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Ok,I'm 18/F and the other day I caught my brother he's 16 dressed in my clothes,I mean everything bra,panties,mini-skirt the works when he saw me he started crying,,,,too make a long story short he told me he has been wearing my clothes for a while and that he wants to be a girl. He said that he's sick of pretending and asked if I would help him shop and teach him about makeup,I love my brother an told him I would but I find this very weird. What should I do ?????
Oh dear, honestly I got a message in my inbox very similar to this, except it was a guy in this same situation. Okay if you need to talk to me IM me @ kaylehmae on aim. I mean it is very weird, I would be pretty creeped out at first, but try to accept him, he's obvoiusly different and looking for some acceptance, :)
I'm in this acting camp, and this week is Spirit Week. The past three days haven't been too hard (Monochromatic Day, Twin Day, Goth Day) but tomorrow, Nerd Day, I don't know what to wear. If I could have some ideas, that would be greatly appreciated. (Also, along with clothes, please give good accessory ideas, and hairstyles). Please, if you could, answer by tonight. Thanks in advance!
Haha oh, wear really thick plastic glasses (not the real kind other wise you'll get a fricken headache! haha) Slick your hair back with gel, and wear suspenders, short pants.. haha the sterotypical nerd! ooh pocket protector!
Haha if you want a picture of what I thinka nerd looks like, google images pee wee herman. ew.
But you can buy this stuff at a party store and costume store, I'm pretty sure :]
Ok well my friend moved away and i don't know what to do she was really special and like we did everything together and now shes goin to go camping with this person who really smells instead of coming with me so please what do i do?
Okay, you know what - who cares if the person smells. And if she isnt going to be gone forever than please just deal with it. Its not the end of the world, you just need to move on, and she'll be back eventually. Find some things to entertain yourself with, try hanging out with other people. Dont dwell on whats happened because there really honestly isnt anything you can do about it.
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So i met this guy through a friend a while back, and from the start i had been kind of intrested in him. But i had been too shy to ask him if he was seeing anyone. Eventually, we started talking and hanging out more, and so now we're really good friends. And in that time, i have developed a huge crush on him. And unfortunately, learned that he has a girlfriend. The few people i've told about him (my best girlfriends) have said that we'd be perfect together, and i have to agree. It made me sad that hes taken, but i did learn however, that him and her will eventually break up by the end of the summer because shes going to another high school next year, and he dosen't want a long distance thing going on. I have come really close to telling him i like him, but never have because i'm too scared of what he'd think.
the thing that confuses me most though, is that he acts like he likes me when we're together, so i think maybe he does. (and my friends say he does) But how can he if he has a girlfriend?!
what should i do?? i'm so confused.
Honestly leave him alone.
Because currently he does have a girlfriend and you cant count on him breaking up with her just because she's going somewhere else, I mean you cant trust what everyone else says.
Even if you'd be "really cute" together he still isnt available right now. A lot of guys are friendly to girls when they are in relationships but that doesnt mean they like them.
Dont ask him out or tell him, because he has a girfriend and you know that.
How would you like it if you were dating him and this other guy wanted you and he knew you were going to break up with your boyfriend? I'm sure your boyfriend at the time wouldnt like that.
Just remember to see things in other people's shoes. Other wise it really isnt fair.
i'm not sure if this is in the right category.. but last year i went from a 105 to 125 in less than a year. and im a small petite fit. but now i just look a little widder and all. i have so much cellulite on my butt and my thighs. when i wear shorts and when i walk you can see it. does anyone know what i can do to them?
Welll they have special lotions that are supposed to smooth out cellulite.
Like in avon and mary kay magazines you can order some.
I need help with my computer.
There's something that worries me. I'll tell you. There's a battery like a wristwatch in my computer to help it keep the right time. They tell me they need to replace it, it's 8 years old. How do I replace it. Help.
My computer is losing it.
I would really turn your computer off,
and take it to like radio shack or some place and have them remove and replace the battery!
hey does anyone know who sings this,and the song title. i only know one line...
