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confused--dont know what he wants
me-- kota--14 almost 15
boy-- Mark--17
K so the day before mine and marks 1 month aniversary he told me he thought we should take a break becuase we moved to fast and he needs to catch up on things. I cried. A lot. more than i should have. He tells me he still likes me and he is going to come back to me. But in his other life, he calls all these other girls baby and stuff. We still ahng out at school he still walks me to my classes and we talk ocasionaly but not as much as we used to. he tells me one thing then goes and tells people another.. Until he broke up with me i trusted him completely but now.. its like i dont even know who the real him is.... i really dont have a reason to not trust him, but for some reason i dont. We are stillg oing to snoball together and i already got my dress and he is getting his tux pretty soon. When we are together it is just like it was when we were going out, he still holds my hand, kisses me, calls me beautifull, and says all the comments like "we can do it in the janoters closset" we can skip class and go to my house. and all that stuff... I am just confused if he really wants me? or if hes using me? i just keep telling myself to not push it and just see what happens becuae honestly i love this guy and i could see myself marrying him.. and he also still talks about our future and stuff.
from what i told you... any advise?
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Usually "i think we need a little break" means "i think i need some time to see what other girls i can get", unless you're in a fully commited long term relationship. Sad but true. But that doesn't go for all guys i guess. And just because a guy says things like that to a girl, sadly, i doesn't hold too much weight. Especially sexual things. For all you know another girl is having this same problem with him. The fact that he's telling two different stories (one to you and one to other people) doesnt make him seem too trustworthy. I wouldn't waste my time but if you really think you really really love this guy, you can wait till he feels like messing around with you again.
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Actually, you do have a reason to not trust this guy. If he is telling other people stuff, and telling you something different, that is deception, which does not deserve your trust. I honestly do think this guy is using you; I know that is not what you wanted to hear, but when you get older you will be able to see the true intent of people, and I don't think he has your feelings in mind. Find someone that will think of your feelings and well-being, or be independent and make yourself happy by surrounding yourself with the people and things you love. And for the marriage thing, one month cannot even acquaint you with a person enough to even consider marrying them. You are still in the "lovey-dovey" stage at this time, and you really do not know enough about the person to know if you would be compatible enough with them to spend the rest of your life with this person. So many opportunities are out there;you should be thinking of your future and what will ultimately make you happy. Someone that hurts you and lies will ultimately not make you happy. Once you get past your butterflies and physical lust, you will be left with someone who is untrustworthy. There is no way that you could be happy spending the rest of your life with a person who lies to you. Don't just settle for any guy, find one that really deserves your time and attention.
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