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I am 48 years old (yes that's old compared to some of you).
I have worked in nursing and/or healthcare management positions for 24 years. Primarily OB, Neonatal, Mental Health, Occupational Health and Geriatrics. In Jan 2008 I started my own business to board horses and do equine/human education. I am also a certified dog trainer.
I've been around the block so to speak and seem to be always helping others. I've been told that the reason people seek me out for advice is that I am approachable and caring. But on the same token even though I consider the person's feelings. I tell it like I see it. I've dealt with people in trouble with the law, dysfunctional families such as those with abuse & marriage problems. Not to mention problems with employees and employers.
I don't ever claim to know it all, and always keep an open mind.
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is it true tht fertility runs in the family? for example..my mom popped out 3 kids unexpectedly (not planned lol)..does this mean i am naturally fertile too?
The only aspect of fertility that runs in families is fraternal twins, and on the females side only. This means that two eggs were released at a single cycle of ovulation, and two eggs were fertilized by separate sperm.
The majority of females of child bearing age are naturally fertile for 3-4 days every month. It has nothing to do with the number of children our Mother's had, planned or unplanned.
It just means that your Mother didn't use birth control or the method that she used was ineffective.
Ok so yesterday morning, I drove to school and as I got out, I noticed that my ankle was hurting.
Now, sometimes it hurts like hell, sometimes it doesn't. Mostly, it's the back of my ankle, if I step on my tip toes it hurts. Sometimes it hurts when I'm walking normally, sometimes it's fine.
Now, my prom is on Sunday and my heels are 5 INCHES, I bought them for $400 in a specialty store when I was in Germany.
I have to move around because I have to go to the mall and buy stuff for grad, get my hair done, manicure/pedicure, buy a purse, et cetera so I can't rest because I only have 4 days.
I missed school today to rest my ankle, but what the hell else am I supposed to do? I can't drive myself to the hospital and my cousin was there on Sunday and the wait was 5 hours to actually get inside (and her problem was pretty serious).
What do I do? I'm going to a have a panic attack. I've been planning my prom for ages!
Buy a magnetic ankle support and some over the counter antinflammatory medication. Since I don't know your medical history you should ask the pharmacist which one will work best for you. Keep the ankle support on until the day of prom, and take the medication as often as the label says. If you are unable to wear your high heels by that time, buy a pair of flats or even satin slippers to wear at the dance. I know it's dissapointing, but it's better to go and have fun than to be in pain and have a terrible time because of it.
im anorexic. im 13 im almost 5'4 and im 94 pounds an di think im fat. because i am. people are always like omg your so tiny im like i wish. i need help but i cant tell my parents theyd freak out. i got over it before and i can do it again without my parents help. but i cant go through it alone and sometimes talking to a stranger is the easiest thing to do.
http://kidshealth.org/teen/food_fitness/problems/eat_disorder.html
No You are no where close to fat. I was very skinny at one time too and I now look at my pictures and realize how much I looked like a walking skeleton. It's really not healthy, or attractive either. Just eat a little bit 6 times a day, very small portions until your stomach is able to accept larger amounts of food. Once you get your vitamin and mineral needs built back up, you will start to look and feel better. You should really talk to someone like a counselor that specializes in eating disorders.
i m a boy.
age23
i have a penis which is 5 inch when its lifted.
but i cant controll the time during sex. i want to increase time during sex.is there any natural formilla?or exercise.
i want to make it more bigger & stringer but withiut nadicine.
how i will di it?
Okay..it basically just takes practice.
http://www.webmd.com/content/article/53/61404.htm
As far as size, there are things out there that claim to help, but they don't, so just go with it for now!
How can I get my confidence level higher ?
Any tips?????????????????????????
Write down all kinds of good statements about yourself. Practice meditation with soft music and repeat these statements when you meditate..such as "I am beautiful" "I am smart" and so on...just hearing it will help make yourself really believe it.
Find one thing that you are good at and practice, practice, practice...you will get better and better and it will raise your confidence.
well I am pretty stressed out with everything like my parents yelling at me and breaking up with my b/f and school so when i was telling my friend about all this she said cutting herself worked for her she told me to try it well i did and it didn't work but i just kept doing it i have a total of 59 cuts on my arm and my other friend found out about it and told my spanish teacher so i am in big trouble what should i do?