You love me but you dont know wwho i am.
thxx
Let me go - 3 doors down :D
hi um i chose to ask you this because i say you were a christian aswell this may get a little long lol ok here it goes
awhile ago my freind invited Me to yc i dont no if u no wat it is buti will explain its like where all these teenagers get together for a weekend to celebrate god and listen to christion rock bands and listen to poeple talk like miles mcphearson so any way i did not want to go because i did not beleive in god i was s scared i would be bored and stuff.but it turned out to be awsome and while listening to miles mcphearson i turned into a christian it was great but i stil had a few unholy things i wanted to do like smoke pot the reason why was because i was switching citys and wanted do it safely whith freinds insteed of get preessed into it and another thing my freinds do is a so called possesing themselves so anyway my christian freind got mad bbecause i let them do this in my house and i wanted to smoke pot she said i wasnt a christian so i got mad and then like the next day i found out she took a shot of my dads alchol so i got angry naturrly because she totally broke my trust she has also done other lieing things aswell i just want to say i did not end up smoking pot so am i a christian and is she and i should i still be her freind?
Well when you are a christian, you cant really call someone a "true christian"its more than just being good, and believing in God. Its your spiritual connection to God, and wanting to be good for him, not because being a christian means that.
We all make mistakes, and just because you do something thats sinning, doesnt mean your not a christian, because there is something called Grace.. when we are forgiven for doing a wrong thing.
You can make mistakes, and ask God to forgive you, and just because you do something doesnt disqualify you as a Christian, nor your friend. Now Smoking Pot and stuff is wrong in my opinion, because its just not smart to do. Because as you probably know drugs and stuff like that lead to other more addictive drugs. But your friend taking a shot, thats bad too, and I know why you would be mad, because she told you that you werent a christian because you made a mistake, but so did she. And you both be forgiven if you ask God to.
I'm not the perfect christian, not by far, nor the perfect person. I make a butt load of mistakes but I'm forgiven even though I dont deserve it.
And its good you didnt end up smoking the pot,
but her lying to you has nothing to do really with if she is a christian or not. We all lie at times, and we all make big mistakes and little.
And you cant call youreslf a christian just because you dont do bad stuff anymore, its whenyou feel God in you I guess, and you are very sure that he is real, and its really no way to explain it, but its not all just being good and not smoking.
You should stil be her friend if you want to, but confront her about it, and tell her how you feel about it. About the lying, and that part of being a christian is that we are allowed to make mistakes because theres something called grace and that we should ask for forgiveness from God. But that doesnt mean we should sin just because we know we will be forgiven, it means that if we do happen to make a mistake we will be forgiven, but we really should try to be like God as much as we can.
take care.
ok i have just moved citys and me and my bff from that city made plans for me to go on day trip to banff jwith them my other good freind also made plans with me to go on a 3 week long camping trip i was really excited but then i found out the dates overlapped and i could only go to one so nnow i dont no wht to do because since i switched citys i cant see either of them much and i do get along better with day trip girl but i would love to spend the summer camping help!!!!!!!!!!!
Well the thing I would do, is whoever invited you first, because thats fair. I guess,
but the question is up to you, and still you need to decide, and then your going to have to explain to someone,whats happening.
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i took piano lessons when i was 9 years old,and then because the teacher was so strict and i cried after sessions,i quit.and now i wanna study piano again but i don't think my mom would let me.i'll really stick to it,be strong,and work real hard on it.i just wanna learn how to play the piano again....13's not "too late" age,right??how do i convince my mom???tnx in advance
Well you dont need to have the same piano teacher, the one you might have might be really nice :] You can explain that to your mother,
its not too young at all to take piano anymore!
I dont think there is an age. :]
But anyways jsut explain to your mom you really want to do this and tell her why!
so i'll start by telling you a bit about myself.
i am 15 f. i don't want to sound arrogant but yes, i am popular which is why i don't get what is going on. I am vasrity cheerleader as a sophmore and have no trouble w/ guys and have alot of girl friends. so this is my question...
i got into a figth with this girl and it got bad, but girls are catty. she tried to ruin my reputation, but i ruined her life =] i got her kicked off of class vice president and her friends hate her. but to be fair, she really deserved it im not kidding. she posted pictures of me that were like edited and crap to make it look like i was naked, like photocopying my head onto the pic or w/e. and posted it on alot of the lockers. idk why she did it, shes just jealous b/c im dating her ex bf. seems to me like SHES the sociopath not me...
so after this i got in trouble, the school sent me to a therapist to talk about why i act the way i do. he diagnosed me a sociopath. But um... sociopaths are psycho anti-socials and im the center of attention. Im not a freak, i love shopping and guys and they say just b/c im a little decieving and like it my way, makes me a sociopath???
can somebody please explain to me how a popular varsity cheerleader can be a sociopath because i am way not antisocial.
