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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.



I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.





Much love, Teza

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I have stretch marks on my boobs for some odd reason. My mom tells be to keep cocoa butter on it but I've been doing it - and nothing happens.

Do you know of anything I could use ?

As you grow, it's normal to get strech marks on your breasts. Over time, they do face but lotions and creams don't always work. They'll go away slowly as you grow.

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Well, my boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months now and we're in love. Not too long ago we were at his house, in his room just listening to music - until we started making out. Which led to us almost having sex (clothes off and everything). I was physically ready, but I don't know if I was mentally ready. He didn't want to because he didn't want me to think that's all he wanted from me. But I know I'm ready now, and I told him (he's not a virgin) - but he wants to wait until our one year to go all the way (but for now we're having sex with our clothes on - if thats possible, and a couple times he's tried unbuttoning my pants but he stops himself - even though I don't want him to)

What should I do ? I've told him I'm ready but he insists on waiting until our 1 year..
I'm really confused.
- Thanks !

I don't understand why he doesn't belive that you're ready and that you don't belive him. If he doesn't want to have sex right now, there's nothing you can do. Not many guys are willing to wait but if he thinks waiting for your 1 year is more special to him, let it be. I guess he doesn't want you to assume that all he wants from you is sex and he want's to prove that to you even though you might already know that. Just hang in there and be patient with it.

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14/f. Sorry if this is a bit long. I have a group of 5 friends; we sit together at lunch, hang out on weekends, blah blah. Now, theres this girl, 'Jill', who thinks she is the 6th member of our group. We'd be happy to be friends with her, but shes so freaking annoying. She's immature, always copies us, invites herself places.. One time she just showed up at the mall when she heard about it, even though we didn't invite her at all.

The 5 of us try to ignore her, hoping she'll get the message, yet she still sits with us, walks with us, etc. The only problem is, I feel really bad. I think she knows that she is always being excluded in our plans, and she's obviously really upset. She has no other friends besides us.

The question is, should we keep being friends with her? I don't think it's fair to let Jill think her friends are us, when really all we do is talk about her meanly behind her back with eachother. Or should we just be nice and let her sit with us and stuff? She's SO annoying.

If you guys don't want to be friends with Jill, tell her the truth. It's not fair for you or her. Tell her that she's annoying and that you guys don't want to be friends with her. Yeah that's rude but you need to be honest with her instead of saying all of those things behind her back. Ignoring her won't make her get the message. Do you want to be friends with her and be fake? You guys don't seem to like her so why be friends with her just because she has no other friends. So, like I said.. talk to her and tell her the truth. Maybe she doesn't notice that she's being annoying.

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ok you on chat. you just say hey..
and a freind be like no i am busy..

so no i don't borther to much. i just hey and all pretty much it. and i know a true freind would say hey sorry i can't talk right now becouse i got tones to do or maybe oh i wish we can chat but i am so busy.. i will talk to you later.
well thought i see if i got my ponit

Just because a person doesn't say that they can't talk in a proper and nice way does not make them a fake friend. That friend might not have many manners but they might of not have time to type out the whole sentance explaining why they can't chat.

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people keep saying I am a rocker and I like that because I want to be rocker or emo BUT the problem is that I act like a preppy girl and I dress like that and this school year I keep think WHAT IS MY LABEL??????

It's actually quite sad how you want a label andhow you want to portray an image that you're really not. You can't really act "preppy". Preppy is a style and so is emo. I may sound mean but I'm just being honest with you. If you're a ROCKER chick and wanna be emo, you be that but be who you are not who other people want you to be. Try to be yourself.

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Hello...im 16/f
ok so i have a few things bothering me and i don't know what to do.

First, my close friend has been going out with this guy for about 2 years now. And her bf and i have been really close since they started dating. Everytime they have a problem with each other, i listen and try to fix them back again. Works all the time. They're very much inlove.

Anyways, so me and the guy have been really close. I used to call him every now and then and talk to him about anything. Most our conversations are about his gf. There was never ever a conversation about him (except his feelings about his gf) or me or anyone else.

And he never calls me. And hes graduating skool in a month. =( and im going to miss him soo much! the thing is i know that hes going to go away for uni and i know things are going to change and hes never going to call or email or talk on msn. Even though i tell him to, i know he wouldn't. And i want him to stay in my life.

Ok so the things that are bothering me are:
- Why won't he call me? Or keep in touch with me?
- I want to have a conversation that isn't about his gf.