Well, if the teacher really understands, you won't be in trouble. Talk to your teacher one on one and explain that you didn't get any pleasure from what you did to yourself, and want to seek help. If the teacher is upset with you, go see the school counselor..this is a fairly common problem. But really...your friend who told you to do this was obviously wrong. So perhaps she is not really your friend, and needs to get help for herself.
My 5 month dog is trying to mount my 3 year old daughter, which is not exceptable. Should I neuter him now? I do believe it is more than just being a puppy. He is in the bully breed and I am very concerned about him knowing his place in our klan, and manners.
Neutering now will help, but it will take a while for the hormone level to drop. Some of what you described is puppy behavior before neutering, and some is about dominance. You are 100% correct about the dog knowing his place. You can establish a boundry that will allow the dog to view your daughter as a pack leader, without teaching the dog to be rebellious or fearful.
Now this may not be your dog's breed, I understand, but it's good information:
http://www.bullmastiffinfo.org/dogs_children.htm
It's great that you are concerned before real problems arise, I would recommend consulting with a canine behavioral expert.
Hey guys,
ok I've hit a real low-point in life.
I've already tried killing myself, and that's not it..it's over the stupidest thing ever; looks. I hate myself so much. I'd do anything to be pretty, I've seriously begged my mom for plastic surgery 20 times a day for this whole year. I need to change. It's not that I care what others think cause they seem to think I'm pretty, it's myself, my inner-critic. I won't be happy until I change completely, but my mom made it clear plastic surgery is not an option, so what do I do? I don't remember the last time I was happy, seriously, every time I finally wake up happy, I look in the mirror..and all I see is: bulging stomach, big nose, hairy + manly face, disgusting face, short legs, unproportionate upper-body, tiny feet, weird ears, ugly + uneven skincolour, everything is just humiliating!! I hate myself sooo much, I just don't want to be me anymore, and please don't tell me to seek help or just accept who I am, I don't want to. I want to change. How though? What are some major things I can do to just completely change without plastic surgery?
Eventually, once you are an adult, you can have plastic surgery w/out your parents consent. I'm not going to give you the answers that you don't want to hear, because there are non surgical things you can do to make you feel more comfortable with your appearance. First of all see if your parents will let you consult with a personal life coach, a fitness trainer, a cosmetologist/beautition, and a fashion expert. If you can't afford to do this, do some research on the internet under the features of your body that you are unhappy with and you will find a ton of information.
ok. im 12. somewhat skinny, and 100 lbs. i havent eatn in about 6 days,but i drink water a lot. i want to eat, but then i feel bad and ill just make myself throw up. i geuss im afraid to eat or gain weight. i keep passing out and only a few ppl know why. help anyone?
I don't believe that this is even a legit question.
my boyfriend james raped me a month ago and I think I may be pregnant and my mom will kick me out even if I was raped she's the type of person who thinks I could have done something about it I told my mom he raped me and she asked me how I could be so stupid to let something like that happen what should I do,Iam only 17 and my boyfriend is 19.
You are talking in the present..as if this guy James is still your b/f. I certainly hope not if he forced you to have sex against your will. First of all do not stay with him, and secondly go to the police. If you are afraid of him get a restraining order.
I'm 16. My mom always tells me when to do my laundry, when to put it up, and when to clean my room, and quite frankly, I'm sick of it. She always says to me, "You're 16! You should know better than that!" and, "You're 16, you need to get a job!" Basically she uses my being 16 as a reason for me to grow up. Well I can't grow up when my mom won't stop yelling at me to put up my clean clothes when I can do it later. How is clean clothes in a basket in my room going to bother her, or anyone else for that matter?
Anyways, do you agree with me? What do I do?
Well, remembering what it is like to be a teen, I do agree with you. 10 years from now it's not going to matter if you didn't put your clothes away on time. It can be quite annoying when someone nags and doesn't give us room to breath. I have a good idea, do all your own laundry, and put it all away before she has a chance to say something. She won't know what came over you, and may even be a little worried!
There is this girl in my town who whenever I run into I feel just utter contempt for. The problem is I'm not even really sure why because she's become such a loser.
Well first of all she has a bad reputation in town. She used to be a prostitute and got pregnant two years ago. No one knew who the father was and after she had the baby social services took it away. She also was a drug dealer and got banned from the volunteer centre I used to work at. I think the main thing that upset me was that she dated my first serious bf after we broke up. She would spread rumours about me and would flaunt their relationship in front of me. She also used to be really skinny when I was overweight.