Antisocial personality disorder (APD) is a personality disorder which is often characterised by antisocial and impulsive behaviour.
It may not be that you arent social but that your impulsive about things, which it sounds like you are.
A popular varsity cheerleader can be a sociopath because, you get everything you want, and your starting to be demanding. You want to wreck people's lives if they hurt you in any kind of way. Just because your popular doesnt make anything better, and you dont want to so und arrogant becauase you are.You can justadmit it and dont be offended because everything you wrote up there about ruining this girls life, is horrible. You do realize that if you dont start treating people the right way, that when you graduate your going to have no friends.
Because we all know the mean people of highschool, when they graduate they are no longer popular and in charge of anyone.
Yes the fcat that you'll do anything to be on top. That doesnt make you PHYSCO but it makes it obvious that you have some kind of problem, like your an attention freak. Something like that. You shouldnt be proud that you wrecked a girls life, or that you made 4 girls transfer.
I'm not going to defend thatyour not physco or that you dont have a problem,because everything you wrote seems to show that you have some type of disorder, because it seems like you live ot be on top and hurt people.
Sixteen years old and male. I'm not sure why, but I don't talk to my father. I don't hate him or dislike him. My uncle noticed that when he stayed to visit and told me that I need to go up and talk to him more often. I tried to, but I guess after awhile I stopped. What really got to me was that my sister said that to me too, and she's younger than me. I guess it's that noticable. But I want to know what I could do to start conversations and talk. The only time he goes out of his way to talk to me is when he needs me to fix the computer or get him something (and I'm not exagerating). He gets home late and is always busy when he's home.
Should I write him e-mails? He is constantly checking his e-mail. I do feel somewhat uncomfortable talking to him about anything more than the Yankees game. Generally I'm not too open, it's not easy for me - but it's really bothering me now because I want to create an open line of communication, but I don't know how to start or what to do to make sure that once I start it doesn't fall apart. Any advice? Thanks.
Oh I know exactly how you feel.
Except my situation is pretty different.
I dont talk to my dad, but I really cant stand him. Thats my problem though, not yours.
Okay, so you know communication is the key correct? Its really not nice of him to only use you to fix the computer or something,
I think you should email him, and tell him you want to hang out or do something, (i know thats easier said than done:[ ) but yeah I suggest that, especially if hes always checking his email. When it does start (the conversation that is) keep in touch! Talk about hobbies and interests, and what you like to do, how his day goes, you knwo?
I am a pepper fiend. I put pepper on practically everything but sweets. My question is, could that be misconstrued as an insult?
My brother's girlfriend kindly made dinner for our family for the first time, a few weeks back. Chicken. Of course, I went nuts with the pepper shaker. The way she looked at me really hurt my feelings. I don't think she purposely shot me down. I think she was just more in shock that I had the nerve to do that. She eats dinner with us everynight, though. She knows my routine. It's nothing new. I still felt like a jerk. I didn't say anything then, but I probably should have. Now it's too late, and I would just like to gather multiple opinions for future reference. I'd hate to unintentionally put somebody (who so generously devoted their time and effort to please me) down.
So if you worked all day to prepare a meal for your guests (even family) and someone were to pepper the hell out of it, would you take offense?
No I wouldnt take offense,
because if they like it that way ..they like it that way you know? I cant change it!
Like some people love salt, and they put massive amounts on food, no need to be offended about it, its normal, everyone does what they want to.
So I would say I wouldnt have taken offence, and I'm pretty sure she shouldnt have either. Especially if she eats with you and realizes that thats what you do.
ok i just started dateing this guy iv liked for a while,and we call each other all the time everythings going fine but the other day i went over to his house n we were watching a movie on his couch, we were cuddeling pretty close when out of no were he says "i love u" n i thought it was pretty cute so i looked up to kiss him on the cheek but he turns his head n i kissed him on the mouth so i pulled back(iv never kissed a guy before)but before i knew it we were makeing out, and now i look back on it now and i feel stupid for makeing out with him on our first date and think that he will think that im easy and like me for who i am not what i am.i no i should talk to him but i kinda feel like it was my fault in the first place. gawd im so confused!
what should i do???
Well I dont think it was your fault.
