find out that someone looks at my boobs more than I do, considering i look in the mirror everyday, and their mine!"
B) You could also try and look at them and laugh, or be like like "Aahha, thannkks." So they think it doesn't bother you.
Basically you shouldn't show you're bothered by it, or people will bug you even more.
Good Luck with your situation!
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my n my boyfriend have been going out for 5 months... im 13/f and well valentines day is coming up.. and i have no idea what to get him... hes sorta a prep, he plays football, and umm idk hes just like a normal 13 year old guy.. please help!!
Get him a gift certificate to like his favorite clothes store, or something that has to do with football.. I dunno I am just guessing.
i have little love handels..they aren`t huge or anything but they borther me. what gets rid of them? like what excercies besides running because i already do that. and please explain the excercise. thank you:)
Well it if really bothers you then just start doing maybe 50 lateral crunches everyday. If you feel like you want to then you can do 50 in the morning, 50 at night. But it all depends on your pace, you can even do 50 one day, 100 the next, then 25 the next. Just go at your own pace. But I strongly suggest lateral crunches.
Omg, im stressing out seriously. Okay, well my boyfriend just broke up with me, my mom is always flipping out on me now, my best friend is mad at me for cutting. and nothing left of happiness is left in me. I dont know what i should i do. I just need help seriously. So please can someone help me?! Thanks so much. -- Colleen
Oh hun,
Please don't cut yourself. I know it's your descion, I am not trying to be dumb. I think you need to try to be positive, yes it must be hard I imagine but try to make the better of thing. Try to avoid your mom, that's what I do. Try to find someone else to like. Tell your best friend your sorry and you couldn't help it. Maybe you need to sit down with your mom or your friend and tell them about this. If you want more advice I am always here to talk. IM ME AT: pinkishmango24 or email me at: femmelax@yahoo.com
The best luck, this is something hard to talk about.
I know this sounds stupid but here it goes..THere is this guy at our school that FLIRTS with all the girls, but he flirts with me the most and all the girls say so to. I really like him too. He always plays footsie ne and like he always drinks out the same cup as me and then he is like oh sorry but I can tell he does it on perpose and he tries to hold my hand. THe only thing is we are not going out, and this has been going on for about 2 months and I just cant stand it why wont he as kme plz type back
Aww, that is so cute. I wish a guy would treat me like that. Well you should ask him if you really like him. Be bold, if he likes you I guess you really are sure he does. You should sort of try to let him know, secretivly if you really want to. Have fun with this!! IM me if you want to, I can help more.
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I have like this guy since last year. We have flirted a little bit and stuff like that, but i cant tell if he likes me. He stares at me all the time during class. But when we talk on AIM, he will be really mean. Except, today, I randomly asked if he had seen "Coach cater" because i wanted to know if it was a good movie, and he said "no, but do u want to go?" I said i was already going witha friend, and he was like "fine ur loss". I dont know if this was some kind of joke, or if he really likes me! Please help me out!
You should ask him to go with you and your friend if the friend is fine with it. You could also tell him that even though plans wont work this time maybe you could go to another movie another time? This is a tough subject. If you like him let him know, if he knows ask him if he likes you or if it was a joke. Good Luck!
I have this friend named Emily. She has recently just liked this guy named Justin. Well a week ago she decided she didn't like him anymore. Last night they were talking online and Justin told Emily that he really really liked me and he was going to ask me out and if i said no then he would like be at da point crying. I don't like him and i don't really want to go out cuz i like someone else but my friend wants me to go out w/ him... what should i do?
You should be honest and say "You are good as a friend, but I don't have feelings for you like that." I know it sucks, but it's the truth and it is better to tell him and your friend the truth, rather than leading Justin on if you said yes. Good Luck!
hi i'm 14 year old girl and my friend has this boyfriend who she's been dating for 11 months and he totally cheats on her! i;ve told her about it many times! finally she asked him about it when i told her he frenched one of my friends! after she talked to him about it she said it was ok cause he said it was only a friendship kiss cause she was down in the dumps! i told her that it was on the lips tounge and all and she was like i know! she believes EVERYTHING he says! wut should i do? she won't listen to me! can't just sit there and watch him cheat on her!help plz!
You should sit down and tell her than because you're her friend you are watching out for her and that you really are worried for her. You should also lte her know "who do you trust more about the truth, your friend, or a guy?" but be nicer about it, ya know? If you don't want to do that just let her know "I have been trying to convince you of the truth, and all I can do it hope that you believe me, and do something about it." I think it takes a lot of guts to tell her that, so I definetly give you major props that as it is. I wish you so much luck.
my bestfriend looks at me when she spends the night over at my house in a weird way...like when we are gettin ready to go to bed i catch her lookin at me when im changin i really feel uncomfortable and i want her to stop but i dont know how to bring it up and i dont want to start a huge fight and i still want to be friends but im just not like that....what should i do?
Hello,
Yes I understand the situation. I know what you mean that has happened to a friend of mine before. I think you need to let her know because if you do it will just become worse for you. I think you should tell her "I just wanted to let you know that I feel like whenever I am undressin' you are lookin' at me, I am not trying to accuse you of something but its putting me in a weird position. I of course want to still be your friend but I just want to know whats up." Something nice, but something that gets the message to her. This is a tough situation, good luck!
i feel so lonley without a boyfriend. i miss having some one here to always talk to and stuff, is that wrong?
NO! Of course that isnt wrong. I feel that way all the time. I mean its completely NORMAL, do not worry. I feel lonely a lot, but just dont get to stressed about it. There are good things about being single. Like you can flirt with whoever you feel like flirting with, you can look at guys with anyone getting mad. So there are pros and cons. Basically there is nothing wrong with that.