Well since she had the baby she's gained atleast 50 pounds. She's also unemployed and the last time I saw her she was dancing at the bar with her big gut sticking out and being a complete slut.
Everyone (my friends) said she was gross. I have so much more going for me than her; I'm employed and have my act together and I don't sleep around and I'm a LOT prettier than her because I've lost a lot of weight.
So my question is why does it still upset me when I see her? Because she's turned into such a loser? Can anyone give me some advice?
You know, something that comes to mind is there will always be people lessor than, and greater than you. I have a feeling that you both have insecurities..her because she flaunted and spread rumors and you because you are bothering to compare yourself to her. If you really want to rise above all this, you should forgive her for what she has said about you. Even if not outwardly, from within. While you are at it, forgive yourself also. Things will turn around, and you will no longer feel the way you do, you'll see.
PLEASE READ. need adive now. =DD
background info:13.f -- alright so i have a really good best friend who ive known since kindergarten. (amanda) she considers all the people who sit at our lunch table to be her 'best friends'. but they're all quite annoyed by her. We had a chat about her, and she never gets invited anywhere, and while i admit that i was part of those things -- i hated it. so my other best friend was having a 'party' this weekend, and amanda figured, "oh ill be invited," and when she wasnt she asked me if my other best friend still liked her.
& what was i supposed to do? If someone didnt like me id want to know. so, i told her. and she got really upset and started to cry. and she decided to corner my other best friend and ask about everything. I asked her to say i hadn't told her -- but she did.
So my other best friend did what she always does, and denied everything, the chat, parties, behind back talking -- everything. And amanda being who she is, forgave her without even an explanation.
I got back from school that day and signed online and my other best friend was reall p/oed. she kept yelling, 'ew' at me. and saying things like, 'you screwed yourself over more than you did me' and then stated she didnt want to be my friend anymore. So tell, me -- how am i screwing her over by telling someone SHE DOESNT LIKE, thats she doesnt like her?
Being in seventh grade, theres drama. its funny how many people hate my other best friend. You love her or you hate her.and up till this point, id pretty much been her follower. and then she jujst makes everything more confusing by putting amanda on her away message. why would she do that if she hates her? trust me, she hates her.
and during the im conversation, i said i was sorry a million times. because i hate getting into fights especially with this one friend. she freaked out even more. and was being quite a bitch. so of course, things work out really crappy. shes not mad at amanda, but now she says im not even her friend. i didnt go to lunch yesterday becuase i had no place to sit, so i stood out by my locker the whole time. Its almost my birthday and it'd be a sucky present to lose who ive considered one of my best friends.
Help? adive -- opinions? please. ill rate 5s for any help if you bothered reading this thing. xx
Sometimes when we tell on others, we get the blame. Have you ever heard "Don't shoot the messenger"? Meaning--the messenger gets blamed for bringing the bad news. In a situation like yours it was not the right thing to tell Amanda anything negative. The other friend is obviously a trouble maker..and probably knew that you would tell. I would say she is not a friend that can be counted on, so I would either say "I don't want to hear it" when she speaks badly about someone else, or say "don't put me in the middle again"
My advice would be to try to make ammends with Amanda, even though she is picked on..she sounds like a much nicer person. Don't worry about the other girl, if she wants to be friends too, she will have to do the apologizing.
totally random question, I know..but howcome you can always tell when a note is written by a girl/boy, I mean it's pretty obvious when it's a girl, cause we write more..bubbly? I dont know, but you get it right..? Like howcome all girls write pretty similar, bubbly and compact, and..well..girly. Like us girls, we write in more "round" forms, and guys write more squared, straight..you know what I'm saying?
WHY is that??
Is it something in the brain we're born with?
Cause it obviously has something to do with gender..
In my jobs, and the tons of paperwork I have always had to contend with, I have seen lots of handwriting styles over the years. Sometimes what you are saying doesn't hold true as I have seen females that write pretty sloppy, and males that write nicely and form letters in a rounded shape. One thing I have noticed though is that handwriting changes, my friends and I once wrote in that bubbly style..and as we got older and perhaps more in a hurry we don't do that anymore.
I believe in the teen years it's more about the desire to express yourself. Girls communicate differently--and are more expressive. Boys really don't pay much attention to that aspect. In the adult years handwriting matches personality.
The study of handwriting is called graphology.
