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Gently Rejected
There's a guy from school who had a big crush on me. He knew absolutely nothing about me, and yet he still liked me. He used to keep talking to me and trying to get me to go on a date with him. After a while we started instant messaging on yahoo, and I got to know him a little better. At first I thought he was kind of cute, but I wasn't really that into him once I got to know him. I didn't want to lead him on, so finally I told him very nicely that I would just like to remain friends. He got mad at me! Now he's not talking to me at all. I told him we could still be friends, but he doesn't care. And it makes me wonder, was he even interested in me as a person or did he just want me to be his girlfriend? Anyway, now I feel bad about rejecting him (even though I did it very gently, I didn't diss him or anything) and I don't even think we're friends anymore. What should I do now?
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Give him time.
He's probably feeling disappointed right now. You didn't do anything wrong. It wouldn't be fair to put you in the position of going out with someone who you don't even like. & it wouldn't be fair to him to lead him on.
Just give him some time to sort out his feelings.
Do you have anyone who's mutual friends of the both of you? Get them to talk to him. Try IMing him a few days later & have what you want to say to him already typed. Then just copy & paste it, so even if he blocks you right after you send it, he'll still have to read it.
Good luck!
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Try not to feel bad for rejecting him. Put yourself in his shoes. Which would hurt worse: Being rejected up front, or being led on? I'm going to say that from personal experience, I know that being led on hurts a LOT more than being rejected from the get-go.
With rejection comes a chance to move on. He now has the chance to have a relationship with someone who he's more compatible with, and returns his feelings. That's better than him trying to win someone over who will never have romantic feelings towards him.
If you already tried talking to him about it, then you've done all you can do. Give it time, and if you're meant to be friends again, you will. Just trust that whatever happens will be in the best interests of the both of you in the long run.
You did the right thing, so try not to feel bad. =]
If you have any more questions, feel free to ask!
-Manders
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Just give it time.
I know you don't want to hear that but after time he'll realise what's really supposed to happen. It's a good thing that you let him down easy, I do not think he had the right to get mad at you. It's not like you can force yourself to like him, whatever the reason for why he's acting the way he is, don't fret about it. You shouldn't worry yourself over nothing.
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