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So I went away over the weekend to visit some friends,and I got a call from my sister saying that my 13 yo son had gotten into a fight with a neighborhood girl over something stupid and that she beat him up sort of bad in front of his friends, and that he's really depressed/scared and beside himself over it now. She says he just stays in his room all day and doesn't want to talk much about it or leave the house, and thinks the main reason why is because he's scared of her now and that she might be outside waiting for him or something. Not sure how I'm going to go about this, should I bring it up right away or let him tell me about it? Any other fathers ever gone through something like this? It won't be easy I know, even if I say all the right things, I know who the girl is and wouldn't of ever guessed she had it in her.. I'll see him in a couple days. Any advice would be great. (link)
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Is your son being bullied?
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have anyone ever used fruit roll ups to give a blow job? (link)
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Read the ingredients: fruit roll ups are loaded with corn syrup. Instead, nake your own fruit leather: http://dailyburn.com/life/recipes/homemade-fruit-roll-up-recipes And leave out the sugar, you won't miss it. You can also make your own edible garments. Sketch out the patterns on rice paper.
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Hey im 13 year old and female
this will be short. I like this dude at my church. And he likes younger girls.(he is 17)IDK how to get him to like me tho. plz help i at least need some advice on how to get his to kiss me (link)
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I'm sure that you can seduce him if you put your mind to it.
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Im 15 and I want to get pregnant but..im scared...about how my parents would react if I got pregnant so early...I really wanna have a baby..I just think there so cute...id love to have one of my own...tho..:( (link)
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Understand your true motives. Why are you in such a hurry? Are you coping with the challenges you already confront? Even if all goes well (and as a matter of practicality, there is just so much likely to all go so very wrong), it will still not solve your problems and it will not long fill the real aching void within. Moreover, never forget: To nature you are entirely expendable and disposable. -but not to anyone who can ever love you or need you. Anyone else is wasting your time.
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I don't even know where to start with this. My grandmother died about seven and a half years ago and it was really hard on my mom. The two of them were extremely close. They saw each other and/other talked on the phone everyday and my mom is convinced that my grandmother's death was her fault. She died from complications of cancer. It was out of anyone's control, but my mom keeps coming up with ways that it's her fault and won't listen to anyone tell her it's not.
She has battled depression since then and because of that depression, she's developed kleptomania. What's disturbing Is that pretty much everything she's been caught stealing is something she would never want, but rather, something she obviously planned to.give to me or my sister. We're the people she steals for.
She's been arrested twice and hard charges pressed against her both times. She hasn't gone to jail YET, however I'm afraid that the next time she's arrested, she will. It breaks my heart that she's risking doing that to herself and that she's creating all kinds of other problems.
We live in a small town and people here know she steals. When she goes in certain stores, the employs are either jerks to her or they watch her like a hawk. They won't let her hold or try on anything and they always try to get her out of the store as soon as possible.
People don't like or trust me either. I go into stores and I too get watched like a hawk. I couldn't get a job at a clothing store in college and I wonder if it was because the owners were afraid I'd steal from them. It's not fair because I'd never do such a thing, but I get judged for being the daughter of a thief. What's strange is that the reason I wouldn't steal is because I was raided against it. My parents taught me that stealing was wrong because it was against the Bible, against the law, and it hurts other people. Once my mom THOUGHT that I had stolen a CD storage case in middle school (I hadn't) and almost had a conniption fit. I was raised to know that stealing is wrong, but people still don't trust me because I was raised by a thief. I was in college when my mom developed her problem.
It hurts me as well to hear the things people say about her. They call her scum, garbage, low life trash, and other such things. They say they hate her, they hope she gets arrested and that they get to be on the jury, and things info that nature as well. It's hard because these people aren't the people she's stealing from. If they were, I'd be more patient, but they're being so judgmental. My mom is not scrum, trash, or a low life. She's a good person with a good heart who just had a bad problem. She's the best mother my sister and I could've hoped for. When I tell people my last name, they as if I'm related to my mom and (unless it's someone who knows about her problem), they go on and on about how nice she is. They tell me stories of acts of kindness she'd done for them and tell me how we need more people like her in the world. She HATES when my dad watches Lizard Lick Towing because she hates seeing people upset, even when they kind of deserve it. She HATES going to the doctor because it makes her cry when she sees someone who is sick, injured, or disabled. She gives to charity and gives the credit for it to me and my sister. All certain people know about her is that she's stolen merchandise from stores and they judge her as being a piece of trash and gate her for it.
