|
i dont even know.
im new at my school and im a freshman. i didnt move or anything i just used to go to a different school. so anyways im really quiet in basically all my classes because i feel reallyy uncomfortable. because of that, i only have a few friends. why am i so quiet around people i dont know? why cant i be open and outgoing like my friends? also now i never feel as happy as i used to feel, when i went to my old school. like, right now, i feel sad..and i dont know why. i tried playing guitar to make me happy because that usually does, or watching tv, and that stuff. but nothing is really working..i still feel sad. my mom and sister wanted to go out to dinner tonight and usually i like that feeling of getting out of the house on a week night, but not this time..i dont want to go..and i dont know why. i feel like somethings wrong with me lately..im not depressed, but i dont know..at school since im so quiet when im not around people i like, others think im weird..but im not. im a fun loving talkative girl once you get to know me. but other people dont see that because they never talk to me. but im too shy to talk to them. so im basically screwed. how am i supposed to make more friends, if im so quiet? it really upsets me.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Health & Fitness category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Mental health?
First of all, never think anything is wrong with you because you feel sad that you moved schools and aren't socializing the way you want to. Especially in high school. Duh, it's really hard to spend 7 hours a day somewhere you feel isolated. There's this phenomenon in human psychology that pretty much everyone thinks the rest of the world is paying more attention to them than people really are. When you do something weird or uncomfortable, you always feel like everyone is watching, and honestly think about, all the things other people do in the hallways, or in class, that you never even notice. I'm really shy too, and whenever I find myself withdrawing from a social situation, I remember that complex, and start to feel more comfortable talking and interacting. If all else fails, just remember, what is there to lose?
]
You sound like you may be down. Maybe you're just adjusting. Who knows, maybe you are depressed but that's usually measured by asking if you've been feeling this way for more than 6 weeks straight. Have you? If not, this just may be a time for you to adjust. Cut yourself some slack, eat well, get exercise and good sleep. You're young and may also be going through physical growth which requires a lot more sleep than you think. I read once that teens your age need like 10-12 hours of sleep a night!
ANyhow, if you have 1 or 2 good friends, consider yourself blessed. Don't try to be something you aren't. I was very quiet in high school too. I made friends here and there. WHen I got to college, that's when I really opened up and made lots of friends. Try not to worry too much and always ask yourself "What am i doing to take care of myself?" One of those things would be to go out with your family even if you don't feel like it. A lot of the times, doing things that are good for you require you to do things you may need exactly feel like (like going to sleep early or exercising), but in the end ,they pay off.
Good luck,
MamaJen
]
More Questions: |