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I'm 16. My mom always tells me when to do my laundry, when to put it up, and when to clean my room, and quite frankly, I'm sick of it. She always says to me, "You're 16! You should know better than that!" and, "You're 16, you need to get a job!" Basically she uses my being 16 as a reason for me to grow up. Well I can't grow up when my mom won't stop yelling at me to put up my clean clothes when I can do it later. How is clean clothes in a basket in my room going to bother her, or anyone else for that matter?
Anyways, do you agree with me? What do I do?
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I am going to have to say I agree with your mother on this one. But in saying this I will back it up with proof as to why she is right, but also remember I am not saying you are wrong either. Your mother is trying to tell you that procrastination isn't always the best key to life and it is always better to do something now rather than wait till later and possibly even forget about it. She is also right in telling you you need to get a job, at the age of 16 most kids should want to begin to work for their own money and their own things, but me being 16 as well understand the way you feel. You don't want to have to work if you don't have to but getting a job now is preparing you for later in life. School, homework, and a job is hard to juggle along with a social life trust me I know. But as soon as you get a paycheck and have your OWN money in your hands you will love it. She wants you to begin to rely on yourself more than her, since in about 2-3 years you hopefully will be graduating high school and moving out anyways. She shouldn't be telling you when or what to do with your laundry though, if you want to leave clothes in your room go ahead! That is your way of organization, let her know that. Stand your ground but understand where she is coming from as well. There is more than just your side to this story, think about it from her shoes. Hope I helped!
Nikki
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Well, remembering what it is like to be a teen, I do agree with you. 10 years from now it's not going to matter if you didn't put your clothes away on time. It can be quite annoying when someone nags and doesn't give us room to breath. I have a good idea, do all your own laundry, and put it all away before she has a chance to say something. She won't know what came over you, and may even be a little worried!
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Wow, I have the exact same problem.
I actually am two years younger than you and have two jobs, so I have a hard time empathizing with you there. With the clothes, I don't do it and hen use it to bribe her, like I'll clean up my clothes if you let me do this or that. Not someting I recommend, though, my mom is unique and her intelligence level is slightly below normal.
I hope that you don't feel alone, and I also hope that I gave you some insight as to what to do.
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hey. i have the same problem with my mom. she always wants me to clean my room. and i say "hey whats the point. its MY room and she doesnt even go in there!" i think that your mom just wants you to be responsible and learn how to pick up after yourself and learn how to take care of yourself. she thinks that 16 is a good age to start doing that stuff at. do you argue a lot with her and refuse to do it? maybe that is why she yells at you so much because she has to remind you several times and it annoys her. the best thing to do is to talk to her and ask her why she is so on your case about doing these chores. she may lay off a bit and understand and see where you are coming from. hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥
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i totally agree. these days parents are too overrated for being clean. i mean we are old enough and we know what we need to do and what we dont need to do. we know when our clothes need to be done, its just a matter of when we want to do them. parents these days are pushy and want you to do it when they want it done. i think you should tell your mom that you are going to do it when your ready. best of luck =]
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I think your mother yells at you because she knows if you don't put your clothes away when you get them, if you're anything like me, they're just going to end up on your floor.
You are sixteen, so you should be able to do your laundry and put it away without your mom urging you. Get to it before she has to yell. I know that's not an answer you want to hear, but you're on your way to adulthood, and your mom just wants to prepare you as best she can for when you don't have her around.
As for telling you to get a job or knowing better because you're sixteen, you should probably talk to your mother as calmly as possible about it. Tell her you understand that she wants to prepare you for the future, but if she has to nag you to do it, it's not helping either of you. Show her you do have incentive though, do your laundry without her, get your homework done, start a savings account, anything that shows you've matured.
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Well, im not 16 exactly but what i would say is talk to your mom. Tell her that you really need some space sometimes and that you will get to it as SOON as possible. Tell her that her yelling at you makes you kind of upset.
I agree with you in a way but in a way i think your mother is trying to "help you out". She is getting you to get things done so that when you move out, "grow up", you will get the things done and understand why she made you do these things. Shes basically STARTING AND PREPARING YOU FOR LIFE. In the way i agree with you is because she doesn't have a good reason to use "16" as a excuse.
Try talking it out with your mother or help her out by doing it. It would turn stress into calmness and it would help you settle things out with your mom.
Hope i helped and good luck hun
♥kailyn
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