I go by Ahnee, to some. and you.
I live in Orange County CA, and it's not as great as it seems. it's just as shady as everywhere else but we're polite enough to keep it behind closed doors. Great.
I'm in highschool.
I have an opinion on just about EVERYTHING, but won't give it to you unless you ask.
I talk to people.
Sometimes i can just be a brutally honest bitch, don't ask me a question you don't want a real answer to. I refuse to coat my thoughts in sugar
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Location: OC
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my boyfriend of 5 months is rather nosy. ive never been the type of person to share my problems with the world, i just keep that stuff to myself. ive told him this. however if im having a bad night or something he'll keep on and on and on asking me whats wrong until i tell him. i know its just because he cares, but even if i say "id rather not say" or something, he gives me the whole "but you can tell me anything" or "you promised you wouldnt keep stuff from me". same with if i start laughing about something randomly [i do that often cuz i think about funny stuff] or anything like that. basically just anything thats in my head that i dont wanna spill. i realize that its not really a big deal to tell him, but if i dont he gets mad/upset at me for it, and im finally getting to the point where i dont let people walk all over me anymore, but i feel like when i give in and tell him whatever i dont want to, im just letting it happen again. advice please? 16.f (link)
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haha i feel like i wrote that...my bf is the same way. i know it kind of sucks because some things you just want to keep in your own head but he probably just doesn't like things being kept from him in general. you have to explain to him that some things you just want to deal with by yourself in your own mind and if you need help getting through it you'll let him know and that you trust him. as for the funny things, i haven't really solved that one yet either.
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15/f
Is there any way to make me look more feminme?
I have issues with my appearance. I want to look like a GIRL.
I want to feel confident. But I don't think I look like a girl.. Every other girl looks beautiful. To me, I'm not a girl but I'm not even a boy. I have no gender in my eyes?
People have said that short hair fits me perfectly but I don't think my face.. would work with it. I have a boyish features yeah?
Pictures--
http://i17.tinypic.com/2qwft3c.png
http://i13.tinypic.com/4bnyoat.png
I'm growing out my hair.
I just want a new look but I don't know what to do.
Nobody calls me ugly or that I look like a boy (they did before- due to uberrrr short hair)
It's just me.. (link)
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well, you could have BDD but i wouldnt go that far.
I think the best choice for you is probably growing your hair out if you really feel you don't look good with short hair. i used to think the same thing actually but now my hair's longer and i feel better about it. but anyway, i actually think you're pretty, and so do other people apparently but none of that matters if you don't believe it (i've learned).
ANYWAY! suggestions; Layer-y girly-ness, Extensions. extensions make everyone look girly
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14/f =]
so, im having my boyfriend
over on saturday so we can
exchange christmas gifts and
maybe watch a movie? i'm not
sure what movie to get and what
other things we could do. also,
i need conversastion starters so
things dont get awkward. i hate
that =/ i know, i sound pathetic
but i've been spazing for the
past week about it. also, im baking
him cupcakes and making him a huge
card out of poster board. i was
wondering should i get something
else? if so, what? (link)
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hm, well for starters if this guy is your boyfriend i'd think you'd be able to just talk about whatever. but anyway, it depends on the guy for what movie choice you have but i'd suggest a comedy or something. chik flicks can be downers and that doesn't really help the whole playful conversation thing.
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I'm going on my first cruise. We're going to the carribean. The problem is on other boats I get really seasick. Many people have said that you won't get seasick on a cruise because the boat is so big, and you can't feel it rocking back and forth, or something like that. any feedbak from people who have been on a cruise and get seasick from other ships. did you get seasick on the cruise? thanks!! (link)
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its really not likely you'll get seasick on a cruise ship. basically because it is so big movement doesn't travel as harshly as on a regular small boat. sometimes you'll be there and totally forget you're even on a boat. i wouldnt worry.
oh btw if you're taking those seasick pills, DONT take them while you're actually on the boat. it makes it worse. if you already knew that, sorry heh
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How do you completely let go of someone you love so much but things just didn't work out again the third time around? (link)
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well i guess it'd be nice to hear a few more details of this question but it's ok.
