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Ok I'm a 15 year old guy, ever since i was 8 I have always like girls,I asked my dad to let me see naked girls, I even whent on the internet once to see em because I was so curious.. I have in fact said that girls in my class were hott and have told them that... untill recently when I wasn't getting aroused by any girl... I looked at porn seeing if it may help I sat there and thought of naked women it didn't work.... I am postive I'm straight and I have never even thought I was gay, I never have liked men , I have friends come over all the time we don't do anything odd we usually hang out and play video games. Lately it has freaked me out the fact that I'm not being aroused by women.
What does this mean?
Also does stressing out over something like this make me gay? (link)
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No. Sometimes a person isn't aroused by the opposite sex for just a season in their life. It could be because you are preoccupied with other stuff or some lady did something that just turned you off, or there could be no reason at all. It's kind of like, if you don't like fruit, it doesn't mean you like vegetables...you just don't like fruit at the moment. You will like it later once you try some new ones or whatever. Doesn't mean you need to run off with some vegetables.
Well, you're gay if you're seriously considering having an emotional and sexual affair with a boy/man. Hmmmm. An old musical artist once said, "If a man is guilty for what goes on in his mind, then give me the electric chair for all my future crimes..." So, even if you have the occasional trippy thought in your head, it still doesn't mean you are gay. There's a wide wide spectrum when it comes to sexuality. I'm sure you fall somewhere over to the left with all the other dudes who consider themselves straight. Some folks are way over to the left, some in the middle and some far off to the right in Gay Land. And then there's everyone in between.
Don't sweat it.
MamaJen
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How old should you be to start going down on boys?
When I was 12, I had a friend with benefits. We did everything, besides have clothes off sex. But, after we did that. I regretted it big time, and i havent done anything like that for 2 years. But now, i love my boyfriend and he wants to, you know do some stuff.
so, did you think I should?
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You know what, first thought in my head when I read this was SLOW DOWN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Please slow down and think. Get to know yourself. Your own body. Don't worry about what boys want because it's always the same (even when they get older!!!)...sex. So, get to know YOU and what YOU want other than just your sexual life. I see teenage girls OVER AND OVER AND OVER so so worried about what the boys want. Who cares!!! They'll get whatever they can take! And they don't always care so much who gives it to them which means they WILL use you. Don't think they won't. They'll tell you that you're "special", "lovely", "beautiful" and anything else if they think they'll get you to either have sex with them or give them a bj or whatever.
Trust me, I know.
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wats hpv? (link)
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Great answer other poster, just wanted to add that they have a vaccine against this disease now. I haven't researched it or any possible side effects, but it's worth looking into with your doctor.
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Okay so more than likely I have to get an IV tomarrow for my MRI (i posted a question earlier) and I'm just wondering if they hurt? Like does it hurt more or less than a shot? and does it hurt to take it out? :/
I'm a superrrr bigg babyyy when it comes to needles. I had alot of bloodwork done as a kid because of sickness and being premature. So any tips on how to not be nervous or think about it is greatly appreciated. (link)
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It hurts. But, the easiest thing to do is not think about it. YOu have to do it. That's that. So, just go and turn your head away. It helps to talk to a friend or even a nurse while they're inserting it. I had it twice when giving birth, so I know. I have heard of a cream that they can put on the area to numb it but you have to ask.
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i am completely and totally in love with my boyfriend. i have never met a guy as amazing to me as he is. he is the definition of perfect in my eyes..and he says hes in love with me. he shows me all the time how much he cares for me and i know its not just some little fling..it cant be. ive just been thinking lately how long can this honestly last? we were best friends before we dated..and we have been dating for two months now..it feels like we have been together forever and things only get better. but i mean ive been worried that things are going to turn for the worse because ive never had a guy like this.. what are the chances that we will stay together? we are both 16..i know its young but i can honestly say i love him and it would kill me if i lost him..it feels so real..could it be? (link)
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All good things they say, never last.
It'll come to end sooner or later. You may be 18 and you may be 95. But enjoy it while it's here.
I know people who got married for the first time at 40 and people who got married at 18. DOn't worry too much about it. You're young. Enjoy the moment because you don't know how long you'll even be on this earth ya know? Just enjoy today.
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a girl who have 15 partner, differnt guy to have sex with, is that considering as a whore? (link)
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Well, if she's 40 years old now, maybe not...
I don't think it's healthy either. It's a way to insure the girl will get some kind of disease. There are diseases out there you can't even see like Genital Warts which have been linked to cervical cancer by the way. It's better not to have so many partners.
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im new at my school and im a freshman. i didnt move or anything i just used to go to a different school. so anyways im really quiet in basically all my classes because i feel reallyy uncomfortable. because of that, i only have a few friends. why am i so quiet around people i dont know? why cant i be open and outgoing like my friends? also now i never feel as happy as i used to feel, when i went to my old school. like, right now, i feel sad..and i dont know why. i tried playing guitar to make me happy because that usually does, or watching tv, and that stuff. but nothing is really working..i still feel sad. my mom and sister wanted to go out to dinner tonight and usually i like that feeling of getting out of the house on a week night, but not this time..i dont want to go..and i dont know why. i feel like somethings wrong with me lately..im not depressed, but i dont know..at school since im so quiet when im not around people i like, others think im weird..but im not. im a fun loving talkative girl once you get to know me. but other people dont see that because they never talk to me. but im too shy to talk to them. so im basically screwed. how am i supposed to make more friends, if im so quiet? it really upsets me. (link)
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You sound like you may be down. Maybe you're just adjusting. Who knows, maybe you are depressed but that's usually measured by asking if you've been feeling this way for more than 6 weeks straight. Have you? If not, this just may be a time for you to adjust. Cut yourself some slack, eat well, get exercise and good sleep. You're young and may also be going through physical growth which requires a lot more sleep than you think. I read once that teens your age need like 10-12 hours of sleep a night!
