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Q: Hi, i'm really trying to lose weight and i want to go to the gym, but i think i'm too fat to go. I know it sounds ridiculus but i went today to check it out and everybody there was lyk twig skinny :s
I also need a way that isnt obvious to my friend to not eat so much...if you know what i mean, its just that she is quite fat too.
I don't know how to explain it but if people know im on a diet they could make fun of me because im admitting im fat...
Sorry about the essay but im really stressd over this
xx
Okay. First, if you felt uncomfortable at the gym, don't give up because you think that every one is going to be like that. They're not. Find a nice place that has nice people. If a lot of people look fit...well I don't know how you can't expect that. I mean they're at a gym and working out. I use yoga class to manage stress, and plus it helps me concentrate and feel better. Try writing down the calorie count and what you eat in a day. I do it, and my friends make fun of me, but hey, it works, and they're still my friends, so what the heck. Don't be embarrassed of losing weight; it's a heck of a lot better than being embarrassed because you're fat. Hope I helped.

Q: My self discipline is very low. I can barely control cravings, focus on homework or be dedicated to anything! I am so scatterbrained when it comes to focusing on something important like school, or food. By 9:30 in the morning, I have the worst cravings, and I eat like a freeking elephant! 9:30 am!!! I am so mad at myself, and I just don't know what to do. I know that if I continue I will be fat, and have horrible self-confidence, and I can't even imagine myself like that. It all started when school started. So maybe I am stressed out. Please help me!!!!

When you get these food "cravings" do what I do. Drink water. Then wait. I busy myself with a book or TV show and getting away from food. Remember, when you have cravings, you're actually burning calories, so don't replace them with more! Tell yourself that they'll pass. Satisfying a 10-minute or so craving is not worth the regret and remorse later! For stress, try a yoga class. It will boost your confindence and help you relax and concentrate. Hope I helped!

Q: Does anyone have any tips on how to get paint(like house paint) out of clothes? i got some on my jeans and a few shirts and id really like any advice on how to get it out.
This might work, I'm not sure, but I hope it's the thought that counts. : )

First soak the part of clothing in warm water then get some of the water out.

Spray hairspray over the stained area. Any type of hairspray, old or new, will work.
After you do that soak it in hot water for at least 2-4 minutes.

After soaking it, wring out and throw in the dryer.

If you do not have a dryer, you can hang clothes over the heater or on a drying rack.

Do not put a bunch of hairspray on
if there is writing on the shirt keep the hairspray away!




Q: so i have kind of bad acne on my back, and my question is how to get rid of it. I mean i always wash my back and i have good hygiene, but its still there. any suggestions? [preferrably fast ones]
Step One.
Go all-natural. Essential oils, natural herbs, and natural nutrients are the best way to kill acne. Fight nature by using nature. Essential oils are higher powered and more effective than any acid or peroxide created in a lab that was “derived” from some natural source. They are extremely potent and not harmful to your skin. Furthermore, they actually help to balance sebum without making your skin oily. The best product on the market that has essential oils and kills acne is Beauty 4 Ashes Acne Eliminating Facial Kit. The makers claim that there stuff works overnight; and I have to say, it really does. It exfoliates and cleans your skin brilliantly. This product is also packed with lots of skin healing ingredients, including Aloe Vera. In the two months that used it, my acne and scars literally disappeared. Best yet, in one year, my acne and blemishes have not returned and my pores have shrank. Beauty 4 Ashes has several skin care products created to treat acne, but I recommend ordering their kit first to get a bit of everything. You can find it online at www.discoverb4a.com.
2Step TwoStep Two.
Consider taking flax oil on a regular basis. You need to keep your system clean. But, you don’t need to spend tons of money on vitamins labeled nature’s cure. All you need to do is to flush your system of unnatural chemicals and preservatives that might be triggering your breakouts. You can buy flax oil anywhere. Check out Vitamin Shoppe or WalMart.
3Step ThreeStep Three.
Drink 8-10 glasses of water per day. This will flush your system from all impurities and toxins
Goos luck.