You just need to realize what's right for you and become comfortable with that. You've tried, you've put in as much effort as you can and maybe it just wasn't meant to be. Just realize that and you may be mentally ok. Explain this to the other person too, they need to know how you feel completely. Move on and eventually things will get better, trust me on that one.
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Okay this is Haley...again! So this is the story...I have a friend lets call her Sue? And she really is a fun person to be around we have the best time! And last year i dated her boy-friends best friend! And i dont know why i did because he was not a person i should have been with (but i think everyone goes through where they just wanna rebel and try to figure out who they really are) but he smoked pot and got messed up all the time and Sue's boyfrined does too! And see me and her arent like that we go to church and know better!! But i finally got me head back on level and ended it at the begginning of the summer! And now i'm dating "the one" i know and Sue cant stand it! She all the time tells me that me and Nick are still in love and we just dont know it! But i swear i regret ever dating him and i dont care or wonder i am completely happy with Blake!! And she's all the time trying to get me to go over to her boy-friends house bc Nick will be there...?? And she's always throwing up Blake's ex-girl friend in my face...??? I mean what am i to do? And when i dont go with her she like gets mad and i always have to be the one to call her and make things better...ya know? What am i supposed to do? Please help me!! **Haley** (link)
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she's probably just jealous that you could get out of a relationship you knew wasn't good for you and she can't. Misery loves company.
Explain to her that you're finally happy with someone and if she's your real frend she'll be happy with your decisions. Tell her you have no interest in this other guy and now you're just really into someone else. hopefully she'll finally get it
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There is a boy i really like, a lot. We;ve had our ups and downs and him not being able to make up his mind.
he's had tons of reasons why we cant be together, and even kept changing his mind about if he even liked me or not.
So it finally got to where i told him we could be just friends, i told him about how much he had hurt me, and he just asked why i didnt just hate him. i told him i couldnt, it wasnt that simple, and i just couldnt hate him. so he said fine, i will make it easy on you, and signed off (this was on AIM)
we went about 8 days w/o talking, which sucked. I have more than one SN, they are linked, i just dont use the other one much, but he was logged on on one of them, but not my main one. So i just IMed him "hey, its me! igot a new sn, whats up"
we talked for a while, and then he randomly asked why i was talking to him, so i told him if he didnt want me to i wouldnt, then he told me he just couldnt have a realionship right now, and i told him i knew that and we can be just friends even if it never becomes anything more, and he said we cant be friends, and when i asked why he said because its too hard for him, and whenever he is around me something happens and he cant handle it anymore...so i told him i would stop flirting, and everything. then he just went Away...so to his away message i said that i cared a lot about him, and i wanted to be in his life, even if just as friends. and the time we spent not talking (we didnt talk for about 2 and a half months...that ended about a month and a half ago) was more painful then when he had hurt me before...
when he came back we talked, kinda, but it was awkward...
so i guess my question is:
How do i show him that we can be just friends?
He has a lot of problems, i think he may be bi-polar, and he has told me more than once he loves nothing, not even his parents. But then some days, he tells me he only wants to be with me. So i get that we wont be able to be together until he gets his head clear, and even then maybe never. But i need him to be in his life... (link)
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this boy sounds exactly like me not too long ago. I wouldn't suggest getting into a relationship right now with this guy, it would end up messing both of you guys up probably more than you think. you have to trust his judgement on that one. Being friends might help him, but if he really doesn't feel he can right now,whether it's because of his mind set or he feels he needs to wait till his head clears because he really wants to be with you, you have to trust him about that too. Just letting him know you'll always be there for him no matter what will help, when he feels he can reach out to you then he will. Just stand behind him and really let him know you're there and want to be
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soooo. this is a horrible thing to say but around halloween time i was very upset with my family problems and i didnt know what to do. so one day i can come and cut my wrist about three times. i cried for days just because what i had did to my self and ive been hiding it since today. its nov. 14 and it still hasnt gone away. i think that it is turning into a scar. im very scared ebcause i dont want to hide it the wrest of my life. someone help. (link)
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if you cut kind of deep the scar will most likely be there for quite a while. Neosporin everyday will help the scars fade though. But keep this incident in mind and try not to do it again, believe me it just gets worse.
