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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!


I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!

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ok my boyfriend is leaving for florida this morning, in an hour. we havent seen each other at all today, and we knew we wouldnt be able to, so we said our goodbyes last night. ok well on to the problem; even tho we said good bye and everything last night he snuck over at like 230 a.m. to my bedroom window for a 2nd good bye(kiss, hug, ilu, ill miss you etc.) well when he left his house he didnt realize the car was gone, so when he left my window he was walking back home and his mom pulled in, saw him coming from my house, and freaked. well his bedroom is the shed(thats where he wants it,and his mom doesnt care cuz she just got her custody back so she'll let him) but now shes making him move into the house in the little spare room. the reason? she thinks he sneaks out every night over to my house and then i sneak back over with him, we do stuff and then i go home. which none of thats true. i havent even snuck out once in my life. but she seems to think its happenin liek that and he told her its not, btu she wont believe it. but now she wants to call my mom at work and tell her everything, and she thinks thats why he came last night, even tho it was to say good bye, but back to the point she wants to call and tell my mom all this, and none of its true, and im like freaking and i dont know what to do, its all a bigg mis understanding, and my moms gunna believe her and ill be in sooo much trouble!!...please answer ASAP. thankss soo muchh

Talk to your mom before his mom does.Tell her the truth. Hopefully your mom knows that your trustworthy. As long as you and your boyfriend know" the truth then that's all that matters.Good Luck!
~Brina~

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Hey Everyone!! Well ever since I can remember I've always biten my nails, its a really bad habit. Usually I bite them when I'm nervous about something or when im pondering a serious question. I really need to stop because my hands look like they don't have nails left on them anymore. My ? is How do I stop biting my nails and what can I do to prevent starting up again?? Thanks for your help in advance!

Hey. Put on fake glue on nails, so that you dont bite them. When you get the urge to bite your nails, chew a big piece of gum. I used to have that problem, and i just chewed gum or sucked on mints so that i wouldnt bite them. The stick on nails, will make you not bite them since they are fake nails. Or, put bandaids on your fingers so that you cant bite them. Good Luck! Hope I helped!
~Brina~

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well it this me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 1 year and i asked her is i could kiss her and she said no but she likes to take it slow and i said ok and that was about 2 mounths ago should i kiss her yet or wait and if we kiss should i use tounge and is there a special way to use tounge


please help i need it in the next few days
-rockfan23

Dont use tounge the first few times you kiss, frenchkissing might make her uncomfortable. You have to ask her if she's ready or not to kiss.Good Luck!
~Brina~

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so i go to this camp next week for a whole week. and at the end of it the have this big banquet dinner thing. the problem is i dont get asked by anyone to it. my friend is kind of a "slut" and puts herself out to everyguy she sees. and i dont. people tell me how pretty i am yet NO ONE asks me. this year i want to go with some one. im really friendly. what should i do to get a guy to ask me?

You should ask a guy! Dont be afraid or be embaressed to. You can do whatever you want and you dont have to be embarrassed, I'm sure it would be nervwrecking to ask a guy, but it could be a cool exspierience to ask a guy to it. What camp is it? I think i know which camp your talking about.Of course your friend will get guys because of how she acts, but you have to find that guy that doesnt want a girl for there looks. You probably are pretty, i'm guessing your in the age between 13-16 if so, guys in thhose years also get nervous asking out girls so dont fret. Good Luck!
~Brina~

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i cant think of the name of the song or any other words to it but the part that goes "Is this the end of the line" do you know the name of it?

Sorry, i have no idea, If you find out some more of the lyrics i can probably tell you... you probably dont want to rate me high cuz i dont know... so just dont rate me if your gunna rate me low.
~Brina~

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iok yesterday i went to my friends house and she told me there was a guy that looked like a guy that i used to like and had the name of my ex. so i wanted to see him.. nothin else. but then my friends cousin hooked us up and i dont even noe the guy i would have said no but her cousin told him i liked him. the problem is he is 20 and i am well 14.. he didnt care about the age but i have a clsoe guy friend that i like a lot we are planning to hook up we just have to find a way to see each other more. (he lives 15 min. away) and my friend is 15.. i want to give this guy a chance because he was all sweet to me but i think the only reason why he asked me out was 4 my looks. but we were taking pictures and he had his hands all over me and he didnt even noe me. here is what i would like to noe:

*should i give him a chance? if not how can i break it to him but still wanting to get to noe him better?

*should i tell my guy friend about this?
i want to tell my guy friend but he thinks i dont like him which isnt true i tell him i like all the time and he does the same to me..

thanks!

Dont go out with this guy, i usually tell people to decide on theresleved BUT THIS GUY IS 20 YEARS OLD! Maybe when your older you can have an older brother. Just let the guy know that you want to get to know him first, if he says no then obvioussly he likes you for your looks. Personally, seems like he only likes you for your looks, he should respect you and by touching you all over isnt respecting you. Go for you guy friend deffinitly. Good Luck!