Q: I really want to get some new bags (like purses)...i want to get some that are like leather or suede (even if its fake) that are kind of like the hobo style bag. I really like the ones that are by Juicy Couture. But i want to get a bunch, so the cheaper the better! Does anyone know of any websites that sell bags like that for really cheap?

Thanks so much!
www.lulusfashionlounge.com sells a lot of nice leather or pleather, I'm not sure which, handbags that run about $22-$49 apiece. For designer bags that come cheap, but are still not knock-offs or fake, I would try Marshall's Discount Store which has a whole lot of designer stuff that's a little off-season, or the designer had too many or whatever for really good prices.

Q: In brief, I hate my stepdad, and have done for about 3 or 4 years now. Because of this, I ant to get unadopted (if that’s possible) from him. I am currently 15 years old.

When I was 2, my parents separated, and left me, my mum, and my 6 month old brother. When I was 7, my mum met my stepdad, and he helped her because she had a thyroid problem, which had left her in bed for the majority for a year. Before they got married, he was very kind and always played with us, and always smiled. It stayed like this for a couple of years after their marriage, and why I said he could adopt me. I now regret this because as years have gone on, and he has gotten more angry and short-tempered. He used to hit both me and my brother, but thankfully he has stopped that after I had punched him in the stomach after he shouted at me for being tired at a wedding party. However, he still hits my brother and step-brother. My stepbrother is nuisance because of the way my step-dad treats him, and this can be seen in my bother too. He still shouts at us though, and all he ever does is do ‘work’ on his laptop – reading the news from 8am until 10pm. Recently, I have shouted at him because he hurts my brothers for no reason. After that, I have run away from him, and have talked to my mum saying that when I am older I am going to pay for a divorce.

If anyone knows how to get unadopted or any tips, please tell me as I am sick of him.
Okay, first, never run away. No matter how bad it is at home, it's gonna be better than having no food or bed. If the beatings he gives your brothers are leaving marks, please contact Child Protective Services, because bruising or leaving any kind of mark is illegal in some states. Try going to a counselor to deal with the stress that comes with this obscene behavior. If your mom is well, tell her about this abuse, but do it calmly. If your mom actually wants him to leave, but can't afford it, or whatever reason, please try to get a restraining order, or something to get him away from you kids. Child support and other funding will help your mom if she doesn't work because of the thyroid problem. Best of luck.

Q: I met my boyfriend 3 years ago & we went out for many many months, but never saw each other. We were young & he's a year younger than me. (We were about 14 & 13) We broke up bcuz I got mad at him for not calling me when we were supposed to meet somewhere. (Stupid, huh?) Anyways... over the summer he saw my myspace & told me to call him. I did and we talk everyday & about ANY & EVERYthing. We laugh all the time. So I work at Six Flags and he met me up there AFTER 2 years yesterday. (HE GREW UP. TALL. NICE MUSCLES. CUTIEEE hehehe) We had so much fun and he met all my co-workers/friends & manager! We laughed all night. He says the funniest things. His hugs are amazing. The way he holds me is just right, you know? So I have been single for a year & I told my mom what I wanted. Well, she kind of has an idea that him & I are back together. Today in the car she told me, "I know you want a good guy. Now there's a reason why you and him broke up. Don't go back to him. And he can't afford you anyways and you need someone who can afford you!" That was like TWO years ago and I grew up!! I don't care if he doesn't have as much money as me. First of all he's 15 too young for job, and he plays football, second he can't help his parents financial situations. I can't believe my mom said that. Its very important to me that my mom likes my guys. I have no idea what to do. I feel terrible. What should I say to my mom? I can't say those things to my mom because she would kill me if I said that. She has this attitude that she's always right. I'm not trying to put her out as a bad mother because she's my "bestest" friend! This is terrible and I know me & him are going to last. We are best friends & still talked after we broke up. He's exactly what I want/need and this is killing me. I just don't know what to say. :-(
This was 3 years ago right? Convince your mom to get together with you for dinner or something nice like that. If he's a really nice guy, and you convince your mom to be open-minded about him, then you should be set!