After the last time she was caught stealing, which was very recently, she received a huge fine and was ordered to get psychiatric help. I'm hopeful that she will change, but I feel like we have no choice, but to move soon. We need to get away from this small town were people judge and hate us. But what if my mom relapses and this happens again wherever we go. What am I gonna do? Is kleptomania ever cured? Has anyone here ever dealt with this before? (link)
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To your next job interview, wear a T-shirt proclaiming in bright large extra-bold: "Doth the daughter bear the inequity of the mother?"
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You don't go through our struggles. When have you been taught in your 7th grade sex ed that you're not normal, been bullied, ashamed of yourself to suicide, and told by your church that you've developed an emotional connection to your an abomination. In what country have cishets been killed, beaten, and discriminated against? When have straight children been bullied at school for being straight? When have you been told, like bisexuals asexuals and pansexuals, you're not real or valid. Where is your marriage not legal? When have you had to fight to get a kid? When have you had to fight people to bake your wedding cake, take your photo, and sign your license? When has heterosexuality been considered a mental disorder? When have straight kids been sent to conversion therapys where they're shocked, and develop mental disorders. When have straight kids been kicked out of their houses for being straight, and told it's a choice. Gotten disowned. Is isis throwing heteros off buildings? Nope. Are people kicking you out of restaraunts, and holding up signs saying "God hates heteros!" Are you treated like an adult topic? Have you ever been told you're too young to know? Do your men get put into fanfiction by people who hate your women, and do your women get fetishized to the point where it's seen as nothing more than a porn genre by people who hate you?
Like transgenders (including nonbinary and intersex), have you been murdered, beaten, humiliated, bullied, and disowned like transgenders for being trans? Do you get told your not real and never mentioned? Are you treated like a pest of society? When have cisgenders faced even a tiny bit of discrimination. And been treated like weird ugly useless creatures, dehuminized and sexually abused? Especially transgendered people of color? Are people on your case for not being like the gender you identify as 100%? Do people want you to die? Is it hard for you to get your surgeries and name change, so you are constantly living with dysorphia and self hate? To suicide?
You aren't opressed cissy hettys, get over it. Also, allys, you're still cisgendered and heterosexual. You face nothing, and can ignore issues when you want to. For supporting us you are a decent human, no badge for that. If you're a good ally, you wouldn't need the "a" in LGBTQIA, which belongs to asexuals.
So why do cissy hettys want pride parades?
Sincerly, a fed up lesbian. (link)
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Bullshit! Any sexuality, no msatter how ordinsary, can and will be bullied. To this I can attest.
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I'm 25/f and I still live at home, unfortunately for me. Now I know I may sound ungrateful, but please forgive me. I don't know where to begin. My parents and I have always had a rocky relationship. We never seem to get along. They're constantly criticizing, yelling, or getting pissed at me if I don't do the things they want me to do. Now I've tried to talk to them but they don't want to change, and i'm trying because I know I can't change them, I'm trying to focus on me. I have ADHD and depression. I've made a lot of mistakes in my past. Like experiment with drugs, sex, etc. But i'm over that. However my mom is still holding a grudge against me and can't seem to ever let it go. She uses that as a weapon. We can't have a normal conversation because every time I try to talk to her she's always annoyed with me. and it's the same with me. I've been seeing a therapist and we have been talking about me moving out. I have a job however I don't make enough to live on my own. Another thing my mother uses against me as a weapon. She complains about me to my therapist and whoever wants to listen to her. She says I don't clean my room, workout, blah blah blah. The goal was if I improve I would be able to move out, but according to her that hasn't happen. And according to my therapist I don't need to impress my mom but need to impress her! When she told me this I didn't understand what she meant.I feel like everyone is just using that I can't afford to live on my own against me. I don't see why I have to "impress" my therapist? I mean shouldn't I be doing this for myself? Why would I want to do this to impress her? I don't think it'll benefit me or her to try and "impress" her All i want is to move out. Does anyone have any suggestions? I've looked at roommates, but no luck. And according to my therapist I don't