------PS ANSWER to pt 2-------
you probably did pick a scab, which isnt gonna help scarring but like i said, trust le neosporin
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i really like this guy but he is 19 and im 15 he really likes me too and i know that im young but i really have never felt like this in my life and i feel soo comfortable with him he makes me laugh and gives me hope in life like no other could i reall would like to call this love but im just not sure anyways to the part about the whole sex thing i have had sex with him 2 times sine we have been together im on birth control and we use condoms am i a slut or a whore for having sex at so young of an age and i dont regret doing it either because it feels soo right with him please answer my questions i just need to know :/ (link)
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no, you're not a slut. you're really into this guy and he's really into you and it feels right and you guys can trust eachother so it actually sounds like a pretty good relationship. And the age thing doesn't mean much in these situations. I mean hell, im 14 and my boyfriend is 19 too and we love eachother so it's nothing to worry about dear. Hope everything works out
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I want my best friends boyfriend. . . *SOB* at first we started out as just really good friends and we would play around. Innocently. We would be around my Best Friend of 11 years and cute little flirt around. He would jokingly hug me in front of her and play pucker up and tell me he loves me cuz she's mean. And we all would laugh and joke about it. Then, we started getting a bit closer, when he would play, he would mess around and get closer than we both know she would like, if she even noticed. She never does. That was fine but it's getting worse, way worse, and I DON"T KNOW WHAT TO DO! Because, I don't really want him to stop, but I need him too. Kinda.. . . And he skips steps, we nevcer kiss, but we have gotten close and I run away, but I WANT IT! even though i can't, & i know I can't. . . and I won't. But instead of kissing he's cut straight to, um. . . The rest of the stuff. Not "" you know, but he's been down and up a couple of times, ALWAYS in a crowd, and he gets a kick outta doing it infront of her. . . It nearly kills me, everytime, but there is a sort of satisfying adrenaline (Sorry About My Spelling)
I hate him. . . (link)
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ok this isn't cool of both of you. if you're friend see's this and doesn't care, thats you're guys' situation and if you're comfortable with that keep it going. but if you're friend knew what he was really doing, i think she would care. you need to tell your friend what her boyfriends doing, this doesnt need to be a crazy serious conversation but she needs to know somehow. and this isnt very responsible of this guy either, if he was really into you're friend i dont think he'd be doing it. I get that you like him, but you know this just isn't right as it is.
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Ok ..
I have been going out with this guy for around 2/3 weeks but I cant help noticing his strange moods.
Hes also on a game I play also known as GUNZ...An online Multiplayer game
Hes worst than a women , One minute hes fine next hes really cold and says nasty stuff without realising...Then straight after apologises..
I mean for example..The other day , msn convo went like this:
[Him] = We didnt talk much did we
[Me] = I Know..Doesnt matter we can talk now ^^
[Him] = I dont think we have any interest in each other
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Then End...Next day he doesnt understand what he said?
Under the circumstances it really hurt when he said that..
And hes just soo stroppy with me...But when hes not stroppy hes my angel :( (link)
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sometimes people really don't realize they're being assholes. i used to do this with my boyfriend all the time and didn't even notice. like i would say something really messed up and then the next day he'd still be kind of upset about it and i didn't get it. maybe you're more sensitive to things than some other people he talks/has talked to, which is normal he's just not used to it. Explain this stuff to him and he should get it eventually. I kind of did heh
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Alright well my guy best friend and I were kinda sorta friends with benefits.
But all along I found out he liked me more than a friend.
So he asked me out and I didn't even like him in that way and I said yeah..
So it didn't work out to well and I broke up with him because I just wanted to be friends..
Now anytime he talks to a girl I get really jealous and want all his attention on me..
I don't get it because I don't even like him.
But he asks me out again because he thinks I'm like leading him on and I say I don't know..
Then he starts talking to this other girl and I say you better not go out with her..
Promise me you won't go out with anyone until you get an answer from me?
So next thing I know he's going out with the one person I truly hate and he's ignoring me.
I don't understand.