Q: okay i like this guy and this guy likes me back but the thing is i cant date till im 18 and im 16 right and and he is too and i dont know what to do if he's gonna ask me out because i cant date and stuff my parents said i cant date till im 18 he already holds my waist and stuff what do you think i should do? =/
I personally would go out with him secretly, but I'm not saying that's the right thing to do. The right thing to do would be to discuss this with your mother, or father, or both of them together. There's always a compromise, with any situation. Best of luck.

Q: So this coming month will be 8 months for my boyfriend and I. he's 17 and i am 16. He always tells me what his parents were for halloween ( they were highschool sweethearts ) soo i ended up buying a costume already for myself but decided that i really wanted to do something fun with him. Any funny/cute halloween couple costumes.. you could think of?

thanks soo much!
Oh yes! Sorry if the list is kinda long. Popeye and Olive Oyl are my favs. : )

Abbott and Costello
Adam and Eve
Aladdin and Jasmine
Austin Powers and Vanessa
Baby Boy and Baby Girl
Bamm-Bamm and Pebbles
Barney and Betty Rubble
Batman and Catwoman
Beauty and The Beast
Bee Keeper and Bee
Big Bad Wolf and Little Red Riding Hood
Biker Couple
Bonnie and Clyde
Boxer and Ring Girl
Bride and Groom
Burger King and The Dairy Queen
Bullfighter and Bull
Butler and French Maid

Captain John Smith and Pocahontas
Cat and Fish
Cat and Mouse
Cave Man and Cave Woman
Cereal Killer and Victim
Christmas Tree and Gift
Chuckie and Chuckie's Bride (shared by mary)
Cookie and Glass of Milk
Corpse and Widow
Couch Potato and Grumpy Housewife
Couch Potato and Remote Control
Cowboy and Indian
Crocodile Hunter and a Crocodile

Danny and Sandy from Grease
Delivery Man and Package
Devil and Angel
Doctor Evil and Mini Me
Doctor and Nurse
Doctor and Patient
Dog and Fire Hydrant
Donald and Daisy Duck
Donkey and Elephant
Dragon and Damsel in Distress
Dragon and Knight
Dragon and Unicorn
Drew Carey and Mimi Johnson
Dudley Doright and Nell
Dwarf and Snow White

Farmer and a Farm Animal
Father Time and Mother Nature
Fireman and Dalmatian
Fisherman and Fish
Fisherman and Mermaid
Flower and Bee (shared by hhqueenie)
Football Player and Cheerleader
Frankenstein and Bride of Frankenstein
Fred Astaire and Ginger Rodgers
Fred and Wilma Flintstone

Gangster and Flapper
Ghost Prom Couple
Gilligan and Mary Ann
Goldilocks and a Bear
Gomez and Morticia Addams
Green Eggs and Ham

Hans Solo and Princess Leah
Hansel and Gretel
Hercules and Zena
Hershey's Kiss and Hug
Hula Dancer and Drummer
Hunchback of Notre Dame and Esmeralda

Jack and Jill
Jeannie and Major Nelson

Ken and Barbie
Kermit and Miss Piggy
Ketchup and Mustard
King and Queen
King Kong and Fay Wray
King Leonidas and Queen Gorgo (shared by Jacquelyn)

Lassie and Timmy
Laundry Basket and Static Cling
Laurel and Hardy
Lawyer and Car Accident Victim
Lion and Lamb
Lion Tamer and Lion
Little Bo Peep and One of Her Sheep
Little Red Riding Hood and The Big Bad Wolf
Lone Ranger and Tonto
Lucy and Ricky Ricardo

