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My name is Senaida. I am a very opinionated lady, I believe I have been through very tough times but deffinetly not the worst. I can take a lot of crap, and I am glad to always make a friend. Best friends come from fights in the beginning, I have learned that. I love giving advice as well as receiving it.

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Hi 14/m i am starting to dress scene is it ok to wear a clip on lip ring and a magnetic stud? Or wil i prolly get sh*t for it-how could i make it look like i really have my lip and ear pierced and if i just get them pierced wil it be permant? Thanks 4 any help

If I saw you wearing that, I'd laugh in your face, a lot. Take that stuff out and get some real piercings kido. And if you are fourteen and do not know if your piercings will be permanant or not, there's a problem there....

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Hi..... My name is Sydney and I got a question. I am 13 years old and I need to lay in the tanning bed. I go to this place called tanic tan and it's really cool... but I would really like it if you would tell me some good tanning lotion and stuff.... oh and can me laying in the tanning bed at this age effect my having children in the future... i lay about 10 minutes 4 times a week. THANKS!~!~!

Four times a week! That's terrible, you should do it for like twice a month! Dude, you're going to die of skin cancer. I suggest stop going tanning all together.

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So I've decided to get my bridge, (the space between your eyes) pierced. Look it up on google if my description sounds odd =)
In order to avoid the cluttering that would happen if I got my septum pierced,since I have a monroe. (although, if you think it won't look cluttered I'm still open to piercing that instead of my bridge.)
Do you think that's a good choice?
(i realize some people don't like piercing, but try and jusge unbiasy) Just look at my face shape and see if it would 'go'.

http://s2.photobucket.com/albums/y11/Zeilay/?action=view¤t=cofdhjg.jpg
(that's me,lol)

The septum looks really good on tiny girls and you look like you could pull it off. I think the bridge and septum would be too much in the same place but the fact that you have the monroe makes the septum look even better. The monroe and bridge don't look good together, I think.

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Im going to sound stupid but. Me and my boyfriend want to makeout. Weve kissed for long amounts of time before but we wand to get into it a little bit more. Like positions and stuff. Any ideas for me??

Sit on his lap, lean into the kiss. Moan some when the kissing gets heavy.

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15/f

so as it always starts...there is this guy that i like. A LOT. i've liked him for about 4 months now, but never actually started thinking about him until a month and a half ago. well i told him i liked him the week of valentine's day and he still hasn't gotten back to me if he likes me back or not. not only can i not stop thinking about if he does or not (b/c he really seems like he does and my friends say he's shy but you still can't tell or judge completely) but i also just can't stop thinking about him period.

how do i stop being so 'obssessed' (lack of a better word) and how do i find out if he likes me without actually asking him straight up if he does or getting a friend to do anything? (you know, cause i don't want to mess anything up.)

thanks in advance. =]

I think if he liked you, even if he's shy and reserved, he would have gotten back to you about it because if he is worth being with he would make something happen despite his shyness. I do not think he likes you since he hasn't put forth effort into making anything happen between you two. The way you stop thinking about him isn't as simple as the first answer I gave you. It might take some time, and the sooner you start, the better for you. Think about someone else, or something else, involve yourself with activities that will not give you time to think about him. Read or play some silly game.

Good luck

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okay..lets say..im a girl..and my dad's brother's son (my cousin) has a son..

would that son be my cousin or my nephew..?

He is your cousin. The only way he could be your nephew is if your brother/sister had a son.

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Ok, so my friend has become serious with her BF. AND SHES COMPLETELY BETRAYED WHO SHE IS!!! Shes like super perky and totally self-centered all of the sudden. She used to be super nice and caring with a bit of goth-ness to her. Now all she can talk about how happy/lucky she is and completely ignores my problems or anything i want to talk about. I know she loves her BF, i'm not saying they should break up, but how can i tell her about this without looking like a bitch?
This Perky Narcissist is not the girl who used to be my friend.
I want my friend back =(

I think you'd be just fine saying it exactly to her like you did here. If she doesn't understand then she's not worth even hanging out with. That's not what you want to hear but if she thinks that her boyfriend is so great, then let her be with him, I bet you have a lot of other friends who would more than willingly be happy to listen to you and help you out. Obviously she's just too caught up with her boyfriend to notice that you are trying to tell her something. Write her a note or call her and tell her exactly how you said everything here and tell her you're not meaning to be rude but you just want her back without him getting in the way.

