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my boyfriend & my mom
I met my boyfriend 3 years ago & we went out for many many months, but never saw each other. We were young & he's a year younger than me. (We were about 14 & 13) We broke up bcuz I got mad at him for not calling me when we were supposed to meet somewhere. (Stupid, huh?) Anyways... over the summer he saw my myspace & told me to call him. I did and we talk everyday & about ANY & EVERYthing. We laugh all the time. So I work at Six Flags and he met me up there AFTER 2 years yesterday. (HE GREW UP. TALL. NICE MUSCLES. CUTIEEE hehehe) We had so much fun and he met all my co-workers/friends & manager! We laughed all night. He says the funniest things. His hugs are amazing. The way he holds me is just right, you know? So I have been single for a year & I told my mom what I wanted. Well, she kind of has an idea that him & I are back together. Today in the car she told me, "I know you want a good guy. Now there's a reason why you and him broke up. Don't go back to him. And he can't afford you anyways and you need someone who can afford you!" That was like TWO years ago and I grew up!! I don't care if he doesn't have as much money as me. First of all he's 15 too young for job, and he plays football, second he can't help his parents financial situations. I can't believe my mom said that. Its very important to me that my mom likes my guys. I have no idea what to do. I feel terrible. What should I say to my mom? I can't say those things to my mom because she would kill me if I said that. She has this attitude that she's always right. I'm not trying to put her out as a bad mother because she's my "bestest" friend! This is terrible and I know me & him are going to last. We are best friends & still talked after we broke up. He's exactly what I want/need and this is killing me. I just don't know what to say. :-(
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She probably only said that because she didn't really know that much about your relationship. Tell her that you have different views about relationships than she does (well obviously), and about how you feel on the assumption that a guy has to provide the girl with money. Also you may add that you weren't really mature before, and broke up with him for a silly reason. Talk to her when she is relaxed, not doing something, and in a good mood. Tell her how much you like this guy and how happy he makes you, basically what you have said here about how he's funny and you think he's amazing and how he holds you just right. Tell her that, if she wants (and maybe warn this guy beforehand if you will do this) that she can meet the guy briefly if she wants, maybe over dinner or potentially something more casual. When he is around, casually introduce him.
She is your mother, and probably doesn't know this guy very well, so of course she's going to make judgments. She may not have even meant anything in the car, and if so it could have been nothing more than her voicing some concern. Hopefully if you talk to her she'll come around.
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This was 3 years ago right? Convince your mom to get together with you for dinner or something nice like that. If he's a really nice guy, and you convince your mom to be open-minded about him, then you should be set!
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Tell your mom how you truly feel. Not in a mean way, just nicely state that you are absolutly in love with him! Listen to your heart
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