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Okay, so I'm just frustrated lately. One of my best friends/a big crush asked me out last Sunday, and we broke up Friday. (He said he was stressed lately because of his basment flooding, and said it was weird because we'd been such good friends beforehand). So we were fine, until four days later, I found out he ALREADY had a new girlfriend. I know that much sounds shady ,but I can't be sure because he's kinda got an issue with short term relationships and falling for girls quickly.
The thing is, this has happened twice. That time, and just a time where he was going to ask a girl out he hardly knew, and said that if that didn't work out, if it were okay with me, we could date. He eventually said he'd rather stay friends, however.
I know it's dumb of me to keep going back to this, because I'm essentially hurting myself, but I was really happy when we were dating, and it's not like I can avoid him, because we sit together at lunch.
He still acts pervarded and stuff, and it almost seems flirty (no worries--it's how we joke around, nothing actually physical) and I feel bad, because he hasn't even said anything about his new girlfriend or anything, so I seem SO angry.
So I guess what I'm asking is just whether or not I should stick to this, or try to move on--which I can't see myself doing at the moment. It sounds dumb to even consider, but I doubt this new girl will last too too long, so what should I do to stay close and even maybe get him to like me again--and not be so indecisive about it?
If it helps, we play this game called 'random awkward question game' where we're COMPLETLY honest with each other and stuff.
If anything, I don't want to lose him as a friend, which could be so easy at this point. Things have been so awkward since I've been mad, and we don't talk as much like we used to. He's graduating this year, so I need to make sure we're still at least close enough to stay good firends so he dosen't just forget me. =/
Gah, if anyone understands what my problem is there, help is appreciated!!
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I read some interesting things in your post, you saying you know you're "dumb", he flirts with you but it's not physical, he'd like to date you since if it doesn't work out with the other girl, etc. Please please please take this advice. KNOW YOU DESERVE THE BEST AND DO NOT DO NOT SETTLE FOR LESS THAN THAT. No matter what. You don't deserve to be 2nd best or someone's leftovers. at all. I think you should move on and HE will be lucky if you remain friends with him. People only treat you the way you let them, you're letting him have you when he wants and throw you away when he wants. You aren't trash so don't let him treat you like it. I'm older than you, I've been through lots of boys and men...and men who act like boys...I've been around the block honey. Take it from me, this guy, he ain't worth it. An old friend of mine, back in high school, once said some wise words. She said "Guys are like buses, there's one every 1/2 hour." Really. It's true. Tell him you've got 20 others just like him. Blow him off. He will probably suddenly be interested in you if you do that, but don't go for it. Some guys are so immature that they WANT you to be a bitch to them. Crazy. Find someone who is nice and cute to you. It's possible. Someone who has enough self esteem and confidence to want to treat you nicely and to be treated nicely. That's the key. Please listen to this and don't even give that guy the time of day.
Good Luck,
MamaJen
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just call him every now and again and talk to him like a normal friend. nothing wrong with that. and just let him know that even though things didnt work out, yall can still be cool!
take care and i hope everything works out..:)
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