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ok i have a really close guy friend that i like a lot. and he likes me to and he is always telling how he wants me to be his girlfriend and that he wants to be with me except we wont hook up until we find a way so that we could see each other more often.(he lives 20 minutes away) but anways most of the time when i call him he says i am going to call you back and he NEVER calls back.. what should i think of this? should talk to him and be4 he says anythin be like "if you dont want to talk to me all you have to do is say so" can so one please tell me what to do. i dont want to hurt i just want to know he never calls back.

Well, next time you talk to him, just, when he says that be like, why dont i call you back since you usually never call me back when you say you will, unless you have a reason for not calling me. Say it as nicely as possible so he doesnt think of it in a bad way. I wouldnt worry, sometimes well, most of the time guys can be very forgetful lol. Good Luck Hun!
~Brina~

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To give a bit of background information, my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year and are madly in love with eachother. I gave him my heart.. as well as my virginity and he did the same. But the past few weeks, I've been doubting our relationship. I'll be having dreams of being with ex boyfriends or just other guys, particularly this one guy named Luis. He's a very good friend of mine and a total flirt around me. For a second I thought I had feelings for him and I actually concidered breaking off my over one year relationship with the love of my life for this guy, Luis.I realized it was stupid to end something that is SO good for something that is only going to last a few months IF that much. I called my boyfriend and I was barely crying and, I should've known he would be able to tell I was because as soon as I said hi he said "What's wrong why were you crying?" (He knows the sound of my voice when I'm happy or sad and everything in between like the back of his hand). I told him what happened and I kept saying "Baby, I'm so sorry I don't want to lose you." He told me everything would be okay, but now when I talk to him he seems so distant? If that would be a word to describe it. He's in Maine right now, and I'm back home in New Jersey so I can just like go over and see him right now. I don't know what to do, he just isn't acting the same now, I didn't do ANYTHING with Luis, I'd never do that to my boyfriend. What do I do? I don't want to hurt my boyfriend anymore, I feel so guilty for even having those thoughts. Can anyone please help?

I'm 17 he's 18.

Aww. Ok, I think that your dream made you think a lot about past relationships. You noticed how Luis was such a good friend, he'd probably be better as a friend like you said. It was very good that you told your boyfriend your feelings even though he probably took it "weirdly". Stay with your current boyfriend, he seems like a nice guy and like you so said that it would be stupid to brake up when you have something great, which your right, because it probably is a better boyfriend girlfriend relationship than you might have with Luis. It didnt work out the first time with Luis evidently so why have feelings for him again? Maybe your confused, it's probably just friend feelings you have for him. Call your boyfriend and tell him how much he means to you, and that you have no intention of braking up with him. That Luis is just a friend, and that your boyfriend is soooo much more. Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!! Hope I helped!!!

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im 13/f
what should i do if my crush would ask me out or something, but my friends realllyy like him too?
(i have this one friend, she likes the same guy that i do. she says she loves him and everything. but she doesnt know that i've like him since like 5th grade.) i have an idea that he kinda likes me too. i hear that he talks about me to his friends, and whenever im around him he asks me for hugs. im not sure if its just playful, or actually something. im not sure how to react if something happened, and he asked me out?? nfsap idk. im really confused. any tips????
-stuckkkkk

Hey. I'm sure your friend doesnt "love" him. Seems like you like this guy a lot because of his personality. If he does ask you out deffinitly talk to your friend first. Tell her that you have very strong feelings for him and that there will be other guys out there for her. If she gets way upset maybe you shouldnt go out with him if it will hurt you and your friends relationship. If she isnt a great friend that you talk to all the time or hang out with then deff. go out with the guy. Good Luck Hun! Hope I helped.
~Brina~

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Im getting a new puppy and its a full blood pit bull. Shes solid white and her right ear is black and some of her neck but other then that shes snowy white. Im having trouble finding a name.

If u have any suggestions id love to hear them!

Petunia { it's a good name cuz its a pit bull who usually look tuff and then petunia is a adorable name lol}
Sally
Freckle
you could go to babynames.com and pick one from there.
Hope i helped!
~Brina~

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I have a q!? I haven't had my period for last month yet. I mean, I usually have it at the very last day of that month... which would be june 30th, but it's now the fourth and I haven't had it yet. Not even cramping. I have recently been sick with a kidney infection and I have NEVER skipped a period before. I don't know what to do. I mean, I did have sex, but used a condom. PLEASE HELP ME....! I rate SKY HIGH!