Good luck.

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ok if anyones read my first thing about the guy they would understand this ok as u know the guy from my previous question isn't talking to me and now and he told my friend rachel that he aint talking to me because i threatened him that i was going to tell the cops and everything for trying to have sex with me . the problem is i was never really goint to tell on him i was just really mad at the situation because he wasn't going to be my friend anymore so ive texted him and ive even left a voice mail on my phone saying im sorry. and he still hasn't answered me back i need advice from a guy to know is he will ever forgive me because i truly am sorry for threatening him. oh and fyi from 1st letter i am 15 and hes 19 and i really care about him i tried being mad at him but i just care about him to much to be mad for long.thankies

Well the fact that you are allowing yourself to even think of having sex with an adult is wrong.
He is a smart guy, if I were a guy and some girl threatened to call the cops for trying to have sex with her, I would leave too. You are too young to be having sex anyway, I really hope you do know that. Why can't you just wait to have someone you feel really strong for?

Oh &, leave the guy alone. He obviously doesn't want to have anything to do with you. And if he is smart, he wont forgive you, ever.

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How do you pronounce "Zooey Deschanel"?

I think like

Zoo-E.
Des Chanel (like the purse company or w/e)

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Bikini season is coming really soon. I need to lose atleast like 10 or 15 pounds by one month. Any advice or suggestions?

thanks

Do not over eat. If and when you go to dinner, order something that you know will not be terribly bad for you. Ask for the calories and such. Do some crunches for your abs and stair steppers for your legs and butt. Do not eat too many sweets and greasy foods. It's a sacrifice you will have to make in order to look great for Bikini Season.

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Ok so i have some major body issues. I HATE my body! I have no confidence and i hide my body all the time. basically i never wear skirts i always wear jeans and if i wear a cute top i always always wear a jeacket over it. I wear a jacket all year round at the pool infront of my friend i wont even wear a bathing suite without shorts and a shirt. I avoid pictures all together and i just i hate myself. I mean people tell me im beautiful and sometimes i believe it but just its more guys and myself. Its like every guy i like i wont approach or automatically i think well he would never like me so i just depress myself. I always think its better to go in expecting the worst because then i wont get hurt. I'm not going to sit here and say i always get made fun of because i dont i have tons of friends and guys like me but i just i hate myself. I wont wear clothes that show anything basically huge shirts. I just i want to love myself and be confident i want to feel like i dont have to change myself for other people to like me and think im beautiful.I just i really really need help.

I think every girl is beautiful in her own way. You might not like your body, but people like you anyway, which means you are beautiful whether you choose to believe it or not. If you are confident, you make yourself look better, it's a matter of attitude. If you do not like your body, just do some exercises to improve it some, not drastically though because it would change you as a person and you seem like a great girl. Run a little in your spare time, convince your parents to buy you a stair stepper or something. It would be a great thing to put to use, do some crunches and BE CONFIDENT. The only reason you would have to worry about anyone not liking you is you aren't confident that you can make it. Every guy likes a confident girl, and to nice guys out there, a girls body is not the only thing that they are attracted to. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

I wish you luck. ♥

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He has a girlfriend, but i really like him. And me and him talk a little bit. And at one point i thought he liked me, but then he dropped the sentence that he had a girlfriend to one of his friends. I was just wondering, (im not going to steal him from her. Im not that kinda girl) but i was wondering how do i get him to notice me? and i mean like really notice me? I know the flirting and crap. But i just want to know how i can get him to see me and not see me as invisable if you know what im saying. Thanks

Be really friendly and positive. Get to know what he's into, and talk about it. Even though guys do not like to admit it, they like it when a girl talks about them, and not always herself. Laugh at his lame jokes, hehe and be nice to him. Don't be overly nice because then he'll see that you're just some friendly girl and you want to be more than that. Compliment him, get into the sports he likes, engage in good conversation over the sports that he likes and such. You want to impress him, you'll have to do a little research. It doesn't all come easy with men. Be pretty and be confident, try something new with your look. Wear your hair a different way so he notices and if he compliments you, then you know you did great. When a female looks the same everyday, it sort of bores them and their attention doesn't always follow you. I suggest new eye shadow or something with the eyes because it's mainly what gentlemen are attracted to.


I hope everything goes well for you.

