about

Yo, the name is Kev. I'ma a sucker for beautiful eyes, a lover, poet, artest, martial artest, writer, gamer and romantic... Need i say more?
I have 17 years of age, Ima guy, and I live in Rockville Maryland and go to Rockville High Skool. I made this thing because I wanted to try and help people... I know that there are few things to help myself... So I try and help people from ending up in a hole that I many never get out of.. So, BlackBatman at your service people

advice

pleeease help! I have a guy friend that is always up on me i use to like him but i like someone else now, so he always flirts with me and has his arm around me and holding me and i dont want to tell him NO GET OFF ME! caus i still wanna be his friend, just not like a couple, what can i do to kinda give him the idea i dont want a boyfriend and what can i say to make him stop putting his hands around me other then no or get off me or your making me uncomfotalble, they all sound so stupid

True, they do sound stupid, but often they do work. Believe me. Tell the right guy, "No means no" It'll hit hard to his heart. Although if none of that crap they tell you in school about how to handle a problem like this works then go with the "NO GET OFF OF ME!"

-BlackBatman-

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15/F. I am physically a healthy girl but I am cowardish girl. When ever I come across a situation when I have been badly critisized or get anger of any body, suddenly I release few drops of urine, some times more drops which I can easily feel in my panty and I feel my body is shaking with fear. Altough I am a healthy girl and no habit of urine passing during sleeping etc.Please advice.

Personally I don't really know, but I wouldn't worry about it. Some people cry, others cut, you just pee when you get overwhellmed with your feelings/emotions. I'd imagen that it's fairly commen.

-BlackBatman-

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well, theres this kid i know and a lot of people make fun of him, but im not friends with him and i dont stick up for him (buti def. dont include myself in the making-fun) but yeah so this kid tries to laugh with the kids so that he dosent seem weak or soemthing so he just goes along with their making-fun and idk ..you can definately tell that he isnt happy about it..i can see it in his eyes.. he has lots of cuts on his arm..and i think he cuts, and even though i dont like the kid myself, i dont know what to do because i definately feel bad for him so im not sure what to do...any advice will help thanks =]

Well, the obvious thing would be to stand up for him. Then maybe there would be no, or one less cut on his arm. And even though you don't like him. You could still try talking to him. Dosen't have to be a conversation. Trust and believe me. Just a simple "Hi" Everyday can go a long way

-BlackBatman-

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So there's this boy i like and i thought he liked me too. The only time we would talk is during math class, so normally i would look forward to it. Most of the time we would talk the whole time. Today, though, when i tried to start talking , he wouldn't really talk. so i would ask questions, and he would be like "no" or "i don't know". He kept on saying how stupid math class was and then "we only have 12 minutes left..." then at the end of class he tried really hard to talk to me. What does this mean? Does he like me?

Well put yourself in his position. He probably thought of something that trubbled him. Then realized that he hurt your feelings and tried to talk to you again. Often that happends to me when I'm having a bad day, or one of my rare mood swings.

-BlackBatman-

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Should i be worried if the boy i like called another girl that likes him .. But my friend says that they only talked on the phone for 2 minutes. should i worry about it? or wonder whats goin on with them?

xox - brandy marie

Don't freak out over it. Then you're just over reacting. If they only talked for "Two minutes" Then I'm sure you have nothing to worry about. You still have a chance

-BlackBatman-

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Some girl just called me from school, someone I thought was a friend and her friend was in the back giving me a bunch of grief and she was just laughing her ass off. I don't know what I should do. Should I call back or not. I mean to be honest I've never really fit in at school. She's one of the few people I speak too. People mistake me for being a snob just beacause I'm quiet and keep to myself. Does anyone have any tips on how I can fit in and meet people who appreciate me and like me for who I am. I promise to rate and give feedback.

Just expose yourself. Get out and be social. Then, you'll meet all kinds of people and learn how to be comfortable with all kinds of people, AND you'll hopefully find someone who will appreciate you for you. It almost always works. Trust me. I was once like you. You'll be glad that you did go out into the world of a more social life.

-BlackBatman-

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Why do guys think that they are stronger then women?

Why do guys say this when you like them and confront them about it "i like you and all, but i dont want our brother/sister type relationship to be ruined"?