What should I do and what is going on with him?! (link)
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ok, first why you're jealous. you get jealous because you're used to getting all of his flirtatious somewhat sexual attention, and even though you're not actually with him you still want that attention to be all on you. understandable but thats what makes the whole fwb thing difficult.
If you guys really are just fwb, or even just friends now you shouldn't really care who he goes out with unless you're watching his back and think the person will hurt him. He may be trying to make you jealous, or realize that you do want to go out with him, or maybe he's just trying to move on and it just so happens it's with the girl that you don't like. Either way, you need to make up your mind about how you want you two's relationship to be
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me-- kota--14 almost 15
boy-- Mark--17
K so the day before mine and marks 1 month aniversary he told me he thought we should take a break becuase we moved to fast and he needs to catch up on things. I cried. A lot. more than i should have. He tells me he still likes me and he is going to come back to me. But in his other life, he calls all these other girls baby and stuff. We still ahng out at school he still walks me to my classes and we talk ocasionaly but not as much as we used to. he tells me one thing then goes and tells people another.. Until he broke up with me i trusted him completely but now.. its like i dont even know who the real him is.... i really dont have a reason to not trust him, but for some reason i dont. We are stillg oing to snoball together and i already got my dress and he is getting his tux pretty soon. When we are together it is just like it was when we were going out, he still holds my hand, kisses me, calls me beautifull, and says all the comments like "we can do it in the janoters closset" we can skip class and go to my house. and all that stuff... I am just confused if he really wants me? or if hes using me? i just keep telling myself to not push it and just see what happens becuae honestly i love this guy and i could see myself marrying him.. and he also still talks about our future and stuff.
from what i told you... any advise? (link)
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Usually "i think we need a little break" means "i think i need some time to see what other girls i can get", unless you're in a fully commited long term relationship. Sad but true. But that doesn't go for all guys i guess. And just because a guy says things like that to a girl, sadly, i doesn't hold too much weight. Especially sexual things. For all you know another girl is having this same problem with him. The fact that he's telling two different stories (one to you and one to other people) doesnt make him seem too trustworthy. I wouldn't waste my time but if you really think you really really love this guy, you can wait till he feels like messing around with you again.
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Hey, Im a guy, still a virgin and i was wondering how reliable a condom is. Is it a recommended Idea to double up. I know the chances are like 2-3 in 100 but would doubling up make it like.001 percent chance. Thanks answers are appreciated (link)
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no, never double up. EVER. the condom will rip and there will be no point. although sometimes they can break, thats why its less than 100% effective. Best thing is the pill but it doesn't protect you against STDs so using the pill and a condom everytime is your safest bet.
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kay so best freind is not being a good freind.
im pretty sure its the loser boyfreind.
so we sure to a life of straightedgeness last summer. that must have meant nothing to her cause donovan says drink and her late nights on the phone w/ me become drunk nights ditching me for donovan. this kid is a scumbag and everyone knows and tells her. she doesnt care and really i dont either shes had loser boyfreinds before but this ones affecting my relationship w/ her. she has no interest in our big rockstar dreams anymore.[she basically quit guitar] ive told her shes being a bitch when i called her crying my eyes out but donovan was on the other line and theyll be on late so shed see me tomorow at school. move on to the next freind? shes the one that i call when im like that because we think extremely alike and she knows how to make me feel better. and ive slipped into old habits because shes not there to advice me on my tear filled nights. so i turn to you. -lauren (link)
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i know exactly what it's like for your bestfriend's mind to be clouded by a random ass-hole boyfriend. The thing is, i think all you can do is stick with her and really try and knock some sense into her. dont tell her "dude, youre an idiot. hes a jerk and you need to leave him" because she will automatically go on the defensive. you just need to explain to her how she's changed and how it's affecting your guys' relationship. although the "its me or him" thing doesnt seem to work because if she picks him itll lead her more deeply into a self-destructive nature, but you need to take care of yourself too. explain things to her and she how she responds
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I've had quite a few guys finger me, and I can never orgasm with a guy. I masturbate a lot and always have an orgasm myself. Is something wrong with me? Is there anything I can do to make it easier to have an orgasm from a guy fingering me? (link)
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communication. tell the guys what you like and what turns you on. if hes just randomly messing around down there and doesnt know what you like it's not gonna get you anywhere. you make think it's embarrasing or something but it'll help you out lots
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people with nose piercings ONLY please.
