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the guy i like has a girlfriend
So i met this guy through a friend a while back, and from the start i had been kind of intrested in him. But i had been too shy to ask him if he was seeing anyone. Eventually, we started talking and hanging out more, and so now we're really good friends. And in that time, i have developed a huge crush on him. And unfortunately, learned that he has a girlfriend. The few people i've told about him (my best girlfriends) have said that we'd be perfect together, and i have to agree. It made me sad that hes taken, but i did learn however, that him and her will eventually break up by the end of the summer because shes going to another high school next year, and he dosen't want a long distance thing going on. I have come really close to telling him i like him, but never have because i'm too scared of what he'd think.
the thing that confuses me most though, is that he acts like he likes me when we're together, so i think maybe he does. (and my friends say he does) But how can he if he has a girlfriend?!
what should i do?? i'm so confused.
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Simply put, he likes you. You like him. It's time to tell him the truth and make the first move because I doubt you want to wait until the end of summer.
I'm a bit biased about this situation, because although he does have a girlfriend, if he says its over, it's going to be over. In this kind of relationship, I would say the sooner he breaks it off is the better because it seems like he's in this relationship just to be in a relationship and there isn't anything left to move forward from.
He probably knows that you like him, but he doesn't want to be the first to tell you his feelings. You've heard this before, but what's the most you can lose? You need to find out the answers before you hurt yourself pining over a taken man. If his feelings about having a girlfriend changes and he wants to stay with her, you need to know. It's better than feeling stupid after waiting on him and then discovering he had no intentions on leaving her. I've been there and it isn't the greatest feeling in the world.
Thinking about it on the reverse side, you might want to take into consideration that he is uninhibited with his actions. Anything he does with you that he does not tell his girlfriend is considered cheating, and you don't want him to run around with some other girl when you're dating him yourself.
In the end, it's still better to make the first move because face it, the attraction is thick in the air, we can even read it in your testimony ;)
Your girlfriends say you'd be perfect together, and you seem to think so too, so why don't you find out? Words are just words, and it means nothing other than an awkward barrier between you and him. Break it. Because sometimes men need a little encouragement to make the right decisions too.
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If you can, wait until closer to the end of the summer, that way it will be a lot simpler.
If you can't talk to him face-to-face, i find notes sometimes work. They made sound in-personal, but a hand-written, heartfelt note can sometimes be easier for the receiver, because they don't have to automaticlly respond.
Make sure you include that he doesn't have to answer right away, pressure scares guys.
Also, if he likes you, make sure you make it clear that you don't want to be with him until he's broken up with his girlfriend. relationships that start while one is still in another relationship ussually don't feel as right.
Hope I helped!
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Honestly leave him alone.
Because currently he does have a girlfriend and you cant count on him breaking up with her just because she's going somewhere else, I mean you cant trust what everyone else says.
Even if you'd be "really cute" together he still isnt available right now. A lot of guys are friendly to girls when they are in relationships but that doesnt mean they like them.
Dont ask him out or tell him, because he has a girfriend and you know that.
How would you like it if you were dating him and this other guy wanted you and he knew you were going to break up with your boyfriend? I'm sure your boyfriend at the time wouldnt like that.
Just remember to see things in other people's shoes. Other wise it really isnt fair.
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