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he sits up front of me in a class. i am 17 and he is 16. He isnt that cute but i have this crush on him. i think why i like him is because you see im not exactly the perfect person, and he seems like he is. I've gotten into some drugs and stuff like that and he doesnt even drink or do anything bad. i dont know. but i feel like i am a good girl when im around him. the problem is i dont know if he likes me. how do i figure it out? like he flirts with me and everything in school and when we see eachother at parties but when i try texting him he is really short.

You could always try hinting it, but he is a guy and chances are he wont get it.
When you text him just be like, "You have amazing eyes" or something stupid like that and let him know you're interested.

OR

You could just be forward about it. Be like, "Hey, it seems like you like me, I just wanted to know."

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should I be upset if all my boyfriend (of over one year) is "supposidly" getting me a postar for valentines day? I mean, I feel it's a taky gift. Or am I being spoiled. Cause I mean even my friends who havent beeen with their bfs that long are getting more than a POSTER. COme on people. Flowes say I'm sorry. Choclates say I love you, and a poster says i'm an imature little boy who needs to grow up. SO any comments?

I think it's little.
I believe every lady should recieve a nice gift, a card, some chocolates and even a flower. Flowers say, "I appreciate you." But maybe he has something extra he hasn't told you about and just wants to surprise you so don't give up hope yet.

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Im really embarrassed to ask this, but like i know what sex is. I just dint know EVERYTHING about it.
Can someone give me some bullets as to what it is?
An explanation?
anything!
I know how it happens though so you dont need to get into that =)

http://www.avert.org/faqindex.htm

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There's a guy from school who had a big crush on me. He knew absolutely nothing about me, and yet he still liked me. He used to keep talking to me and trying to get me to go on a date with him. After a while we started instant messaging on yahoo, and I got to know him a little better. At first I thought he was kind of cute, but I wasn't really that into him once I got to know him. I didn't want to lead him on, so finally I told him very nicely that I would just like to remain friends. He got mad at me! Now he's not talking to me at all. I told him we could still be friends, but he doesn't care. And it makes me wonder, was he even interested in me as a person or did he just want me to be his girlfriend? Anyway, now I feel bad about rejecting him (even though I did it very gently, I didn't diss him or anything) and I don't even think we're friends anymore. What should I do now?

Just give it time.
I know you don't want to hear that but after time he'll realise what's really supposed to happen. It's a good thing that you let him down easy, I do not think he had the right to get mad at you. It's not like you can force yourself to like him, whatever the reason for why he's acting the way he is, don't fret about it. You shouldn't worry yourself over nothing.

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Do any of you guys no of any stupid songs like
'Tip Toe Through The Tulips With Me' by tiny tim?
that song is the most hilarious song i've ever heard. and its catchy. if you know of any more, please answer!

Show Me Yo Bootey Hole - Saosin

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Ok this sounds really gross and weird but how do you get rid of blackheads on your boobs?

You know those black head things that go on your nose? I would at least give that a try. You have nothing to lose really.

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Please help. I'm 15 and I straighten my hair. I'm not gay at all! I just think it looks so much better when it's straight, and every morning I get up, take a shower, dry it, and straighten it. To do this I have get up at 5:00 every morning and I leave for school at 7:00. The problem I'm having is P.E. class. I'm good with sports, but every time I play it screws up my hair. I look really good with straight hair and I'm popular at my school, but now I have P.E. and every day my hair get reall messed up and curly. I've tried gelling it and spraying it, but no hair products seem to work. When I straighten my hair I don't just make it straighter, but I shape it and it looks really good.
I'm not gay at all. It's just when I started straightening my hair 2 years ago, I had so much more confidence knowing that I looked attractive. This year I'm at a new school, and I'm popular and girls like me.. but it's the 2nd semester now and so I have P.E. Every day my hair gets completly messed up and everyone wonders if I'm sick or something. Please anyone with any advice at all please help..

Try Aveda Brilliant.

It's better than hairspray.
Also, I recommend NOT getting your hair permanently straightened because it does SERIOUS damage on your hair. Your hair will be damanged to no repair. Trust me, I've tried it out.

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well yesterday i bought the victoria secret bare bronze sheer self tan moose. well im an idiot and forgot to wash my hands after it. and i missed a few spots and i just want it off, i tried nail polish on my hands and my knuckles and in between my fingers are still brown. any way to ge it off my hands and or body?

http://www.sunless.com/application/getting_it_off.php

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