M and Ms Candy
Macaroni and Cheese
Mad Hatter and Alice In Wonderland
Magician and Bunny
Maytag Repairman and Washing Machine
Mickey and Minnie Mouse
Miss America and Nerd
Monkey and Banana
Mouse and Cheese
Mr. and Mrs. Potato Head
Mummy Bride and Groom

Ozzy and Sharon Osbourne

Pac-Man and Ghost (shared by Alex)
Pair of Blue Jeans
Pair of Dice
Pair of Eye Balls
Peanut Butter and Jelly
Pebbles and Bamm-Bamm
Peter Pan and Tinkerbell
Pirate and Parrot
Plumber and Toilet
Police Officer and Convict
Popeye and Olive Oyl
Priest and Pregnant Nun
Prince and Princess
Prince Charming and Cinderella
Princess and a Frog
Princess and the Pea

Queen of Hearts and Joker

Rabbit and Carrot
Raggedy Ann and Andy
Rapunzel and the Prince
Regis and Kelly
Robin Hood and Maid Marian
Robinson Crusoe and Friday
Rocky and Bullwinkle
Romeo and Juliet

Salt and Pepper
Santa and Mrs. Claus
Scarecrow and Dorothy
Scarlett O'Hara and Rhett Butler
Scooby Doo and one of the Mystery Gang
Sheik and Harem Girl
Sherlock Holmes and Dr. Watson
Shrek and Fiona
Siamese Twins
Sonny and Cher
Spaghetti and Meatballs
SpongeBob and Sandy the Squirrel
Starsky and Hutch
Stepford Wife and Husband
Superman and Wonder Woman
Sylvester Cat and Tweety Bird

Tarzan and Jane
Toothpaste and Toothbrush
Tortoise and Hare
Traffic Light and Speed Bump
TweedleDee and TweedleDum

Uncle Sam and the Statue of Liberty
Upper and Lower G.I.

Vampire and Victim
Ventriloquist and Dummy

W.C. Fields and Mae West
Weatherman and 'Chance of Rain'
Wilbur and Orville Wright
Winnie the Pooh and Tigger
Winter and Summer

Zookeeper and Animal


Q: okay, so i was bored and i randomly texted my boyfriend and was like if you could do anything with me what would it be? and he texted back saying f**k you hard and long.. and he never talks like that, and never even acted like that, so it kind of freaked me out, so um what should i do??
Ok. That's kind of creepy. It could be that he was simply joking. It could be that one of his friends got hold of it and thought it would be a funny answer. It could be that he's become a real jerk. I would think it was Option #2. Ask your boyfriend if he's even the one who texted that, and if he did (unlikely), you guys need a serious talk. Hope I helped :)!

Q: I recently bought 5 TV shows(MTV) off of Itunes.

They are on my Ipod, they are in the category of TV Shows and when I click on one of them to watch it, it's just a recording, and in the upper right hand corner theres that little movie sign, this also happens with my podcasts.

Because, on Itunes I can click on them and watch them on there, but not on my Ipod.

Can someone please tell me what is wrong and how I can possibly fix this.

Oh and I have an Ipod Video, 30 GB only 5 GB's used. It's not even a year old.

Thanks so much!
Easy. Is what you see only a recording in a setup like the music? Yes? Well simply go to video settings, and where it says TV Out, and the choices are Ask, On and Off, click "off". You should see your TV shows perfectly from now on. : )

Q: Alrite, I have a passion for tee shirts. I have about 100+, all of which i wear everyday. That's not my problem though. I find my obsession is getting a tad expensive, however. So I came up with the brilliant idea to design my own tee shirts. I have about 6 designs that dont require sewing so much, which i seem to never be able to get the hang of. My mom sews, though. We have a sewing machine. But i find the easier and less expensive way to go is get mens undershirts and dye them colors and embroider them and such. So my problem comes up when i think about how to dye them. I know how to tye dye them, but I havent done it in a while, and I have no dye. What will work as dying a tee shirt? All answers carefully considered. Thank you! 13/f
If you soak a T-Shirt in regular dye (most dyes are suitable for shirts) from an arts and crafts store and a bit of water, then you should get a good color. I would also suggest that you can buy a printing-thing, that prints a photo onto your shirt. They're not very expensive, and you get them in the candy and school items area of Stop & Shop. : )