Why do guys think that they have the power over a women?

I'm a girly man at best, but I'll attempt to answer you question. Yes, most guys do think that they are stronger then women because manly men are the ones who are doing the dominate things. And as for your second question, maybe all the guys that you've asked that question to just like to be with you as a friend and nothing more. Hard to believe yes, I know, but not all guys will fall over you. As for your third question. It goes back to my answer of the first question. But not all guys think that way. Just because you're maybe you've had some bad experiences dosen't mean that every guy is a controling ass.

-BlackBatman-

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13/f

Me and my mom have always had this sort of best-friend sort of relationship instead of a mother-daughter relationship. I didn't tell her everything, but I did tell her enough and wasn't embrassed infront of my friends with her. Infact, I kind of like to "show her off." She's really funny and basically acts like someone my age would act - only 43 and graying hair. But right now everything sort of changed.

A few weeks ago my mom went out on a date (My dad and her are divorced) and she said she would be out a few hours. Dinner, a movie, the basics. So figured it would be a perfect time to.. well, masturbate, I suppose. Only apparantly the date didn't last as long as she expected, and I didn't hear her open the door. And she kind of heard me, since I tend to get kind of loud. I have no idea what she was thinking, I just know that she opened the door to my room and saw me. Then shut the door and didn't talk to me for the rest of the night. After I got dressed I went and found her in the kitchen, and told her that that had been a little awkward, but she didn't say anything or do anything. She just kind of ignored me. And every since then it's been kind of weird, especially since my mom is one of those pre-martial-sex-and-I'm-sending-you-to-a-convent type of people. She's only had sex once, and that was when she "planned" to have me.

Now, instead of feeling all laid back when I'm around her, I keep getting this feeling like she's giving me a dirty look, like she thinks I'm some kind of skank. And actually, I know that she thinks that, because me, being the curious one, listened in on her phone call with her best friend, who my mom told that I was turning into some kind of slut ever since I started going out with my boyfriend, which really isn't true, since I was doing this long before I started going out with him.

I just don't really know how to make things cool between us again. Or how to break the ice so I don't feel like I'm being watched ever second of every day because my mom believes that I'm doing "dirty things."

The best thing you can really do is confront her about it. Tell her how you feel, and since you guys used to have that kind of relationship, then maybe she'll understand

-BlackBatman-

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okay so maybe im just crazy but lately, everything my parents have ever done for me has suddenly come crashing down on me like a wave. like now im trying to have them do the least for me because i feel just so...i guess i could say sad because i don't want them giving up everything for me. like i regret doing and saying bad things. and i know when they are gone im going to regret everyhting and i won't be able to say im sorry. what can i do to feel better about this?

If you feel that bad about it then you should tell them that you're sorry, and do all you can to make up for it

-BlackBatman-

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my boyfriend(19) and I(18) have been together over 2 months and he suggested sleeping together this weekend. We're both virgins but we discussed contraception etc and i do feel ready for it but my university entrance exams are in two weeks and are the most important exams i will ever do. I think ill be too stressed to be able to enjoy it and id like to wait til after the exams. (a month or so) he says he doesnt mind and ive said id like to do other stuff with him but i still feel as if an innocence is gone from our relationship and its made me very depressed.I feel like the issue is hanging in the air and that sex is all that matters.How can I clear the air?please help,i cant study properly for exams!

Communication is the foundation to a good relationship. If you feel that there is no longer innocents in your relationship then talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel and hopefully he will understand all that you've said, and you both can come to a compromise

-BlackBatman-

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well, let's see on i think monday, my boyfriend for three months broke up with me, i mean i guess i saw it coming, i was trying to make it work....well he obviously wasn't, he started goin out with another girl like that same night or the day after, it hurt soo much, and yea well i want to feel better, i just dont know how to...i mean i try crying(well i dont exactly try) but it doesn't seem to help....it would be really great if u could help me out here
-Ciara

Well, if he was so quick to leave and go for another girl then hes nothing to cry over. Just stay strong and remember that they're are plently of people out there that would be willing to love you for you, and treat you with respect. The way you deserve to be treated