Here's a link to learn more
http://www.handwriting.org/main/hwasamps.html
I will rate 5s! Sorry its long. But 5s FOR ANYTHING! JUST PLWEASE HELP. ok so i wear daily contacts that you throw out every day .. wwhen i have sleepovers i just keep them in if i fall asleep and replace them in the morning - its always been fine. so on friday i did that & everything was good. during the day my left eye kind of felt irritated, but that has been ahppening a little bit lately with me and others because of spring/allergies and stuff. then when i took it out it KILLED. i couldnt open my eye it felt like there was something in it. then when i finally could open, it feels irritated and i keep crying like theres a hair or an eyelash or something in it.. so my questions is what could it be?
what is wrong with me??? is there something in my eye?? it wasn't ripped when i took it out.. is there a cahnce the one from friday could still be in there [but im positive i took it out & it doesn't look like there's a contact in my eye unless its hidden]. and whatever it is, how do i get it out??? or is it an infection? FIVES FOR ALL!
If you have a corneal abrasion, or an irritation from the contact lens it will feel exactly like something is in your eye. So most likely there is nothing in your eye.
However, this can be serious, so you need to go to the eye Dr. right away. Do not put your contact in that eye until the Dr says you can. I know someone who ended up with a more serious corneal ulcer from contacts, and needed a cornea transplant! You don't want to let it go that long.
My mom thinks I'm to young to date, ?I'm 13/f. How can I get her to think I'm responsible to date now? She said I have to wait until I'm 16!!!!!!
The trouble with 13 year olds, you are too old for child like activities, but you are too young for more mature things like dating. It's difficult to be the age that you are. You probably won't be able to change your Mom's mind, so in that case you won't have a choice but to live with her decision. The next best thing to dating would be to ask her if she would allow you to meet up with a group of people--or several friends at one time to see a movie, come to your house or so on...this is usually safer than dating one on one.
there are these two guys. one of them seems really nice because i just met him but hes not as cute..but he has a pretty good personality. the other one of them i have liked for awhile and hes been nice to me but sometimes he'll get to be very shy if i'm with my friends and won't say a word...
who should i like?!
i don't know what to do... please help.
Who you "should like" is not really a question someone here can answer. It's a matter of who you like better, and since we are not you, we have no idea. You have to sort it all out, no one can do that for you. It doesn't really matter how someone acts around your friends, it matters how they treat you. So write down the good and bad qualities about both of them and make a choice based on your list.
mothers day is tom and i need help on were can i make a slideshow with music i can add i rate all 5s plesse help
If you have windows XP, it comes with a Movie Maker program. It's easy for beginners to use.
Go to Start, All Programs, Entertainment and then Windows Movie Maker.
I get angry a lot now...for many reasons...I scream at my dad. Like today, just now, I woke up late, which puts me off schedule, which made me mad, so I started screaming, then I cut myself on my wooden drawer, and I slammed my foot down so hard, that I now have a bruise on my heel. I am afraid I'll go off like this on my friends, and they'll all leave me. What I need is someone to love me unconditionally, and someone to help me stop getting angry; At least that's what I think. Please help! I feel embarrassed about this, and am afraid I embarrass my dad and maybe will embarrass my friends...
Remember, anger is a choice. Being late is annoying, but not a reason to become really mad!Parents typically love their children unconditionally, but other people usually won't. After all, if someone were angry at you all the time would you put up with it? Uncontrolled frequent anger is sure to drive people away. What I think is great though, is that you realize you have a problem and are willing to fix it. That's very positive in my opinion.
See these links for advice:
http://www.safeyouth.org/scripts/teens/anger.asp
http://www.lifeway.com/lwc/article_main_page/0,1703,A=156886&M=50018,00.html
http://www.angermgmt.com/angertoolkit.asp
13.f
can anyone diagnose what's wrong with me?
sore throat, popped ears, abrnomaly heavy discharge, feeling extremely tired.
could this just be because im expecting my period any day now? im not sure since ive only had it for a year and a half. any advice apreciated.
Typically the sore throat & ears would have nothing to do with the discharge. However, when people get really ran down from one type of disorder they can develop more than one kind of infection. Really the best advice would be to see a physician as soon as possible. In the mean time, rest and drink plenty of fluids to flush the toxins from your body. Gargle with warm salt water for your throat, and ask the pharmacist if you can take tylenol and a decongestant which will help the discomfort and popped ears. I really don't like to recommend even over the counter medications when I don't know the person's medical history, so that is why I suggested asking a pharmacist.