have the "social skills" needed to move in with someone, because how i act at home and at therapy. Because my mom comes to my therapy sessions and all she does is bashes me. I'm so sick of it. Last week she yelled at me and threatened me because I hung out with my friend who she knows was a drug addict, but is clean now. I was gone and went to my support group meeting. I Was early and waited in the parking lot. Then afterwards I had dinner with my friend from the support group meeting. and didn't come home til 10. So she yelled at me. And then my dad started yelling at me. I understand they don't want me to lose my job since i am trying to move out. That was a problem before but that was because i was off my meds so I couldn't keep a job. But anyways she got pissed. I tried looking for another job and when she found out she freaked out and told me if I got another job I would be in "deep shit." I tried to explain to her that I would only take the job if they offered it to me which they didn't since my current job is only 30 hours a week and pays $11/hr. And this other one was paying $12 and was 40 hours. But she never listens and always tells me she doesn't want to hear it. I have no idea why my mom went crazy that day. But anyways I'm sick of all this. They're being nice to me right now because I had to have surgery since one of my ovaries had a cyst and it ruptured and there was blood in my stomach. So now my mom is going to my cousin's wedding, which I can't go, and my dad is taking care of me. so of course NOW they're being nice, but I seriously wonder how long it's going to last. Well anyways I'm done complaining. I really could use some suggestions because I'm sick of my parents, my therapist and everyone in general. I've tried to get another one but my parents got mad when I started seeing another one. They go through my credit card bills of course and that's how they found out! I don't think the therapist I currently see is very helpful.Thanks for your help, like I said any suggestions will help. (link)
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So, they demand of you to move out, but oppose you finding a better paying job in order to do so. How ambivalent, what a mixed message! Obviously, you parents cannot admit that they are lonely and insecure about you moving out and going your own way. If you owe someone money, but they deliberately prevent you from paying them back as a calculating ruse in order to continue holding it over your head, then that's their fault, not yours. And the same principle applies here, obviously. So stop trying to explain yourself. Tell them that you do not wish to upset them further, and will only respond to questions asked calmly and politely. And that you will be happy to pick this up again when they have regained their calm and composure, and this won't be too stressful for them. Give then a hug. Make them tea. But do not take their bait. And stop repeating yourself. Simply state: "My position on this matter has not changed." Take and keep physical possession of your computer and your car. -no explanation and no discussion. You also need to set boundaries. Do not keep any paper receipts and records at home. Scan them and password protect them. You need you car, your computer and your own privacy, in order to make more money and move out. Period. And if your shrink indeed acts as a substitute parent that you must answer to, this is malpractice. Your parents should never participate in your therapy beyond your own personal comfort with such an option. To begin with, is your personal Psychotherapist even qualified in Family Therapy, in order to include other family members on an ongoing basis? Family Therapy with a separate qualified family therapist, who won't get sucked into letting anyone gang up on anyone else, might be in order. Do learn about Family Therapy. Also, read 'Games People Play.' And above all, shun Behaviorism in all of its guises.
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Do you have to be a certain age to buy waxing strips for bikini area and stuff at like Cvs or drugstores? I'm 14 and want to try it but idk if I need to be a certain age? (link)
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I never heard of anybody being carded for Brazilian wax! But isn't the easiest way to find out, just to try? What, are they going to arrest you?
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I am 14 yrs old and my parents are pretty strict about me dating and have said that i cannot date till i am a sophomore(even though my older brother dated a girl in eighth grade). I am in eighth grade and we have a semiformal and a boy asked me and i said yes and now I don't know how to tell my parents and I am scared to even tell them. How should i tell them and what do i do if they say no? (link)
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But don't you socialize with your peers already anyhow? Don't you visit one another and go out for meals, movies and activities? Why call it a date? What's in a word? A good place for advice in dealing with your parents, might actually be Planned Parenthood.
