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Son beat up by girl.
So I went away over the weekend to visit some friends,and I got a call from my sister saying that my 13 yo son had gotten into a fight with a neighborhood girl over something stupid and that she beat him up sort of bad in front of his friends, and that he's really depressed/scared and beside himself over it now. She says he just stays in his room all day and doesn't want to talk much about it or leave the house, and thinks the main reason why is because he's scared of her now and that she might be outside waiting for him or something. Not sure how I'm going to go about this, should I bring it up right away or let him tell me about it? Any other fathers ever gone through something like this? It won't be easy I know, even if I say all the right things, I know who the girl is and wouldn't of ever guessed she had it in her.. I'll see him in a couple days. Any advice would be great.
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He is a kid. I would have asked him to apologize to the girl. It's not good to get into a fight with a girl. He should learn to respect girl/woman.
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Is your son being bullied?
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If you are like me then you taught your son that boys/men never hit girls/women for any reason. If a girl starts to hit you then you defend yourself against injury and try to get away but you do not hit her. If this is the case with your son and he did as he has been taught by you then you praise him for doing the right thing and that you are proud of him for not hitting her back.
Then with him, since you know who this girl is you go over to her house and have a conversation with her and her parents as to why she hit him, why as bad as she did and why she chose to do so in front of his friends.
I'm quite sure that her parents have most likely told her fighting is wrong and may be upset to hear she hurt your son and the proper thing for her to do is apologize to him in front of his friends. While you explain to them that he did what any man is suppose to do which is never hit a girl for any reason.
If the situation is different, if he actually fought her and lost then you still need to speak to the girl's parents for it is wrong for them to have fought in the first place. You also need to make sure the fight is over and that she will not attempt to beat him up at will whenever she feels like it.
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