ANyhow, if you have 1 or 2 good friends, consider yourself blessed. Don't try to be something you aren't. I was very quiet in high school too. I made friends here and there. WHen I got to college, that's when I really opened up and made lots of friends. Try not to worry too much and always ask yourself "What am i doing to take care of myself?" One of those things would be to go out with your family even if you don't feel like it. A lot of the times, doing things that are good for you require you to do things you may need exactly feel like (like going to sleep early or exercising), but in the end ,they pay off.
Good luck,
MamaJen
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well i'm a teenager and i go through alot of drama and dunb bitches and latley i've been gettting very very angry and jelous and i'm very stressed any advice?? (link)
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Well, I've read in many a place that your relationships are about as healthy as you are. Pretty eye-opening huh? I see you're a step ahead of the rest in your self awareness. Awareness is the first step. But the rest is some hard work. If you are angry and jealous, you have to work on letting things go. Some people call it Let Go and Let God. I don't know if you believe in all of that. Regardless of that, you have to find the right way to express anger. To realize when you are angry and how it feels and to go on the long walks, talk to a trusted friend, pound a pillow, etc. But jealousy? Anger? Those are feelings of someone who is trying to have control. Do you think you're trying to be a controlling person? Controlling what people do, say, and think? Usually jealousy and anger are symptoms of trying to be controlling. You have an expectation or a desire and it isn't working out. That's the key. Stop your desire and expectations. Things will be as they will be. You CAN NOT CONTROL ANYONE. ONLY YOURSELF. Accept the things you cannot change.
Good luck.
MamaJen
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How much masturbating i too uch? A usual day for me is wake up with a boner and either do a quick one in bed or in the shower. Then I usually do it once in school during lunch, and then again when i get home and then usually once or sometimes twice more before i go to sleep. I try to do less but then i'm hard all the time and can't concentrate on anything. Is something wrong with me? (link)
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Hmmm. I'm a lady, but I'll give my two cents as I have 3 brothers and know about guys. IT's normal to do it every day, but you may want to work on self discipline. Old Madonna song said "I'm going to delay my pleasure..." Well? It has good points. Delaying your pleasure will teach you discipline. Discipline will give you self control. You don't want to end up with the real thing one day (some girl) and offend her by insisting on a sexual act or going off all over her unexpectedly!!! If you have no self control, when your real experience comes, it could be damaged by what you're doing now. I'd say go to ONCE a day and stick to it. Find something else to do when you get the urge like molding clay, drawing, listening to music, cleaning up the garage, whatever. And start disciplining yourself. Then, go to like 3 times a week and leave it at that. Then you won't feel so out of control!
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Okay, so I'm just frustrated lately. One of my best friends/a big crush asked me out last Sunday, and we broke up Friday. (He said he was stressed lately because of his basment flooding, and said it was weird because we'd been such good friends beforehand). So we were fine, until four days later, I found out he ALREADY had a new girlfriend. I know that much sounds shady ,but I can't be sure because he's kinda got an issue with short term relationships and falling for girls quickly.
The thing is, this has happened twice. That time, and just a time where he was going to ask a girl out he hardly knew, and said that if that didn't work out, if it were okay with me, we could date. He eventually said he'd rather stay friends, however.
I know it's dumb of me to keep going back to this, because I'm essentially hurting myself, but I was really happy when we were dating, and it's not like I can avoid him, because we sit together at lunch.
He still acts pervarded and stuff, and it almost seems flirty (no worries--it's how we joke around, nothing actually physical) and I feel bad, because he hasn't even said anything about his new girlfriend or anything, so I seem SO angry.
So I guess what I'm asking is just whether or not I should stick to this, or try to move on--which I can't see myself doing at the moment. It sounds dumb to even consider, but I doubt this new girl will last too too long, so what should I do to stay close and even maybe get him to like me again--and not be so indecisive about it?
If it helps, we play this game called 'random awkward question game' where we're COMPLETLY honest with each other and stuff.
If anything, I don't want to lose him as a friend, which could be so easy at this point. Things have been so awkward since I've been mad, and we don't talk as much like we used to. He's graduating this year, so I need to make sure we're still at least close enough to stay good firends so he dosen't just forget me. =/
Gah, if anyone understands what my problem is there, help is appreciated!!
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I read some interesting things in your post, you saying you know you're "dumb", he flirts with you but it's not physical, he'd like to date you since if it doesn't work out with the other girl, etc. Please please please take this advice. KNOW YOU DESERVE THE BEST AND DO NOT DO NOT SETTLE FOR LESS THAN THAT. No matter what. You don't deserve to be 2nd best or someone's leftovers. at all. I think you should move on and HE will be lucky if you remain friends with him. People only treat you the way you let them, you're letting him have you when he wants and throw you away when he wants. You aren't trash so don't let him treat you like it. I'm older than you, I've been through lots of boys and men...and men who act like boys...I've been around the block honey. Take it from me, this guy, he ain't worth it. An old friend of mine, back in high school, once said some wise words. She said "Guys are like buses, there's one every 1/2 hour." Really. It's true. Tell him you've got 20 others just like him. Blow him off. He will probably suddenly be interested in you if you do that, but don't go for it. Some guys are so immature that they WANT you to be a bitch to them. Crazy. Find someone who is nice and cute to you. It's possible. Someone who has enough self esteem and confidence to want to treat you nicely and to be treated nicely. That's the key. Please listen to this and don't even give that guy the time of day.
Good Luck,
MamaJen
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