If it was your first date and he said he loved you, I mean its kinda him implying he wants something, you know?
yes talk to him, communication is key,
and you can tell him how you feel about what happened.
what are some good NEW songs ? any kind
Red Wine - The Hush Sound
Brat Pack - The Rocket Summer
Chelsea - STEFY (stefy is the band)
Take a drink - QuietDrive
Dear Time Traveler - The Scene Aesthetic
Modern Swinger - The Pink Spiders
Wow I can get sexual - Say Anything
Alive with the glory of love - Say Anything
Making love to the camera - The Starting Line
I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now and it's serious. Not that it matters but for more of a detail, I'm white & he's spanish. He's met my small family but now it's time I meet his huge, cultural family. I'm so nervous because I've never done this and I wouldn't know what to say! I want to make a good impression and show them I'm not some sleazy white girl.
Well the best thing I suggest is just be yourself,thats the best thing you can do.
His family will see why he loves you if you are yourself :) Be polite, and have fun!
Hey I am going to my boyfriends house and I am kind of nervouse. Any advice on how to calm my nerves and any tips to leave a good impression?
Just do some calm breathing, and dont worry about it! Be polite when your over at his house, but dont suck up and stuff, because parents can tell when your doing that. Just be yourself and they will see why your boyfriend likes you so much :]
ok theres this guy, cory, iv always liked/loved we've been through alot togeather he was always there when i needed him we were like best friends, but im afraid that thats all we will ever be, i have a boyfriend (but he dosnt even compare to how much i like cory), and he has a girlfriend and it seems like they love eachother, but sometimes the get into relly bad fights, they date on and off, i think he dersirves better and i think i could be the one that treats him right but i dont want to tell him anything because im afraid that it will ruin our friendship can anyone help me?
Well honestly,
if you have a boyfriend,
and he has a girlfriend.
You need to leave them alone,
you can be friends, but nothing more.
Never mess with someone when they are in a relationship.
You may think she doesnt treat him right, but I mean if he didnt like her, he'd dump her.
And we always tell ourselfs we would treat someone better, but theres always someone saying the same thing. you know? =/
You are right dont tell him it will most likely ruin your current relationship with your boyfriend if he finds out, and your relationship with Cory - he will be weirded out, especially since he's in a relationship and really dont confuse him.
Ok, first of all I'm very self concious about the number of friend I have so I was wondering how many is a good amount? Or just any advice on that problem at all?
Next, I'm starting a new school next year and going to camp this year and all that jazz. Do you have any tips on making new friends?
Honestly it doesnt matter how many friends you have. Some people can have a million "friends" but they dont know anything about them.
Its best to have a few close friends that you can tell anything to, than having a million aquentionses (sp?!)
I have a lot of friends, but a few are my really cLOSE friends who i can tell anything, and the rest of ones that I'm friends with but we arent as close. As long as you have people that you can be there for and they can be there for you, and your happy, it doesnt matter how many friends you have.
To make new friends, always smile, be happy, and be nice! People dont like snobs or stuck up folk. The best way to do is greet situations with a postive attitude and try to include everybody in activitys thats a sure fire way to make new friends!
16/f and I can admit that I can be a bit spoiled/bratty at times but I've been trying to work on it. I really have.
Well, my boyfriend, and I know he doesn't do this to be mean, sometimes calls me things or says things to me about the way I act that really hurt. For example, when I try to get my way (like with what movie we see) he always says "Of course, princess!" and turns away. Well, you'd think that sounds nice, right? NOT.
He started calling me "princess" when he was over at my house once and I was mad because some family thing. When I walked out of the room, my sister and him were talking (so I listen in on conversations, who doesn't) about how if things don't go my way, I think it's the end of the world; like I'm a "little princess".
It pisses me off so much when he does this because he KNOWS that I'm trying to get better. But it doesn't help when he calls me that because I know what it means. And he knows that I know what it means too because I've tried to talk to him about it. He'd stop for like a week and then start saying it again. What can I say or do that'll get it through his head?
I honestly would break up with him.
If he cant support you then he is no good!
And you will certainly find someone who can help you and will want to help you. And be there for you to have fun with :)
That may not be what you wanted to hear
but I dont think you shoudl be treated that way at all!
Especially if he wont listen, then breaking up and dumping him would be the best thing.
But make sure you tell him he hurts your feelings and stuff !