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Boyfriend calls me names
16/f and I can admit that I can be a bit spoiled/bratty at times but I've been trying to work on it. I really have.
Well, my boyfriend, and I know he doesn't do this to be mean, sometimes calls me things or says things to me about the way I act that really hurt. For example, when I try to get my way (like with what movie we see) he always says "Of course, princess!" and turns away. Well, you'd think that sounds nice, right? NOT.
He started calling me "princess" when he was over at my house once and I was mad because some family thing. When I walked out of the room, my sister and him were talking (so I listen in on conversations, who doesn't) about how if things don't go my way, I think it's the end of the world; like I'm a "little princess".
It pisses me off so much when he does this because he KNOWS that I'm trying to get better. But it doesn't help when he calls me that because I know what it means. And he knows that I know what it means too because I've tried to talk to him about it. He'd stop for like a week and then start saying it again. What can I say or do that'll get it through his head?
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Hi, some times in life, we have to be a bit more aggressive when we say things to others so that they can truely understand what your trying to say. For example show your frustration over this feeling. If he then asks you whats up or why are you acting like that, then you can tell him that your doing it because you don't like being called princess. He should then get the message obviousley? If he doesn't and you really don't like it then it's proving that he isn't being respectful towards you and you should tell him whats at stake, regardless of how funny he might think it is. Sometimes but not always we have got to inform people when they really don't listen what our feelings are and we can tell them through being more agressive when we speak. NOT PHYSICAL E.G PUNCHING, KICKING. Sometimes we just have to let that anger out and tell them how we really feel, for example:
"I really do not like that"
"That's really hurting me"
"Stop it, stop it right now!"
Do you see what I mean. When communicating aggressively to your boyfriend, he will probaly want to know why you are being aggressive. Will then you can tell him why you acted in that manner and if he doesn't understand that, then it just proves that he doesn't understand you. And without understanding he fails to see how you feel when you talk to him. Giving body language is usually easier because it's quiet and hopefully if he has a brain, he can just see how you feel e.g facial expressions. Just tell him you don't like it, and if he can't understand that then he can't understand you and we could both be going our seperate ways. That should give him the message. Saying something bluntly is another good way and alot better than anger. Try one of these techniques. Daniel.
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i personally don't think he's being a good boyfriend.
i think you should tell him that he should be trying to help you and not make it worse by calling you names. if he doesn't listen then, i don't know about you, but i would definetly break up with him because he is making your goal harder for you and boyfriends aren't suppose to do that.
hope i helped! ♥
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Tell him that he should be here to help you not to make you feel bad.
Try talking to him one more time, tell him that you don't want to be called a princess in the way that he means it because it hurts you and makes you upset.
If you are trying to get better tell him that he's not helping with the things he is saying to you...it makes it worse.
Maybe show him what you've written on here.
Good luck hope I helped.
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Talk to him again. I know you said you did, but tell him that it gets to you and that you want it to end once in for all.
I as a guy, know that sometimes for me to to stop something, or to start doing something, I need some kind of...shock - for relationships that is. What do I mean? I used to never keep my phone on me until my girlfriend tried calling me all the time and I missed her calls, which made her upset. This kept happening over and over, and she talked to me about it several times. Did I not want to listen? No not at all. It just takes adjusting and not so easy to do or not do things. So it wasn't until that something happend to her and she was hurt that I started to keep my phone on me. It was that shock - that realization of what bad things could happen - and that keeping my phone on me would help so that I know whats going on with her and she knows whats going on with me.
Sorry for going off track, but I wanted you to have a clear example of what I meant by the shock thing. Try giving your boyfriend some kind of shock. Why? Force him into the realization of what will happen if he keeps doing that. Let him see that he will lose you if he continues to do that. If he honestly cares about you, once you make him realize that, he will stop.
If he keeps that up then go a different route. Ignore him when he calls you that. But let him know that you are ignoring him for awhile when he does that, like each time he does do it. If that doesn't work or if you don't want to try it, call him something else! When he acts a way you don't like then call him something back, give him his own name.
If that doesn't stop him from doing that, then I say you should reconsider staying. Don't let it get to you, or at least make sure that you don't show it gets to you. He still refuses to stop? Then give up and let him go. Really, if he can't respect you enough with this, who's to say he will with something else or something more serious. So give him a chance but if things don't get better or get worse, then think things through and let him go - it's not worth the hassle and it's not fair for you. Hope that helped and good luck.
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Well, your boyfriend should be there to support you, not put you down. Tell him that you're tired of him calling you a princess, and that you're trying to stop being so demanding. If he still calls you 'princess' after that, then break up with him and MOVE ON. Boyfriends aren't supposed to be calling you 'princess'. It might've seemed like a joke for him the first couple of times, but you've got to let him know that its getting to you, and you want him to stop.
Hope I helped!
♥ SiMA
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I honestly would break up with him.
If he cant support you then he is no good!
And you will certainly find someone who can help you and will want to help you. And be there for you to have fun with :)
That may not be what you wanted to hear
but I dont think you shoudl be treated that way at all!
Especially if he wont listen, then breaking up and dumping him would be the best thing.
But make sure you tell him he hurts your feelings and stuff !
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