Q: i'm ordering this dress for homecoming but i need some shoes to go with it. heres the link:

http://s128.photobucket.com/albums/p198/hannahisgangsturr/?action=view¤t=DRESS-1.jpg

i have no idea what style of shoe or color. i can't walk in heels very well so if it has a heel only a small one

-thanks!
I found some nice shoes, here are the links:
http://www1.macys.com/catalog/product/index.ognc?ID=233876&CategoryID=13614&LinkType=SiteAd&LinkLoc=13247&AdID=37750

http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2952190/0~2376778~2372808~2376689~2377052?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=category&searchtype=&pbo=2377052&P=1

http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2912565/0~2376778~2372808~2376689~2377052?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=category&searchtype=&pbo=2377052&P=2

http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2873821/0~2376778~2372808~2376689~2377052?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=category&searchtype=&pbo=2377052&P=2

Q: I don't know what to do. My boyfriend is getting depressed. Because he has nothing to do and apparently nothing to look forward to at the moment. He's not content with his job and is not with school.

He had to stop a hobby a while ago. He won't be able to continue any time soon. And he's too stubborn to find an interest in something else.

He even think it's boring to play video games now, which he used to love! What can I do to help him?

Because of this, he doesn't really feel like coming to see me. He thinks we'll end up doing something boring.

I'm running out of ideas. What do you think would be fun?
You can't solve this with only "fun" things. Bring him to a counselor, and see if various depression medications are right for him. Try finding good things to do, like a new sport. Help him find a new job, one that will make him happy. And don't let him quit school. School will help him find the career that he really wants. Best of luck to both of you.

Q: what is the average height for 12 years old girls?
5 ft and a half

Q: okay, me and my boyfriend have been together about 3 months. well everything was perfect, and then he started football. we're currently on a break for about another 2 weeks, and i'm fine with that. i support his football too btw. so we're still good, but then i go to his profile, and some girl commented him saying i love you baby! so im like wtf? and i ask him about it and he was like no im not about to go out with anybody else, damnnit. we kinda fought but it ended up him telling me that she added him yesterday and that shes going crazy and that he doesnt even know her. so i messaged her before that stuff happened and asked her if she was with him. she told me not yet, but shes going to be. so i didnt say anything back. then later that night, she messaged me again and said me and nick are just friends ok? so i still wasnt sure so i was like thats so f*cked up he would do that to me and i'm not stupid. so she messaged me back today and was like your his ex so he can move on you know so get over it. i told her we were going to get back together, and that he doesnt like her cause shes crazy, and that she needs to get over it.she messaged me back saying w.e b*tch we'll see. so i tried talking to my boyfriend, which he has a game tonight so that was hard, and he was just like you have to end the fight, so i told her that i dont want to fight with her, so just leave him alone. my boyfriend told me we're still going to be together and that he loves me. his bestfriend doesnt even know this girl either. she made her name on myspace #43 ily baby! which is my boyfriends football number. shes not on his top or anything, so i can see partly that he could be telling the truth. i'm still not sure, what should i do? i love this boy to death, but this girl is trying to get in between! i believe him for the most part, should i or should i not? HELP!
Your boyfriend's probably right. A lot, a lot or girls go crazy for guys they don't even know on online chat sites, especially when they think they're good-looking. Tell your boyfriend to remove her from his friends list, because it would make YOU more comfortable. She is trying to convince you that he doesn't like you anymore, or that they're in a relationship, because she actually isn't and really wants to be. Ignore her after he's removed her, and tell your boyfriend to do the same. If he won't, then maybe it's time for some serious consideration on what your relationship is worth. Best of luck.

