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i want him to love me for who i am not what i am
ok i just started dateing this guy iv liked for a while,and we call each other all the time everythings going fine but the other day i went over to his house n we were watching a movie on his couch, we were cuddeling pretty close when out of no were he says "i love u" n i thought it was pretty cute so i looked up to kiss him on the cheek but he turns his head n i kissed him on the mouth so i pulled back(iv never kissed a guy before)but before i knew it we were makeing out, and now i look back on it now and i feel stupid for makeing out with him on our first date and think that he will think that im easy and like me for who i am not what i am.i no i should talk to him but i kinda feel like it was my fault in the first place. gawd im so confused!
what should i do???
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Hi, always remember that if your ever unsure about something then don't go ahead and do it. No matter how much you would like to do something, if you have any doubt then just don't do it. Next time when you see him just have a bit more control over what happens and remember if you make the first move and your unsure or regret it then there may be consequences. Also if you don't like him making out with you on your first date, will it's already happened, but just tell him the next time he might try it on that you are unsure or you don't want to do it. A good relationship requires honesty and communication. Daniel.
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Well, if he doesn't mention like him saying he wants to have sex with you or something already, then its okay. He asked you out right? Then, he must of liked you for you. On the next date or whatever, don't kiss him or anything, to prove your not easy. & if he does like start saying things to you, speak with him. & explain you are not like that. & hope he understands. If he does not, then break up with him! Well, I hope I helped. Bye! =)
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hey there! okay well i def. dont think it was ur fault...but it's not his either. i have been in your situation before. I dated this guy and we had been going out for literally like 2 hours...and we started making out all of a sudden and we didnt stop for quite a while. And then i started to realize that every time we hung out, he would make out with me. So i talked to him about it. Conversation is the best way to go. and whatever you do, dont avoid him! but anyways...i talked to him and said this , "okay, i have been thinking. I really like you...a lot...but every time we hang out, all we do is make out and we barely ever talk. It is starting to feel to me, that you love me not for who i am, but for what i have. And i know that i made out with you too, but i think we should talk more and get to know each other even better than we know each other now"
Now i didnt think that was going to work...but it did to my surprise. it really helps to talk to them about it. If he really loves you, he will listen to what you have to say and he will not be afraid to talk to you about it.
Dont feel stupid for making out with him...yes it was the first date, but my suggestion is to hold off on the making out for a while. Get to know each other better. Alittle making out on the side never hurt anyone...hehe...but dont do it all the time because it takes the spark out of things. Your know what im saying? With guys, making out is a good thing...but if it becomes too much of a good thing...they could get bored and want to move on to other things which you might be uncomfortable with...that is just how guys are.
okay well that's my advice for you...sorry its long but i hope it helps.
<3 Danielle
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Well I dont think it was your fault.
If it was your first date and he said he loved you, I mean its kinda him implying he wants something, you know?
yes talk to him, communication is key,
and you can tell him how you feel about what happened.
<3
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Well i think that maybe he relizes that you werent "easy" when you just went in for the kiss on his cheek! But maybe you should talk to him about it if things start to move to fast for you. Let him know that things are moving to quickly and that you want to slow down a bit. {It will help the relationship more in the long run if things go slowly} hope i helped some **
*catherine21*
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