Second, I'm really afraid of change. So many friends are leaving. I don't want to start over again and try to find new friends. When i was in grade 7 and 8 i was pretty much alone, didn't have many friends. I was soo sensitive. Anyways i started growing up, and was being less sensitive so people were getting used to me being around. Then i got some friends and started hanging out with them. I've had the same friends for about 4 to 5 years now. And i really don't want to lose them. It was kind of difficult for me; and im so glad i made so many friends, now im friends with most of my grade. I really don't want to lose them.

I have many friends outside school, and we barely talk now because they have "so much work to do". I have a friend who moved to uni 2 years ago. I have 4 friends who moved to a different school last year. I have a friend who moved to a different country. I have a friend who got expelled today. I have 3 friends who moved out of the school this year. ='(

My friends are slipping away slowly and i don't know what to do. No one stays in touch anymore. Even though i try it doesn't work. My parents barely let me go out. And i have one more year and i'll graduate then i go to uni. I find myself going back to square one, where i need to find new friends again. And it's really hard for me, because i don't click with people easily. =(

Any advice would be appreciated! Thanks in advance! Sorry for making it such a long story.

To me, it seems like this guy only talks to you when you needs help with something or talking about his girlfriend. I may be wrong, but if you guys are that close of friends, he would make an effort to talk to you more. Maybe if he starts calling you, he's afraid that his girlfriend might get jelous or something. You need to talk to him about that again and ask. If you want to have a conversation that isn't about his girlfriend, bring up a topic that both of you are interested in and just talk.


I know that change is hard and I'm sure it's like that for everyone but you have to learn how to accept it and move on from it. I understand that it's really hard having your friends move on and leave, but you can't just isolate yourself from other people. You still have time to make new friends. Just because some of your friends are moving to other and bigger thing doesn't mean that you're not going to be friends with them anymore.


People will come and go out of your life, but you have to move on. Friends will come and go but you can always make new friends. Be more outgoing and talk to people. That way they'll get to know. Don't worry too much because it's making you feel worse. Things aren't as bad as you may think. Just look on the bright side of things.

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how do you make your face so clear?

Do you want to know what products I use or what? My face isn't always clear but I use Clean & Clear & I use this other thing called Clear Action. My face might look extremley clear in my picture becase the [ noise from the picture ] is removed.

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how should i do my make up to make dark brown eyes look really good?

Any color looks good with brown eyes but to make them pop, use purples, greens, and natrual colors. Every time I watch make over shows, they use those colors and it look good. Make sure you blend different shades together when doing your eye shadow.

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1) i was wondering if you could help me with what color make up i should wear for eye shadow, eyeliner, and blush. i have light brown/dirty blonde hair, blue/green eyes, and my skin is pretty tan.
2) i only wear foundation and blush, can you wear bronzer and foundation or would that be pointless? if you can, which one goes on first?
3) do you know of any good bronzers that are a decent price? thanks in advance♥

1. You don't really have to wear eyeshadow or worry about what color goes with your eyes. When I wear eyeshadow, I usually match it with my outfit and blend it togheter. For blue/green eyes, a natrual color would look good. Greens, light browns, shimmers & such.
2. Since you wear foundation, make sure you get exactly your color or just a shade lighter. After you put that on, you can put on bronzer. Some people put bronzer all over their face but I personally think that it makes them look really blochy and that's pointless. What I do is I just put bronzer on my cheeks and I don't use a lot. You could wear bronzer and blush, but depends on what you like.
3. I like Clinique bronzer and it works good. When getting a bronzer, make sure that it doesn't have orange in it. If it looks orange, don't get it because it most likely will leave your face looking orange.

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I have a girlfriend and she loves me and I love her I also have girls as my friends and I like one of them how do I be cool with girl i like and still have a girlfriend

If you really love your girlfriend as much as you say you do, you would KNOW not to do anything with the other girl. You can control yourself and everytime you think that you like the other girl, think about your girlfriend and how you'd rather be with her than anyone else.

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i just started drinking A LOT of water and cut down on my diet a lot. the thing is i've gained weight? is that normal?

That's all water weight and it's normal but easy to lose so you'll be fine.

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13/f
in my grade im like in the middle in popularity. this year i started becoming really close friends with a girl in a popular group. her birthday is coming up and she invited me to her party with her and just her group. there are 6 of them and including her, i'm friends/aquaintances with 4 of them. she said she would understand because it would be awkward. i'm not sure if i want to go. should i go and risk it being awkward? and what are some ways to make it less awkward and uncomfortable for me?

help is appreciated!!