Q: my but has stretch marks around. is their any way i can make them fade faster? and i also have them below my breasts. how can i get rid of thoes???
Yes. Use Vitamin E cream, or other specific ones like cocoa butter, mederma cream, Retin A cream (only if you're not pregnant), castor oil, laser surgery (extreme cases) or thiosinaminum, which is a chemical extracted from mustard seed oil. Use one of these on the marks everyday.
Tips:
Make sure to buy a good quality Vitamin E with high potency.

You could also try hydrotherapy, which is a cold shower followed immediately by a hot shower.

Skin brushing three to four times a week may also help you.

Remember, it may take time for your stretch marks to diminish in appearance. Have some patience.
Good luck!

Q: How do I get my ex boyfriend of seven months out of my mind. I think about him three dozen times a day, it pisses me off more then ever when he goes out of his way to flirt in front of me. I can't take it, its like he still controls me. Seven months of emotional abuse I know have to talk to a counseler about! Why does he get to be the one that ended it so easily!? How do I get over him and on with my life?
Find another boyfriend, or someone who you love to spend time with. He is messing with you, and that is totally unacceptable and rude. You and everyone else deserves someone better than that. Plus, he's not over you. He likes to make you feel jealous and like you want him back; it makes him feel superior. Don't give him the attention he wants. Don't look at him as your ex, but as a regular bully. How would you act with a bully? Ignore them right? Then do just that. Best of luck.

Q: OKAY so i really like 2 boys. One is a year younger than me and the other is my age and i have been a family friend sense my older siter was in kidengarden and he is extremely nice i have never seen him mean and stuff is mom loves me but i think he thinks im a loser. Do boys like outgoing girls,loud girls,A mean girl to only girls and has never had a boyfriend or kissed a boy? IM confused but i reallly like him GYS AND GIRLS HELP PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!
IM a female and 14
p.s. thanks and sorry for making it so long.
I personally wouldn't go out with someone younger than me. Guys tend to lean toward girls that keep them guessing, and loudness and rudeness etc. wouldn't impress me and I am sure it wouldn't impress him. Be outgoing, and don't be outspoken (e.g. telling the truth to someone when a lie is nicer. ex. telling someone their green fedora looks nice.) Don't be too subtle, and not too head-on either. Guys like girls who are a little shy, because it makes them feel more comfortable (guys get shy too!). Don't assume he thinks your'e a loser. With that pessimistic attitude, I'd think you were a loser too. Never be a mean girl. Be nice to your friends and courteous to your enemies. As for the "never had a boyfriend", does he really know whether you have or not? You don't need to tell. Good Luck! (Tip: always smell nice; my boyfriend always seems to sniff me when we hug. you never know who's gonna smell you next. : )

Q: Do you always have to shave your pussy? If you do should i shave it or wax it? How do you get rid of the burn after you shave it? Is there some sort of lotion or something to get your vagina nice and smotth after u shave? I need help because it take to much pain and time to shave it so is there something else to do? Is there something to make ur Vgina smell goood to?
Okay, first, no one is requiring that you shave your feminine area. If you wish though, you can shave it and then use baby powder, or wax it. Any of those two will work. If it really bothers you, please stop. I don't personally think you need to impress anyone by shaving it, but that part is none of my business. Hope I helped.

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Happy 2008! My name is Dana for those of you who don't know, and I obviously love to give advice, because if I didn't, I wouldn't be here. I will pick at anyone who doesn't bother to capitalize their "I"'s or the beginnings of sentences. Proper grammar and spelling is very important to me. bcuz it Just loooks soooo sloppie when u type lyke this. So a word to the wise, and for the majority of you that it doesn't apply to, think about it, and watch yourself. Second of all, I will never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever write something that is not true. So therefore I am always right. So stand down and accept it. (Note: that also means that my "opinions" are actual facts. At least the ones I bother to write.)

Never ask me anything about how fat you are or love life. Cliched, I know, but I am heartless when it comes to the truth. If you don't know what to do with your cheating boyfriend that you still love, go ask someone else since I could not care less. Seriously.

Have a nice day!
Love,
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