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Question Posted Tuesday October 4 2011, 1:28 pm
i do not know how to start this but appology for this long statement. i couldn't analyze these things anymore... let me start it this way, i am married for almost two years now and i love my husband. recently, i work with this lady and i find her very attractive. the thing is i don't know if she's gay or not and sending me mixed signals. i find her going on her way just to be around me or something, used to flirt with me before (i've seen her before i worked with her), stares at me when am not looking, used to stare at me when i was talking (before) and seems to be jealous when i talk to another men (like in a friendly way, not flirty). MOST IMPORTANTLY, i wonder so much why does our coworkers watches us whenever we are around together. they look at us, literally! it seems to me that they are listening to our body language or something. i don't understand... i really don't. since i started working with her i don't remember doing any flirtatious act on her. i never have. the only thing that happened was before i worked with her. like i say 2-3 times. well anyways, all of these happened before until last night... she worked with me directly and asked me bunches of personal questions like how is my husband, where did we met, etc and etc... do i have plans going back home to my country. i said yes i do. but am looking for someone to fly with me so i won't be by myself. she said she would go, she'd love to. then later when i asked her to go out with me and my friends because my other friend is bringing another person ( i don't wanna be out of place) she said yes if i wanted her to go (said yeah i do) and asked if we go to a bar and i said nope we don't do that. we just go out shopping. she said that's cool. i just thought you want me to WORK FOR YOU (what in the world does that mean???). that really got me. i laughed it out though. i asked her number and she gave it to me. later i asked her if she wanna go out watch movie, she said it's up to us. i can see she seemed to be starting in doubt, so when i got off from work i told her she don't have to go if she don't want to and that if something would come up. i even said i really like her and she said oh really? (she said it in a deep low voice) but i didn't told her that in a romantic way. she said she'll let us know and that she's saving her money because she's going to college soon. well anyways the fact is nobody knows am bisexual but i can see that she can sense that (that am bi). well, an hour after i texted her and she seems to be not interested or something...? i asked her questions and she answers it but she's not reciprocating my point on texting her and asking her out. i just wanna know her and be friends. she's very nice in every way. gracious i must say. am attracted to her, i admit that. however, i know where i stand on my ground and i cannot act on it. did she found everything weird? is she losing interest on me or did she even have an interest with me at all?
i honestly don't know what is going on so please please please i need everybody's help here analyzing these situation. am not even understanding my own self. i wanna know what is going on with her and what does she want from me.i (link)
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This could all have come straight out of 'True Confessions'! I gather that her usage of "working for you" does not mean you hiring her for a job and becoming her employer. It's more like you are playing hard to get: She is trying very hard to win you over, to prove herself to you, because of your indecision. This is what she meant. It does seem clear that you are interested, but you hesitate. And yes, though your feelings are that obvious to everyone around you, even if you claim never to be deliberately suggesting anything. And they find your standoff most amusing, titillating and suspenseful, indeed somewhat blatant. You would surely blush were they to act out an impression of how they perceive the two of you together! I think that they are your friends and want you to be happy. I do hope so. They certainly have got you on their gaydar! I only wonder why you are not consulting other gays, lesbians and bisexuals, online or IRL. I do not believe that you really do not know what you are doing. You seek consensual validation. You only want to be certain by checking with others. That little I can do for you. Moreover, you are not uncertain of what is going on, you are uncertain of making a decision. You come off so naive, but no one can be that naïve. You are ambivalent. But it's obvious enough what you desire and where things are going. That's all I can tell you without knowing more about what it is that you are actually so afraid of. Do you either of you need a spanking?
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I am not funny! I pretty much just make a fool out of myself being all silly to try to be somewhat funny. I try to say funny things but they're not funny and it's just embarrassing. I try to just stop trying to be funny but I always seem to just keep trying. Any advice? (link)
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If you really want it, you can be funnier. Simply as a matter of public speaking, start by learning how to tell a joke with a beginning middle and end. Study theory of humor and comedy. Learn to be relevant and quick of wit, choosing humorous responses that comment on circumstances or conversation in the moment. Get the basics before rejecting them and pursuing whatever Avant Guard. Study the masters.
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17/Female
I'll start from the beginning of this.
A few months ago I started making new friends, and talking to two guys who are both friends with each other already. I started talking to Guy 1 through text, and we hit it off pretty well, talking about our interests and having fun making jokes, talking nonstop, although we are both kinda awkward individuals in person, and has a hard time with other subjects out of that, but after while we started to like each other, slowly telling him about some issues I have within myself, to which he just listens, to which I can appreciate. Now, going back, Guy 2 and me first started talking he was mostly helping me vent and give me advice, and listening to my problems, to which I told him so many things, I don't know why I trusted him so quickly after some brief conversations at school. Our friendship built from that, we pretty much know many things about each other, and contrary to Guy 1, is better with his words, and not awkward all that much. Now, Guy 1 and myself have been sort of flirting and know about each others feelings while Guy 2 has just told me their feelings which I had already guessed he did; I just didn't want things to get complicated, because I had questioned before "Did I go for the wrong guy?" But just thought Guy 2 liking me wasn't possible. Now, I'm confused as both guys are great, and I get along with both of them, just in different ways. Guy 1 I can be happy and laugh a lot by our jokes and interests, and he brightens my mood at the end of our conversations but sometimes they can be one sided or awkward and he doesn't know how to respond out of "okay", " alright", etc. while Guy 2 I can't help but be honest with him, and have conversations that are based on emotions and still have fun improvised comedy, after our conversations I guess I feel relief, and contentment, if not sometimes a little depressing, because of the conversation topics we've all hit across the board, but we never seem to get awkward or just come to just saying "okay", we always have full conversations, if not sometimes I can be a bit spacey.
