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Confused.
Well, my boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months now and we're in love. Not too long ago we were at his house, in his room just listening to music - until we started making out. Which led to us almost having sex (clothes off and everything). I was physically ready, but I don't know if I was mentally ready. He didn't want to because he didn't want me to think that's all he wanted from me. But I know I'm ready now, and I told him (he's not a virgin) - but he wants to wait until our one year to go all the way (but for now we're having sex with our clothes on - if thats possible, and a couple times he's tried unbuttoning my pants but he stops himself - even though I don't want him to)
What should I do ? I've told him I'm ready but he insists on waiting until our 1 year..
I'm really confused.
- Thanks !
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it sounds to me that, you have a nice gentleman. most guys like to rush into things without even asking so, take pride of what you got there.now that you have told him that you are ready, let him tell you HE is ready. maybe his past relationships that had involved sex, didn`t work out for him. and he must really like you and care about you enough to wait.usually someone would tell you, in a situtaion like this, to "just follow your heart" BUT i don`t like saying that because your heart can tell you different things. soo... i`m going to say, just let it happen when it happens. the longer you wait, the more you will enjoy it when it comes about. do you get it? i hope i made sense and helped you out with this.
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I don't understand why he doesn't belive that you're ready and that you don't belive him. If he doesn't want to have sex right now, there's nothing you can do. Not many guys are willing to wait but if he thinks waiting for your 1 year is more special to him, let it be. I guess he doesn't want you to assume that all he wants from you is sex and he want's to prove that to you even though you might already know that. Just hang in there and be patient with it.
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It's great that you're so ready, but you have to respect his wishes too. It seems that he's only trying to think of what's good for you and your relationships, which is great!!! However, there could be other reasons that he wants to wait. Maybe he really does want you to be different from the other girl(s). Or maybe he has a different reason. But whatever his reasoning is, you have to respect it like he would respect your decision to not have sex. It seems like a totally situation, I know, since he's not a virgin, but you have to treat it the same. So just sit down and have a talk with him. Tell him that you are ready when he is, and if he really wants to wait, then you will because you love him. And maybe if you explain to him that you would never think he just wanted sex, he might change his mind. However, if he doesn't, you are just going to have to wait until your 1 year.
On the bright side, it sure would make a memorable one year. It would actually be celebrating something, and it could be really special =)
Good luck with everything!
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