I am so in love with this boy.. that i have been lets say more than friends with.. ne wayz... I'm so confused now.. I don't know what to do I don't know if I SHOULD GO FOR HIM OR WHAT.. I really like him and he likes me well i would hope so.. becasue he kisses me and we act like a couple but i dont wanna be turned down if i ask him out what should I do help!! plz ill rate 5's
I think you should let him know how you feel. Be honest with him, if you cant be honest with him why bother. Well yah you get it. I hope. But I would tell him your feelings first and see what his reaction his. Go for it from there. Good luck! :D
my friend wants to get extentions.. how do i tell her that uhm.. no.
Well I mean, it is her descion so dont force her into not getting them. You should just give her your input, try not to be mean though.
ok, see there is this boy that i dated a while back and I really liked him until he broke up wit me, but now i am back with another guy and I am completely in love with him and our relationship couldnt be better. but everytime my friends like my ex...i get so jealous and mad...why is this? i really need some help
OMG, I so get what you mean. This has happened to me. I guess it is just human nature. That happens to me sometimes, just think about why you broke up and thats why you shouldnt be jealous and they will have to deal with him. Thats what I do. I wish you luck on this situation, cause thats a toughie.
13/f/7th grade
There's this really cute 8th grader that I like and he kinda doesn't know that i exist. I mean i see him a lot at my cousin's house and he notices me but i don't know how to get him to like me. Please, for the love of god, help me!
Okay. I understand what you mean. You can't MAKE someone like you though it just work like that. If they see you at your cousins house they obviously know you exsist they just might not be friends with you I guess. You can just start saying hi, then whenever you feel like it trying having a conversation. Then once you become friends you could like call him sometimes and be all "im bored." and i bet he will talk to you. I know this is a cliché, but if he doesnt like you for who you are he really isnt worth it. Believe me, I have experienced this. Good Luck girlie!
hey i am 14/f i reli need sum help with dis i hav dis friend n she tells me everything n we ben thro quite a bit i was always therre for her wen shtuff happened n i always helped her out tha problem is dat weneva i hav shtuff goin on dat i need 2 tlk bout she never listens lyk i start sayin sumthin n she'll cut me off n start tlkn bout herself or i want 2 tell her a funni stori but she interupts me in mai first sentence n starts sayin sumthin bout melissa(one of her reli good friends) i dunt wana confront her bout it cuz i kno dat she will get reli mad cuz she always tells me dat she is therre for me but in reality she isnt PLEASE HELP thank u sooooo much
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ok well that happens to a lot of people. I think one of the only things you can do is let her know she cuts you off and it bothers you but tell her not to take it personally and be real nice about it.
im sry i just picked this category cuz its where most people go. but somhing weird just happened. i was out bak and itss very dark cuz its like 9. and i look at the woods in my yard and.............i saw something. ....i dont want 2 believe wat i saw cuz peeps wud tthink im wweird....but i saw a pair of bright...hypnotic...red eyes. now im the kinda guy who think movies like signs and the mothman prophocies r wicked gay. i dont get scared by hem i getbored. but as i stared at these eyes i felt llight headed andd i kept hearing this sharp,crackly sound coming rom he eyes. then it all of a sudden took off!!i jumed up in the air i saw its shadowy silouhette in the sky. it reminded me alot bout mothman. but i live in Mass. this has really freakedd me out. should i tell som1?
I think you need to tell someone right away if its scaring you, you should be serious about it and tell. Man i know what you mean mothman propechies scared the crud out of me.. i couldnt walk around the house alone and the thought of something like that to happen to you would scar me for life, tell someone even if it is nothing.
my ex girlfriend is currently dating my best friend. I pretend i dont mind, but i really do because i still lik her and i know she still likes me, so wat should i do
Well sit her down in private and let her know you still have feelings for her and it bothers you, and see what happens! good luck!
Ok well i'm 13 and i was getting to know this girl. She just broke up with her bf. And she told me that she liked me. C the thing is i didn't know her that well and i started to try and talk to her more. I was starting to like her but i've only seen her once and only talk to her online. But i started to like her. Only i just started talkin to her 4 days ago. So i told her that i wasn't gonna ask her out until i got to know her better. The problem is now she's goin out with another guy. Is there somthin wrong with me should i have asked her out?
Plz Help
Well if she really liked you she would have waited. I bet she likes you a lot, but maybe she just needs a boyfriend all the time and when she is ready she might give you the oppurtunity of asking her out. Good Luck!
im 14 and goin wit a grl i really like but all my freinds and even my dad say i should break up wit her and go out with this other grl. the problem is i like both of them alot but the grl im with usualy hase long relationships but the other grl doesnt. if i break up with the grl im with and then the other grl doesnt last long i will be givin up the relationship i wanted 4 a one week thing. if u can help me ill be really happy. thnx
Well if you really like the girl your with and you know the relationship will last longer and actully mean something I would stick with it. Unless you feel real strongly about dating the other girl. I hope this all works out in the end!
this girl at my school like sleeps around and does drugs and drinks and stuff...and not alot of ppl like her...but she wants to go out with my best guy friend and all shes gonna do is sleep with him and get him into drugs and everybody knows and doesnt want it to happen and i dont know how to tell him that he shouldnt go out with her...
Tell him "Man, your my best friend and I am tellin yah this cuz were buds and i dont want something to ruin your life. my opinion about ____ is not so great, i mean its your choice and your life but you know she does drugs and drinks and if you go out with her she could get you in to them and i dont want that to happen. Its only my opinion but think about it."
Just let him know you really care about what could happen to him. Good Luck i hope all goes well!