Anyways, I have no idea what to do here, and things would get complicated if I started going for guy 2, as well, me and guy 1 have been kind of already kind of close in respects to romance, just by simple hugs and flirting but honestly, I'm just rather confused. Any help is appreciated, and thank you for reading this lengthy story/question. (link)
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What you want is to have them both. But will they approve? Can they sympathize? How badly would they object? Do they need you badly enough? Can they be happy? In fairness, can there be advantageous freedoms for each of them as well?
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I'm italian, I look like most my family, olive skin, brown hair, and hazel eyes. My mom will fight people to her last breath Italians aren't white. I did a google search and found some article about how Romans were tan and stuff, and in the south italians were considered black and were segregated and couldn't marry "whites" Italy is in Europe, so I think Caucasian I just want other ppl's opinion. Are Italians white? (link)
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Weasel Words are words or remarks that are equivocal or deliberately ambiguous or misleading. Words used in order to evade or retreat from a direct or forthright statement or position. An allusion to the weasel's habit of sucking out the contents of an egg without destroying the shell. A concept so readily debunked, 'race,' so-called, stands as prime example of a a deliberately ambiguous and slippery weasel word, sheer doublespeak, in so far as the word 'race' is so blithely employed actually to suggest species, while evading open and explicit commitment to such blistering malignant absurdity. After all, there is only one human species, such minor regional ethno-phenotypic variation notwithstanding. Historically, the notion of 'race' was concocted to explain away flagrantly unconstitutional social inequality.
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Now I'd like to start off that I have depression, for a few years now, I am 17/female. I don't know how this plays into this well enough or has little.
Anyways, for thepast month my depression has gotten hard on me, all the whileI've slowly detached myself from my boyfriend, and with trying to converse with him during those weeks has made him irritated from my lethargy and dealing with me, and soon I called myself off from him and became distant to him. My feelings just started to fade, feelings for him and also I couldn't very well identify my own emotions. It's gotten worse between us and before any of this problem I had made a new (male) friend. I had no intentions to have feelings for him but now they're starting to form little by little. It's all a bit too confusing. Now getting out of the hard hit of depression I had gotten now I'm trying to work it out, but I feel like I'm rejecting a bunch of things out of fear of what'll happen. My boyfriend is sweet, caring, and I'm completely comfortable with but then, sometimes he is just so messy and disrespectful to his parents, embarrassing and boring at times. And then with this other guy, through out my worst days, has managed to make me laugh, talking almost non-stop. While my boyfriend has made me feel pushed away, like what went on inside didn't matter, now all I can explain is "I don't know what's going on inside, I'm sorry" and its tearing me apart if its just depression dampening my emotions or if its legitimate, any of them. Thank you if you read all of this. (link)
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Monogamy is the unnatural doctrine that one must destroy any current relationship, no matter how precious, before embarking on a new relationship, no matter how promising.
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Help please I dont know what to do. I'm being blackmailed. I am a 19yr old male and she said she was 20yrs. I sent a nude picture of myself with my face in it to a girl on Kik and she said if I don't pay her money she would post it on Ellen show website and try to have her show it on CNN or something like. And ruin my life. She wants me to pay her $100 and if I do she said she would delete the picture. Im scared that she will post it and ruin my life. I can't tell my family because they would be upset at me and cause more issues. Please someone help me I don't know what to do. (link)
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http://www.scamnet.wa.gov.au/scamnet/Types_Of_Scams-Social_networking_scams-Video_or_photo_blackmail_scams__How_to_Fight_Back.htm
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I have invited another woman to have sex with my husband while I watch. She and I have meet and I like her, she is just the type I wanted for this experience.
She and my husband have not meet and won't until the night of the event. She is coming to our home where we will enjoy drinks and conversation first.
I'm looking for ideas on how to make the transition between conversation and sexy time smooth and less awkward. She and I have talked about bondage and restraint being part of the evening.
Ideas? Suggestions?
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It sounds like you all have put in the time for self education, mental and emotional preparation by participation in pertinent news groups. A good meal never hurts.