-BlackBatman-

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i like this guy and i know he liked me back cause he told me. and since than i kinda ignored him whatever and when i appologized he was all weird he was like: uhuh yeah blablabla and kept on ignoring me okay and on tuesday he was walking right by me in the bus and than he came back to my seat and gave me high five =) so i thought everything is okay again but now he's ignoring me again. today i was walking right by him and he was listening 2 his ipot and was smiling but not at me (at no1 cause there was no1 else in the hallway) he looked right by me or something that hurts! and then i looked at him again and he was like looking away again. GRR i do like him but i dont know what to do and i'm soo confused! does he still like me? what should i do he's still ignoring me and i'm trying my best i smile (since 2 days cause i also ignored him before that)and look at him but he acts like he dont care...should i give him time or something?

i'll rate

You can either give him time, or just go and ask him. After all, communication is the foundation of a good relationship. I think that you should give him a little more time, then if that dosen't work you should talk to him about it.

-BlackBatman-

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I dont understand why people are so fucking stupid, they ask a fucking 17 year old that cant spell correctly questions about their lifes problems.

DUMBASSES

Well not everyone is perfect. After all we are humans and do make mistakes. And as humans we only use about 10% of their brains. So, in actuality arn't we all "dumbasses"?

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the last few days ive been eating a lot, i never feel hungry.about 2 days ago i weighed myself, then i weighed myself today,and i had lost a pound.i havent excersied at all and ive been eating A LOT.why am i losing weight from eating so much junk food, and is it a good thing?

Simply because jucnk food dosen't carry a lot of fat, and pass through your system more easily. Eat smart n' healthy. That why even though you eat a lot it'll be easyer to blance n' change

-BlackBatman-

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(I'm at my grandmas house)
well my computer got a bad virus,it won't stay on longer than 15min. and internet doesn't work any more and wrer still paying the bill!!???!!!



Take it to a shop

-BlackBatman-

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I'm 20 years old,quite old enough for living alone,but i've got a big problem.My parents and especially my dad doesn't allow me to move to and began my new independent life.I feel like i'm in prison here.could anyone advise me what to do?

Hun, you're over the age of 18. Right now you can do pretty much whatever the hell you want to do. As of now in your life, your parents have absolutely no say in what you do unless you let them have a say. Do what cha want. It's your life now

-BlackBatman-

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At the moment i just dont get on withh my parents at all, my mum in particuallar.
I used to think i didnt care, if we had an argument i would either lock myself in my room and play loud music or ignore them and not talk, as a sort of revenge type thing.
I thought i just wanted to get away from them. But now ive realised that i dont, that i want to be close to them, i want it to be like it used to be, when we got on well and had fun.
I cry sometimes because of this and its really getting me down.
Im 13/f.
How can i be closer to my parents and have a better relationship with them?

Well, you could try talking. (I know sounds funni) but you could give it a try. Tell em' how you really feel. And if they accept your feelings and conserns then maybe your relationship just might go back to the way it was before

-BlackBatman-

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well my bf is reli down n depressed for no reason and hes on msn and im dont now how to cheer him up anyone hav ideas?

Well, communication is the foundation to a good and healthy relationship. Just talk to him and find out what's wrong. Then, you can figure out how you can cheer him up n' make him happy again. Although if that isn't an option, you always could try being extra nice to him. Surprize him with something, or just do the little things that can make a person happy
-BlackBatman-

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Ok, so i like this guy whom i think likes me too. but, the only problem is, i'm taller than him! and i think that is really getting to him and he's not acting himself b/c whenever we walk down the hallway he always has to look up to see me and i can tell he really doesn't like it. but it's not a big height difference, i'm 5'2 and he's like 5 foot. what should i do?

Height differece can make a person uncomfortable. It's especially commen when the female is taller then the male in a realtionship. If he really cared about you then he'd get over your height and look into your heart to see where his and your feelings lie
-BlackBatman-

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If I start eating less, but still eat breakfast/lunch/ and dinner..
And at the sametime I start working out like craaaaazzyyyy!! Will this make me stop growing?
Cause I'm already pretty short.

How can I excersize without disturbing my growth?

Just keep up a healthy diet and try not to work yourself too hard. If you do that then the only thing that'll effect your hight would probably be something genetic.
-BlackBatman-

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