Deffinitly go to the doctor, your kidney infection could do with it. And, just because you use protection doesnt mean that you cant get pregnant, which as you know pregnancy causes a halt in periods. Good Luck!
~Brina~

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ok. what is the weight when you are fat.ik my brother always makes fun of me but is he just doing that to be mean or am i? what is the weight that is considerred fat?!PLEASE TELL ME



---am i fat?

You mean overweight? Depends, people can be muscular and weigh a lot. You didnt specify how old you were, it isnt fat that you would be its overweight. I would have to say 200 is considered "fat" if you dont have any muscle at all. People with muscle and weigh 200 arent considered fat, there muscle makes them heavy, in your feedback could you specify how old you are? Hope I helped.
~Brina~

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i am 5'4 im tall skinny and have long legs and i can never find any clothes that fit me they are either to long or too fat and i want hot clother where do i look? please help me out.



i rate high

I suggest old navy. They have different sizes. Tall, petete.... patete long... big long etc. Hope i helped.
~Brina~

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My Golden Retriever named Katie is 13 going on 14, i havent gone through a pet dieing experince my question is there any way to prepare myself in case my dog dies anytime soon? Katie's my First Dog and i love her sooooooo Much i would hate it if she died this Year Month Week Day
Can You Please Help Me Prepare for the Sadest Day of my Life???!?!??!?!?!?

HELP i'll RATE HIGH

Hey. It's always hard to loose a pet who means sooooo much to you. You just have to spend as much time and have fun with her as you can. Remeber all the fun times you had with your dog. I'm sure you'll never forget her. We recently had to put my 16 year old cat to sleep because he was sick, he was my first cat, and yes, i was sad but i thought about it, and i'll always remember him. Good Luck.
~Brina~

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my boyfriends has been hurt by his ex girlfriend he really loved her and she told him that she loved him too but she went out and had sex with another guy and that tore him up how do i get him to see or convince him that i won't hurt him? i do know what its like 4 your ex to cheat or something so how do i get him to understand that i won't do what she did?
(please help me)

You just have to let him know that you would never do that to him and you'll never brake his heart. Let him know that not all girls are like that. I'm sure he knows that your not like her but he has it in the back of his head that you might do something like she did. Good Luck!
~Brina~

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how long after a break up should you wait before the next chase? I mean like... looking around for new people... if the relationship you've just come out of wasn't that serious... but I don't want to hurt his feelings by jumping straight back in... :S
16/f

I would wait about a 2 weeks to a month. Even if you like a guy and want to go out with him earlier then that it would be kind to the person you broke up with to wait.... Theres a girl in my grade and she has a bf and after she brakes up with him less then a week she has a new one, i mean what would you think about that. Its kinda messed up. ya know?

~Brina~
















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i have this friend. and he is always talking about my boyfriend(in a bad way). i like my friend but i dont like that he is saying stuff about my boyfriend. i told my boyfriend that he was talking about him and he got really mad. i even told my friend that i told my boyfriend what he had been doing, and now HES MAD AT ME! should i say sorry for something i dont think is my fault?
-leah-

Na, you shouldnt be sorry. Your friend should be nice about your bf. And, your boyfriend does have a right to be mad.. But, your friend shouldnt be mad, you tell a lot of stuff to your bf such as telling him if someone was talking about him which isnt bad. noone should do what your friend does. Hope I helped!
~Brina~

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how old are most people when they start masturbating? I know this is a weird question and I don't want to [masturbate], but I'm just curious.

I read a book that was true and this little girl masterbated.... she didnt realize what she was doing she just thought it felt good.. which is kinda weird. I'd have to say probably at age 11..... could be younger the girl in the book was like 7... Hope I helped.
~Brina~

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I care a lot about my friends but to some of them i kinda feel like im not that important to them and we always have fights and its really hard and i need to kno how to handle it cuz im tired of fighting and having to deal with it its really hard well plz give me some advice ill rate high
Thanx

Aww. With me it's the same cept, i dont fight fight with my friends. You just have to let your friends know how much they mean to you. What stuff do you fight about? Boys, clothing random silly stuff? Or any other type of situation, that can all be changed. Just dont fight with them, end it before it gets to far. Good Luck!!!!!
~Brina~

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one of my " so called " best friend`z is pickin her boyfriend over me & her other friends, she say`z that she don't want to be w/him and all that but still yet she blows us off for him all the time .. shes 15 & he`z 19, & he treats her like crap, he picks her friends, & where she can & can't go .. shes not aloud outside or nuthin . . her mom doesnt know about this or even that they are datin .. should i let her mom in on whuts going on .. i mean shes 15 not an adult she should be able to have fun right

You should deffinitly not tell her mom unless something serioussly bad happens. She will learn a lesson from all this that going out with a guy that treats her like crap and picks her friends is not the right guy to date. And, that friends are very important in life. She shouldnt have chosen either, she should have chosen both. I hope I helped. Good Luck Hun!
~Brina~

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