To make sure that arousal and curiosity will overwhelm any lurking jealousy, remember that in this very private sex show, all just for you, scrutiny up close and personal, not just watching in passive longing and frustration, but actually touching two other people even while they are heavy at it, is actively encouraged. Bring flashlights, magnifying glasses and a feather duster.
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No one is giving me the support I want n it been so hard 2 me because I haven't tell anyone how I fell (link)
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Is there a question in there somewhere? If all you need is a sympathetic ear, then is there anyone to reach out to? Can no one be found?
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I'm a white cisgender homosexual female. White racism isn't real, cisphobia isn't real, misandry isn't real, and heterophobia isn't real. Were white people enslaved and segregated for decades and still get killed in hate crimes? Nope. Do cisgenders get an increased risk of being bullied, suicidal, or killed? Nope. Did heterosexuals get burned and prevented from being married and have people insult them for holding hands in public, or people call things they don't like "straight"? Nope. Do rich people starve on the streets and have no clothes or water and need to work their ass off? Nope. Did males ever get sold into sexual slavery, rights taken away, pushed from science careers? Nope. It makes no sense to me these people who had everything handed to them on a golden platter with a silver spoon in their mouth already with a head start in life feel opressed. Why? (link)
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The Nazis actually felt threatened by the Jews, and regarded the Final Solution as an ugly thankless humanitarian travail. For all such scapegoating, historically, Alice Miller blames cultural denial, taboo, and repressed trauma of pandemic child molestation, leading to individual and mass displacement which is the unconscious transfer of an intense emotion from its original object anywhere else. And the controlling xenophobic lunatic fringe of the Republican Party sees their way of life under attack by anyone different. Hilariously, nowadays, heartlessly irresponsible ultra rich in chronic abuse of power, don't appreciate such criticism and have no sympathy for those whom they exploit. And so, they come together, commiserating in a sense of persecution. Who knows what’s the matter with these people. They do have all manner of real human troubles and dysfunctionality from which to displace. The fortunate ones will seek out the most expensive available psychotherapy. Both as a matter of compassionate morality and also simply to protect the economy upon which their profits depend, many ultra rich, by contrast, do all manner good works and struggle to preserve and advance the Middle Class who are the real job creators. But am I telling you anything we don’t all already know perfectly well? Methinks you are seeking validation not edification. So, what is all your White guilt? Don't you remember where you came from? Are you not appreciative of your advantages? Do you not strive to improve the world and yourself, both materially and otherwise? Do you not yearn to do well by doing good? If so, then visit my website: http://www.FoolQuest.com
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My boyfriend asked me tonight if I was a virgin because he is and has never done anything at all. We've been dating on a couple weeks and I didn't know how to answer it though. This is why:
I've gave a few guys head
I've been fingered A LOT
I had anal twice
I masturbate like once a day
I never had like...sex sex, you know? Like the making babies kind LOL. You know what I mean. Does that mean I'm a virgin? (link)
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Semantics. Why does it matter? Only when you explain that, will I even understand your question.
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Hello!
As the headline says, im trying to be a better man, and being able to do some self defense is never bad idea. I heared that some martial arts are tied with some sort of philosophy and through it teaching other things for life then just "beating people" (because beating people is NOT my desire in the first place). I will be most grateful if you give me any suggestions i could follow.
Thank you! (link)
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Codes of conduct, culture, education, religion of one kind or another, meditation and anything else, have long been associated with teaching and learning martial arts and the like. And you seem to be thinking: Why not start from something already familiar, and kill two birds with one stone? Well, not to mix metaphors, but whether you will relish that sort of chocolate in that sort of peanut butter, remains a matter of taste for you personally. No matter what, eventually the same limitations must arise: Personality trumps ideals. I have no ideas what it is about yourself you desire to change and improve, how profoundly, or even what you seem to be shopping around for in the philosophy department. Frankly, for the most part, I simply do not recommend Eastern Philosophy to begin with, being lectured by all manner phony gurus and bogus fakirs to decide to be happy and make do with unsatisfactory conditions by meditating away all worries. That's just slave mentality, and no great virtue in my eyes. Only an oppressor exhorts the masses not to think. Waiting and hoping for things to make sense later, is the road to cult indoctrination. Perhaps the best moral advantage in martial arts, is that skilled fighting allows incapacitation of a foe with the minimum of injury, which is extremely considerate. And the best for that is Aikido.
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