If you're friends with 4 of the girls, why would it be akward. Her birthday party could give you the opprotunity to become closer friends and get to know each other better. If you don't really want to go, don't. It might be fun and you never know .. you could have a really good time. If it does tend to get akward, just start a conversation and talk to them. Make sure you talk and just have fun instead of just staning there. Enjoy yourself :]

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About 6:30 california time, I was watching some kind of movie on Vh1. I checked the TV Guide Channel, ZapToIt, and Tvguide.com but they all say that was supposed to be on during that time. I only saw part of it, so bear with me.

There with a girl with fake, curly blonde hair and very tan skin. She was some kind of exotic dancer (stripper) and she was hiding something, because she wouldn't tell the personnel manager at her job her social security number. She had an exboyfriend who was black and her best friend was too. There was a girl at her work who was trying to sabotage her, a lot of dancing, and her boss was named Zach, he had brown hair. Her name was Nomi, I think. Her voice sounded kinda like Lisa Bonet.

Anyone know what movie this is?

I'll delete this as soon as I find out, but it's bugging me. I attempted to google it but got some ads for strippers instead, ugh.

I like that movie :] & it's called Showgirls.

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Do some guys get emotionally attached after having sex for the first time? Or any time? Like, do they feel any different towards the person?

I don't mean like clingy (but if they do, then okay) but I mean, would they love you more or something? Like would they feel any different?

I heard that for guys, sex is just sex, but for girls it's like a connection.. But it sounds like just a stereotype. So, if you're a guy, did you feel different in any way? Like, in your heart or towards the person? Or was it just like, anything?

Yes, some guys can get emotionally attached to the girl and it could make him like the girl more. Some guys don't feel anything at all because that's all they wanted but they could also lose respect for the girl. Some girls seem to think that if they sleep with a guy that he will like them more. That isn't the case. A guy should like YOU for you, not for the sex and sex shouldn't change the way a person feels.

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What are the bases? I forget

A lot of people have different opinions on it.


1- Kissing
2- Handjob/fingering
3- Oral
4- Sex

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What exactly is considered oral sex? Blow jobs, and eating out? Is titty sucking considered oral sex?

Titty fucking isn't oral sex.

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I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months now, and we have had our first fight. I had asked him to come to a friend's party with me, which he refused to do, because he didn't want to. It's been 5 days and I have not heard from him. Should I contact him or wait for him to contact me? What should I do?

It's your first fight, who cares. You both are over reacting about it and yes, you should talk to him. Communication is a big deal in relationships so in order to make it work, you have to talk. If you both continue not talking to each other, your relationship most likely will go down hill. I don't think that he wants to admit that he was wrong and neather do you, but you shouldn't wait any longer. Make up and get over it. He'll be glad that you talked to him about it first. It'll show that you care about the relationship.

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I Am From Canada,Manitoba .k im a str8 guy..who has gay friends..and ya i experimetned only kissing i found it cool...is it wrong to just kiss a guy and not have sex lol..ya my question was it a sin just for me to kiss a guy and ya i just kissed that all...thanx

So you're a guy .. and you kissed another guy? That doesn't really make you straight but I'm not going to question your sexuality. It's not wrong to kiss a guy and not have sex, but if you say you're straight, it is kind of weird.

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okay. well about three months or so ago, i lost my best friend that ive known since preschool. and then she got 2 or my other best friends to turn against me..one realized she need me, and came back. it took the other about a month to do the same. but she was totally diff. then before. im still not friends with the one ive known forever. but now.. both other girls, and 2 other friends of mine hate me.. i dont even know why really. it just seems like im losing all of my friends. i dont know what to do, its all too much & i cant stop crying. please help me ..

Those "friends" that you lost, were never your real friends to begin with. I understand that it's hard when people hurt you like that but don't cry. They're NOT worth it and they're not the people that you need in your life. When one argument happens between two people, your other friends feel like they have to take sides and that's kind of what happened with you. They don't understand how immature & pathetic they're being.. over nothing. Ignore them and don't try to be their friend if they don't want to. You desrve better friends and I'm sure you have those who won't do that to you. Just don't try every "best" friend that you have because in the end, you never know if they're going to stab you in the back so be careful when you chose who your real friends are.

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umm does ANYONE know how to upload pictures on photobcuket

because i dont know how?
please help i really need this on thing

Once you log in, go to my album on the right side. When you do that, it should take you to your page and then click on the word Browse and look for the pictures that you want to upload. You can upload more than one at a time.

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