got mine done a few days ago. its fine and doesnt hurt but theres a scab thing next to the actual piercing. why is it there and will it go? has this happened to anyone else? (link)
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its probably a keloid scar, my cousin got one so she took her nose ring out and you cant even really tell it was there anymore.
http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/000849.htm
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i got my first period 1 week ago! it is still going on, and its not getting lighter. i've had it for 7 days and it feels like its not going away.
also, today i had horrible cramps, i had to come home from school i couldnt sit still i felt like i was going to die. my mom took me to the doctors, he sent my to CVS and he told me all of the medicine/pain relievers to use and now my cramps are gone. im NOT worried about cramps.
also today i threw up 3 times. the doctor checked me and i didnt have a fever my ears were fine i didnt have a cold, i was perfectly healthy so he doesnt know why i threw up. has anyone else ever threw up while on there period? is it normal?
basically my questions are...
1. is it normal to throw up while your on your period?
2. and since this was my first period, when i get my future periods will the cramps be not as bad?
3. and how long does the average menstural cycle go for each month? its been 7 days and it keeps getting heavier...
4. any other tips?? (link)
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1. yes its normal. a pain in the ass and horrible but yes. I used to be like that for about the first 3 years except i didnt throw up i would just get insanely nauseaus, like so bad i wouldnt even want to go anywhere because i thought i was gonna throw up.
2.after a while of having it itll get better, but it's just a girl thing and Midol helps alot of girls.
3.sometime it could be really irregular, like ive said mine was like 2 weeks on and then 2 months without but thats just at the beginning.
really theres not much you can do unless your doctor puts you on the pill, and i think its too soon for you to start all that. all i could do was try to keep it together. goodluck dear
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Basically there is this girl, Nikki nobody likes her. She had friends at one point and then everybody turned on her including me. I'm friends with a 'popular' girl Lindsey. And Lindsey is rude and snobby but she's kind to me. I'm not 'populer' me and Lindsay just hangout during school. I dont like Nikki either, and she knows it. But today I was hearing Nikki and her friend talking about, Nikki cutting herself. I saw it was true, I know it was she showed her friend her scars [I saw them there is two]. And I dont know why I did thing..to Nikki and anybody who's going to sit there and think they never made a bad decision knowing it was wrong and did it anyways is a lair, we've all done it. I told Lindsey, It was a bad idea she's going to tell everybody she hasent, yet. I'm about 50% sure she will. But I know Nikki started cutting because of Lindsey, I know it. I don't know what to do, Suggestions? comments? I feel awful that she cuts herself and I know Lindsey, And Some what of Me and her own self image issues affect this cutting.
I'm in middle school 8th grade. (link)
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most real cutters aren't itching to show people their scars. if someone is doing that (showing it off) it's most likely for the attention and this girl knows what she's doing. but let's say this girl is for real, you don't know why she's doing it and you can't completely blame yourself because you don't know what this girl is going through outside of school. If she hasn't actually come up to you and asked for your help you don't owe her anything. that may sound harsh, but sometimes people just need to deal with things by themselves.
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i just started high school this year, and its so hard for me, mainly because its so different from what I'm used to with junior high. all of my friends have adjusted and seem to go with the flow, but i just cant. I'm up till midnight every night doing homework, i have tests and reports every week, and i feel like i have no control over my life anymore. i cant figure out how to manage my time, because i get home from school from 4-4:30 everyday [i live pretty far away from my school]. Does anyone have any tips on what i can do, and some tips for relieving stress, or better yet stopping it? thank you i appreciate it soo much
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well first i would say if it's still possible to stick with easier classes, although most schools cut off dropping classes after 2 weeks. You can only take so much in the beginning of highschool sometimes, keep it to where you can handle it.
If you can't change classes then i suggest keeping things in order and coordinated to time. this may seem like a pain in the ass but will help you out in the long run.
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